We both took our profiles off the marriage site where we met . We liked each other very much. We had the same goals and desires and passion for life. We talk about meeting in her city of Minsk. I was like a little boy !!!! I was very, very excited to meet this lady that I had fallen so deeply in love with ! We had not set any date to meet. In my calendar I had blocked off 2 weeks in mid April to go visit her.
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In December, 2008 (approximately the 21st ), a worker noticed that she still had profiles and photos on internet MARRIGE AGENCIES. He noticed, t because I had photos of her in my office. Also, a few of my close friends that work for me also sought a bride in Russian agencies. I also talked about her very much, so they knew her photos and much about her because of my fondness of her.
It seemed that they were registered on October or November, 2008 , just a few months previously(exact date I do not remember). This shocked me very, very much and it was very painful to even think about that she had intentions to seek another man. I notified her and explained to her what I found. I told her that I did not want to talk to her as I couldn't believe that she had done such a thing. So that December, I left to be alone down in California......for approx 20 days. I loved this woman very much, so of course I was not able to concentrate on work or anything else. I returned 3 weeks later.
When I returned home, around January 15th , I opened up my e-mail. I almost deleted all her e-mail, but there were so many letters I was curious what she had to say.....so I opened them. She explained that it wasn't her that put the new registration and photos on the MARRIAGE AGENCY. She denied that she did this new registration....and I believed her.
We were happily reunited and our former joy and happiness returned to each other. I arranged work so that I could go visit her. I canceled meetings and building trade show to meet her. The date I was to meet her was March 8th . (notice: this is almost 2 months after I returned home from California on January 15th.
I spent approximately 3 glorious weeks with her, from March 8th-30th. I have never been happier in my life....than those 3 weeks. Except for one situation, that still bothers me. One day, approximately March 14th, I came into her kitchen. Larisa had just gotten off the computer and I noticed that she had been texting a man named Sergei. She left the messenger box open and forgot to close it. When I asked her who Sergei was, she told me that she met him in Skype, while trying to find me when I disappeared from her in December.
I do not mind that she was texting another man to find information about me.....because I disappeared from her life for about 20 days. But, we had reestablished communication 2 months before and there was no reason to be chatting with this man......especially when I was living with her for 3 weeks in Minsk. She never told me that she continued to talk to this man. I did not know she was chatting with him....or writing e-mails......except for the time I found his message on her screen. Perhaps if she had told me that she communicated with him, it would have been ok. But I had no idea she continued to correspond with him.
I got angry with her and confronted her about it. But I decided to believe in her and not let that incident become a problem. I did not hold grudge and forgot this fault.
I left Larisa to go home, March 30th, and we continued to communicate through the internet. I was very anxious to be with her again, very soon. She also talked about this and many times talked to me about a summer meeting. I told her also many times, that a summer meeting would be very difficult for me, due to my summer schedule. I many times, looked at the possibilities, but knew it would probably be the fall before I could have her come to stay with me. If she came in the summer, I would be only able to spend very little time with her. We had talked about this in Minsk and recently on Yahoo Messenger.
Then......
One day, in the first week of June, I was on the phone with a very boring customer. He always talks a very long time. While he was busy talking......I saw an ad on my screen while I was listening to customer. The ad said.....” DO YOU KNOW WHO SHE IS” ??? The ad told me to type in a name.....so I typed in Larisa's full name just to see what would happen. I was totally shocked and horrified to find many.....many registrations and photos. Once again I was shocked and angry.....feeling hurt and used. Again, I did not want to talk to her immediately, because I need time to think. I remembNeed advice and opinion in this relationship?
you remember?! waiting for the additional details...
i don't know where this question is going but you seem to have put an awful amount of effort into writing it that i feel it's my duty to read it...
my answer will probably read something along the lines of: don't get (essentially buy) a russian bride, or any type of internet bride. just go out and meet real people, and form real life relationships.Need advice and opinion in this relationship?
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I have much distresses comparatively this question , but absolutely obvious . that this man not sincere since he itself had and has much profiles with different name and never stopped . probably he takes the pleasure from such activity.
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Wow
seriously just wow
You must get over this woman and move on.
long distance relationship won't last for long most of the time.
but u n her need to talk tell her everything what u feel about her n u don't trust her then if she agree with it carry on but make yourself ready in case anything happen.
This was really long, but it caught my interest.
You can't really have any sort of relationship with her as she continues to lie and then cover up, over and over. Because that's what it sounds like she's doing. There can't have been this many coincidences. You should tell her how you feel one more time, and how she has hurt you and broken your trust, and then you should break off any communication with her. She's only going to continue to do this, and you will be hurt again in the future if this goes on any longer. If she can't be honest with you then it really isn't a good relationship.
what i personally feel is that you have your dream of who she is, you have creation of her in your mind and you are unable to see the truth in the situations. that is where the saying love makes you blind. what is so obvious to us readers is so foggy to you. i am sorry, i feel bad for you. i believe in NOT WAISTING TIME, it is one life that we have and you seem to really want true love in your life. if that is so then you need to end communication with her because it is very clear that she pllays games and can not be trusted with your heart. she is an illusion, who you want her to be but she is not really that person. the person you love was created with crafty words that are empty of truth so get rid of her and find love.
I'm really sorry to say it, but you are being scammed. Google Larisa's full name and the word scam. Does she appear anywhere, or do you see her photo on any websites rooting out scammers? I hope not, but I'm afraid you may. I personally think all the warning signs are staring you in the face, but you don't want to accept it. She's either trying to meet someone else, or scamming several men at the same time, and enjoying holidays with men who will happily pay for everything. I really hope I'm wrong, but I doubt it!
PS... I know it seems ruthless, but google her email address too, and check through the photos on websites reporting scammers. Try romancescam.com. The number of women there may shock you!
You can check if she is looking for other man. Just ask a friend of yours to create another dating profile and contact her. A few questions and you will know if she continues her seeking a man.
Sometimes people can’t stop seeking through online dating profiles. It is more common for men, but this time it is female’s mistake.
It is possible that she just wants to leave her country marrying anyone from US. It happens that Russian girl is looking for a chance to leave her country rather than looking for a man to fall in love with. It becomes disaster earlier or later for both partners.
In any case you have to be open-hearted with yourself. Your relationship is saturated with lie and jealousy. Earlier you stop it, earlier both of you get a chance to find true love. Yes, your heart will be broken for half a year or longer, but I believe that some time later you will remember it with no pain, maybe with smile) Many of us passed through such situation. The best cure for solitude is love.
There are lots of ladies looking for love (and not only Russian). Please note, be aware of scammers if you continue online dating. Every reliable dating service has its own wide base of scammers in addition to public ones. But it is still a real problem.
I suggest you to stop communication with Larisa. Do not nurse a grievance against her. It would be bad for you, not for her. Forgive her and wish her good luck.
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