i think that i am over my bf but i think that i am too attached to end it we recently went on a break but he always says that and then we will be back together the next day
i have 2 questions--is this break going to last and should i just ride it out and act like i dont care. or keep fighting for our relationship??
there are major trust issues both ways and i love him so much and am very depressedI need advice about my relationship?
OK well if you do really love him and want to be with him then why would you stop fighting? do you really want to give up on something you love just b/c you don't want to fight? jump on the ball and get him back and dont stop till you do...
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Saturday, July 31, 2010
I need advice regarding my relationship.?
Here's the story...
I was with a guy for 5 years and in the last year of our relationship I met somebody else. I didn't break up with the person I was with for 5 years while I was seeing the other guy because I was too weak to do it. Well the guy I was seeing found out in the 8th month we were together. I broke up with the guy I was with for 5 years. The guy I was seeing decided to stay with me and to work things out. Its been over a year since this happened and he can't get over it and every little thing I tell him I get accused of lying. I am crying every day practically and I have a lot of anger inside. I don't know what to do. I love him very much and I care about him but he constantly tells me that I don't care about him or love him. I don't know how to show him that I love him because he is so blinded by what happened. I am on my witts end because I have been dealing with this everyday for over a year. Please HELP!!I need advice regarding my relationship.?
Look, you made a mistake, right?, but you admitted to it and are now trying to move on. This guy can't let it go, and that's now his problem. Remind him that you left a relationship of 5 years for him and if that's not enough evidence of your comittment to your relationship, then nothing ever will be. Tell him that. Tell him he needs to realize what you gave up to be with him and what he is doing to you now by doubting your every move. Two wrongs don't make a right, ya know? He probably has trust/comittment issues that need dealt with, but they are his problems, not yours. If he can't see all that, then tell him he can't see you anymore. Go find someone that makes you happy and trusts you.I need advice regarding my relationship.?
Usually, if someone is accusing you each and everyday, it's a cover up for them doing something that they shouldn't be doing; you know...to throw you off?
It won't work out...you're obviously miserable, and how long do u want to remain that way? People need to learn how to let go of relationships that are doomed. Yes it's hard because you've been there for so long...but what's worth it: the pain you're going through now, and not being able to do anything about it except plead your case on a daily basis? OR...having a temporary empty feeling in your heart because, although you miss your guy, you knew it was the right thing to do for yourself?
I guess it's hard for him to trust you again because you sort of cheated on him. In my opinion, it's hard for you to maintain this relationship because there is no trust anymore. Stop hurting yourself and him, it's time for you both to move on. Either he change his way and give the relationship a chance, or it's over. Honestly, why are you clinging on to a relationship that makes you miserable every day of your life? Can you even imagine yourself marrying him?
This guy can't except that you made a mistake so hes using it against you. Lose his butt to. Hes not worth for crying everyday for. I would try to go with the guy b4 becaus if u were w/ him for 5 yrs then it means u were great til the other guy came. Think bout wat youll put up w/ for the rest of ur relationship. It doesnt look so good. C wats up with the guy u were w/ 5 yr. Even if the other guy has a gf already stil dump this one
You obviously need to be by yourself for a while...break up with him.
Tell him that you are very sorry about the way things started out, that you love him/care about him and have been completely faithful and intend to stay that way. Let him know how you feel about his refusal to let the past go. Request that you both go to counseling to work through this so you can have a happy future without all the issues.
if this guy cant trust you then why are you with him listen you need to tell him to either start trusting you or let you go so you can be with someone that can trust you and not accuse you 24/7 how emotinally draining that would be for anyone
time to move on and find someone who will apreciate you sorry thats the best answer i can give not the one you would like to hear right now.philosophy
I was with a guy for 5 years and in the last year of our relationship I met somebody else. I didn't break up with the person I was with for 5 years while I was seeing the other guy because I was too weak to do it. Well the guy I was seeing found out in the 8th month we were together. I broke up with the guy I was with for 5 years. The guy I was seeing decided to stay with me and to work things out. Its been over a year since this happened and he can't get over it and every little thing I tell him I get accused of lying. I am crying every day practically and I have a lot of anger inside. I don't know what to do. I love him very much and I care about him but he constantly tells me that I don't care about him or love him. I don't know how to show him that I love him because he is so blinded by what happened. I am on my witts end because I have been dealing with this everyday for over a year. Please HELP!!I need advice regarding my relationship.?
Look, you made a mistake, right?, but you admitted to it and are now trying to move on. This guy can't let it go, and that's now his problem. Remind him that you left a relationship of 5 years for him and if that's not enough evidence of your comittment to your relationship, then nothing ever will be. Tell him that. Tell him he needs to realize what you gave up to be with him and what he is doing to you now by doubting your every move. Two wrongs don't make a right, ya know? He probably has trust/comittment issues that need dealt with, but they are his problems, not yours. If he can't see all that, then tell him he can't see you anymore. Go find someone that makes you happy and trusts you.I need advice regarding my relationship.?
Usually, if someone is accusing you each and everyday, it's a cover up for them doing something that they shouldn't be doing; you know...to throw you off?
It won't work out...you're obviously miserable, and how long do u want to remain that way? People need to learn how to let go of relationships that are doomed. Yes it's hard because you've been there for so long...but what's worth it: the pain you're going through now, and not being able to do anything about it except plead your case on a daily basis? OR...having a temporary empty feeling in your heart because, although you miss your guy, you knew it was the right thing to do for yourself?
I guess it's hard for him to trust you again because you sort of cheated on him. In my opinion, it's hard for you to maintain this relationship because there is no trust anymore. Stop hurting yourself and him, it's time for you both to move on. Either he change his way and give the relationship a chance, or it's over. Honestly, why are you clinging on to a relationship that makes you miserable every day of your life? Can you even imagine yourself marrying him?
This guy can't except that you made a mistake so hes using it against you. Lose his butt to. Hes not worth for crying everyday for. I would try to go with the guy b4 becaus if u were w/ him for 5 yrs then it means u were great til the other guy came. Think bout wat youll put up w/ for the rest of ur relationship. It doesnt look so good. C wats up with the guy u were w/ 5 yr. Even if the other guy has a gf already stil dump this one
You obviously need to be by yourself for a while...break up with him.
Tell him that you are very sorry about the way things started out, that you love him/care about him and have been completely faithful and intend to stay that way. Let him know how you feel about his refusal to let the past go. Request that you both go to counseling to work through this so you can have a happy future without all the issues.
if this guy cant trust you then why are you with him listen you need to tell him to either start trusting you or let you go so you can be with someone that can trust you and not accuse you 24/7 how emotinally draining that would be for anyone
time to move on and find someone who will apreciate you sorry thats the best answer i can give not the one you would like to hear right now.
I need advice on this relationship i have with this boy whose a friend of mine?
Okay he was in one of my classes last semester and he was so incredibly cute and we use to sit by each other and it would be akward because i think he knew that i liked him and we would like flirt all the time but then on down the road i g the feeling that he was really interssted because he started to treat a whole bunch of other girls the way he treated me and then he would like commplete ignore me one day and go and talk to this other girl and i would like be mad at him whenever he came back and would try to talk to me and i would sort of be like dont talk to me you know but why in the begging everyting was cool but he started treatin me like a buddy or something and i didnt want that and i emailed him like a couple days ago and he hasent emailed me back yet and when we see each other in the hallway he dosent say anything to me at all he just keep walking like he dont even see me What should i do should i let it go and move on and get over him or what keep emailing him back or whatI need advice on this relationship i have with this boy whose a friend of mine?
just go talk to him... face-to-face.I need advice on this relationship i have with this boy whose a friend of mine?
For one: Commas and periods would be nice.
Dont get confused and go ahead with ur life. I dont think he has got any kind of feelings for u from the way i cud see. He has moved with u just as he has moved with other girls and since u had some feelings for him, u feel this way. dont send emails. u cant force someone to like u right? dont ever go behind him. just leave it. focus on something else which is really worth.
Well...for the beginning, u should calm down and think what happened. U were just friend: u stood next to each other at one class, u used to talk and stuff. U thought he knew he liked u and u felt cheated when he talked to other girls. This is normal but u should understand that he wasn't ur boyfriend and he didn't consider u his girlfriend. That's why he behaved in that way.
But I have to ask what have u written in that email? It's really important to understand his reaction.
But maybe u could move on and find another guy! :D
If you really want to still be friends with him you should ask him what's going on and maybe hell tell you and you can fix everything. I f he acts all mad when you ask dont bother. He might just be ignoring you because he thinks youre mad at him. Thats how guys are most of the time. You sometimes have to be the one to go to them. It']s best to talk tohim in person cause he might not want to reply to your e-mails.
just go talk to him... face-to-face.I need advice on this relationship i have with this boy whose a friend of mine?
For one: Commas and periods would be nice.
Dont get confused and go ahead with ur life. I dont think he has got any kind of feelings for u from the way i cud see. He has moved with u just as he has moved with other girls and since u had some feelings for him, u feel this way. dont send emails. u cant force someone to like u right? dont ever go behind him. just leave it. focus on something else which is really worth.
Well...for the beginning, u should calm down and think what happened. U were just friend: u stood next to each other at one class, u used to talk and stuff. U thought he knew he liked u and u felt cheated when he talked to other girls. This is normal but u should understand that he wasn't ur boyfriend and he didn't consider u his girlfriend. That's why he behaved in that way.
But I have to ask what have u written in that email? It's really important to understand his reaction.
But maybe u could move on and find another guy! :D
If you really want to still be friends with him you should ask him what's going on and maybe hell tell you and you can fix everything. I f he acts all mad when you ask dont bother. He might just be ignoring you because he thinks youre mad at him. Thats how guys are most of the time. You sometimes have to be the one to go to them. It']s best to talk tohim in person cause he might not want to reply to your e-mails.
Really need advice about my relationship.l pease!!!!!!?
dis is my first boyfirend. it's a long distance relationship (westside/eastside of town), and we been ';officially'; dating since march. he just about calls me everyday and da conversations range from at least 1 1/2 to 4 hrs usually . da crazy part is dat we act like bestfriends more than a couple. it may sound wierd cuz he doesnt screw up or do anything wrong but at da same time; he thought we were goin out and failed to let me kno, he makes plans about us doin things 2gether 4 our b-days (they're close 2gether) and other things like dat. he never just say wat he means though, and he doesn't act affection toward me. i've been contemplatin breakin up wit him.
now his fam wants 2 meet me!!! and i'm kind of nervous. and at times i feel he feels da same way but then again he feels comfortable and sees nothin wrong.
if i bring somethin like dis up he starts havin amnesia (no lie) and start changin da subject. i guess he light weight shy and don't like expressin his feeling to me...Really need advice about my relationship.l pease!!!!!!?
Okay - you like him, but you aren't sure how much, or in what way, he likes you, and he doesn't communicate with you about important stuff... is that close?
Here's how you deal with it - you sit him down, somewhere you can be face to face and uninterrupted for a while, and you tell him you're feeling uncomfortable and unsure and you need to talk to him. If he starts developing ';amnesia'; and changing the subject, you point it out, ';Hey, this is really important to me and we have to deal with it.';
If he won't, then you tell him ';I like you a lot, but I just can't handle being this confused all the time and not being able to talk to you about things that are important to me.'; He will either sit down and ';man up,'; or he'll clam up and split.
Only you know if this is a dealbreaker for you. Is what you get from the relationship enough to make it worth your while to put up with this other stuff if it doesn't change? If it is, then you bring it up, and if he won't talk it through, you forget about it and go on. If it's a dealbreaker, you give him a chance, and if he won't deal with it, you move on - without him - and find someone who recognizes that it's important if you don't feel valued/loved.
A healthy relationship includes ways for the people in it to deal with problems if one of them isn't happy with the way things are. Only you know how big a problem this is for you - so you do what seems right for you based on what you need/want, and how important it is to you.Really need advice about my relationship.l pease!!!!!!?
Are you really that bad of a speller? You seem intelligent, are you just trying to be ';street';? I'm so distracted, I've forgotten how I wanted to answer. Sorry, I'll get back to you...
nice slang/ anyway its hard for him to be affectionate over the phone its also impossible to have a relationship based on the computer and telephone. I would suggest you hang out together before making a decision.
I'm not sure I fully understand, but I think this is not the right guy for you.
grow up
now his fam wants 2 meet me!!! and i'm kind of nervous. and at times i feel he feels da same way but then again he feels comfortable and sees nothin wrong.
if i bring somethin like dis up he starts havin amnesia (no lie) and start changin da subject. i guess he light weight shy and don't like expressin his feeling to me...Really need advice about my relationship.l pease!!!!!!?
Okay - you like him, but you aren't sure how much, or in what way, he likes you, and he doesn't communicate with you about important stuff... is that close?
Here's how you deal with it - you sit him down, somewhere you can be face to face and uninterrupted for a while, and you tell him you're feeling uncomfortable and unsure and you need to talk to him. If he starts developing ';amnesia'; and changing the subject, you point it out, ';Hey, this is really important to me and we have to deal with it.';
If he won't, then you tell him ';I like you a lot, but I just can't handle being this confused all the time and not being able to talk to you about things that are important to me.'; He will either sit down and ';man up,'; or he'll clam up and split.
Only you know if this is a dealbreaker for you. Is what you get from the relationship enough to make it worth your while to put up with this other stuff if it doesn't change? If it is, then you bring it up, and if he won't talk it through, you forget about it and go on. If it's a dealbreaker, you give him a chance, and if he won't deal with it, you move on - without him - and find someone who recognizes that it's important if you don't feel valued/loved.
A healthy relationship includes ways for the people in it to deal with problems if one of them isn't happy with the way things are. Only you know how big a problem this is for you - so you do what seems right for you based on what you need/want, and how important it is to you.Really need advice about my relationship.l pease!!!!!!?
Are you really that bad of a speller? You seem intelligent, are you just trying to be ';street';? I'm so distracted, I've forgotten how I wanted to answer. Sorry, I'll get back to you...
nice slang/ anyway its hard for him to be affectionate over the phone its also impossible to have a relationship based on the computer and telephone. I would suggest you hang out together before making a decision.
I'm not sure I fully understand, but I think this is not the right guy for you.
grow up
Girls and guys please give me some advice on my relationship!?
i used to live in PA with my boyfriend, but he always got jealous and controlling. it didn't happen all the time. just every so often.. on night he did go over the edge and hit me. about a week after that he got upset with me cause he thought i was flirting with his brother, when i would never do anything like that to him. so i called up my mother and moved back down here to WV. i've been down here since june... and i still love him. i've never stopped thinking about him,and i feel like i should give him second chance. even though he hit me once.... also i have hooked up with one guy down here and i've told my friend about that. he did get a little upset but is giving me a second chance. that makes me feel like i should give him a chance too since hes giving me another one... i just need help really bad right now please. what should i do? go back up there with him, or just try to get over him?Girls and guys please give me some advice on my relationship!?
HE HIT YOU!?omevg tell him to go ***** himself, ******** ***** THAT PIZZES ME THE ***** OFF! LIL ******** DOUCH-*******!.
......i bet his teeth are yellow.....
TEEHEEGirls and guys please give me some advice on my relationship!?
If he has done it once..he will surely do it again. I've never been in ur position so its hard to give advice when you haven't been in the situation. But you need to be with someone that you will be safe with and happy. I suggest moving on as hard as it will be, you can do it.
you did the right thing. if he hit you once he will do it again.
look is up to you to do whatever you want because if i told do not go back because the same thing will happen again you may not listen to me and do what you head tells you. i been in a lot of relationships and when i go back to him we Always end up breaking up it may not happen to you.but sometimes you think maybe you loves him but is all that you are so scarred of being lonely that's why you think you love and you think about him all the time because you do not like the person you are dating is all just a mind games it happen to everybody. what im say is that is all up to you take him back or not risk is part of life too.
Try to get over him. I think that's what you were trying to do subconsciously when you hooked up with that other guy. Hoping for someone to make you forget.
He hit you. You said he's controlling. You said he's jealous. I know not all the time. But you have to remember he does get this way and when he does - that's when you don't want to be with him.
You were right to move back home. Don't go back to him. He might hurt you worse next time - he needs some help for his anger and his issues.
He's giving you another chance? You don't need one. He's the one who hurt you. So what if you hooked up - you aren't technically with him. It just sounds like he's toying with your emotions.
Please just get over him. You deserve better.
HE HIT YOU!?omevg tell him to go ***** himself, ******** ***** THAT PIZZES ME THE ***** OFF! LIL ******** DOUCH-*******!.
......i bet his teeth are yellow.....
TEEHEEGirls and guys please give me some advice on my relationship!?
If he has done it once..he will surely do it again. I've never been in ur position so its hard to give advice when you haven't been in the situation. But you need to be with someone that you will be safe with and happy. I suggest moving on as hard as it will be, you can do it.
you did the right thing. if he hit you once he will do it again.
look is up to you to do whatever you want because if i told do not go back because the same thing will happen again you may not listen to me and do what you head tells you. i been in a lot of relationships and when i go back to him we Always end up breaking up it may not happen to you.but sometimes you think maybe you loves him but is all that you are so scarred of being lonely that's why you think you love and you think about him all the time because you do not like the person you are dating is all just a mind games it happen to everybody. what im say is that is all up to you take him back or not risk is part of life too.
Try to get over him. I think that's what you were trying to do subconsciously when you hooked up with that other guy. Hoping for someone to make you forget.
He hit you. You said he's controlling. You said he's jealous. I know not all the time. But you have to remember he does get this way and when he does - that's when you don't want to be with him.
You were right to move back home. Don't go back to him. He might hurt you worse next time - he needs some help for his anger and his issues.
He's giving you another chance? You don't need one. He's the one who hurt you. So what if you hooked up - you aren't technically with him. It just sounds like he's toying with your emotions.
Please just get over him. You deserve better.
Im really confused and would appreciate some advice on my relationship with my girlfriend.?
well to sum it up i love her we make a month tomorrow but i fell in love with her before we started going out so its not as if i fell in love with her in a month more like 2 years but anyway i recently found out she cheated on me with my friend and get this she started going out with both of us on the same day. the other girl broke up with her and i wanted to also but its not that easy dumping somebody you love so im trying to forgive her and let us work out our differences. but now i cant help thinking she's just gonna cheat on me again because i let her off so easily. does anybody have any suggestions on how we could make this work even with the trust issue?Im really confused and would appreciate some advice on my relationship with my girlfriend.?
She sounds like a player with commitment issues. Was she clear that you two were in a relationship and not just dating? If she was, then it will be very tough making a relationship work with issues around trust. Relationships are built on trust. Without that, they usually crumble. Then again, if she truly loves you, she may not cheat again, but that is a gamble. It is up to you whether you want to take that gamble or not.Im really confused and would appreciate some advice on my relationship with my girlfriend.?
i think you should forgive her. sometimes people just fall into weaknesses, try and understand her part of the story as well.
well talk to her let her know how u feel .... tell her if shes wit u for fun or is she bing serious
She sounds like a player with commitment issues. Was she clear that you two were in a relationship and not just dating? If she was, then it will be very tough making a relationship work with issues around trust. Relationships are built on trust. Without that, they usually crumble. Then again, if she truly loves you, she may not cheat again, but that is a gamble. It is up to you whether you want to take that gamble or not.Im really confused and would appreciate some advice on my relationship with my girlfriend.?
i think you should forgive her. sometimes people just fall into weaknesses, try and understand her part of the story as well.
well talk to her let her know how u feel .... tell her if shes wit u for fun or is she bing serious
Im in the navy and need some advice for my relationship please help me out?
Im leaving for the navy soon and my girlfriend is really starting to freak out. we were and still are close to breaking up before i leave because she is worried she might not be able to handle me being gone especially since she is in a stressful college environment. we have talked a lot about marriage and having kids and her coming out to san diego but i will be in training for about a year. my problem is that i have been telling her how i feel, and well seeming desprit and needy even though thats not the case, its that i cant give up and loose the best thing thats happened to me. we are in love but still young and unsure what to do. I just need some advice please, on what i should do for her so i dont seem needy and push myself away even more. thanks for your helpIm in the navy and need some advice for my relationship please help me out?
My heart goes out to you....you said yourself you're young, and she's freaking out and you're on the verge of breaking up, don't push, and PLEASE don't rush into marriage if you're not ready and it doesn't sound like you are. I know this is very difficult, but trust me if this is meant to be, if she is trully the one you are meant to be with, she will stand by your side while you're away. I know this doesn't help you, but I'm telling from experience, have faith, and things will work out for you.
You're in my thoughts....good luck to you.Im in the navy and need some advice for my relationship please help me out?
First thing don't get married just so you can keep her. My Ex Husband was in the Army and we got Married just because he was going away and i wanted to go to. Needless to say we are divorced. If she is right for you she will wait while you are in MIT and boot camp. Don't rush if she is not the right one you will find someone who is. Not everyone can be a Military Wife it is hard especially when you are gone on tours. Any other Advise let me know i am a Wis at the Military issues
I know its hard. If she loves you, she'll stand by you no matter what. On the same token when you join the military you basically married to it. Some women are cut out to be military wives others aren't. I had a girl choose her military career over me, and I chose my career rather than have a girlfriend. If you're going to be there for 4 years, things should work out since she's going to school. Once you're done with basic you'll have phone time almost every night.
My heart goes out to you....you said yourself you're young, and she's freaking out and you're on the verge of breaking up, don't push, and PLEASE don't rush into marriage if you're not ready and it doesn't sound like you are. I know this is very difficult, but trust me if this is meant to be, if she is trully the one you are meant to be with, she will stand by your side while you're away. I know this doesn't help you, but I'm telling from experience, have faith, and things will work out for you.
You're in my thoughts....good luck to you.Im in the navy and need some advice for my relationship please help me out?
First thing don't get married just so you can keep her. My Ex Husband was in the Army and we got Married just because he was going away and i wanted to go to. Needless to say we are divorced. If she is right for you she will wait while you are in MIT and boot camp. Don't rush if she is not the right one you will find someone who is. Not everyone can be a Military Wife it is hard especially when you are gone on tours. Any other Advise let me know i am a Wis at the Military issues
I know its hard. If she loves you, she'll stand by you no matter what. On the same token when you join the military you basically married to it. Some women are cut out to be military wives others aren't. I had a girl choose her military career over me, and I chose my career rather than have a girlfriend. If you're going to be there for 4 years, things should work out since she's going to school. Once you're done with basic you'll have phone time almost every night.
Long explanation but please read and give advice on this relationship?
I'm 18 and the guy is 24. His last relationship recently ended it was shorter than a year long but very serious, like he really loved her but she wouldn't be with him for various reasons. like she was scared that she'd get hurt or cheated on and she didn't like their age difference and so she kept telling him they aren't together but they still had a thing. But she messes around with other guys so I figured it was over. And one night I was hanging out with friends before I really new the guy and I only kind of know his ex well she came up to me and our mutual friend and said ';he doesn't get that we aren't together'; That's the best I know of they're relationship. I've been hanging out with him for a little over a week like every night hanging out with his roommates cuz his only girl roommate is my friend and like a sister to him and we definitely became interested in each other and I've been sleeping in the same bed with him and kissing you know. well apparently his ex has found out and is freaking out and this made him mad the fact that anyone even knows and is telling her. But now I don't know how things are with us... he still wants me to stay in his bed but the last two times since his ex found out he hasn't cuddled with me or anything and it's different. I know I'm not expecting too much like a relationship until more time has passed but I don't want to be wasting my time either cuz I really am interested in him I'm not sure how to act or what to do... any advice? other than the obvious which is talking to him about it.Long explanation but please read and give advice on this relationship?
You need to back off, and make it clear that you are backing off because he has drama he needs to sort out. If you stick around waiting for him to decide if he wants to spend time with you, or mend it up with his ex, than he's going to think that you are the sucker that will put up with anything. He needs time to end his relationship. Even when 2 people are saying that it's over, it takes time to really cut those ties and end it. If you tell him that you're into him, but want to give him some space that he obviously needs, he's going to think that you are strong, drama free, and independent...and that's kinda hot.philosophy
You need to back off, and make it clear that you are backing off because he has drama he needs to sort out. If you stick around waiting for him to decide if he wants to spend time with you, or mend it up with his ex, than he's going to think that you are the sucker that will put up with anything. He needs time to end his relationship. Even when 2 people are saying that it's over, it takes time to really cut those ties and end it. If you tell him that you're into him, but want to give him some space that he obviously needs, he's going to think that you are strong, drama free, and independent...and that's kinda hot.
What is going on here? I need advice on this relationship problem?
Problem, maybe.
My GF came back the afternoon of monday. Her last email to me was ps. I'm not coming back. I knew she was just playing around with me, so I sent her an email saying that I'd miss her if she didn't. I got no response to that and that was a week ago. Anyways, I emailed her telling her to call me because I called her yesterday but no answer. I'm sure she has read the email by now but still no call its like she doesn't want to talk to me? What do you think of this is she ignoring me?What is going on here? I need advice on this relationship problem?
She might just be very busy if she only just got back (I'm assuming from a trip). Give her another call in a while and leave her a nice message. If there's no response again try going round to her place tomorrow, bring some flowers and don't be annoyed with her, just be nice and welcome her home.
I hope everything works out well.What is going on here? I need advice on this relationship problem?
internet relationships dont work
My GF came back the afternoon of monday. Her last email to me was ps. I'm not coming back. I knew she was just playing around with me, so I sent her an email saying that I'd miss her if she didn't. I got no response to that and that was a week ago. Anyways, I emailed her telling her to call me because I called her yesterday but no answer. I'm sure she has read the email by now but still no call its like she doesn't want to talk to me? What do you think of this is she ignoring me?What is going on here? I need advice on this relationship problem?
She might just be very busy if she only just got back (I'm assuming from a trip). Give her another call in a while and leave her a nice message. If there's no response again try going round to her place tomorrow, bring some flowers and don't be annoyed with her, just be nice and welcome her home.
I hope everything works out well.What is going on here? I need advice on this relationship problem?
internet relationships dont work
Long term relationship problems? Mature & Serious advice only!?
I have been in a long term relationship for over 8 yrs, feeling insecure and therefore clingy to my livin boyfriend (more like husband) I also have gained about 35 pounds since we met. We were fighting and I told him I was insecure because were not ';intimate'; as often anymore he said in these words ';When we make love it's cause I love you not because I think your hot';. It hurt me to hear him say that what would you do? We also work full time together and have recently moved to a city where he has family and friends and I have nobody so I like always want to be with him. He's distance himself and wants us to seperate for a week or two just to have some space...I am going to lose weight and try to let go.Long term relationship problems? Mature %26amp; Serious advice only!?
You just moved to be with his family and friends and now he wants to separate. What a prince!
Dump him and try to find some security in yourself. The pattern in this relationship is not good, but his remark about sex is actually positive. He might think lots of women are hot, but he only has sex with the ones he loves. (That cuts down on lots of possibilities.)Long term relationship problems? Mature %26amp; Serious advice only!?
So what advice do you need ? Sounds like your boyfriend loves you and has the strength to be honest ( regardless if he does it in poor taste ). The strongest relationships are when two people support each other. This does not mean picking someone up off the ground. That has to be done by oneself.
You are really insecure. You took what he said to make you feel better the wrong way. He loves you, but if you keep acting the way that you do, you will lose him. Stop clinging to him, give him the room he needs to breath. Find something to do in your spare time. If you chose to lose weight, make sure that it is for you. Stop being insecure and realize that if he didn't want to be with you, you wouldn't have been with him for 8 years.
Are you sure his comment about making love is a slam ?? Even if you are the hottest woman in the world, you would not want a guy to make love to you because you are hot.... I would think you would want him to make love to you because he loves you. Really good looking women have problems with ';knowing'; that someone loves them for who they are, rather than for how they look. Gaining 35 lbs. is not the end of the world, and certainly does not put you into a ';fat'; category. It is only natural to cling to him more when he is absolutely the ONLY person you know right now. He is on his own stomping ground now, which would make anyone insecure. The only thing that really bothers me is his comment about wanting to separate to have some space. I read a ladies magazine article entitled, “What do you do when they come crawling back?? (and they ALWAYS will)”. I thought it was garbage at the time, and that my man would NEVER crawl back to me after we had separated…. But by gosh…. He did come crawling back. There is an old world saying about men….If they want to go into a cave to be alone for a while, let them go. If you go into the cave after them, you will be burned by the dragon. I would let him go for a while, do NOT call him, act like he is a “friend” only at work, and take some time to work on yourself and shed a few of those pounds. You probably look just great the way you are, but losing a little weight always gives us women a feeling of more control and more confidence. Men like confident women. Good Luck Sweetie !!!
First of all you lose weight for you. Secondly get out and find you some friends or hobbies no one likes to be smothered.
Thirdly sex everyday doesn't means that its an act of loving you.You need to love you GET UP GET OUT and DO some of the things that interest you. GOOD LUCK give things sometime and it'll all smooth out.
You need to look at it from both perspectives. Are you too clingy? Can you go out and find new friends? Men do not like to constantly hear about their significant others insecurities. I know that for a fact. It drives my husband nuts, for me to constantly gripe about my weight.
What he said to be truthful is actually sweet. To make love one must be in love. If he is telling you that is why you make love, do not be upset. Attraction is important. But if he did not find you attractive, then you probably would not have sex.
If a trial separation is what he really wants, but you do not want it, then really talk it over with him. Make sure that he listens to you as well as you listen to him. Communicate.
It's never a good idea to live with someone and work with them too. You need a life separate from his. Now, all your eggs are in his basket. If you leave, you have nobody, but, he will be ok. I think he needs to grow up. All women want to hear they are attractive. So what if you gained some weight? People get comfortable in relationships and gain weight. I think you should let this guy go. Pick yourself up, get out of there, start over. This time be in charge of your life. you do not need someone else to survive. You gotta like yourself too, you know? I wish you a lot of luck.
If he really loved you you'd be a turn on for him when you gain 5 or 50 pounds. The hardest part is how you are feeling about yourself. Lose weight for you and you only. Do it to make yourself feel better, not to make him think better of you. Maybe a seperation would be best.....for you. Keep your chin up! Best wishes.
Its not the role of the spouse to make us happy.
We ourselves are the only person that can make us happy.
Loving our spouse is sharing our happiness and making them happier (not happy).
You are being very insecure and you need to get a grip on it so you can share your happiness. Try focusing on the positive like your husbands love for you is stronger than what you look like on the outside.
I agree. Be independant. Go out, do things that interest you. And you doing so will make him find you ';hot'; all over again. And then YOU have the say in where you guys go.
G'Luck
You just moved to be with his family and friends and now he wants to separate. What a prince!
Dump him and try to find some security in yourself. The pattern in this relationship is not good, but his remark about sex is actually positive. He might think lots of women are hot, but he only has sex with the ones he loves. (That cuts down on lots of possibilities.)Long term relationship problems? Mature %26amp; Serious advice only!?
So what advice do you need ? Sounds like your boyfriend loves you and has the strength to be honest ( regardless if he does it in poor taste ). The strongest relationships are when two people support each other. This does not mean picking someone up off the ground. That has to be done by oneself.
You are really insecure. You took what he said to make you feel better the wrong way. He loves you, but if you keep acting the way that you do, you will lose him. Stop clinging to him, give him the room he needs to breath. Find something to do in your spare time. If you chose to lose weight, make sure that it is for you. Stop being insecure and realize that if he didn't want to be with you, you wouldn't have been with him for 8 years.
Are you sure his comment about making love is a slam ?? Even if you are the hottest woman in the world, you would not want a guy to make love to you because you are hot.... I would think you would want him to make love to you because he loves you. Really good looking women have problems with ';knowing'; that someone loves them for who they are, rather than for how they look. Gaining 35 lbs. is not the end of the world, and certainly does not put you into a ';fat'; category. It is only natural to cling to him more when he is absolutely the ONLY person you know right now. He is on his own stomping ground now, which would make anyone insecure. The only thing that really bothers me is his comment about wanting to separate to have some space. I read a ladies magazine article entitled, “What do you do when they come crawling back?? (and they ALWAYS will)”. I thought it was garbage at the time, and that my man would NEVER crawl back to me after we had separated…. But by gosh…. He did come crawling back. There is an old world saying about men….If they want to go into a cave to be alone for a while, let them go. If you go into the cave after them, you will be burned by the dragon. I would let him go for a while, do NOT call him, act like he is a “friend” only at work, and take some time to work on yourself and shed a few of those pounds. You probably look just great the way you are, but losing a little weight always gives us women a feeling of more control and more confidence. Men like confident women. Good Luck Sweetie !!!
First of all you lose weight for you. Secondly get out and find you some friends or hobbies no one likes to be smothered.
Thirdly sex everyday doesn't means that its an act of loving you.You need to love you GET UP GET OUT and DO some of the things that interest you. GOOD LUCK give things sometime and it'll all smooth out.
You need to look at it from both perspectives. Are you too clingy? Can you go out and find new friends? Men do not like to constantly hear about their significant others insecurities. I know that for a fact. It drives my husband nuts, for me to constantly gripe about my weight.
What he said to be truthful is actually sweet. To make love one must be in love. If he is telling you that is why you make love, do not be upset. Attraction is important. But if he did not find you attractive, then you probably would not have sex.
If a trial separation is what he really wants, but you do not want it, then really talk it over with him. Make sure that he listens to you as well as you listen to him. Communicate.
It's never a good idea to live with someone and work with them too. You need a life separate from his. Now, all your eggs are in his basket. If you leave, you have nobody, but, he will be ok. I think he needs to grow up. All women want to hear they are attractive. So what if you gained some weight? People get comfortable in relationships and gain weight. I think you should let this guy go. Pick yourself up, get out of there, start over. This time be in charge of your life. you do not need someone else to survive. You gotta like yourself too, you know? I wish you a lot of luck.
If he really loved you you'd be a turn on for him when you gain 5 or 50 pounds. The hardest part is how you are feeling about yourself. Lose weight for you and you only. Do it to make yourself feel better, not to make him think better of you. Maybe a seperation would be best.....for you. Keep your chin up! Best wishes.
Its not the role of the spouse to make us happy.
We ourselves are the only person that can make us happy.
Loving our spouse is sharing our happiness and making them happier (not happy).
You are being very insecure and you need to get a grip on it so you can share your happiness. Try focusing on the positive like your husbands love for you is stronger than what you look like on the outside.
I agree. Be independant. Go out, do things that interest you. And you doing so will make him find you ';hot'; all over again. And then YOU have the say in where you guys go.
G'Luck
Long-Distance Relationship...Lots of arguing. Advice Please?
My girlfriend and I have been off and on for about a year and a half. I moved away from home for 9 months to attend school. My girlfriend never wanted me to go and was telling me that I was ';leaving her';. Anyway, I've gone home quite a few times to see her. When we're together...things are relatively good. When we're not together, we just argue sooo much about the pettiest things....as well as things in our past....when we were broken up one of the ';off'; times. She always tells me how I never put her ';first';, and that everything else to me is ';more important';. I'm training to be an Audio Engineer, which requires a lot of time and learning, which she doesn't like since I'm somewhat busy. She doesn't like it if I talk to friends who call me from home if I'm on the phone with her because they're ';more important'; than she is. I never said that. Anything that could involve me doing something other than talking to her on the phone...in which we talk ALOT isn't putting her first. Please help!Long-Distance Relationship...Lots of arguing. Advice Please?
You will never ever please her. If she attempts to hold you back, then she's not worth hanging on to. That is the sad truth. Sounds like you should just keep doing what you're doing, going after your goals, and leave her behind.
With a busy schedule, you'll need a more secure woman, possibly with equal intelligence as yourself, who is understanding because she will also be busy with her own life.
Sadly, if you stay with your present girlfriend, she'll keep whining, crying, trying to control you and may eventually pull you down to her level.
No! You must keep on striving for your own goals. You are not responsible for her, she's an adult and she should've known better than to attempt to keep you home.
What does she really want? For you to stay by her side, staying uneducated, low paying menial jobs, beside her? You don't want that. That's far too suffocating.
What you decide to do from here should be a decision only you can make. Take care of you cause no one else will.
~~~~~~~~~Long-Distance Relationship...Lots of arguing. Advice Please?
She should come before your friends but not your family
two words DRAMA QUEEN ! ! ! ! ! poor guy..... do you love her if you dont then take off she sounds kinda crazy. be careful and goodluck
You will never ever please her. If she attempts to hold you back, then she's not worth hanging on to. That is the sad truth. Sounds like you should just keep doing what you're doing, going after your goals, and leave her behind.
With a busy schedule, you'll need a more secure woman, possibly with equal intelligence as yourself, who is understanding because she will also be busy with her own life.
Sadly, if you stay with your present girlfriend, she'll keep whining, crying, trying to control you and may eventually pull you down to her level.
No! You must keep on striving for your own goals. You are not responsible for her, she's an adult and she should've known better than to attempt to keep you home.
What does she really want? For you to stay by her side, staying uneducated, low paying menial jobs, beside her? You don't want that. That's far too suffocating.
What you decide to do from here should be a decision only you can make. Take care of you cause no one else will.
~~~~~~~~~Long-Distance Relationship...Lots of arguing. Advice Please?
She should come before your friends but not your family
two words DRAMA QUEEN ! ! ! ! ! poor guy..... do you love her if you dont then take off she sounds kinda crazy. be careful and goodluck
Need opinions and advice from those with lots of relationship experience?
A friend of mine (not the one mentioned in another question) started slipping around with this guy a little over a year ago, and for awhile he refused to leave his girlfriend for her. Not long after he was finally single, my friend moved in with him. A few months later they got engaged.
Now, they work at the same place and -according to my friend- that's why they've been having so many problems lately. She says they get short-tempered with each other because they spend too much time together and don’t have time to miss each other. To that end, she’s considering going back to her old job (where she basically has a reserved place because her mom works there) and hoping it’ll fix everything.
(More details to follow.)Need opinions and advice from those with lots of relationship experience?
This guy sounds like a controlling, a******.
I have a question for you have you ever noticed if she has and bruises or welts? because this guy sounds like he could be physically abusive.
Your friend is in denial and might need therapy now or later. I recommend that she take that old job back. It's one small step to get her away from this abusive person. If you want to prove that she is miserable you can probably set up a video camera and tape her being miserable. I don't know why the guy is short tempered maybe like you said for sympathy, maybe it's the way he was brought up, either way he's still an abusive person.
The most important thing you can do is sit her down and try to talk her into leaving that guy and finding someone better. Get some evidence and reasons to why she should leave him. A question you should ask her is
Why do you put up with him? and if she says because she loves him ask her why she loves him and if she has no answer she'll probably get mad and maybe storm out, but don't worry about that you reveled to her that there is really no reason she should be there.
Don't be afraid that she will stop talking to you. If she threatens to break up contact it's only going to be for a little bit. From what it sounds like she doesn't have many friends she could turn to, so she'll be back if that ever happens.
Just let her know she is your friend, your concerned or worried about her, and is welcome to stay with you.Need opinions and advice from those with lots of relationship experience?
Your friend has some major emotional problems and unfortunately for all of us in the world, we can not fix another’ problems regardless of how much we love and care for them. It seems as though you are a loyal friend to your friend as most people may not tolerate being on the other end of such drama and there to help in times of such irrational crisis. It seems to me your friend sees you as someone who will be there for her no matter what. Some of the things I have picked up on in your question other than your loyalty is that your friend is crying wolf a lot and when you are there to rescue her, the wolf is gone. This behavior implies a few things, one of which is that she is most likely using you as an escape /threat to her fiancé when he has driven her to the point of desperation for his approval and attention. The other is that she is not crying to you to seek advice but just to make an excuse for him to give her the approval and attention she needs. He is afraid he will lose her (his emotional toy) and so he temporarily gives her some attention after most likely degrading her for enough time to feel he is not attached to her. On another note I can promise that both parties are extremely lacking in communication skills and productive coping techniques. Another thing that seems apparent are the abuse issues as well as infidelity. These are the symptoms not the real problems. Both of these individuals will only improve the quality of their mental health by first and foremost wanting help and understanding the need for help, and then going to a competent therapist or psychologist for extensive psychotherapy/cognitive behavioral therapy. The wounds both are carrying I would guarantee are severe and when you couple that with poor coping skills you are heading for disaster. They will also carry these problems with them into all aspects of their lives if left unresolved. Whether they are in relationships with peers, friends, bosses or lovers, people carry their emotional baggage with them. We all have filters in our minds that give us our perception on incoming data. If the filters are clogged with irrational theory the saying garbage in garbage out applies. While attending therapy I strongly recommend reading self help books, exercising and above all else focusing on oneself and gaining pleasure from things external from all relationships. ';Relationships and humans are dynamic by nature, and to base ones happiness on either is to succumb to a life on an emotional rollercoaster. '; quote by J. Schaefer
It seems as though you are in some way close to this person. I did notice you referenced another question you wrote involving someone else which brings me to my next answer. I would ask yourself how you find yourself in the middle of these crisis that obviously effect you enough to ponder their solutions. Is there something you are trying to avoid within yourself that leads to codependent relationships? Look within and try to see what it is you are seeking in the attempt to fix these chaotic relationships/people.
I know u might not 2 many responses 2 this queston, most ppl wont read somethis long, so i will take my time 2 xplain, plus it will be apayback 4 making me read that long @ss question, LOL!: 1st it sounds like ur friend does not have a strong father figure in her life, she lacks self esteme, and confidences. She needs 2 get away form him, he, I would guess is a misogyne, and no 1 will ever be good enuff 4 him. he is probaly beating her or will start soon. He could just have ur ';brain washes'; in2 thinking she has nothing with out him, LIke '; novdoy will ever love u, or put up with u, and a lot other names, I could go on 4ever. U had a couple guestion so I hope I cover them all in my answer, since u took the time 2 right all this out. Well u r right she will get mad @ any1 that doesn't like him or doesn't like there relationship. This leaves u with few choses which 1 u chose is up 2 u. 1) u can gather all her friends and family 2gether and have an ';intervention'; and have ever1 tell her what they see as wrong, not 2 belittle her but saying stuff like I miss when u and I would such and such, now we dont anymore, or U used 2 B this person, now u seem like this. Let her know that there is a suport group waiting 4 her. U guys can either deside whether or not u want 2 tell her 2 leave him or we can no longer stand by a watch you hurt like this, or tell her when you do decided 2 leave which u will, we will all b here waiting for u cuz thats what friends do. U could just tell her 1 on 1, that u see what is going thur and u can't stand by and watch her hurt like this. Mayb have some domestic abuse pamphlets 4 her 2 read. Or u can just tell her that u are hear 4 her, anytime she needs u! The bottom line u know her better then I dont so u will have 2 decide how best 2 handle it. U could also get some pamphlets and just read some for tips or tell her that u saw it while waiting in line somewhere and thought alot sounded like her relationship. She needs 2 get out B4 it is too late, 1 it escalates, or he really hers her(the number 1 killer of woman is murder by there bf of husbands) Or she gets prego and feels trapped. If I think of anything else i will come back and add it! or u can email me!
Now, they work at the same place and -according to my friend- that's why they've been having so many problems lately. She says they get short-tempered with each other because they spend too much time together and don’t have time to miss each other. To that end, she’s considering going back to her old job (where she basically has a reserved place because her mom works there) and hoping it’ll fix everything.
(More details to follow.)Need opinions and advice from those with lots of relationship experience?
This guy sounds like a controlling, a******.
I have a question for you have you ever noticed if she has and bruises or welts? because this guy sounds like he could be physically abusive.
Your friend is in denial and might need therapy now or later. I recommend that she take that old job back. It's one small step to get her away from this abusive person. If you want to prove that she is miserable you can probably set up a video camera and tape her being miserable. I don't know why the guy is short tempered maybe like you said for sympathy, maybe it's the way he was brought up, either way he's still an abusive person.
The most important thing you can do is sit her down and try to talk her into leaving that guy and finding someone better. Get some evidence and reasons to why she should leave him. A question you should ask her is
Why do you put up with him? and if she says because she loves him ask her why she loves him and if she has no answer she'll probably get mad and maybe storm out, but don't worry about that you reveled to her that there is really no reason she should be there.
Don't be afraid that she will stop talking to you. If she threatens to break up contact it's only going to be for a little bit. From what it sounds like she doesn't have many friends she could turn to, so she'll be back if that ever happens.
Just let her know she is your friend, your concerned or worried about her, and is welcome to stay with you.Need opinions and advice from those with lots of relationship experience?
Your friend has some major emotional problems and unfortunately for all of us in the world, we can not fix another’ problems regardless of how much we love and care for them. It seems as though you are a loyal friend to your friend as most people may not tolerate being on the other end of such drama and there to help in times of such irrational crisis. It seems to me your friend sees you as someone who will be there for her no matter what. Some of the things I have picked up on in your question other than your loyalty is that your friend is crying wolf a lot and when you are there to rescue her, the wolf is gone. This behavior implies a few things, one of which is that she is most likely using you as an escape /threat to her fiancé when he has driven her to the point of desperation for his approval and attention. The other is that she is not crying to you to seek advice but just to make an excuse for him to give her the approval and attention she needs. He is afraid he will lose her (his emotional toy) and so he temporarily gives her some attention after most likely degrading her for enough time to feel he is not attached to her. On another note I can promise that both parties are extremely lacking in communication skills and productive coping techniques. Another thing that seems apparent are the abuse issues as well as infidelity. These are the symptoms not the real problems. Both of these individuals will only improve the quality of their mental health by first and foremost wanting help and understanding the need for help, and then going to a competent therapist or psychologist for extensive psychotherapy/cognitive behavioral therapy. The wounds both are carrying I would guarantee are severe and when you couple that with poor coping skills you are heading for disaster. They will also carry these problems with them into all aspects of their lives if left unresolved. Whether they are in relationships with peers, friends, bosses or lovers, people carry their emotional baggage with them. We all have filters in our minds that give us our perception on incoming data. If the filters are clogged with irrational theory the saying garbage in garbage out applies. While attending therapy I strongly recommend reading self help books, exercising and above all else focusing on oneself and gaining pleasure from things external from all relationships. ';Relationships and humans are dynamic by nature, and to base ones happiness on either is to succumb to a life on an emotional rollercoaster. '; quote by J. Schaefer
It seems as though you are in some way close to this person. I did notice you referenced another question you wrote involving someone else which brings me to my next answer. I would ask yourself how you find yourself in the middle of these crisis that obviously effect you enough to ponder their solutions. Is there something you are trying to avoid within yourself that leads to codependent relationships? Look within and try to see what it is you are seeking in the attempt to fix these chaotic relationships/people.
I know u might not 2 many responses 2 this queston, most ppl wont read somethis long, so i will take my time 2 xplain, plus it will be apayback 4 making me read that long @ss question, LOL!: 1st it sounds like ur friend does not have a strong father figure in her life, she lacks self esteme, and confidences. She needs 2 get away form him, he, I would guess is a misogyne, and no 1 will ever be good enuff 4 him. he is probaly beating her or will start soon. He could just have ur ';brain washes'; in2 thinking she has nothing with out him, LIke '; novdoy will ever love u, or put up with u, and a lot other names, I could go on 4ever. U had a couple guestion so I hope I cover them all in my answer, since u took the time 2 right all this out. Well u r right she will get mad @ any1 that doesn't like him or doesn't like there relationship. This leaves u with few choses which 1 u chose is up 2 u. 1) u can gather all her friends and family 2gether and have an ';intervention'; and have ever1 tell her what they see as wrong, not 2 belittle her but saying stuff like I miss when u and I would such and such, now we dont anymore, or U used 2 B this person, now u seem like this. Let her know that there is a suport group waiting 4 her. U guys can either deside whether or not u want 2 tell her 2 leave him or we can no longer stand by a watch you hurt like this, or tell her when you do decided 2 leave which u will, we will all b here waiting for u cuz thats what friends do. U could just tell her 1 on 1, that u see what is going thur and u can't stand by and watch her hurt like this. Mayb have some domestic abuse pamphlets 4 her 2 read. Or u can just tell her that u are hear 4 her, anytime she needs u! The bottom line u know her better then I dont so u will have 2 decide how best 2 handle it. U could also get some pamphlets and just read some for tips or tell her that u saw it while waiting in line somewhere and thought alot sounded like her relationship. She needs 2 get out B4 it is too late, 1 it escalates, or he really hers her(the number 1 killer of woman is murder by there bf of husbands) Or she gets prego and feels trapped. If I think of anything else i will come back and add it! or u can email me!
Can some one e-mail me good advice on starting a father-daughter relationship w/my daughter after 7 years?
of absence I have not had the chance to get to know my little girl after a bitter divorce she is almost 8 years old and have just seen her for the first time in 5 years two days ago. Mother is wanting to work it out for the sake or her I'm caucious and of course I still Love her mother always have but am more concerned for my daughter and self at finaly becomeing a family, we live 4 hours apart and I will sacrafice what ever nessesary to see her any advice???Can some one e-mail me good advice on starting a father-daughter relationship w/my daughter after 7 years?
Well, I think for starters, you must put yourself in your daughter's shoes.
This is a bit strange and confusing for her, I'm sure. On the one hand, this must be an answer to her prayers. She's probably dreamed of having a daddy and here it is happening. But at the same time, you're strangers and that would be awkward for her.
But she's 8 years old so she can't sort all this out. So my first bit of advice is to be respectful of this basic fact.
Recognizing this, the range of personality in eight year old girls is wide. Some are timid and shy and some are friendly and outgoing and there's everything in between. Depending on where she is on that scale, my advice would be different. So you need to consider what kind of little girl she is and apply that to placing yourself in her shoes. This process is going to guide you in how to approach her.
I think it's cool that you and she have this opportunity to share fatherhood together. There is nothing more special in my view, no greater honor than to be able to be a daddy to a little kid.
Do not buy things for her. Give her your TIME, not your possessions. You can't buy anything for her that will be more valuable than your time with her. So make that your major focus.
Do not take her to amusement parks or other Disney Land Dad types of activities. Take her for walks on area bike trails or the beach or just go to the park and sit on the swings with her and talk. Be a real daddy not a phoney daddy. Phoney daddys buy kids off with flashy crap that has no substance. A real daddy will give his time, love, care, and concern. He won't worry about being cool or what a kid will think of him. Be real and she will love you and you will create a life long view for her of what a good man is.
Your job is sooooo important. Do your best. You are who she will remember when she goes to choose a man to marry. You will be her standard for how a man should treat a woman. So take your role very seriously.
Be true to yourself, true to her, honest with her. Talk a lot and share who you are. This is how she finds out who she is.
Take care my friend. There is no greater honor.Can some one e-mail me good advice on starting a father-daughter relationship w/my daughter after 7 years?
If you have a YMCA in your town or hers, check into the father/daughter adventures program. Our daughter is 34 yr old and still enjoys talking about the great times we had.
Take it slow real slow. She needs time to comprehend what is going on around her, so bowling up and saying ';hi, I'm your Dad'; will not cut it.
Spend some time with her and your ex, don't overstay your welcome and let your ex help her to ease slowly into a conversation about you.
When the conversation does take place, be there but in the background, not saying anything until the time is right.
Always be honest with her. Never down her mother in front of her. Be there for her when she needs you. If she calls you and you can't answer the phone make sure you call her back that day. Make sure you call her just to say hi and how are you?
Maybe send her some flowers let her know you are thinking of her for no reason.
Little girls like attention (well women in general) call and visit as often as you can. Call her the first thing in the morning and right before she goes to bed.
be a father of integrity- do what you say your going to do and no excuses, be there for her- school activities, sports, band whatever, whenever. never tell her your going to do something and then don't do it- never. kids will say its OK i understand, but in reality they don't and can't because they are not adults. everything you do or don't do shows your love and how important they are to you-- in their eyes. good luck-- been there with two daughters myself- ever want to talk e-mail me
I think you've gotten some great answers there. The only thing that crossed my mind was that getting her little gifts here and there I think is actually a good thing. I wouldn't consider myself a materialistic female at all, but nothing melted my heart more when I was little than unexpected thoughtful little gifts that told me my dad was thinking about ME. It was never stuff I asked for, just stuff that showed me that he was listening to me, or noticing me. I liked the go slow idea... take her lead. Every little girl wants a daddy in her life. There is NO substitute. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.
I think that you should start looking for job opportunities close to your daughter and make that a top priority.
From here on out, the key is going to be consistency. If you continue to get to know her on a half-*** basis, she will start to resent you.
This is a really good age to start building a relationship.
Well, I think for starters, you must put yourself in your daughter's shoes.
This is a bit strange and confusing for her, I'm sure. On the one hand, this must be an answer to her prayers. She's probably dreamed of having a daddy and here it is happening. But at the same time, you're strangers and that would be awkward for her.
But she's 8 years old so she can't sort all this out. So my first bit of advice is to be respectful of this basic fact.
Recognizing this, the range of personality in eight year old girls is wide. Some are timid and shy and some are friendly and outgoing and there's everything in between. Depending on where she is on that scale, my advice would be different. So you need to consider what kind of little girl she is and apply that to placing yourself in her shoes. This process is going to guide you in how to approach her.
I think it's cool that you and she have this opportunity to share fatherhood together. There is nothing more special in my view, no greater honor than to be able to be a daddy to a little kid.
Do not buy things for her. Give her your TIME, not your possessions. You can't buy anything for her that will be more valuable than your time with her. So make that your major focus.
Do not take her to amusement parks or other Disney Land Dad types of activities. Take her for walks on area bike trails or the beach or just go to the park and sit on the swings with her and talk. Be a real daddy not a phoney daddy. Phoney daddys buy kids off with flashy crap that has no substance. A real daddy will give his time, love, care, and concern. He won't worry about being cool or what a kid will think of him. Be real and she will love you and you will create a life long view for her of what a good man is.
Your job is sooooo important. Do your best. You are who she will remember when she goes to choose a man to marry. You will be her standard for how a man should treat a woman. So take your role very seriously.
Be true to yourself, true to her, honest with her. Talk a lot and share who you are. This is how she finds out who she is.
Take care my friend. There is no greater honor.Can some one e-mail me good advice on starting a father-daughter relationship w/my daughter after 7 years?
If you have a YMCA in your town or hers, check into the father/daughter adventures program. Our daughter is 34 yr old and still enjoys talking about the great times we had.
Take it slow real slow. She needs time to comprehend what is going on around her, so bowling up and saying ';hi, I'm your Dad'; will not cut it.
Spend some time with her and your ex, don't overstay your welcome and let your ex help her to ease slowly into a conversation about you.
When the conversation does take place, be there but in the background, not saying anything until the time is right.
Always be honest with her. Never down her mother in front of her. Be there for her when she needs you. If she calls you and you can't answer the phone make sure you call her back that day. Make sure you call her just to say hi and how are you?
Maybe send her some flowers let her know you are thinking of her for no reason.
Little girls like attention (well women in general) call and visit as often as you can. Call her the first thing in the morning and right before she goes to bed.
be a father of integrity- do what you say your going to do and no excuses, be there for her- school activities, sports, band whatever, whenever. never tell her your going to do something and then don't do it- never. kids will say its OK i understand, but in reality they don't and can't because they are not adults. everything you do or don't do shows your love and how important they are to you-- in their eyes. good luck-- been there with two daughters myself- ever want to talk e-mail me
I think you've gotten some great answers there. The only thing that crossed my mind was that getting her little gifts here and there I think is actually a good thing. I wouldn't consider myself a materialistic female at all, but nothing melted my heart more when I was little than unexpected thoughtful little gifts that told me my dad was thinking about ME. It was never stuff I asked for, just stuff that showed me that he was listening to me, or noticing me. I liked the go slow idea... take her lead. Every little girl wants a daddy in her life. There is NO substitute. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.
I think that you should start looking for job opportunities close to your daughter and make that a top priority.
From here on out, the key is going to be consistency. If you continue to get to know her on a half-*** basis, she will start to resent you.
This is a really good age to start building a relationship.
I would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
Alright to start off I'm not going to bore people with long-winded stories so I'll keep it as short and sweet as possible. To kick it off both me and my GF are 21 this year, we are each other's first love and have been together for exactly a year and 5 days now (V day = aniversary)
It is great being with her but recently about a few months ago my GF started to act very differently towards me, like talking to me on the phone without any zest, being late for dates (almost 15mins to 1 hour!) and just simply worrying about non-sensicle things that gives a negative effect to the relationship (and end up arguing most of the time). Things hasn't been smooth since the start of this month and one perfect example was the celebration of our 1st aniversary. It was pretty much screwed up badly because of these reasons:
1. She was late (again) for 30 minutes.
2. She was very self-centered for the whole day (making comments to herself and not sharing opinions and basically keeping comments to herself)
3. When i realised and got pissed off at it, she starts to act like her normal self again (bubbly, and happy instead of the';new'; dull self)
4.When confronted of the problem the cause was a simply ridiculous reason that had nothing to do about our relationship (thus screwing our relationship again)
5. Despite exercising immense patience and just trying to keep the day happy, she continued to be selfish and this happened:
After resolving the issue (No.4) , she mentioned that she wanted to go dinner and then while in the midst of asking her where to go eat, she stormed off angrily and in the end we ended up eating in an unglamarous place (which i had plans to take her out to a ritzy restuarant of her choice) and fighting. In the end i lost my temper and just told her that she obviously do not realise how lucky and she was and not being appreciative of what i do despite ';tolerating'; her.
Its been a week now and I have not called/SMSed her since the incident, and yes im still pretty pissed at the incident as I had done so much for her (everything in the name of love that you can imagine) that no one else can compare and yet she gave me a crappy attitude.
I do not plan on calling her this time, Ive given in one too many times already.I plan not to contact her until she apologises to me personally. Hopefully shes aware of the problem but i also dont plan on leaving her unless there is no other way.
I would really appreciate your comments on this and any suggestion on what to do next (breakup can be factored but not focused) to make her realise and learn about it. The same type of thing had happened to my brother's ex-GF before and now shes regretting it, i dont want her to make the same mistake as her.
Thanks alot for taking the timeI would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
I don't know what to say really,I mean people change in relationships you are both together along time and relationships do have there ups and downs and maybe this is the worst case for yous yet but nothing to serious being late all the time now that would really get to me and on your anniversary that's just not on she should apologize for that but there is no point in not talking to her its a waste of time and life you both need to sit and talk about whats going on if she has a bad attitude then something is up and you need to find out as soon as possible.I would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
Strange......Sound's to me like she might be seeing someone.Not something serious but why would she suddenly act this way.If she was the one acting selfish and unappreciated of what you planned and done for her then i say don't call.Sometime's we do give in to easily and people take that as well i can treat him/her how ever i want because here she/he is still.I am guilty of that my bf would be a jerk and would argue for no reason and there i would be calling and looking for him for what? he didn't change.Then she will come to her senses and say i am going to lose him.I know you might care for her but sometime's we do need space-if she really does care she will contact you and apologize if not like you say your a good man you will surely find someone who will appreciate you.Be smart about it and think thing's through.Good Luck Man :)
i think maybe your gf is bored or thinks that you are no longer ';interesting'; as you were when she liked you, if thats the case then i guess you shud try to spark things up by doing stuff you guys havent done before which might appeal to her or the other scenario cud be that she doesnt like you anymore and is too scared to break up with you so in that case you shud be open with her and tell her how you have felt in the past month about her behaviour and tell her that if shedoesnt like you anymore, then its fine n blah blah, n the other reason cud be that shes stressed about something and shes not sharing it with you, so ask her whats wrong and try to find out the reason for her stressful behaviour
hope this helps lol :)
Dude. You've got to man up. You're being a wuss. Women do not like wusses. They want someone that is a challenge. I read things like ';restaurant of HER choice'; which is definitely a wuss giveaway. She wants a man that makes decisions and has control and self confidence. You can give her options sometimes but YOU ultimately make the decisions. Don't EVER say you've been together any number of years and any number of days. Just say years...that's enough. And never tell a girl that she's ';lucky to be with you';. That's not even funny as a joke. That just shows weakness and desperation.
Also, she's bored with you. Did you notice how she got excited when you got pissed off? She wants a reaction from you (even if it's negative). Don't be so predictable. Make her come after you. She doesn't want what she can obtain so easily. One more thing, be 10 or 15 minutes late and don't be so uptight!
Either forget about her and she'll come running back or better yet she'll stay away. Take a risk with no regrets.philosophy
It is great being with her but recently about a few months ago my GF started to act very differently towards me, like talking to me on the phone without any zest, being late for dates (almost 15mins to 1 hour!) and just simply worrying about non-sensicle things that gives a negative effect to the relationship (and end up arguing most of the time). Things hasn't been smooth since the start of this month and one perfect example was the celebration of our 1st aniversary. It was pretty much screwed up badly because of these reasons:
1. She was late (again) for 30 minutes.
2. She was very self-centered for the whole day (making comments to herself and not sharing opinions and basically keeping comments to herself)
3. When i realised and got pissed off at it, she starts to act like her normal self again (bubbly, and happy instead of the';new'; dull self)
4.When confronted of the problem the cause was a simply ridiculous reason that had nothing to do about our relationship (thus screwing our relationship again)
5. Despite exercising immense patience and just trying to keep the day happy, she continued to be selfish and this happened:
After resolving the issue (No.4) , she mentioned that she wanted to go dinner and then while in the midst of asking her where to go eat, she stormed off angrily and in the end we ended up eating in an unglamarous place (which i had plans to take her out to a ritzy restuarant of her choice) and fighting. In the end i lost my temper and just told her that she obviously do not realise how lucky and she was and not being appreciative of what i do despite ';tolerating'; her.
Its been a week now and I have not called/SMSed her since the incident, and yes im still pretty pissed at the incident as I had done so much for her (everything in the name of love that you can imagine) that no one else can compare and yet she gave me a crappy attitude.
I do not plan on calling her this time, Ive given in one too many times already.I plan not to contact her until she apologises to me personally. Hopefully shes aware of the problem but i also dont plan on leaving her unless there is no other way.
I would really appreciate your comments on this and any suggestion on what to do next (breakup can be factored but not focused) to make her realise and learn about it. The same type of thing had happened to my brother's ex-GF before and now shes regretting it, i dont want her to make the same mistake as her.
Thanks alot for taking the timeI would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
I don't know what to say really,I mean people change in relationships you are both together along time and relationships do have there ups and downs and maybe this is the worst case for yous yet but nothing to serious being late all the time now that would really get to me and on your anniversary that's just not on she should apologize for that but there is no point in not talking to her its a waste of time and life you both need to sit and talk about whats going on if she has a bad attitude then something is up and you need to find out as soon as possible.I would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
Strange......Sound's to me like she might be seeing someone.Not something serious but why would she suddenly act this way.If she was the one acting selfish and unappreciated of what you planned and done for her then i say don't call.Sometime's we do give in to easily and people take that as well i can treat him/her how ever i want because here she/he is still.I am guilty of that my bf would be a jerk and would argue for no reason and there i would be calling and looking for him for what? he didn't change.Then she will come to her senses and say i am going to lose him.I know you might care for her but sometime's we do need space-if she really does care she will contact you and apologize if not like you say your a good man you will surely find someone who will appreciate you.Be smart about it and think thing's through.Good Luck Man :)
i think maybe your gf is bored or thinks that you are no longer ';interesting'; as you were when she liked you, if thats the case then i guess you shud try to spark things up by doing stuff you guys havent done before which might appeal to her or the other scenario cud be that she doesnt like you anymore and is too scared to break up with you so in that case you shud be open with her and tell her how you have felt in the past month about her behaviour and tell her that if shedoesnt like you anymore, then its fine n blah blah, n the other reason cud be that shes stressed about something and shes not sharing it with you, so ask her whats wrong and try to find out the reason for her stressful behaviour
hope this helps lol :)
Dude. You've got to man up. You're being a wuss. Women do not like wusses. They want someone that is a challenge. I read things like ';restaurant of HER choice'; which is definitely a wuss giveaway. She wants a man that makes decisions and has control and self confidence. You can give her options sometimes but YOU ultimately make the decisions. Don't EVER say you've been together any number of years and any number of days. Just say years...that's enough. And never tell a girl that she's ';lucky to be with you';. That's not even funny as a joke. That just shows weakness and desperation.
Also, she's bored with you. Did you notice how she got excited when you got pissed off? She wants a reaction from you (even if it's negative). Don't be so predictable. Make her come after you. She doesn't want what she can obtain so easily. One more thing, be 10 or 15 minutes late and don't be so uptight!
Either forget about her and she'll come running back or better yet she'll stay away. Take a risk with no regrets.
I need advice with my relationship?!?!?
my parents are separated..they live in two different cities that are 6 miles apart. my girlfriend lives in the same city as my father...my father lives with my godparents but my girlfriend thinks that he lives in his own home...I told her that because i was really embarrased about what was going on with my parents..the separation and all...we've been going out for 2 months (Im 17 and she's 18)...and my parents have been separated for like 4 months...
how should i tell my girlfriend the truth about my dads situation?? What should I say....how should I say it???I need advice with my relationship?!?!?
Tell her just like you did right here. You lied because you were embarrassed.I need advice with my relationship?!?!?
Tell her the truth, straight up. At her age, she will understand.
Be honest with her, that's the best thing to do.
There's nothing wrong about telling the truth about your dad's situation. If he divorced your mom 4 months ago, sometimes it takes a little while to get back on your feet. I know you probably don't get that right now but believe me life isn't always what you thought it would be. You have no reason to be ashamed of anything. Just tell her what happened and if she's the person you think she is, then she will understand, besides she's not going out with him, she's going out with you...
good luck
Just be honest and open with your girlfriend. Its not your marriage that broke up, parents are people too. You should not be embarrased and should support each parent although you do not agree with the situation. You do not know what your future holds on down the line... so do not judge your parents for what has happened.
Ther eis nothing wrong with your dad living with your god parents.
Just tell her flat out that you need to tell her something about your dad and that and tell her that your dad lives with your godparents at the moment.
I'm sure she will be fine with it there is nothing wrong with it.
I hope everything works out :)
where your parents live and what they do has nothing to do with you.
be honest with your girlfriend and tell her the truth...also let her know why you didn't tell her in the first place.
if she really likes you, it doesn't matter what your parents do. what will matter though is that you lied to her.
come clean...if you're together for sometime, she will eventually find out.
I think that you just need to have a sit down conversation and come clean...take your time with it but be honest. Just let her know that you were uncomfortable with telling her the truth but now that you two have grown closer to each other you want to be honest about the entire situation. Another thing is you shouldn't be embarrassed it's not like the old days when couples had to stay together when they hated each other...I am sure your parents are happier now and that is something to look forward to.... just being happy!
just tell her the truth: that you were embarassed and hope she's okay with it, and if she really loves you it wont matter.
First of all, you shouldn't be ashamed of your parent's divorce. It happens in about half of the marriages these days. Second, lying is very immature and unless you come clean soon, you will get caught.
You can start by telling the girl you really wanted her to like you for who you are and that you were not completely honest about your family. Then tell her the truth. For all you know, she may be in the same situation. If she dumps you, she doesn't deserve you.
DUDE!!!!!????
WTF
You've got to be upfront with her about this or when you do tell her she'll ask: ';why did you lie to me'; the sooner you be honest,
the better off you are.
Honesty works. There's no reason to be embarrassed. Just say, ';Baby, I'm sorry- I want to tel you something. I lied to you about my dad because I was embarrassed, but now that our relationship is becoming more serious, I want to come clean and tell you the truth about what's going on, because I'm sure you'll understand and support me. My parents separated about 4 months ago, and my dad actually lives with my godparents because %26lt;insert reason here%26gt;. I'm sorry I lied to you, and I want you to know that it won't happen again.';
Done. Not a big deal. Next!
how should i tell my girlfriend the truth about my dads situation?? What should I say....how should I say it???I need advice with my relationship?!?!?
Tell her just like you did right here. You lied because you were embarrassed.I need advice with my relationship?!?!?
Tell her the truth, straight up. At her age, she will understand.
Be honest with her, that's the best thing to do.
There's nothing wrong about telling the truth about your dad's situation. If he divorced your mom 4 months ago, sometimes it takes a little while to get back on your feet. I know you probably don't get that right now but believe me life isn't always what you thought it would be. You have no reason to be ashamed of anything. Just tell her what happened and if she's the person you think she is, then she will understand, besides she's not going out with him, she's going out with you...
good luck
Just be honest and open with your girlfriend. Its not your marriage that broke up, parents are people too. You should not be embarrased and should support each parent although you do not agree with the situation. You do not know what your future holds on down the line... so do not judge your parents for what has happened.
Ther eis nothing wrong with your dad living with your god parents.
Just tell her flat out that you need to tell her something about your dad and that and tell her that your dad lives with your godparents at the moment.
I'm sure she will be fine with it there is nothing wrong with it.
I hope everything works out :)
where your parents live and what they do has nothing to do with you.
be honest with your girlfriend and tell her the truth...also let her know why you didn't tell her in the first place.
if she really likes you, it doesn't matter what your parents do. what will matter though is that you lied to her.
come clean...if you're together for sometime, she will eventually find out.
I think that you just need to have a sit down conversation and come clean...take your time with it but be honest. Just let her know that you were uncomfortable with telling her the truth but now that you two have grown closer to each other you want to be honest about the entire situation. Another thing is you shouldn't be embarrassed it's not like the old days when couples had to stay together when they hated each other...I am sure your parents are happier now and that is something to look forward to.... just being happy!
just tell her the truth: that you were embarassed and hope she's okay with it, and if she really loves you it wont matter.
First of all, you shouldn't be ashamed of your parent's divorce. It happens in about half of the marriages these days. Second, lying is very immature and unless you come clean soon, you will get caught.
You can start by telling the girl you really wanted her to like you for who you are and that you were not completely honest about your family. Then tell her the truth. For all you know, she may be in the same situation. If she dumps you, she doesn't deserve you.
DUDE!!!!!????
WTF
You've got to be upfront with her about this or when you do tell her she'll ask: ';why did you lie to me'; the sooner you be honest,
the better off you are.
Honesty works. There's no reason to be embarrassed. Just say, ';Baby, I'm sorry- I want to tel you something. I lied to you about my dad because I was embarrassed, but now that our relationship is becoming more serious, I want to come clean and tell you the truth about what's going on, because I'm sure you'll understand and support me. My parents separated about 4 months ago, and my dad actually lives with my godparents because %26lt;insert reason here%26gt;. I'm sorry I lied to you, and I want you to know that it won't happen again.';
Done. Not a big deal. Next!
I need advice about my relationship?
i'm trying to help my mom right now and my new boyfriend is drinking and being mean to me he is throwing up my exboyfrinds and trying to make me feel bad for himI need advice about my relationship?
get rid of the boyfriend. It sounds as if he has issues with drinking and perhaps several other things as well. Help your mom and help yourself as well by getting rid of someone that doesn't treat you very nicely....good luckI need advice about my relationship?
Girl, the fact that he's trying to make you feel bad for him and throwing a hissy fit means that he's trying to manipulate you. You have to trust me when I say that this boy is dangerous and he might hurt you or your mom. He's being verbally abusive and he's acting like a little kid. He's a dangerous person and you need to get rid of him before he hurts someone. Please listen to me. I've been there before and I'd do anything to prevent that from happening again.
This is a serious situation because the person who is drinking is not in control of himself. The booze is controlling him. So in effect, you are having a relationship with the booze, not the man. This can go on for a long long time, years or decades until the person quit boozing, or they may never quit. That's why my advice is not to have a relationship with anyone who is addicted to booze. Wait until they sober up. Good luck.
Go help your mom and dont feel bad about it. If this is a normal behavior for him to be drinking and acting distruptive. . .then I would consider some major chances in your relationship. Do not feel bad about him drinking. He can make his own decisions. When he sobers up talk about you and him. Drinking is a bad habit that could easily ruin a relationship.
look if he drinks u dont needto be with him anyway andif hes throwing things in your face break up wit him he will learn hi lesson
if hes hurting you and drinking you should break up with him before he really does damage to you. good luck
get rid of the boyfriend. It sounds as if he has issues with drinking and perhaps several other things as well. Help your mom and help yourself as well by getting rid of someone that doesn't treat you very nicely....good luckI need advice about my relationship?
Girl, the fact that he's trying to make you feel bad for him and throwing a hissy fit means that he's trying to manipulate you. You have to trust me when I say that this boy is dangerous and he might hurt you or your mom. He's being verbally abusive and he's acting like a little kid. He's a dangerous person and you need to get rid of him before he hurts someone. Please listen to me. I've been there before and I'd do anything to prevent that from happening again.
This is a serious situation because the person who is drinking is not in control of himself. The booze is controlling him. So in effect, you are having a relationship with the booze, not the man. This can go on for a long long time, years or decades until the person quit boozing, or they may never quit. That's why my advice is not to have a relationship with anyone who is addicted to booze. Wait until they sober up. Good luck.
Go help your mom and dont feel bad about it. If this is a normal behavior for him to be drinking and acting distruptive. . .then I would consider some major chances in your relationship. Do not feel bad about him drinking. He can make his own decisions. When he sobers up talk about you and him. Drinking is a bad habit that could easily ruin a relationship.
look if he drinks u dont needto be with him anyway andif hes throwing things in your face break up wit him he will learn hi lesson
if hes hurting you and drinking you should break up with him before he really does damage to you. good luck
I need advice on my relationship!!?
i like my girl friend alot, but we dont really see each other or anything cuz we dont hav any classes 2gether or anythin so should i keep dating her or should we break up?I need advice on my relationship!!?
if you LIKE her than it doesnt really matter what you do. If you LOVE her, than you should do anything and everything possible to keep her. Dont let classes separate you.I need advice on my relationship!!?
How old are you? Is the classroom the only place that the two of you can see each other? Can you possibly go to the movies together, the mall, the park??? I wouldn't break up unless there is no possible way that the two of you can be together physically (I'm not suggesting sex).
if you LIKE her than it doesnt really matter what you do. If you LOVE her, than you should do anything and everything possible to keep her. Dont let classes separate you.I need advice on my relationship!!?
How old are you? Is the classroom the only place that the two of you can see each other? Can you possibly go to the movies together, the mall, the park??? I wouldn't break up unless there is no possible way that the two of you can be together physically (I'm not suggesting sex).
I need advice and fast.....relationship pending.....?
As some of you probably know my b/f and I got into a fight and we were supposed to be engaged at the end of Feb. because of the fight he thinks we should hold off....now all of the money he's saved for this month he is blowing... Should I stick it out with him to see what happens or should I just end things...ever since he has postpond everything I have doubts that he is ever going to propose and I don;t want to waste anymore time...I love him to death but I feel like because of his choice I'm on a leash...I have to do whatever he wants...I told him this is how I feel and he says just have faith that everything will work out...does is sound like he's being honest aboput proposong to me at a later date....? Or is he looking for an excuse not to do it?? Everything has changed since that fight and I don't know what the future holds for us now...he know s I was looking forward to the proposal and now I feel like it's not important to him anymore...I need help.I need advice and fast.....relationship pending.....?
I think you should just come out and ask him what's up. Tell him straight up that while he may be satisfied with playing the waiting game, you are not, and if he loves you as much as he did when you two first started talking about marriage, he should be reciprocating enough to try to put your feelings at ease about the situation. Good luck.I need advice and fast.....relationship pending.....?
If he can't get over the fact that you two had a fight I don't know how long your relationship would last even if he does propose to you. Part of being in a relationship is understanding that you won't always argree but you will still love each other. This whole holding off and making you feel like your on a leash is a control thing and if he is doing this now I would be concerned about him doing it in the future when ever you fight with each other.
I hate to be the 1 telling you this but I would say something is very wrong.
It sounds to me like he started the fight for a reason.
This is not a uncommon thing for men to do. ( Im a guy And I can say i have not went to this point but i have started fights to stop something from going on)
Sometimes we get scared and we want to make sure this is the right thing we are doing. But in the end All i learned was I started the fight cuz I didnt want to do it and I didnt know how to tell her it was over or I didnt want to do something.
Also You said you have to do what he wants you too.
This is not a good thing.
When 2 people are in love its a 50/50 and sometimes its 20/80 but in the end its 50/50
Also he made sure he didnt have the money to do this
thats so he can say ( honey I was scared And i do love you and want to marry you but I was scared and dumb and spent the money) so he made sure he had a backup plan.
I would not just walk away I would sit down and Talk this out and tell him what you think and how you feel and go from there.
And you said about time. If you stay with him and in the end it dont work you will call yourself alot of names. you will hate yourself for wasteing time with him.
I know its hard to walk away from someone you love. But trust me its harder to stay with someone you love and they dont love you the same way and they wont do for you what you do for them.
the longer you stay the harder it will get to stay with him.
You have the right to be happy and in love, You need to find out what is going on and if it dont work out well then you didnt waste anymore time then you have now.
Also if you do leave It is not worth it to hate him. Look at it this way you 2 had some good times and bad but at least you 2 didnt get married for 20years just to find out he is cheating on you and does not love you eoither
GOODLUCK
Drop him now!!! He will be the same way if you were married!
It seems like he isn't serious about the relationship anymore. If you are feeling kind of trapped and confused, it might be wise to back out of the situation until you are clear on everything. You should be very sure deep down before making such a serious decision, so take the time and space to do so! Best wishes to you!
I think you should just come out and ask him what's up. Tell him straight up that while he may be satisfied with playing the waiting game, you are not, and if he loves you as much as he did when you two first started talking about marriage, he should be reciprocating enough to try to put your feelings at ease about the situation. Good luck.I need advice and fast.....relationship pending.....?
If he can't get over the fact that you two had a fight I don't know how long your relationship would last even if he does propose to you. Part of being in a relationship is understanding that you won't always argree but you will still love each other. This whole holding off and making you feel like your on a leash is a control thing and if he is doing this now I would be concerned about him doing it in the future when ever you fight with each other.
I hate to be the 1 telling you this but I would say something is very wrong.
It sounds to me like he started the fight for a reason.
This is not a uncommon thing for men to do. ( Im a guy And I can say i have not went to this point but i have started fights to stop something from going on)
Sometimes we get scared and we want to make sure this is the right thing we are doing. But in the end All i learned was I started the fight cuz I didnt want to do it and I didnt know how to tell her it was over or I didnt want to do something.
Also You said you have to do what he wants you too.
This is not a good thing.
When 2 people are in love its a 50/50 and sometimes its 20/80 but in the end its 50/50
Also he made sure he didnt have the money to do this
thats so he can say ( honey I was scared And i do love you and want to marry you but I was scared and dumb and spent the money) so he made sure he had a backup plan.
I would not just walk away I would sit down and Talk this out and tell him what you think and how you feel and go from there.
And you said about time. If you stay with him and in the end it dont work you will call yourself alot of names. you will hate yourself for wasteing time with him.
I know its hard to walk away from someone you love. But trust me its harder to stay with someone you love and they dont love you the same way and they wont do for you what you do for them.
the longer you stay the harder it will get to stay with him.
You have the right to be happy and in love, You need to find out what is going on and if it dont work out well then you didnt waste anymore time then you have now.
Also if you do leave It is not worth it to hate him. Look at it this way you 2 had some good times and bad but at least you 2 didnt get married for 20years just to find out he is cheating on you and does not love you eoither
GOODLUCK
Drop him now!!! He will be the same way if you were married!
It seems like he isn't serious about the relationship anymore. If you are feeling kind of trapped and confused, it might be wise to back out of the situation until you are clear on everything. You should be very sure deep down before making such a serious decision, so take the time and space to do so! Best wishes to you!
Advice about Domestic Discipline relationship.?
So my wife(who is much younger than me) and I started practicing Domestic Discipline.
For now I've only been spanking her for her misbehaving,but she got little out of control.Spanking just doesn't do it.At least not with hand.Any suggestions on better ways to punish her? The more,the better.Advice about Domestic Discipline relationship.?
How about she takes a ball bat to your head when you act like your charming self?Advice about Domestic Discipline relationship.?
Tom, if you strike her in any way that is not 100% consensual you are committing assault. Spanking is a wonderful thing if done consensually and in a manner that is not abusive but the phrasing of your question does not imply consent and i will not entertain non consensual assault.
For now I've only been spanking her for her misbehaving,but she got little out of control.Spanking just doesn't do it.At least not with hand.Any suggestions on better ways to punish her? The more,the better.Advice about Domestic Discipline relationship.?
How about she takes a ball bat to your head when you act like your charming self?Advice about Domestic Discipline relationship.?
Tom, if you strike her in any way that is not 100% consensual you are committing assault. Spanking is a wonderful thing if done consensually and in a manner that is not abusive but the phrasing of your question does not imply consent and i will not entertain non consensual assault.
Hi! I need advice on this really Serious relationship im in. Will it last?
I have been with my 16 year old boyfriend for 6 months! I basically fell in love with him. And its not puppy love either. But i really would like to know from you all with experience ';will it last?'; Plz! HElp! :DHi! I need advice on this really Serious relationship im in. Will it last?
If both of ya still like eachother, den it will dnt worry!Hi! I need advice on this really Serious relationship im in. Will it last?
Who knows? Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't. Just enjoy it.
think about it if its not just puppy love and u both feel it then why wouldnt it lastphilosophy
If both of ya still like eachother, den it will dnt worry!Hi! I need advice on this really Serious relationship im in. Will it last?
Who knows? Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't. Just enjoy it.
think about it if its not just puppy love and u both feel it then why wouldnt it last
Anyone can give me an advice on a relationship?
My g.f and i broke up a month ago but i still loves her more than anything. We have been talking during this past month as a friend and she admits that she still have feeling for me and still loves me dearly. So, i asked her to give this relationship another chance. She didn't say no but she said it's not the time yet. I asked her what are u waiting for? she said in a playing tone of voice that u haven't ask me back out yet. So, when i wanted to ask her back out, she has to go so i didn't get the chance. At night i called her, i asked her let's work out our problem but she said ';I don't know';, i don't think we would work out. I said why? she told me she slept with a guy she met online 2 weeks ago. I was so pissed but i still said i will forget what u did and start over. But she still said i need time to think it over. She never gave me the answer yet. So, i need some advice, do u think i should get back with her when she slept with someone else and said she still loves me?Anyone can give me an advice on a relationship?
I think you should back off and not be so convenient for her. Let her wonder if you're still interested in her or not.
It sounds like she's playing you along.
And that's not good whether she wants to be with you or not.
I'm wondering if she wants to see how things work with this other guy, but wants you to still want her in case it doesn't work with the other guy.
If she still loves you, then why wouldn't she want to be with YOU?
Put it this way:
Why would you want to be with someone that isn't sure if they want to be with you or not?
You should want to be with someone that wants to be with you just the same.
And if she would be going back into this relationship saying ';I don't think we would work out';....it probably won't work with that kind of attitude going into it :(
You deserve better.
Why settle for someone that isn't sure if they want to be with you or not, when you can go out there and find someone that loves you in return.
That's happiness :)Anyone can give me an advice on a relationship?
The answer is : Leave her alone and carry on with your life. Don't waste time asking her the same questions. You are not spare tyre and she doen't love you. If she loves you, she would not do that. Ok
Why do you want to be with someone who sleeps around? she's telling you loves you to keep you as a ';spare';.
Forget her and move on.
People make mistakes, she is giving time to think about what she did. You on the other lied to her you told her you would forget what she did, but now your thinking about it again. You will never forget what she did, but you may forgive her in time. If you love someone let them go, if they return their yours forever! Give it time only time can tell
i believe that she is just confused about how she feels. its hard on anyone when they are in a relationship. i remember when me and my exe first met a yr ago. we liked each other very much and were so much alike. however when we decided to start dating, i was VERY nervous. it was my first (and only so far) relationship. i was very scared and unsure. and i also wanted time to think bc i was confused. i too didnt think we would work out at all...although we had so much in common.
in the end, it was all good.
even though she slept with someone, i think u both try again. you seem very caring about her. try talking to her again. im happy that you talked to her about how you felt, thats a very important part to a relationship. i dont blame you for being angry at her for what she did, i too would be angry if someone said they loved me and did something like this. and you seem to still care deeply about her and giv it another try. go for it. ask her if she regrets what she did and was sorry. sometimes people become afraid of what may happen. i was scared and was scared because i didnt kno how it would turn out.
i think she is confused and a little afraid because she doesnt know how things will all turn out, i think thats y she is unsure and did what she did.
let her think it over and try talking to her again. i think you should get back together and see if it would work out. all you can do is hope for the best and stay positiive. let her think it through and keep showing her your always there to talk. it'll work out for better, no worries :)
good luck and i hope it works out!!
esh
She sounds like a wh**e. If you have true deep feelings for her go ahead and get back together. iF i were you, i would try to get over her.
Hi there,
No, unfortunately I think you need to distance yourself from her. Her mixed signals are a sign that she is conflicted about how she feels about you. It's not unusual for you both to still have feelings a month after the break-up.
I don't know if completely cutting yourself off is the best decision but you may need to face that. She doesn't seem to know who she is or what she wants right now.... hence she sleeps with some guy she met online.
People who truly love each other are honest to themselves and to each other. Saying she loves you, but then sleeps with someone else isn't exactly that, is it? :(
Give yourself some space and time to think things through. You may need to sort your feelings and thoughts out yourself as well, without having her as a mirror. If, in a few weeks, you still feel the same about her then try talking it over again. After trying out other guys, she may realize that you were the best catch for her after all.
Good luck!
no. move on. you have to hold out for people who treat you like you deserve. she sounds like a prat.
well if your not together then it shouldn't matter if she slept with someone else. if you do have feelings for her like you say you do then wait for her when its time she let you know and if she doesn't maybe it was never meant to be. it depends on the reason you broke up was it a bad break up or a good one. you may always love that person but not be with them anymore. Love is a hard thing to control. you can't control who you love maybe you are better off with out her. or thats what i see if she is meeting and sleeping with others it means she is not sure what she wants yet and she is exploring everything she couldn't when she was with you. only time will tell you can wait or move on. you never know the right person can walk into your life as you wait and you may have a change of heart hope i helped a little take care
she rethinking
I don't think she wants to get back with you. Because if she move on that fast then she over you and playing with your heart. So i think you better move on with your heart, before she takes your heart, smash, break, crush, spit, pee, S.H.I.T., and some other stuff to you heart. But it aint my heart its yours.
To be honest, it sounds like she is keeping you around for a ';backup boyfriend';. Is she still talking to her online hookup? Is she talking to someone else? She is leading you on from what i see and she may really love you-but she is just not in love with you.
I would just let her go. If it was meant to be-it may work out in the future, but if she slept with another guy that fast, she still has some ';wild oats to sew';.
sounds like she just doesnt want to get back together because she wants to mess with other guyz and see what else is out there. she probably thinks you will be right there waitin for her when she`z dun screwing around. let her know you want be around forever and if she still ';doesn't know';... just leave it up to her. theres nothin you can do.
i know what you mean cuz im goin through a similar situation with my ex. i just let him know that im willing to try again. he`z not ';ready'; or wantz to think or whatever. so i just let it go. if he wants to be with me...he'll come back.
just remember that if she really loves you... she`ll realize it and want you back. your bein a really good person by bein able to look past what she did. but ask her this...';does she regret it'; if she says no... thatz all the answer you need.
If she doesn't think it's a good idea then it's best that you leave her alone. She probably has more reasons why she doesn't think it would work out. She is involved with people she met online so she must be trying new things so she does not want to be in a relationship. Don't pressure her or force the issue. If you really like her just let her know how you feel and wait to see what happen. If you want a relationship right now and she doesn't, then do what's best for you and find someone who is ready.
its risky giving her another shot because she was willing to sleep with a guy so quick but if you really love her there is no reason why you shouldent. I suggest that yuo both try to to things together before you get back together like dates and games and even church. Church will help lots of relationships and open up so manys doors for new conversations.
I think she fell for this guy, just forget about her and move on, if she really wanted to be with you, she would have not slept with him, I recommend not to get with her cause, she doesnt seem to care about what she did to you.
I think that would depend on how much you love her, and your trust for her. Trust is a major thing in a relationship. You would have to also ask yourself if you would want to be that person (roles reversed) and could live with what had happened. No one can go back and change the past, hopefully you won't ever hold it against her for ';experimenting'; while you two are not together.
LEAVE HER .. she is leaving you dangling on a string mate. Dont put up with it. the miniute you stop calling and showing interest she will be all over you.. dont fall for it. SHE CHEATED she deserves to be dumped. Id find a new hottie cause u seem like a decent guy! I kow it sounds harsh and hard but believe me if u let her away with it once she would do it again and waste your time when you could be finding miss right! if she loved oyu then 1 why did she do the dirty on you 2 why wont she give oyu a straight answer, its like she waiting to se eif someone else will come along and she is keeping u incase. NOPE KICK HER TO KERB
Bro, she is toying with you. look @ her actions. if she said that she slept with someone online and told you about it, she doesnt care about your feelings. what you need to do is get some balls, and wake up. she doesnt take you seriously. she is in the mood to hurt you until she got her fix. and you really dont need a friend like her in your life. then she will drop you like Bush dropped his help for the hurricane Katrina people. its too many women who is looking for a good guy, so leave her be.
She's toying with you. I personally think you shldnt get back with her. Remember, you broke up for a reason in the first place! Only time will tell if you were meant to be together.
move on from my experience it will more than likely not work
Well my advice is that you just need to try to occupy yourself with other things for a while and get your mind off her, if she is sleeping around then it sounds like she is over the whole thing, and when she says she loves you, it is probably more like a friend. When I broke up with my boyfriend years ago, I just kept myself as busy as i could. And after a time you will not feel the way you feel now. You will forget! There are so many wonderful people in the world, someone even more special is waiting to find someone like you!
Its normal to still have feelingsforsomeone right after a break up. She keeps playing gameswith you and thats not right. I know its easier said than done, but it is time to let her go. You dseerve someone better.
I think you should back off and not be so convenient for her. Let her wonder if you're still interested in her or not.
It sounds like she's playing you along.
And that's not good whether she wants to be with you or not.
I'm wondering if she wants to see how things work with this other guy, but wants you to still want her in case it doesn't work with the other guy.
If she still loves you, then why wouldn't she want to be with YOU?
Put it this way:
Why would you want to be with someone that isn't sure if they want to be with you or not?
You should want to be with someone that wants to be with you just the same.
And if she would be going back into this relationship saying ';I don't think we would work out';....it probably won't work with that kind of attitude going into it :(
You deserve better.
Why settle for someone that isn't sure if they want to be with you or not, when you can go out there and find someone that loves you in return.
That's happiness :)Anyone can give me an advice on a relationship?
The answer is : Leave her alone and carry on with your life. Don't waste time asking her the same questions. You are not spare tyre and she doen't love you. If she loves you, she would not do that. Ok
Why do you want to be with someone who sleeps around? she's telling you loves you to keep you as a ';spare';.
Forget her and move on.
People make mistakes, she is giving time to think about what she did. You on the other lied to her you told her you would forget what she did, but now your thinking about it again. You will never forget what she did, but you may forgive her in time. If you love someone let them go, if they return their yours forever! Give it time only time can tell
i believe that she is just confused about how she feels. its hard on anyone when they are in a relationship. i remember when me and my exe first met a yr ago. we liked each other very much and were so much alike. however when we decided to start dating, i was VERY nervous. it was my first (and only so far) relationship. i was very scared and unsure. and i also wanted time to think bc i was confused. i too didnt think we would work out at all...although we had so much in common.
in the end, it was all good.
even though she slept with someone, i think u both try again. you seem very caring about her. try talking to her again. im happy that you talked to her about how you felt, thats a very important part to a relationship. i dont blame you for being angry at her for what she did, i too would be angry if someone said they loved me and did something like this. and you seem to still care deeply about her and giv it another try. go for it. ask her if she regrets what she did and was sorry. sometimes people become afraid of what may happen. i was scared and was scared because i didnt kno how it would turn out.
i think she is confused and a little afraid because she doesnt know how things will all turn out, i think thats y she is unsure and did what she did.
let her think it over and try talking to her again. i think you should get back together and see if it would work out. all you can do is hope for the best and stay positiive. let her think it through and keep showing her your always there to talk. it'll work out for better, no worries :)
good luck and i hope it works out!!
esh
She sounds like a wh**e. If you have true deep feelings for her go ahead and get back together. iF i were you, i would try to get over her.
Hi there,
No, unfortunately I think you need to distance yourself from her. Her mixed signals are a sign that she is conflicted about how she feels about you. It's not unusual for you both to still have feelings a month after the break-up.
I don't know if completely cutting yourself off is the best decision but you may need to face that. She doesn't seem to know who she is or what she wants right now.... hence she sleeps with some guy she met online.
People who truly love each other are honest to themselves and to each other. Saying she loves you, but then sleeps with someone else isn't exactly that, is it? :(
Give yourself some space and time to think things through. You may need to sort your feelings and thoughts out yourself as well, without having her as a mirror. If, in a few weeks, you still feel the same about her then try talking it over again. After trying out other guys, she may realize that you were the best catch for her after all.
Good luck!
no. move on. you have to hold out for people who treat you like you deserve. she sounds like a prat.
well if your not together then it shouldn't matter if she slept with someone else. if you do have feelings for her like you say you do then wait for her when its time she let you know and if she doesn't maybe it was never meant to be. it depends on the reason you broke up was it a bad break up or a good one. you may always love that person but not be with them anymore. Love is a hard thing to control. you can't control who you love maybe you are better off with out her. or thats what i see if she is meeting and sleeping with others it means she is not sure what she wants yet and she is exploring everything she couldn't when she was with you. only time will tell you can wait or move on. you never know the right person can walk into your life as you wait and you may have a change of heart hope i helped a little take care
she rethinking
I don't think she wants to get back with you. Because if she move on that fast then she over you and playing with your heart. So i think you better move on with your heart, before she takes your heart, smash, break, crush, spit, pee, S.H.I.T., and some other stuff to you heart. But it aint my heart its yours.
To be honest, it sounds like she is keeping you around for a ';backup boyfriend';. Is she still talking to her online hookup? Is she talking to someone else? She is leading you on from what i see and she may really love you-but she is just not in love with you.
I would just let her go. If it was meant to be-it may work out in the future, but if she slept with another guy that fast, she still has some ';wild oats to sew';.
sounds like she just doesnt want to get back together because she wants to mess with other guyz and see what else is out there. she probably thinks you will be right there waitin for her when she`z dun screwing around. let her know you want be around forever and if she still ';doesn't know';... just leave it up to her. theres nothin you can do.
i know what you mean cuz im goin through a similar situation with my ex. i just let him know that im willing to try again. he`z not ';ready'; or wantz to think or whatever. so i just let it go. if he wants to be with me...he'll come back.
just remember that if she really loves you... she`ll realize it and want you back. your bein a really good person by bein able to look past what she did. but ask her this...';does she regret it'; if she says no... thatz all the answer you need.
If she doesn't think it's a good idea then it's best that you leave her alone. She probably has more reasons why she doesn't think it would work out. She is involved with people she met online so she must be trying new things so she does not want to be in a relationship. Don't pressure her or force the issue. If you really like her just let her know how you feel and wait to see what happen. If you want a relationship right now and she doesn't, then do what's best for you and find someone who is ready.
its risky giving her another shot because she was willing to sleep with a guy so quick but if you really love her there is no reason why you shouldent. I suggest that yuo both try to to things together before you get back together like dates and games and even church. Church will help lots of relationships and open up so manys doors for new conversations.
I think she fell for this guy, just forget about her and move on, if she really wanted to be with you, she would have not slept with him, I recommend not to get with her cause, she doesnt seem to care about what she did to you.
I think that would depend on how much you love her, and your trust for her. Trust is a major thing in a relationship. You would have to also ask yourself if you would want to be that person (roles reversed) and could live with what had happened. No one can go back and change the past, hopefully you won't ever hold it against her for ';experimenting'; while you two are not together.
LEAVE HER .. she is leaving you dangling on a string mate. Dont put up with it. the miniute you stop calling and showing interest she will be all over you.. dont fall for it. SHE CHEATED she deserves to be dumped. Id find a new hottie cause u seem like a decent guy! I kow it sounds harsh and hard but believe me if u let her away with it once she would do it again and waste your time when you could be finding miss right! if she loved oyu then 1 why did she do the dirty on you 2 why wont she give oyu a straight answer, its like she waiting to se eif someone else will come along and she is keeping u incase. NOPE KICK HER TO KERB
Bro, she is toying with you. look @ her actions. if she said that she slept with someone online and told you about it, she doesnt care about your feelings. what you need to do is get some balls, and wake up. she doesnt take you seriously. she is in the mood to hurt you until she got her fix. and you really dont need a friend like her in your life. then she will drop you like Bush dropped his help for the hurricane Katrina people. its too many women who is looking for a good guy, so leave her be.
She's toying with you. I personally think you shldnt get back with her. Remember, you broke up for a reason in the first place! Only time will tell if you were meant to be together.
move on from my experience it will more than likely not work
Well my advice is that you just need to try to occupy yourself with other things for a while and get your mind off her, if she is sleeping around then it sounds like she is over the whole thing, and when she says she loves you, it is probably more like a friend. When I broke up with my boyfriend years ago, I just kept myself as busy as i could. And after a time you will not feel the way you feel now. You will forget! There are so many wonderful people in the world, someone even more special is waiting to find someone like you!
Its normal to still have feelingsforsomeone right after a break up. She keeps playing gameswith you and thats not right. I know its easier said than done, but it is time to let her go. You dseerve someone better.
Does anyone have advice on a long distance relationship?
Ya, my advice is to never have one because the longer the relationship the longer you trick yourself that he is being loyal, so my advice is to break it up and if he really likes you then he will stay, if he goes then he was going to go anyway.
Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
Greetings to all!
Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than 10 years now and we're not yet married, he's older than me about 4 years and we are living together now for almost half a year with some friends... However lately i have noticed that our relationship is getting worst. I mean we always fight even for simply things, he wanted to get married and have a child but im not yet ready i still want to spend my time as single carrier woman but I don't want to loose him. And he really badly wants a family. I'm afraid i might loose him.
What should I do? Pls. help....Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
Dear friend;
What is happening in your relationship is what usually happens with couples who choose to live together. The respect that should prevail in a relationship begins to diminish.
There is no committment, only an arrangement. If you are not ready for marinage and want to keep this man, then, I suggest that you move out into a place of your own.Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
He wants to get married and ur not ready. I'ma put it like this, it's a sin to shack! If u not ready for the commitment, let the man go. But u also have to think about the fact that u hav a child with him. I don't know what to tell u!
If your boyfriend truely loved and respected you he would respect your decision to not want to have a child and start a family. You are the one who has to go through 9 months of childbirth, not him. You may love him, but it seems as though you feel like you are being pushed to move quicker than you are comfortable with. Your instincts will always guide you in the right direction. If you gut tells you ';No';, then listen.
Good Luck :)
If he loves you he will respect your waiting time. I mean, if its YOU that he wants to start a family with, he will wait, but if he leaves you for another woman, you know he never really cared about YOU and is looking out for his best interest to start a family with anyone, rather than start a family with YOU.
if you are not ready to commit then don't committ explain to him about your feelings tell him you are happy right now and you don't want to have a child or be married.... but if you live with him then it is as though you are already married to him
My guess is that you're abstaining until marriage (good for you!). Try to be more patient with him.
You should dump him and move on. You don't really love him, your'e just used to him. You don't want to marry him or have his children. If you don't want him after 10 whole years, you're never going to want him! Stop being selfish and wasting his time. You can find some else.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than 10 years now and we're not yet married, he's older than me about 4 years and we are living together now for almost half a year with some friends... However lately i have noticed that our relationship is getting worst. I mean we always fight even for simply things, he wanted to get married and have a child but im not yet ready i still want to spend my time as single carrier woman but I don't want to loose him. And he really badly wants a family. I'm afraid i might loose him.
What should I do? Pls. help....Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
Dear friend;
What is happening in your relationship is what usually happens with couples who choose to live together. The respect that should prevail in a relationship begins to diminish.
There is no committment, only an arrangement. If you are not ready for marinage and want to keep this man, then, I suggest that you move out into a place of your own.Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
He wants to get married and ur not ready. I'ma put it like this, it's a sin to shack! If u not ready for the commitment, let the man go. But u also have to think about the fact that u hav a child with him. I don't know what to tell u!
If your boyfriend truely loved and respected you he would respect your decision to not want to have a child and start a family. You are the one who has to go through 9 months of childbirth, not him. You may love him, but it seems as though you feel like you are being pushed to move quicker than you are comfortable with. Your instincts will always guide you in the right direction. If you gut tells you ';No';, then listen.
Good Luck :)
If he loves you he will respect your waiting time. I mean, if its YOU that he wants to start a family with, he will wait, but if he leaves you for another woman, you know he never really cared about YOU and is looking out for his best interest to start a family with anyone, rather than start a family with YOU.
if you are not ready to commit then don't committ explain to him about your feelings tell him you are happy right now and you don't want to have a child or be married.... but if you live with him then it is as though you are already married to him
My guess is that you're abstaining until marriage (good for you!). Try to be more patient with him.
You should dump him and move on. You don't really love him, your'e just used to him. You don't want to marry him or have his children. If you don't want him after 10 whole years, you're never going to want him! Stop being selfish and wasting his time. You can find some else.
Relationship dilemma (in general) advice?
so i'm 16, junior in h.s and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't think i'm ugly nor do any of my friends so idt that's the problem. but i'm in the top 5% of my class, in national honor society, and tons of other stuff. and i'm kind of quiet.but when i get to know people i'm not. is it bc i'm too mature for guys my age? or i intimidate them? or i'm too quiet? idk advice? thank you soo much %26lt;3Relationship dilemma (in general) advice?
you sounds like you are a very good girl.. i think thats the reason why you don't have a boyfriend... guys always don't dare to hurt good girl... as they start a relationship with a girl in the high school age,, they only think about playing.... so.. they don't want to ruin a good girls life.... i have the same case....
you sounds like you are a very good girl.. i think thats the reason why you don't have a boyfriend... guys always don't dare to hurt good girl... as they start a relationship with a girl in the high school age,, they only think about playing.... so.. they don't want to ruin a good girls life.... i have the same case....
I need some honest and serious advice on my relationship.?
Ive had a serious bf for 2yrs now but I cant help and feel sad every time i find out he's been talking, emailing with his ex. We have had some problems in the past with her and he's cut back tremendously his contact with her. (Ive hung out with her and actually wish she was just a name to me and not a face). (fyi-she is his bf, known each other for 8yrs, and both actually do not have feelings for each other) I dont think im strong enough to keep putting up with their contact albeit being very minimal at present. The reason, even though I know there are NO lingering feelings, they have shared a lot and she was beyond emotionally attached to him and he did whatever she asked(even when they were friends and we were dating). They still obviously have some emotional connection and I really cant overcome it. I feel inferior( i know its all about how strong i believe the relationship is and how confident I am) but its difficult. I cant just logically think ';he's with me and not with her, that's what matters'; because I feel like he needs her in his life and i am not sufficient. I told him I need to work on myself, by myself. I love him very much. What should I do?I need some honest and serious advice on my relationship.?
tell him to stop!I need some honest and serious advice on my relationship.?
There is a brilliant website which tells you about relationships and how to get the best from them. There is a load of support there, I think it is extremely useful. http://muners.courtingonline.info
tell him to stop!I need some honest and serious advice on my relationship.?
There is a brilliant website which tells you about relationships and how to get the best from them. There is a load of support there, I think it is extremely useful. http://muners.courtingonline.info
Does he like me, or any advice about our relationship?
I sit next to a boy in my English class
I like him, but I'm not sure how he feels about me
We maybe talk for 10 mins out of the hour on a good day
If we do talk, he'll either ask me a question about the work we're doing
Or make a funny sarcastic joke that'll almost always make me laugh or smile
I do try to talk to him, I commented on how well he did on his English paper
but he kinda reacted either like I was weird, or he was embarrassed,
not sure because he just looked away and said ';thanks'; really quiet
I don't think he's shy though, because he's never really afraid to speak his mind
He always shares my pencils and stuff, and if anyone else asks me to borrow some, he always yells at him and tells them to go away (but I think he's joking and being sarcastic)
I know all of this is kinda pathetic, but I don't know who else to ask so please tell me what you think I should do?Does he like me, or any advice about our relationship?
sounds like he really likes you, maybe he is a little shy, anyway start spending some time with him and maybe you can be good friends or even your bf some day. go for it.philosophy
I like him, but I'm not sure how he feels about me
We maybe talk for 10 mins out of the hour on a good day
If we do talk, he'll either ask me a question about the work we're doing
Or make a funny sarcastic joke that'll almost always make me laugh or smile
I do try to talk to him, I commented on how well he did on his English paper
but he kinda reacted either like I was weird, or he was embarrassed,
not sure because he just looked away and said ';thanks'; really quiet
I don't think he's shy though, because he's never really afraid to speak his mind
He always shares my pencils and stuff, and if anyone else asks me to borrow some, he always yells at him and tells them to go away (but I think he's joking and being sarcastic)
I know all of this is kinda pathetic, but I don't know who else to ask so please tell me what you think I should do?Does he like me, or any advice about our relationship?
sounds like he really likes you, maybe he is a little shy, anyway start spending some time with him and maybe you can be good friends or even your bf some day. go for it.
What advice can i give a friend who is unsure about her relationship of 2 years?
To me it just seems like she's fallen into a rut with this dude. They do the same old same old all the time. Now there could be more to it but on the surface that's all I really know and can say for sure. I've suggested places to go that would make a fun outing and they've tried that but she still feels unsure.What advice can i give a friend who is unsure about her relationship of 2 years?
Perhaps they should do something really different together. It is proven that people bond during life threatening situations, so maybe sky diving or just a hellicopter ride or something like that. I don't know what their financial situation is or anything, but change is what they need. If that means nothing more than staying in a hotel for a weekend and playing in the pool, or if they have the means taking a weekend vacation somewhere fun. Oh, yeah, an amusement park would be great... rollercoasters have that life threatening effect, so that might work great really. I know how she feels, and I know that she can hold it out. Best wishes
Perhaps they should do something really different together. It is proven that people bond during life threatening situations, so maybe sky diving or just a hellicopter ride or something like that. I don't know what their financial situation is or anything, but change is what they need. If that means nothing more than staying in a hotel for a weekend and playing in the pool, or if they have the means taking a weekend vacation somewhere fun. Oh, yeah, an amusement park would be great... rollercoasters have that life threatening effect, so that might work great really. I know how she feels, and I know that she can hold it out. Best wishes
I have been in a relationship for 13years and have 2 children, advice please!!!!!?
we have had a very up and down relationship and i am not an easy person to live with, but then i don't ask for much. I have sort relationship councelling, but feel that i have had enough. I have tried to end this relationship before and i am looking for advice and perhaps support.I have been in a relationship for 13years and have 2 children, advice please!!!!!?
read this. hope this helps. goodluck :)
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/0鈥?/a>
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/1鈥?/a>
http://abelle.blogrox.com/2007/10/14/a-d鈥?/a>I have been in a relationship for 13years and have 2 children, advice please!!!!!?
both of you get help. the kids need you both. you have to work at it hard
Talk to him and I mean really talk to him, explain everything and express your feelings. Give him a month or so to get his own place or yours. It is going to be difficult, but you have to make it go as smooth as possible for the kids. It isn't fair to you or him or the kids to stay in the relationship.
DUMP HIM IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE MISSERABLE
listen you sound bored
13 years is a long time
think back when times where good,
and go from there
you hard to live ,because you want be hard to live with
look in your mirror, and tell me some thing you offer this marriage, if you find that hard, maybe you dont need to be married ?
talk to your pastor at church, if you don't have one look for christian counseling. it would be good for both of you
How old are you? Break the cycle...men are the same and women are the same! You lose your history if you quit, your kids pay a huge price for what others say is the right thing to do, and you get a whole set of new problems. If he is being mean to you; get over it, if he is truly dangerous run (and don't trust anyone's opinion on this you will know). Do me a favor. Play a game. Turn your water off for a couple of weeks and see how bad life really is (ask him first)...if he is willing to do it ; he is a good man. Regardless, don't fall for the images of a better life, remember you are 1/2 the reason you want out of the relationship! If he is a semi-good man you only give your children grief ! Cheat! Knit! Pick-up tennis! Find your own place of happiness. When can I come over? ;) Beeee Strong %26amp; Good Luck
read this. hope this helps. goodluck :)
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/0鈥?/a>
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/1鈥?/a>
http://abelle.blogrox.com/2007/10/14/a-d鈥?/a>I have been in a relationship for 13years and have 2 children, advice please!!!!!?
both of you get help. the kids need you both. you have to work at it hard
Talk to him and I mean really talk to him, explain everything and express your feelings. Give him a month or so to get his own place or yours. It is going to be difficult, but you have to make it go as smooth as possible for the kids. It isn't fair to you or him or the kids to stay in the relationship.
DUMP HIM IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE MISSERABLE
listen you sound bored
13 years is a long time
think back when times where good,
and go from there
you hard to live ,because you want be hard to live with
look in your mirror, and tell me some thing you offer this marriage, if you find that hard, maybe you dont need to be married ?
talk to your pastor at church, if you don't have one look for christian counseling. it would be good for both of you
How old are you? Break the cycle...men are the same and women are the same! You lose your history if you quit, your kids pay a huge price for what others say is the right thing to do, and you get a whole set of new problems. If he is being mean to you; get over it, if he is truly dangerous run (and don't trust anyone's opinion on this you will know). Do me a favor. Play a game. Turn your water off for a couple of weeks and see how bad life really is (ask him first)...if he is willing to do it ; he is a good man. Regardless, don't fall for the images of a better life, remember you are 1/2 the reason you want out of the relationship! If he is a semi-good man you only give your children grief ! Cheat! Knit! Pick-up tennis! Find your own place of happiness. When can I come over? ;) Beeee Strong %26amp; Good Luck
Just like a little advice about a new relationship?
I met this girl about 5 months ago and we've been dating for about four months now. It has really seemed to be going very well, however, I started to realize that at times she can very distant and detatched, and that sometimes its a struggle for her to talk about the way she feels. I know that some of it has to do with pain she carries around about her oldest sister being a drug addict, and some abuse that happened between her dad and this sister. Luckily it seems the dad was out of the picture before it affected her directly... Additionally, beyond all of this, she moved away from Hawaii about a year and a half ago and realized by seeing some things she wrote that she still misses and constantly thinks about the guy she was seeing while she lived there... She seems genuine and says that she loves me.. When I asked her about this she said that she just never got closure when she left because she just left without ever knowing what kind of relationship they had...?? I don't knowJust like a little advice about a new relationship?
let her deal with it and when she needs you always have your heart and ears open for her. dont pressure her or over analyze the situation. if she needs you (and she might not need you to get over this, and she may not ever get over this at all) she will come to you if you let her know the door is always open. be a good, supportive boyfriend and she will appreciate you for it.
let her deal with it and when she needs you always have your heart and ears open for her. dont pressure her or over analyze the situation. if she needs you (and she might not need you to get over this, and she may not ever get over this at all) she will come to you if you let her know the door is always open. be a good, supportive boyfriend and she will appreciate you for it.
Big relationship problem...PLEASE GIVE ADVICE!!!!?
So, i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and it seems that his parents do not really treat me/view me as a part of their family. I do not get invited to family functions/family vacations and my parents ALWAYS invite my boyfriend to those things. My parents always buy him really nice and personal gifts when it comes to his birthday and christmas. My boyfriends parents just end up buying me something very impersonal such as gift cards. It is very frustratring because i plan on marrying my boyfriend, and it is hard because i want to be apart of his family, but i feel as though i'm not. This weekend they are going to a family member's graduation party, and not only was i not invited, but they asked me to dog-sit for them. Please give me some advice, or let me know if this has happened to you, and if it has, do things change when you're married? thank you!!Big relationship problem...PLEASE GIVE ADVICE!!!!?
I have a friend in your situation exactly - *do we know each other?* And she has talked to me about how his family, especially his mother looks down upon her because she (my friend) comes from a poorer financial background. In my opinion, coming from a third party point of view, its not worth the trouble and difficulty you are having to go through right now. His family blatantly do not respect you and do not welcome you as one of them - and its highly unlikely this is going to change UNLESS you and his family and him get to the root of the problem - what or why is it they are treating you like they are?
- is there some underlying misunderstanding that's causing them to think badly of you?
- has your boyfriend said anything or done anything to make them treat you like this?
- Have YOU done something, maybe not suspecting it was inappropriate?
If people talk and talk OPENLY in this situation, there is really no reason why this can't be solved, unless his family is so unreasoanble and dislike you for not common-sense reason. In that case, I would opt out, to save my sanity.Big relationship problem...PLEASE GIVE ADVICE!!!!?
listen huney light ur boyfriends parents house on fire tonight when they are sleeping thats what i did it solved all my problems LOL LMAO kidding or am i? ur not in their family so it will change
It's not about them, it's about him. If he is allowing this, are you sure you want to....?
This happened to my friend (married her boyfriend a year ago) and sadly, his family is still treating her in an impersonal way, the only way to deal hun is if utruly love and care about him, then don't worry about his family, they'll come around on their own time, just be the great person that u r!
try to have a talk with them. try to express your feelings to them in a good way. Just simply express yourself calmly to them. they may just be afaid that your bf wll leave them for you. Share him.
They think it's not the time yet???
Don't know.. but my mom think that my girlfriend and i weren't in a stable relationship that would allow my parents to treat my girlfriend as one of our family..
on the other hand, i was treated like a son-in-law
you've been together 3 years and you're not married? i have a son, and if dated a female for 3 years, i'd be hesitant to accept her into the family. i'd think there must be something amiss if he won't marry her.
You need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. He needs to stand up for you. This will not change after you're married. If he won't stand up for you now, then it's time to move on.
I have a friend in your situation exactly - *do we know each other?* And she has talked to me about how his family, especially his mother looks down upon her because she (my friend) comes from a poorer financial background. In my opinion, coming from a third party point of view, its not worth the trouble and difficulty you are having to go through right now. His family blatantly do not respect you and do not welcome you as one of them - and its highly unlikely this is going to change UNLESS you and his family and him get to the root of the problem - what or why is it they are treating you like they are?
- is there some underlying misunderstanding that's causing them to think badly of you?
- has your boyfriend said anything or done anything to make them treat you like this?
- Have YOU done something, maybe not suspecting it was inappropriate?
If people talk and talk OPENLY in this situation, there is really no reason why this can't be solved, unless his family is so unreasoanble and dislike you for not common-sense reason. In that case, I would opt out, to save my sanity.Big relationship problem...PLEASE GIVE ADVICE!!!!?
listen huney light ur boyfriends parents house on fire tonight when they are sleeping thats what i did it solved all my problems LOL LMAO kidding or am i? ur not in their family so it will change
It's not about them, it's about him. If he is allowing this, are you sure you want to....?
This happened to my friend (married her boyfriend a year ago) and sadly, his family is still treating her in an impersonal way, the only way to deal hun is if utruly love and care about him, then don't worry about his family, they'll come around on their own time, just be the great person that u r!
try to have a talk with them. try to express your feelings to them in a good way. Just simply express yourself calmly to them. they may just be afaid that your bf wll leave them for you. Share him.
They think it's not the time yet???
Don't know.. but my mom think that my girlfriend and i weren't in a stable relationship that would allow my parents to treat my girlfriend as one of our family..
on the other hand, i was treated like a son-in-law
you've been together 3 years and you're not married? i have a son, and if dated a female for 3 years, i'd be hesitant to accept her into the family. i'd think there must be something amiss if he won't marry her.
You need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. He needs to stand up for you. This will not change after you're married. If he won't stand up for you now, then it's time to move on.
If your in a serious relationship and your gf/bf asks for advice on how to cheat, break up, etc,?
Would you not be mad?
Do you think about that when you answer a question on here that deals with cheating?
(I have seen some pretty crummy answers on here promoting cheating is why I have asked)If your in a serious relationship and your gf/bf asks for advice on how to cheat, break up, etc,?
You have to take the answers given here with a grain of salt. People are able to post anonymously so you're going to get a wide spectrum of answers, you just need to be able to filter out all of the fluff.
I don't really think of my relationship with my wife when answering questions I just try to put myself in the asker's shoes and then tell them what I would do.If your in a serious relationship and your gf/bf asks for advice on how to cheat, break up, etc,?
If someone that I was in a relationship with ever asked that, I'd say here's how --- ';goodbye';. And walk away. There's only one reason they want to know that.
Whether or not I would be mad is not the issue.
Whether or not my gf would want to cheat or to break up with me is the issue.
If all I could do after learning of that kind of request is to be mad, then I would have to say that my GF was taking the right road and fleeing my selfish insensitivity.
What I'm saying here, is that if your significant other has decided to ask someone for advice about how to cheat or how to break up, then your significant other has been loathing your relationship for quite a while, and SOMETHING needs to be done about it... breaking up and cheating being two of the MANY things that could be done.
It might be time for you to have a chat with your significant other and find out what he or she is perceiving the problem to be.
Do you think about that when you answer a question on here that deals with cheating?
(I have seen some pretty crummy answers on here promoting cheating is why I have asked)If your in a serious relationship and your gf/bf asks for advice on how to cheat, break up, etc,?
You have to take the answers given here with a grain of salt. People are able to post anonymously so you're going to get a wide spectrum of answers, you just need to be able to filter out all of the fluff.
I don't really think of my relationship with my wife when answering questions I just try to put myself in the asker's shoes and then tell them what I would do.If your in a serious relationship and your gf/bf asks for advice on how to cheat, break up, etc,?
If someone that I was in a relationship with ever asked that, I'd say here's how --- ';goodbye';. And walk away. There's only one reason they want to know that.
Whether or not I would be mad is not the issue.
Whether or not my gf would want to cheat or to break up with me is the issue.
If all I could do after learning of that kind of request is to be mad, then I would have to say that my GF was taking the right road and fleeing my selfish insensitivity.
What I'm saying here, is that if your significant other has decided to ask someone for advice about how to cheat or how to break up, then your significant other has been loathing your relationship for quite a while, and SOMETHING needs to be done about it... breaking up and cheating being two of the MANY things that could be done.
It might be time for you to have a chat with your significant other and find out what he or she is perceiving the problem to be.
BiG rElAtIoNsHiP pRoBlEm!!! I nEed AdViCe PlEaSe?
OK...There's 2 gurls..Carlysia %26amp; Shania both been going out with the same dude. Carlysia %26amp; the dude been going out for about 1 year %26amp; 9 months now. The dude is cheating on Carlysia with Shania for a while now, but it's been kind of off %26amp; on thing. Carlysia know that the dude is cheating on her but she wont leave him beacuse she said she really love's him. The dude doesn't know that Carlysia know's that he's cheating. Shania doesn't know that the dude is cheating on her with Carlysia. What do ya'll think should be done???? Big confusion problem huh??BiG rElAtIoNsHiP pRoBlEm!!! I nEed AdViCe PlEaSe?
Yea, confusion, and more confusion. Carlysia knows but would still like to keep him, while shania does not have a clue on whats happening. Probably Carlysia doesnt love him much to even tell shania about the fact that she is going on with him. But she is simply ''keeping'' him (like a pet), thats all, or probably she is sooo infatuated ( i dont think its luv) that she simply cant lose him to shania. Shania on the other hand, has no clue. So both Carlysia and this guy are really going to end up hurting Shania in the whole process. And when that happens the guy may leave Carlysia as well, or there would be this on and off issues, like make up and break up, because Carlysia at a later point of time will not forget that he is a two timer. So since Carlysia is the person who knows about it all, she ought to confront the guy and inform Shania on exactly what is happening. Funny, Carlysia has not already done it, considering she knows everyting, might even teach him not to fool around with more than one person.
LOL! I am just trying to understand what I wrote myself....I was wondering where you figure in between all this. Are you Carlysia ? or Shania, which is unlikely considering that Shania is the one who is clueless. But if you are none of the three, keep away. This will be out some day, and you may see three people walking away in different directions. It wont last, playing circus with relationships, and honestly, the guy is not even worth it from what you have said about him.
hope that helped..BiG rElAtIoNsHiP pRoBlEm!!! I nEed AdViCe PlEaSe?
good luck to the guy having 2 women and why do you care about this ?why is this a big confusion problem to you.?
Start dating the dude and take pictures. Send them to both ';gurls'; and let the cards fall where they may. Guy sounds like a creep, so why name the females but not the jerk? Shady.
This is why guys think women are stupid.
Type a note to all telling each what is going on but do not let them know u did it!!!!!
I think they all need to come clean and get this mess resolved. This is crazy and all should get together and figure it out. What is the worst that could happen they could all move on with their lives and leave this situation, oh heaven forbid.
Let them worry about it unless you are one of the ';girls';. The girl that knows the dude is cheating should tell him she knows, and doesn't care. She apparently has self esteem issues, no man or woman is worth them cheating on you. Diseases also come into mind.
Shania should get some guts and tell him that she knows. She should tell him that she loves him and that, if he's willing to, they can get help. Otherwise, she needs to dump him. That's too much drama.
don't get involved!!!!!
Don't tell either of the girls how nieve they are being and don't persuade them to break up with him! You can talk to the dude, and tell him how stupid he is and how wrong he's being, but watch what you say. Don't blab things like, ';She knows about you cheating';. That will cause you to be involved.
Yea, it is a sad thing to see when a good friend is in danger of being hurt, but the best thing you can do is be there for her, without being involved in this mess. Make sure (whichever of the girls it is) you friend has your shoulder to cry on. When the sh*t hits the fan, make sure you're prepared to be there for her.
Good luck with this mess..... I'd venture to guess you'll need it!!! lol
;o)
well unless your one of those three people you should probably stay out of it.
Not confuse at all...the guy is a player and is up to the girl who knows what is going on to stay with him or not...shhh
good luck
tell them
Let it all work itself out and do not get involved.
that's to much Carlysia need to leave him alone and stop playing some body's rebound and i would let the other gurl know to so she won't go around thinking her man is perfect and faithful.
get all 3 people together in one room and then start blabbing your mouth and tell what you know although more than likely there is going to be alot of denial.
Leave your boyfriend he is a loser. Please stop typing LiKe ThIs. It is annoying.
stay out of it! Seriously...otherwise it will end up blowing up in UR face..even tho ur not involvedphilosophy
Yea, confusion, and more confusion. Carlysia knows but would still like to keep him, while shania does not have a clue on whats happening. Probably Carlysia doesnt love him much to even tell shania about the fact that she is going on with him. But she is simply ''keeping'' him (like a pet), thats all, or probably she is sooo infatuated ( i dont think its luv) that she simply cant lose him to shania. Shania on the other hand, has no clue. So both Carlysia and this guy are really going to end up hurting Shania in the whole process. And when that happens the guy may leave Carlysia as well, or there would be this on and off issues, like make up and break up, because Carlysia at a later point of time will not forget that he is a two timer. So since Carlysia is the person who knows about it all, she ought to confront the guy and inform Shania on exactly what is happening. Funny, Carlysia has not already done it, considering she knows everyting, might even teach him not to fool around with more than one person.
LOL! I am just trying to understand what I wrote myself....I was wondering where you figure in between all this. Are you Carlysia ? or Shania, which is unlikely considering that Shania is the one who is clueless. But if you are none of the three, keep away. This will be out some day, and you may see three people walking away in different directions. It wont last, playing circus with relationships, and honestly, the guy is not even worth it from what you have said about him.
hope that helped..BiG rElAtIoNsHiP pRoBlEm!!! I nEed AdViCe PlEaSe?
good luck to the guy having 2 women and why do you care about this ?why is this a big confusion problem to you.?
Start dating the dude and take pictures. Send them to both ';gurls'; and let the cards fall where they may. Guy sounds like a creep, so why name the females but not the jerk? Shady.
This is why guys think women are stupid.
Type a note to all telling each what is going on but do not let them know u did it!!!!!
I think they all need to come clean and get this mess resolved. This is crazy and all should get together and figure it out. What is the worst that could happen they could all move on with their lives and leave this situation, oh heaven forbid.
Let them worry about it unless you are one of the ';girls';. The girl that knows the dude is cheating should tell him she knows, and doesn't care. She apparently has self esteem issues, no man or woman is worth them cheating on you. Diseases also come into mind.
Shania should get some guts and tell him that she knows. She should tell him that she loves him and that, if he's willing to, they can get help. Otherwise, she needs to dump him. That's too much drama.
don't get involved!!!!!
Don't tell either of the girls how nieve they are being and don't persuade them to break up with him! You can talk to the dude, and tell him how stupid he is and how wrong he's being, but watch what you say. Don't blab things like, ';She knows about you cheating';. That will cause you to be involved.
Yea, it is a sad thing to see when a good friend is in danger of being hurt, but the best thing you can do is be there for her, without being involved in this mess. Make sure (whichever of the girls it is) you friend has your shoulder to cry on. When the sh*t hits the fan, make sure you're prepared to be there for her.
Good luck with this mess..... I'd venture to guess you'll need it!!! lol
;o)
well unless your one of those three people you should probably stay out of it.
Not confuse at all...the guy is a player and is up to the girl who knows what is going on to stay with him or not...shhh
good luck
tell them
Let it all work itself out and do not get involved.
that's to much Carlysia need to leave him alone and stop playing some body's rebound and i would let the other gurl know to so she won't go around thinking her man is perfect and faithful.
get all 3 people together in one room and then start blabbing your mouth and tell what you know although more than likely there is going to be alot of denial.
Leave your boyfriend he is a loser. Please stop typing LiKe ThIs. It is annoying.
stay out of it! Seriously...otherwise it will end up blowing up in UR face..even tho ur not involved
Please someone give me good advice for my relationship ****Desperate*****?
hello I'm 20 years old (and will be 21 in 6 months yay) and I've been in this relationship with my boy friend for a little over a year (a year and one month) he's funny, smart and I find him attractive but I feel like I need to take a break a lot of people say when you take a break it really means breaking up. but i feel like I should explore more into the world date other people but at the same time it feels like im making a big mistake i don't know what to do I want to take a break but I dont want to lose him. please someone give me advise im just a 20 year old woman and this prob has been stressing me out for sometimePlease someone give me good advice for my relationship ****Desperate*****?
I think it is breaking up when you take a break unless it's mutual. You don't expect him to wait around for you so you have to think he might find someone else. You need to come to a decision together if you want him to remain in your life. Maybe the solution is that you both date other people but still date each other. Already being together exclusively for a year will make this hard but it could also be a good thing. A good question to ask yourself is, will you regret not taking this break a year from now or five years from now if it lasts that long. Don't stay in a relationship when this feeling keeps popping up. You can't ignore it and if you do you are not doing yourself or him any favors. I have seen lots of people ';take a break'; and get back together and get married. I think you should do it and just explain to him that you can't shake the notion so you have to try it. You are really young and it would be a shame for you to not experience the world or other people if that's what you want. But you have to let him go to experience the same and realize, like another person said, that you may lose him for good.Please someone give me good advice for my relationship ****Desperate*****?
You're going to have to be okay with the fact that you will probably lose him. Guys don't like being toyed with, and they get impatient.
I would suggest that you really examine how you feel about your boyfriend. It would be unfair to suspend him from your life while you investigate whether the ';grass is greener on the other side';. No doubt you would feel confused and upset if he did this to you?
If you have been with him for over a year I would presume that he is also a good friend? If so you need to talk with him and discuss your feelings. If you want to go and see what the rest of the world is all about, maybe he isn't the one for you?
You'll definitely know this once you have talked to him though...good luck.
Hi Misa, Maybe write down a list of pros and cons. Pros are good things about staying with your boyfriend. Cons being the things you will miss that you want to do if you stay with him. At least this way it will all be in front of you on paper and you can through it and weigh it all up. Just be honest with your bf and don't play games with him. If you want to break up, then do it. Just don't expect him to be there waiting if you do. He may find someone else, or may not have you back because of his ego, us blokes are stupid like that, lol. But this is the risk you have to take if you want to experience other things. I hope this helps.
I think it is breaking up when you take a break unless it's mutual. You don't expect him to wait around for you so you have to think he might find someone else. You need to come to a decision together if you want him to remain in your life. Maybe the solution is that you both date other people but still date each other. Already being together exclusively for a year will make this hard but it could also be a good thing. A good question to ask yourself is, will you regret not taking this break a year from now or five years from now if it lasts that long. Don't stay in a relationship when this feeling keeps popping up. You can't ignore it and if you do you are not doing yourself or him any favors. I have seen lots of people ';take a break'; and get back together and get married. I think you should do it and just explain to him that you can't shake the notion so you have to try it. You are really young and it would be a shame for you to not experience the world or other people if that's what you want. But you have to let him go to experience the same and realize, like another person said, that you may lose him for good.Please someone give me good advice for my relationship ****Desperate*****?
You're going to have to be okay with the fact that you will probably lose him. Guys don't like being toyed with, and they get impatient.
I would suggest that you really examine how you feel about your boyfriend. It would be unfair to suspend him from your life while you investigate whether the ';grass is greener on the other side';. No doubt you would feel confused and upset if he did this to you?
If you have been with him for over a year I would presume that he is also a good friend? If so you need to talk with him and discuss your feelings. If you want to go and see what the rest of the world is all about, maybe he isn't the one for you?
You'll definitely know this once you have talked to him though...good luck.
Hi Misa, Maybe write down a list of pros and cons. Pros are good things about staying with your boyfriend. Cons being the things you will miss that you want to do if you stay with him. At least this way it will all be in front of you on paper and you can through it and weigh it all up. Just be honest with your bf and don't play games with him. If you want to break up, then do it. Just don't expect him to be there waiting if you do. He may find someone else, or may not have you back because of his ego, us blokes are stupid like that, lol. But this is the risk you have to take if you want to experience other things. I hope this helps.
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