I've been debating for awhile and its been bothering me for a while. I'll try to make this as short as I can. I meet this girl (2yrs) at my job working seasonal. Ok we was cool for awhile we was just friends kickin it. At the time she stayed only five blocks away and she would come over to play the 360 and watch movies. She had a boyfriend and I had just got out of a boring relationship- i respected her for not making it more then it seemed, but after awhile it was inevitable. We kissed and after awhile she stopped coming over. I developed a strong feeling for her but it eventually went away that summer.Begining of the year 2008 I run into her again coincidently through a networking website. We chat catching up on things and the conversation got serious and I send a ticket to her in a different state to come back up here, and she came. It becomes instant attraction at sight. We go out for about six months and then we brake up. Reason, I was acting immature I went out to the clubs alot and treated her bad. So she ends up going back with her ex. This doesn't really bother me. She comes to my job with her dude and it came to the point I tried to avoid her until she stoped poppin up. I start to date woman during the time frame till the now (09). I come to find out she had moved back to the city she came from, why? I dont know. But after awhile I start to have dreams that, in some way, apply to her. Maybe its something im missing in all my relationships, excitement. So I try to win her back but all my methods fail. Now its the end of 09, we still chat from time to time but she never replies to my frantic sweet gestures. Im dealing with a small case of infatuation, but i recognize that I can always settle for better. Recently I came across a opportunity to move to florida to play ball instead of this city of MN believe the only way to forget about this person is to leave this city of memories like what she did on my behalf and her exes who treated her horrible. I guess in a way its just karma at its best. I dont know what to do, my heart is telling me to stay and common sense is to make a run for it and blow dodge.I Have A Relationship Problem. Need some advice?
Moving would allow you a clean slate which in your case, may be just what you need. On the other hand I'd give you the same advice I would give a woman with relationship problems that center around multiple partners, not being able to get over one, and all that. Don't date for a while. While you are not dating, raise your standards some and learn some self respect.
When you respect yourself and have some self-esteem you will see that you will treat others better, and you won't allow others to treat you badly. You won't stay in a bad relationship, weather it's bad because of you or the other person.
_I Have A Relationship Problem. Need some advice?
when you treat someone badly, of course you are gonna blow it for chances with you in the future. I'd move, but I like to travel anyway.
Monday, August 23, 2010
In a complicated relationship and really need advice?
Here's the thing. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend the end of November. Actually, he broke up with me, saying he just wanted to be friends and really valued our friendship and didn't want to lose it. It took a long while, but eventually we did start to be friends again but didn't really see each other too much. Things have somewhat changed recently. We have begun to hang out more alone and have become more ';intimate';- holding hands, etc but haven't really kissed, he kind of lightly kissed me on the cheek once. It's obvious that we're more than friends now yet aren't going out either. Basically I guess we're just messing around. I really don't know if he has feelings for me romantically or he just really cares for me, but I have strong feelings for him. The problem is I don't want to just mess around and have a no-strings attached friends with benefits kind of deal but want to get back together. I don't know what to do... Advice anyone?In a complicated relationship and really need advice?
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!
I had SAME EXACT issue with ex/still having that issue. I found it totally difficult to stop the act in the process when he was trying to get me to do stuff with him. I even hurt his feelings, and yeah it was awkward at first. But it feels so good to know that I'm telling him how I feel and really standing up for myself. If you don't stand up for yourself, who will??
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!
I had SAME EXACT issue with ex/still having that issue. I found it totally difficult to stop the act in the process when he was trying to get me to do stuff with him. I even hurt his feelings, and yeah it was awkward at first. But it feels so good to know that I'm telling him how I feel and really standing up for myself. If you don't stand up for yourself, who will??
I want a relationship with God- need advice on beliefs of Christianity?
I grew up going to a very small Lutheran church and we just sung hymns and stuff so i never took an interest really..even though i always believed in a God. Then when my mom died in May, i still believed in God but didnt really believe in Chistianity and all of its teachings...But now recently I've been going to my friend's church..and something changed in me..and i feel like if there is a God, he spoke to me...and I think i'm a Christian now, if you want to call me something....but, i dont know..like, i find it so hard saying that accepting Christ as the son of God is the only way to have eternal life...(I DO believe this) ..but i know a lot of people, including family members who dont....and i dont know what to do. in my heart, i know that this is what i want to accept and live for...(i knew this when i was worshiping at church and tears seriously came to my eyes...its like a whole new world for me...) what would you do about this?I want a relationship with God- need advice on beliefs of Christianity?
Have a look here ...
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20040701/art…
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20031001/art…
...and check the scriptures with your own copy of the bible
You'll find satisfying answers to life's questions on this site %26amp; everything is supported with scriptureI want a relationship with God- need advice on beliefs of Christianity?
It sounds as though the Lord is moving on you and yes you may already be saved. Simply look at Romans 9:10-13. If this is what you have done in your heart then welcome to kingdom of Heaven sister! Do not be discouraged by thoes who post negatively on this board. If you have accepted CHrist then the next step would be to make it public in your local church by being baptized. Praise God I am happy for you!
You are beginning the greatest journey of your life. Along the way, you're going to see and learn all kinds of things-- some good, others not so much so. The one thing to do, however, is keep your eye on the ball. Love God with your whole heart, strength, and mind. Love your neighbor as yourself. Everything you will ever learn as a Christian is a footnote to these. May the God of Peace fill and free you for life.
peace
The only way to learn about God is to study His word, the Bible. I have a 360 blog that has a few Bible study helps in it if you wish. or you may email me directly for any specific religious ?'s
Read one of the gospels (matthew mark luke or john)
seriously i was having trouble with my faith and i had heard so many things about people who had read that and had a changed life so i read matthew i felt like i was on a spiritual high from then till now!
If you were comfortable in your friend's church, try contacting the pastor.
Try reading up on the various mainstream branches of Christianity and compare their beliefs.
This is your search, not your family's, so don't be influenced by what they say.
Even if your family members don't, know that they can always be changed just as you were. I know that god is really proud of the fact that you have seeked him, and i think that you should just share your experience with other people and let them know how good it feels..
If you need anything else you can email me @ ale.portillo15@yahoo.com!!!
Be honest in your faith. Have no fear of men or family when it comes to believing in Christ. All things of this world are temporal. Immortality and salvation are forever. Jesus said Himself that believing in him would divide families. Grow stronger in your faith and let your life be your best testimony for God to lead others to Him.
God bless you.
Just keep doing what you are doing. You seem to be on the right path. Jesus loves you, and wants you to come to him.
Get a Bible, attend a Bible teaching Church. You will be fine, no need to be distressed. I wasn't a Christian until I was 25. In fact, I was the opposite.
I would never go back.
Jesus said you must repent (change your ways) and believe the gospel (New Testament).
You would need to read, understand, and trust the New Testament. But you will need help in coming to a good understanding of what the gospel is. Listen to a good theologian for guidance -such as R.C. Sproul at http://www.ligonier.org
Jesus rose into the sky and became a god.
He left them his dead body, saying ';Except ye eat my flesh.';
It was his way of telling them they were maggots, but they didn't get it.
FYI...as a Lutheran, you already WERE a Christian!
I'd start with your roots (the Lutheran Church) and work from there.
you shouldn't go to Lutheran church. go to a Baptist church. and ask forgiveness from Jesus.
CJ is the only answer you needed to read. He just pwned this question!!
I also went to a Lutheran church and also did not feel Jesus in my heart until I went to a more spiritual church. Sounds like your on the right track. Just keep in mind that Christianity is NOT religion. Jesus's worst enemy's when he was here were the religious leaders of his time. They were who crucified him. Satins demons treated him better. At least they respected and feared him. Many large denominations are nothing but religion. There are many people who would be Christians now that aren't because of the religion that the ';churches'; have shoved at them. A lot of churches believe it is more important to tell a visitor how to dress than to tell them that Jesus loves them.
Believe in Jesus for salvation. And then you can pray for your other family members :)
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation.
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
For your friends and family who do not believe that, you have to pray for them. God is the only one who can do a work through their lives, even if he does that work through you! Knowing that Jesus died for you on the cross and accepting him as your Lord and Savior is an amazing thing, isn't it? And I love how my God is a God who does not judge. Many people say Christians are hypocritical, and I am the first to say that we are, but so is the whole human population. God only judges on judgment day, but he welcomes his children with open arms.
And I understand you in the whole signing hymns thing. That kills me! The thing that I love about our God is that he doesn't care what type of music you listen to or how you dress. I listen to screamo music, but only from bands that glorify his name in their lyrics. I like lip rings and tattoos, and God loves me for being his ';Not sticking to the boring Christian girl mold'; daughter. If you have any more questions, e-mail me at alli7201@yahoo.com =]
Attend church. If you feel that's the right thing to do, do it :) Just because other people don't believe in Jesus, that doesn't mean you don't have to do it. Most people are Christian, still there are atheists and Buddhists and Muslims etc. ,) Other peoples religion should really be no reason for you to choose your religion! It's important that you're happy with it. Just don't start judging people because of their beliefs, alright? :D
Edit: As one other commenter recommended it, he said something like ';you can pray for your family members that don't believe in God';: It's a nice gesture, but I as an atheist wouldn't like other people to pray for me ;) I mean, I don't believe it's gonna help me and it tastes a bit like convertion, so you should maybe not tell them if you want to pray for them unless you're sure they'll see it as a nice gesture. That's a personal thing I think.
I was in my mid-teens when I began to question the teachings of the church my folks attended. The people who publish the following articles are the ones who taught me to study the Bible, to find out its true teachings. To . . .
';Make sure of all things; hold fast to what is fine.'; --1 Th 5:21
';. . . With the greatest eagerness of mind, carefully examining the Scriptures daily as to whether these things [are] so.'; Acts 17:10,11 ';. . . Do not believe every inspired expression, but test the inspired expressions to see whether they originate with God, because many false prophets have gone forth . . .'; --1 John 4:1-21 http://watchtower.org/e/bible/index.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/publications/ind…
The following particular articles are suited to your current situation:
Search for God With Your Heart and Mind
http://watchtower.org/e/20020401/article…
What Does the Messiah's Coming Mean to You?
http://watchtower.org/e/20060215/article…
Why Believe in Jesus Christ?
- How Can Jesus Change Your Life? :
- His Teachings - His Deeds - His Sacrifice
http://watchtower.org/e/19990701/article…
What Influence Does Jesus Christ Have on You?
- Set Priorities in Life
- Cultivate Friendship With God
- Establish Good Relationships With Others
- Get to the Root of the Problem
- You Can Benefit From All of Jesus’ Teachings
http://watchtower.org/e/20050315a/articl…
Spirituality and Your Well-Being
- A Positive Link
http://watchtower.org/e/20040201/article…
Also, My Sincere Condolences on the Loss of your Mom! ):
When Someone You Love Dies . . . :
- A Sure Hope for the Dead
http://watchtower.org/e/we/index.htm
http://jw.org/index.xjp?option=QrYQZRQVN…
You are almost there. It isn't 'accepting Christ as the son of God is the only way to have eternal life'. It is 'No one comes to the Father except by Me' and ';I am the Way and the Truth and the Life'. There is ignorance of God and Jesus that is culpable and ignorance that is not. You have no definite knowledge of how other people stand with God. And should they be saved and you know that they didn't know Jesus or at least they never said anything about Jesus -- still If anyone is saved it is by Jesus.
I have the same pulls though I've long been a convert. You do what you are supposed to do and pray for those people and act so that they know you are a Christian by your love...and leave the rest to God. You have a part to play but it is only a part. If God can get to you He can get to them. The worry just dissipates your energy and peace of mind.
Amen.
Romans 10.8
8But what does it say? ';The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,';[d] that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: 9That if you confess with your mouth, ';Jesus is Lord,'; and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. 11As the Scripture says, ';Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.';[e] 12For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, 13for, ';Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.';[f]
JOIN A CHURCH!! also maybe a small bible study with people your age
The things you have done already:
Hebrews 11:6.
“But now recently I've been going to my friend's church...and something changed in me..and i feel like if there is a God, he spoke to me...and I think I’m a Christian now, if you want to call me something....but, i don’t know..Like, I find it so hard saying that accepting Christ as the son of God is the only way to have eternal life..(I DO believe this).”
Next step: Matthew 10: 32, (33).
Next Step: Romans 10: 9-12.
Next Step: Romans 10: 13-21.
Next Step: Philippians 2: 8-11.
THIS IS WHY IT IS SO IMPORTANT FOR OTHERS TO WITNESS ABOUT… Yeshua (Jesus Christ)
Next Step: Read Yeshua’s (Jesus) prayer to His FATHER (GOD).
John 17.
Blessings to you.
To be a 'Christian, there must be a belief in Christ.
You can also call yourself a Believer (my favorite)...Christ still has to be apart of the equation.
Because no-one can go to GOD, unless you’ve come in Yeshua’s (Jesus Christ ) name.
Next Step: John 14:6.
'No one can come to the FATHER but by me, '; said the Yeshua.
John 6: 44,65-Jesus said, ';no one can come to him unless God sends them.
You need Jesus to go before you in prayer...God has found your heart, now it's time to give some of that to Jesus.
Next Step: When you decide to accept Yeshua (Jesus Christ) as your Lord and Savior, do this…
In a room by yourself: Start with…
Father, I come to you in the name of your Son, Jesus….
Matthew 6:6. Jesus said to call God in prayer, FATHER.
This is the time to Thank GOD, Praise GOD, Give Him that Love you have for Him that I felt up there in your statement.
Yes, I felt that. I know you love GOD, Love him more and except His Son in your heart also.
Praise God! It sounds like you got saved. It is a whole new life. I went to a dead Episcopal church irregularly as a child but wasn't born again until age 27. Read a portion of the Bible, New Testament first, every day and pray - just talk to God about whatever is on your mind. Pray for your unsaved relatives and friends to be saved. At some point, God will help you to share your faith with them. God is good. Keep attending church with your friend. May God bless you as you go forward in the Christian life.
dear sweetheart and lamb of God...
may you be blessed and find joy and peace in your spiritual quest.
i want to share these verses with you if you feel so inclined to look them up...
Ephesians 3:19
John 13:35
Proverbs 3:5-7
Job 36:22
Ecclesiastes 12
Song of Solomon 5
they have been a source of great joy and solace for me and so i share this scripture in fellowship and love...
consider the Psalms...
oh look...
';Shout with joy to the LORD, O earth!
Worship the LORD with gladness.
Come before Him singing with joy.
Acknowledge that the LORD is God!
He made us, and we are His.
We are His people, the sheep of His pasture.
Enter His gates with thanksgiving;
go into His courts with praise.
Give thanks to Him and bless His name.
For the LORD is good.
His unfailing love continues forever,
and His faithfulness continues to each generatiion.'; - Psalm 100
(xo of peace)
oh we love God.
amen.
*whew* .... you sound very earnest, and I'm sure you'll get lots of encouragement for witnessing ... but you might want to develop that relationship with your understanding of the divine before you jump right into telling other people what they have to believe.
Spend some time sitting quietly and investigating your feelings about the divine .... alone .... and try not to just turn over what peer pressure wants you to think about spirituality.
The next step might be to choose a passage to ponder ... perhaps something attributed to Jesus, and again spend some time alone with it.
The final step, and the most dangerous, is to discuss your feelings with someone else, but choose that person very carefully.
Humans are hard-wired for survival to believe utter-nonsense if it will increase their chances of survival, so peer-pressure to believe this or that will quickly overpower your budding sense of personal connection.
A good plan is to try to model your life off of a virtue-model like Jesus .... not the pharisees he spent so much time preaching against.
Read and follow these basics...
all are sinners..
';For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;'; Romans 3:23
Penalty for sin...
';For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.'; Romans 6:23
God's love
';But God commended his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.'; Romans 5:8
God's solution for sin...
';For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.'; John 3:16
Our part...
';That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.'; Romans 10:9-10
'; If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness';. I Jn.1:9
';Not by works of righteousness WE HAVE DONE, but according to HIS mercy , He has saved us....';
'; I have not come to call the righteous, but rather the sinner to repentance';. - Jesus
Have a look here ...
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20040701/art…
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20031001/art…
...and check the scriptures with your own copy of the bible
You'll find satisfying answers to life's questions on this site %26amp; everything is supported with scriptureI want a relationship with God- need advice on beliefs of Christianity?
It sounds as though the Lord is moving on you and yes you may already be saved. Simply look at Romans 9:10-13. If this is what you have done in your heart then welcome to kingdom of Heaven sister! Do not be discouraged by thoes who post negatively on this board. If you have accepted CHrist then the next step would be to make it public in your local church by being baptized. Praise God I am happy for you!
You are beginning the greatest journey of your life. Along the way, you're going to see and learn all kinds of things-- some good, others not so much so. The one thing to do, however, is keep your eye on the ball. Love God with your whole heart, strength, and mind. Love your neighbor as yourself. Everything you will ever learn as a Christian is a footnote to these. May the God of Peace fill and free you for life.
peace
The only way to learn about God is to study His word, the Bible. I have a 360 blog that has a few Bible study helps in it if you wish. or you may email me directly for any specific religious ?'s
Read one of the gospels (matthew mark luke or john)
seriously i was having trouble with my faith and i had heard so many things about people who had read that and had a changed life so i read matthew i felt like i was on a spiritual high from then till now!
If you were comfortable in your friend's church, try contacting the pastor.
Try reading up on the various mainstream branches of Christianity and compare their beliefs.
This is your search, not your family's, so don't be influenced by what they say.
Even if your family members don't, know that they can always be changed just as you were. I know that god is really proud of the fact that you have seeked him, and i think that you should just share your experience with other people and let them know how good it feels..
If you need anything else you can email me @ ale.portillo15@yahoo.com!!!
Be honest in your faith. Have no fear of men or family when it comes to believing in Christ. All things of this world are temporal. Immortality and salvation are forever. Jesus said Himself that believing in him would divide families. Grow stronger in your faith and let your life be your best testimony for God to lead others to Him.
God bless you.
Just keep doing what you are doing. You seem to be on the right path. Jesus loves you, and wants you to come to him.
Get a Bible, attend a Bible teaching Church. You will be fine, no need to be distressed. I wasn't a Christian until I was 25. In fact, I was the opposite.
I would never go back.
Jesus said you must repent (change your ways) and believe the gospel (New Testament).
You would need to read, understand, and trust the New Testament. But you will need help in coming to a good understanding of what the gospel is. Listen to a good theologian for guidance -such as R.C. Sproul at http://www.ligonier.org
Jesus rose into the sky and became a god.
He left them his dead body, saying ';Except ye eat my flesh.';
It was his way of telling them they were maggots, but they didn't get it.
FYI...as a Lutheran, you already WERE a Christian!
I'd start with your roots (the Lutheran Church) and work from there.
you shouldn't go to Lutheran church. go to a Baptist church. and ask forgiveness from Jesus.
CJ is the only answer you needed to read. He just pwned this question!!
I also went to a Lutheran church and also did not feel Jesus in my heart until I went to a more spiritual church. Sounds like your on the right track. Just keep in mind that Christianity is NOT religion. Jesus's worst enemy's when he was here were the religious leaders of his time. They were who crucified him. Satins demons treated him better. At least they respected and feared him. Many large denominations are nothing but religion. There are many people who would be Christians now that aren't because of the religion that the ';churches'; have shoved at them. A lot of churches believe it is more important to tell a visitor how to dress than to tell them that Jesus loves them.
Believe in Jesus for salvation. And then you can pray for your other family members :)
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation.
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
For your friends and family who do not believe that, you have to pray for them. God is the only one who can do a work through their lives, even if he does that work through you! Knowing that Jesus died for you on the cross and accepting him as your Lord and Savior is an amazing thing, isn't it? And I love how my God is a God who does not judge. Many people say Christians are hypocritical, and I am the first to say that we are, but so is the whole human population. God only judges on judgment day, but he welcomes his children with open arms.
And I understand you in the whole signing hymns thing. That kills me! The thing that I love about our God is that he doesn't care what type of music you listen to or how you dress. I listen to screamo music, but only from bands that glorify his name in their lyrics. I like lip rings and tattoos, and God loves me for being his ';Not sticking to the boring Christian girl mold'; daughter. If you have any more questions, e-mail me at alli7201@yahoo.com =]
Attend church. If you feel that's the right thing to do, do it :) Just because other people don't believe in Jesus, that doesn't mean you don't have to do it. Most people are Christian, still there are atheists and Buddhists and Muslims etc. ,) Other peoples religion should really be no reason for you to choose your religion! It's important that you're happy with it. Just don't start judging people because of their beliefs, alright? :D
Edit: As one other commenter recommended it, he said something like ';you can pray for your family members that don't believe in God';: It's a nice gesture, but I as an atheist wouldn't like other people to pray for me ;) I mean, I don't believe it's gonna help me and it tastes a bit like convertion, so you should maybe not tell them if you want to pray for them unless you're sure they'll see it as a nice gesture. That's a personal thing I think.
I was in my mid-teens when I began to question the teachings of the church my folks attended. The people who publish the following articles are the ones who taught me to study the Bible, to find out its true teachings. To . . .
';Make sure of all things; hold fast to what is fine.'; --1 Th 5:21
';. . . With the greatest eagerness of mind, carefully examining the Scriptures daily as to whether these things [are] so.'; Acts 17:10,11 ';. . . Do not believe every inspired expression, but test the inspired expressions to see whether they originate with God, because many false prophets have gone forth . . .'; --1 John 4:1-21 http://watchtower.org/e/bible/index.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/publications/ind…
The following particular articles are suited to your current situation:
Search for God With Your Heart and Mind
http://watchtower.org/e/20020401/article…
What Does the Messiah's Coming Mean to You?
http://watchtower.org/e/20060215/article…
Why Believe in Jesus Christ?
- How Can Jesus Change Your Life? :
- His Teachings - His Deeds - His Sacrifice
http://watchtower.org/e/19990701/article…
What Influence Does Jesus Christ Have on You?
- Set Priorities in Life
- Cultivate Friendship With God
- Establish Good Relationships With Others
- Get to the Root of the Problem
- You Can Benefit From All of Jesus’ Teachings
http://watchtower.org/e/20050315a/articl…
Spirituality and Your Well-Being
- A Positive Link
http://watchtower.org/e/20040201/article…
Also, My Sincere Condolences on the Loss of your Mom! ):
When Someone You Love Dies . . . :
- A Sure Hope for the Dead
http://watchtower.org/e/we/index.htm
http://jw.org/index.xjp?option=QrYQZRQVN…
You are almost there. It isn't 'accepting Christ as the son of God is the only way to have eternal life'. It is 'No one comes to the Father except by Me' and ';I am the Way and the Truth and the Life'. There is ignorance of God and Jesus that is culpable and ignorance that is not. You have no definite knowledge of how other people stand with God. And should they be saved and you know that they didn't know Jesus or at least they never said anything about Jesus -- still If anyone is saved it is by Jesus.
I have the same pulls though I've long been a convert. You do what you are supposed to do and pray for those people and act so that they know you are a Christian by your love...and leave the rest to God. You have a part to play but it is only a part. If God can get to you He can get to them. The worry just dissipates your energy and peace of mind.
Amen.
Romans 10.8
8But what does it say? ';The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,';[d] that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: 9That if you confess with your mouth, ';Jesus is Lord,'; and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. 11As the Scripture says, ';Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.';[e] 12For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, 13for, ';Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.';[f]
JOIN A CHURCH!! also maybe a small bible study with people your age
The things you have done already:
Hebrews 11:6.
“But now recently I've been going to my friend's church...and something changed in me..and i feel like if there is a God, he spoke to me...and I think I’m a Christian now, if you want to call me something....but, i don’t know..Like, I find it so hard saying that accepting Christ as the son of God is the only way to have eternal life..(I DO believe this).”
Next step: Matthew 10: 32, (33).
Next Step: Romans 10: 9-12.
Next Step: Romans 10: 13-21.
Next Step: Philippians 2: 8-11.
THIS IS WHY IT IS SO IMPORTANT FOR OTHERS TO WITNESS ABOUT… Yeshua (Jesus Christ)
Next Step: Read Yeshua’s (Jesus) prayer to His FATHER (GOD).
John 17.
Blessings to you.
To be a 'Christian, there must be a belief in Christ.
You can also call yourself a Believer (my favorite)...Christ still has to be apart of the equation.
Because no-one can go to GOD, unless you’ve come in Yeshua’s (Jesus Christ ) name.
Next Step: John 14:6.
'No one can come to the FATHER but by me, '; said the Yeshua.
John 6: 44,65-Jesus said, ';no one can come to him unless God sends them.
You need Jesus to go before you in prayer...God has found your heart, now it's time to give some of that to Jesus.
Next Step: When you decide to accept Yeshua (Jesus Christ) as your Lord and Savior, do this…
In a room by yourself: Start with…
Father, I come to you in the name of your Son, Jesus….
Matthew 6:6. Jesus said to call God in prayer, FATHER.
This is the time to Thank GOD, Praise GOD, Give Him that Love you have for Him that I felt up there in your statement.
Yes, I felt that. I know you love GOD, Love him more and except His Son in your heart also.
Praise God! It sounds like you got saved. It is a whole new life. I went to a dead Episcopal church irregularly as a child but wasn't born again until age 27. Read a portion of the Bible, New Testament first, every day and pray - just talk to God about whatever is on your mind. Pray for your unsaved relatives and friends to be saved. At some point, God will help you to share your faith with them. God is good. Keep attending church with your friend. May God bless you as you go forward in the Christian life.
dear sweetheart and lamb of God...
may you be blessed and find joy and peace in your spiritual quest.
i want to share these verses with you if you feel so inclined to look them up...
Ephesians 3:19
John 13:35
Proverbs 3:5-7
Job 36:22
Ecclesiastes 12
Song of Solomon 5
they have been a source of great joy and solace for me and so i share this scripture in fellowship and love...
consider the Psalms...
oh look...
';Shout with joy to the LORD, O earth!
Worship the LORD with gladness.
Come before Him singing with joy.
Acknowledge that the LORD is God!
He made us, and we are His.
We are His people, the sheep of His pasture.
Enter His gates with thanksgiving;
go into His courts with praise.
Give thanks to Him and bless His name.
For the LORD is good.
His unfailing love continues forever,
and His faithfulness continues to each generatiion.'; - Psalm 100
(xo of peace)
oh we love God.
amen.
*whew* .... you sound very earnest, and I'm sure you'll get lots of encouragement for witnessing ... but you might want to develop that relationship with your understanding of the divine before you jump right into telling other people what they have to believe.
Spend some time sitting quietly and investigating your feelings about the divine .... alone .... and try not to just turn over what peer pressure wants you to think about spirituality.
The next step might be to choose a passage to ponder ... perhaps something attributed to Jesus, and again spend some time alone with it.
The final step, and the most dangerous, is to discuss your feelings with someone else, but choose that person very carefully.
Humans are hard-wired for survival to believe utter-nonsense if it will increase their chances of survival, so peer-pressure to believe this or that will quickly overpower your budding sense of personal connection.
A good plan is to try to model your life off of a virtue-model like Jesus .... not the pharisees he spent so much time preaching against.
Read and follow these basics...
all are sinners..
';For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;'; Romans 3:23
Penalty for sin...
';For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.'; Romans 6:23
God's love
';But God commended his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.'; Romans 5:8
God's solution for sin...
';For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.'; John 3:16
Our part...
';That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.'; Romans 10:9-10
'; If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness';. I Jn.1:9
';Not by works of righteousness WE HAVE DONE, but according to HIS mercy , He has saved us....';
'; I have not come to call the righteous, but rather the sinner to repentance';. - Jesus
Stuck in a relationship rut...need opinions/advice?
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6.5 years and he cheated on me twice, I know it's stupid for me to stay in this, but he's my first love and it's very hard to think of having to move out and be without him. Recently I received an anonymus message from a girl saying that he is cheating on me, with not alot of information attached, he swears me up and down that it's false and I can't help but think there's something going on. I've broken up with him and we still live together, I have a place to stay if I move out but I feel like I can't do it, I feel weak to him, and don't want to hurt him, even though he's hurt me, I'm just not like that. My friends all think that he's not right for me but that doesn't change how I feel about him. He's given me the old ';please give me one last chance, I swear I will earn your trust back'; He's taken it sooo hard and begs me to give him a chance, but I know he's said that before. I worry about his well being if I leave, I feel guilty for breaking his heart although I don't know why since he's responsible for his own actions. Any advice on how to make this easier on the both of us, mainly me lol. Thank youStuck in a relationship rut...need opinions/advice?
If you want to continue in this relationship:
Don't just take his word for it that he will earn back your trust. Talk is cheap. Tell him what he can do that will make you trust him. For someone who had cheated twice, tell him that you will need to check his texts and emails if necessary, or hang out more together. (These are what I would request, but you have your own)
If you do not want to continue in this relationship anymore:
Be courageous. Tell him no matter how hard you've tried, you can't trust him anymore. Move out. You either hurt him now, or he will hurt you in future. You are in a relationship, not a marriage. Walk out while you still can and you should not feel guilty for breaking his heart because he broke yours many times and a strong relationship is not founded on guilt.
You had been very giving and thoughtful, in many cases, you thought of him before yourself. But just this once, be selfish. It is your future, your life, your choice.Stuck in a relationship rut...need opinions/advice?
Yes. Ask yourself this ';do I want to be a doormat for the rest of my life and have him continue using and manipulating me?'; If you said ';no'; then move out. The pain hurts so let yourself feel it but I promise you that it heals and you will be happy that you were strong enough to go through it. He will be fine. He says things because he knows that you are going to cave to him. Get MAD, honey!! It's ok. Stop being a friggin doormat and be a survivor! I can sit her and type til I'm blue in the face but you have to WANT to do this. If you won't heed anyone's advice on here then don't ask for it. You can do this... now believe in yourself and maybe start believing you deserve better than him and can do better. Because honey... you can.
If he has cheated on you twice and you get a letter like that it's probably true. Even though he is your first love you shouldn't be with someone who has done that to you. Cheating on someone once is already to much, but a 2nd time? What the hell where you thinking? I'm sorry but I just don't get it. I really think you should not be with someone like that. Just my opinion. And you shouldn't matter if you break his heart. You should think about yourself so you can be happy.
I admit to having cheated before and once I did it I thought it was the worst thing ever. I always said I wouldn't cheat but when I did, it sucked so incredibly much that I would never EVER do it again. You don't realize what it's like until you finally do it. Once, I can possibly understand, but if it happens a second time, than his heart is not in the right place. Therefore he sees options with other women as possibilities. I'm sorry and I hope you can figure it out.acne scars
If you want to continue in this relationship:
Don't just take his word for it that he will earn back your trust. Talk is cheap. Tell him what he can do that will make you trust him. For someone who had cheated twice, tell him that you will need to check his texts and emails if necessary, or hang out more together. (These are what I would request, but you have your own)
If you do not want to continue in this relationship anymore:
Be courageous. Tell him no matter how hard you've tried, you can't trust him anymore. Move out. You either hurt him now, or he will hurt you in future. You are in a relationship, not a marriage. Walk out while you still can and you should not feel guilty for breaking his heart because he broke yours many times and a strong relationship is not founded on guilt.
You had been very giving and thoughtful, in many cases, you thought of him before yourself. But just this once, be selfish. It is your future, your life, your choice.Stuck in a relationship rut...need opinions/advice?
Yes. Ask yourself this ';do I want to be a doormat for the rest of my life and have him continue using and manipulating me?'; If you said ';no'; then move out. The pain hurts so let yourself feel it but I promise you that it heals and you will be happy that you were strong enough to go through it. He will be fine. He says things because he knows that you are going to cave to him. Get MAD, honey!! It's ok. Stop being a friggin doormat and be a survivor! I can sit her and type til I'm blue in the face but you have to WANT to do this. If you won't heed anyone's advice on here then don't ask for it. You can do this... now believe in yourself and maybe start believing you deserve better than him and can do better. Because honey... you can.
If he has cheated on you twice and you get a letter like that it's probably true. Even though he is your first love you shouldn't be with someone who has done that to you. Cheating on someone once is already to much, but a 2nd time? What the hell where you thinking? I'm sorry but I just don't get it. I really think you should not be with someone like that. Just my opinion. And you shouldn't matter if you break his heart. You should think about yourself so you can be happy.
I admit to having cheated before and once I did it I thought it was the worst thing ever. I always said I wouldn't cheat but when I did, it sucked so incredibly much that I would never EVER do it again. You don't realize what it's like until you finally do it. Once, I can possibly understand, but if it happens a second time, than his heart is not in the right place. Therefore he sees options with other women as possibilities. I'm sorry and I hope you can figure it out.
Just ended a relationship..please give me advice?
My boyfriend and I just broke up after 3 years,it was 100 percent on me i just wasn't feeling it anymore and am too young to be committed(20). I am fine on my own because i have a great family and friends who are here for me but im just so worried about him. I know he will be okay i just feel so bad because i know he is madly in love with me and just wants to be with me but he cant. He doesnt have a good family and only has a few friends who he is not close to. How can i not worry about him? its so hard,ive tried to just worry about myself but i keep thinking about stuff like his Bday and our anniversaries and pictures and just all the stuff i have bought him,how do i get over him getting over me? Is there any way i can help him. Sorry this is so long-please help and many answers are great.Just ended a relationship..please give me advice?
get him a therapist. sounds like he's obssesed with you. you can always be friends with him but it's time for both u to move on. i'm 20 too btw, do you wanna hookup?Just ended a relationship..please give me advice?
I recently ended my 3 year relationship also, I was the one dumped though. The thing about your situation is that you say your not feeling it for him and that you feel bad for him cause he does, however the fact you are caring so much may mean maybe you do have stronger feelings for him then you realize or want to. I know your young and he maybe to, but age shouldn't be a key reason to break up with someone. If you care this much about him that your beating yourself over pictures and anniversaries than you may want to sit back and rethink things over. Are you fighting your feelings or are you sincerely threw and want to move on? If you want to move on then do so, he's a big boy, he'll figure his way out. But if you have the slightest doubt and you think something may still be there for him then you need to stop denying it before its too late.
get him a therapist. sounds like he's obssesed with you. you can always be friends with him but it's time for both u to move on. i'm 20 too btw, do you wanna hookup?Just ended a relationship..please give me advice?
I recently ended my 3 year relationship also, I was the one dumped though. The thing about your situation is that you say your not feeling it for him and that you feel bad for him cause he does, however the fact you are caring so much may mean maybe you do have stronger feelings for him then you realize or want to. I know your young and he maybe to, but age shouldn't be a key reason to break up with someone. If you care this much about him that your beating yourself over pictures and anniversaries than you may want to sit back and rethink things over. Are you fighting your feelings or are you sincerely threw and want to move on? If you want to move on then do so, he's a big boy, he'll figure his way out. But if you have the slightest doubt and you think something may still be there for him then you need to stop denying it before its too late.
Advice on my relationship...?
Im 19 and dating a 28 year old. He is the sweetest, most perfect guy for me... EXCEPT- He works at a restaurant, plays halo almost everyday, and is a virgo. He's not necessarily lazy, but he is lazy with his dreams and goals. Ive tried talking to him about all of this but he seems to just say that he ';knows and wants to go back to school.';
I can totally see myself with him in 50 years but those few things are holding me back. I want a life for myself and I feel like he has to step up to the plate and be somebody with his life...
What should I do? Whats some advice on how to approach the situation. I really like him. thanks a bunch!Advice on my relationship...?
I'm used to giving long answers to questions, but my answer is pretty simple here.
Since you're only 19, give it a little time and see how things progress. If you find one day that you're 21 and that he's camping out for the next Halo instead of going to work, then you still have the whole prime of your youth to move on if you choose to. If one day you find that you're 21 and he's in school pursuing a career, then you've done yourself a great favor by staying with someone you clearly care so much about.
You should also ask him for defined goals. Where does he want to be in 20 years? What does he see himself doing? Of equal importance, try and gauge whether he feels the same way about you as you feel about him.
And just out of curiosity, challenge him to give up Halo for two or three weeks. See if he can commit to something that would improve his life.Advice on my relationship...?
your a girl he is 28 oh come on you can get good boy better than him
and did he ever told that he likes you and be sure that he is not married
Don't be late.Propose him immediately.Or you must be the loser.
hmm, he seems to be procrastinating
talk to him what's holding him back from going to school, what does he want to pursue....if he cannot give a decent answer to that,,,,,,then it seems that this guy isnt interested in improving his way of life
at 28, things should be going his way in terms of career, time is passing him by, and most of his age group are already making names for themselves in the companies they are in. he's gonna be left behind.
and you need to decide / determine if you wish to be with a guy like that in the next 50 years or so.....
I can totally see myself with him in 50 years but those few things are holding me back. I want a life for myself and I feel like he has to step up to the plate and be somebody with his life...
What should I do? Whats some advice on how to approach the situation. I really like him. thanks a bunch!Advice on my relationship...?
I'm used to giving long answers to questions, but my answer is pretty simple here.
Since you're only 19, give it a little time and see how things progress. If you find one day that you're 21 and that he's camping out for the next Halo instead of going to work, then you still have the whole prime of your youth to move on if you choose to. If one day you find that you're 21 and he's in school pursuing a career, then you've done yourself a great favor by staying with someone you clearly care so much about.
You should also ask him for defined goals. Where does he want to be in 20 years? What does he see himself doing? Of equal importance, try and gauge whether he feels the same way about you as you feel about him.
And just out of curiosity, challenge him to give up Halo for two or three weeks. See if he can commit to something that would improve his life.Advice on my relationship...?
your a girl he is 28 oh come on you can get good boy better than him
and did he ever told that he likes you and be sure that he is not married
Don't be late.Propose him immediately.Or you must be the loser.
hmm, he seems to be procrastinating
talk to him what's holding him back from going to school, what does he want to pursue....if he cannot give a decent answer to that,,,,,,then it seems that this guy isnt interested in improving his way of life
at 28, things should be going his way in terms of career, time is passing him by, and most of his age group are already making names for themselves in the companies they are in. he's gonna be left behind.
and you need to decide / determine if you wish to be with a guy like that in the next 50 years or so.....
Advice for a relationship?
I am in my late 40s and my love interest is in his mid-50s. I have a colorful past of many men, and he has a color past and present of many women. I have been involved with 47 men, and his total of women is in the 9-hundreds. I can let go of his past if he can provide a clean bill of health, but he cannot let go of my past - as it is always the main topic of our conversation. I have admitted that I made mistakes ealier in my life, but he cannot let that go. I need advice on how to try to work through this problem because I do not want to lose him
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Long story short, my wife and I are currently separated. Have been for 7 months. See recently got out of a relationship where the guy she was dating all of a sudden went from making future plans to he couldnt be with her. Hasnt called or emailed her since. She was very lonely, and asked that I came down. After spending the weekend together, she openly told me, she wants to try to rekindle things with our marriage, but is unsure if she can fall back in love with me. Ive openly told her (even previous to her recent breakup) that, I want to do everything in my power, to make us work. I here because I dont want to miss a chance, the only one I may be given to restore our marriage. This weekend, she has had times where she gets down, she even told me she has urges to call him, email him, for some type of closure. She even talks about him, Me %26amp; Greg this, One time Greg did... she has pretty much stated she is now in love with him, no longer with me.
I love her, I want to be with her. Am I openly doors to get hurt?
Today, she even asked if I've ever contacted him? In all honesty I said no, why?
It crossed her mind, That I spoke to him, and thats why he left her abruptly.
I'm here to comfort her, but I also see more. I'm also afraid, after she is back to normal, that she wont be able to fall in love with me.
What if he comes back, and says he lied to protect her, and said he wanted to be with her?. Where will that leave me? Ive asked her, and she says she wouldnt go back.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Your wife is totally confused, that's what happens when you commit adultery, you don't know what's real, and what's not. What I think is terribly sad is that she had an affair to begin with. What's even worse is the way she takes your love for granted.. She is willing to come back to you only because she can't handle being alone. Her heart is with this other loser.
Do you care so little about yourself that you're okay to be with someone that's always thinking about another man? Do you think that if you make love to her she won't be wishing you were this other guy? Don't you deserve better than that? Don't you think you can do better than that?
Why don't you at least make her do something to earn a second chance?
If you don't then she will hang around only until she meets the next sucker.
She's a cheater, and you deserve so much better. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I don't even think she knows what love is, it's not hot sex..
See a counselor for you. Talk to the counselor about your desire to get back with a woman that even admits she is not in love with you.
I understand you love her and want to be with her but under these circumstances you would be totally disrespecting yourself and in denial about the reality of your situation.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Dude, wow. Soul search. I understand you want your marriage to work but she is saying she doesn't love you. Do you really want that? Are you going to be able to trust her? Will you continue to be her doormat? She knows she has you and has all of the power. She says whether you go or stay. If you are willing to put up with this, then go for it. Will you feel resentment if she is not what you want her to be? If not, there are others out there. Your in a bad place. If she loves this Greg why would she not go back, if he came back? You need to make a commitment to each other and both of you stick to it. It will be the only way it will work. Good luck.
If she is serious about trying to get back with you, then ask her to go to couples counselling with you and see if it helps..........if she doesn't want to then at least you know she has no intention of trying.
You sound like such a sweet and kind man. Why would you want to put yourself through this? I know you love her, but it sounds like she isn't returning those feelings toward you at all. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for what you are now, not what they want you to become. Good luck to you
I love her, I want to be with her. Am I openly doors to get hurt?
Today, she even asked if I've ever contacted him? In all honesty I said no, why?
It crossed her mind, That I spoke to him, and thats why he left her abruptly.
I'm here to comfort her, but I also see more. I'm also afraid, after she is back to normal, that she wont be able to fall in love with me.
What if he comes back, and says he lied to protect her, and said he wanted to be with her?. Where will that leave me? Ive asked her, and she says she wouldnt go back.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Your wife is totally confused, that's what happens when you commit adultery, you don't know what's real, and what's not. What I think is terribly sad is that she had an affair to begin with. What's even worse is the way she takes your love for granted.. She is willing to come back to you only because she can't handle being alone. Her heart is with this other loser.
Do you care so little about yourself that you're okay to be with someone that's always thinking about another man? Do you think that if you make love to her she won't be wishing you were this other guy? Don't you deserve better than that? Don't you think you can do better than that?
Why don't you at least make her do something to earn a second chance?
If you don't then she will hang around only until she meets the next sucker.
She's a cheater, and you deserve so much better. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I don't even think she knows what love is, it's not hot sex..
See a counselor for you. Talk to the counselor about your desire to get back with a woman that even admits she is not in love with you.
I understand you love her and want to be with her but under these circumstances you would be totally disrespecting yourself and in denial about the reality of your situation.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Dude, wow. Soul search. I understand you want your marriage to work but she is saying she doesn't love you. Do you really want that? Are you going to be able to trust her? Will you continue to be her doormat? She knows she has you and has all of the power. She says whether you go or stay. If you are willing to put up with this, then go for it. Will you feel resentment if she is not what you want her to be? If not, there are others out there. Your in a bad place. If she loves this Greg why would she not go back, if he came back? You need to make a commitment to each other and both of you stick to it. It will be the only way it will work. Good luck.
If she is serious about trying to get back with you, then ask her to go to couples counselling with you and see if it helps..........if she doesn't want to then at least you know she has no intention of trying.
You sound like such a sweet and kind man. Why would you want to put yourself through this? I know you love her, but it sounds like she isn't returning those feelings toward you at all. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for what you are now, not what they want you to become. Good luck to you
Advice on distant relationship please?
i grew up w/everyone around me in long distance..and i juz witnessed that long distance relationships never clicked...
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!
Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
i have been dating my boyfriend for four years, but within those four years we have broke up two times. the first time we broke up i was so heart broken and knew that this guy has been flirting with me and wouldnt leave me alone, he told me how i didnt deserve the bf i had because cheated on me. so after a month i started hanging out with him. alot. and i realized that i liked him alot, but i was still in love with my ex. the guy that i was seeing was fun and knew me so well, so fast. . . and just always gave me this amazing feeling. but all i knew was my ex, he was my first kiss, my only kiss, i lost my virginity to him. so when me and this guy kissed i was devastated. it hurt so bad that i could have such strong feelings for him. and same for me, he has never felt this way about any other girl all of his guy friends said so, he was head over heels it was so obvious. i just couldnt do it. so i called it off. and he was just not the same anymore. he would call me and tell me i didnt deserve my ex and he could treat me better. but me, being me, went back to my ex. but i still have very strong feelings towards him. so i stay away from him as much as possible. what is this whole situation? what advice do you have for me ? something.. i need answersAdvice on my relationship? what should i do?
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.acne scars
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.
Advice on my relationship?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years and we live together. We fight a lot at least once a week if not more. Last summer we had a lot of trouble and almost broke up but, we worked it out. Then in December i moved out because i was tired of everything. We still stayed together but that wasn't any easier, we still fought just as much if not worse because we werent living together. Then in May he kept asking me to come back and i really didn't want to.. i kind of liked to be on my own. But i came back.. A few weeks ago he hurt his back working and i out on disability.. and its been rough. I have picked up some over time at work to compensate for the money he is not bringing it and ive felt unappreciated and very unhappy. I feel like he is just not doing anything.even the things he can do.He also has me out and about going here and doing things right when i get home when i really just want to relax. It makes me feel like he doesn't care. So i told him i wanted to move out.. He took it very hard and since then he has been doing everything he can to make me happy..My b-day was on thursday and he went all out. But he had never done anything like that before so it was weird to me. When i told him i felt like he was just kissing up, he said that he realized that he had not been treating me the way he should have been..like he had a wake up call or something.. but i dont know if i can believe that he is really going to change. Should i give it another chance and believe the things he is doing? Or should i continue to get my own place and try to still be together without living together?
He has said this a few times before thats why i font know if i can believe him. Please help..
Advice on my relationship?
I do have to wonder how much of a role the disability is playing in your renewed urge to leave. I'm not denying that it's been rough on you, but he's the one who's injured: he may be depressed and not thinking all that clearly about what he can do as opposed to what he can't. If the problem persists, that's one thing, but I think you need to honestly ask yourself how much of your irritation with him at the moment is at what he could be doing in spite of the setback and how much is misdirected anger at the situation in general.
That said, I do think you probably should go through with your plans to move out, but emphasize to him that you don't want it to be the end of the relationship. You just need more space so you can think through things and feel less like his caretaker than his partner. Couples counseling might be a good idea, too; there are low-cost resources out there if you look for them. Good luck.Advice on my relationship?
if he havent changed by now he wont
Well you said he's said that before, and he is not
willing to change.
Get your own space, and your own life.
I think you should give him a chance maybe he did realize that he didn't appreciate you before and now you are showing him how much you really care about him because you are there when he is most needing you. Sometimes it takes awhile for someone to realize that and maybe this was his wake up call. Just be there for him and let him treat you nice don't be negative about it people do change, life is about risks. Good luck.
It must be hard living that way.Sometimes relationships have their ups and downs.If you love him,let him go.And if he keeps coming back to you and you see that he has changed alot for the things he does to you unfairly,then it's real love.Love him the way you do,look him in the eyes,and tell him how you feel...If he doesn't want to listen to you,tell him sorry but you want to find a better way for yourself.Life is wayyy too short to waste it on a person who doesn't let you live...Hope that helps.
Get your own place, but be with him, and if it don't work out, you have your own place.
Well I have been where you are. I can tell you this...give him time. I have been with my man for 9 years and honey the two of us have been through it and through it. And through it again. We have both done things that most people would be like ';Oh, man I can't believe you are staying together after that'; But you know what? We love each other and let me also tell you this,everyone in a relationship fights and argues. We get into alot. But we always make up.He's hurt and can't work, my man has been out of work too and I had to pick up the slack, and it's hard, but you have to understand, men are like little kids. They need to be taken care of just like kids do. I know sometimes you feel like ';Dang, can't you do anything for yourself?!';Just think avout it like this, what if it was you that was hurt? Wouldn't he take care of you like you are doing for him? I'm sure he would .Everybody likes their freedom, but if you are going to move out, there is no way the two of you can still be together after living together and then you move. It will never work. If you want to live on your own maybe it should be just that, on your own with no man. Sit down and really think ';do I really want to leave,do I not love him enough to stay?'; Whatever you tell yourself, I wish you good luck, but I say give it another try. If you really love him it will all work itself out. GOOD LUCK!
He has said this a few times before thats why i font know if i can believe him. Please help..
Advice on my relationship?
I do have to wonder how much of a role the disability is playing in your renewed urge to leave. I'm not denying that it's been rough on you, but he's the one who's injured: he may be depressed and not thinking all that clearly about what he can do as opposed to what he can't. If the problem persists, that's one thing, but I think you need to honestly ask yourself how much of your irritation with him at the moment is at what he could be doing in spite of the setback and how much is misdirected anger at the situation in general.
That said, I do think you probably should go through with your plans to move out, but emphasize to him that you don't want it to be the end of the relationship. You just need more space so you can think through things and feel less like his caretaker than his partner. Couples counseling might be a good idea, too; there are low-cost resources out there if you look for them. Good luck.Advice on my relationship?
if he havent changed by now he wont
Well you said he's said that before, and he is not
willing to change.
Get your own space, and your own life.
I think you should give him a chance maybe he did realize that he didn't appreciate you before and now you are showing him how much you really care about him because you are there when he is most needing you. Sometimes it takes awhile for someone to realize that and maybe this was his wake up call. Just be there for him and let him treat you nice don't be negative about it people do change, life is about risks. Good luck.
It must be hard living that way.Sometimes relationships have their ups and downs.If you love him,let him go.And if he keeps coming back to you and you see that he has changed alot for the things he does to you unfairly,then it's real love.Love him the way you do,look him in the eyes,and tell him how you feel...If he doesn't want to listen to you,tell him sorry but you want to find a better way for yourself.Life is wayyy too short to waste it on a person who doesn't let you live...Hope that helps.
Get your own place, but be with him, and if it don't work out, you have your own place.
Well I have been where you are. I can tell you this...give him time. I have been with my man for 9 years and honey the two of us have been through it and through it. And through it again. We have both done things that most people would be like ';Oh, man I can't believe you are staying together after that'; But you know what? We love each other and let me also tell you this,everyone in a relationship fights and argues. We get into alot. But we always make up.He's hurt and can't work, my man has been out of work too and I had to pick up the slack, and it's hard, but you have to understand, men are like little kids. They need to be taken care of just like kids do. I know sometimes you feel like ';Dang, can't you do anything for yourself?!';Just think avout it like this, what if it was you that was hurt? Wouldn't he take care of you like you are doing for him? I'm sure he would .Everybody likes their freedom, but if you are going to move out, there is no way the two of you can still be together after living together and then you move. It will never work. If you want to live on your own maybe it should be just that, on your own with no man. Sit down and really think ';do I really want to leave,do I not love him enough to stay?'; Whatever you tell yourself, I wish you good luck, but I say give it another try. If you really love him it will all work itself out. GOOD LUCK!
Advice w/my relationship, please??
Yeah, the title explains it all. So here's the deal,me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now, or it will soon be a year. I can honestly say that I Love Her, because I've been in-and-out of relationships and she makes me feel like no one else EVER could/will/has. Out of the year we've been seeing eachother, we've only had one serious argument. Other than that we're pretty intimate and committed. But I'm recovering from a mental disorder(i was diagnosed with major depressive disorder last nov. in '07), and she knows that. I'm still recovering, but since I know I'm starting to be a VERY insecure person and a lot worse. Next year I'm starting my freshman year at high school, and she's starting her year in 8th(she's a year under me). But I really don't know if I can trust her alone with other kids that I've fought with/never liked.
She tells me she loves me and would never hurt me, she knows I would do the same as her, but this is really bugging the hell outta me. :_Advice w/my relationship, please??
I feel you on this one man. I am also ';the insecure'; person in my relationship. The whole thing is based on trust. Since you can honestly say to yourself that you love her and she obviously loves you, nothing can possibly go wrong my friend. Because its okay to let your girl go out there with other guys, but just know at the end of the day, it is you that she calls her ';man';. So I hope your recovery comes along smoothly and also your relationship.Advice w/my relationship, please??
she's in middle school, what the hell is she gonna do with the other guys? don't worry about it. considering your age, you're more likely to break up than to have her cheat on you. and hell, you're going to be in high school, you might end up changing your mind about her. high school is a completely different experience than middle school my friend.
You're just kids. Take it easy, and keep things light. You are only young once. Being in a long distance marriage at 14/15 is just way too over the top. Relax man.
dont worry about her believe me she wouldnt do anything to hurt u....the love in your relation ship goes both ways and u both wouldnt jepordize it .........dont worry
She tells me she loves me and would never hurt me, she knows I would do the same as her, but this is really bugging the hell outta me. :_Advice w/my relationship, please??
I feel you on this one man. I am also ';the insecure'; person in my relationship. The whole thing is based on trust. Since you can honestly say to yourself that you love her and she obviously loves you, nothing can possibly go wrong my friend. Because its okay to let your girl go out there with other guys, but just know at the end of the day, it is you that she calls her ';man';. So I hope your recovery comes along smoothly and also your relationship.Advice w/my relationship, please??
she's in middle school, what the hell is she gonna do with the other guys? don't worry about it. considering your age, you're more likely to break up than to have her cheat on you. and hell, you're going to be in high school, you might end up changing your mind about her. high school is a completely different experience than middle school my friend.
You're just kids. Take it easy, and keep things light. You are only young once. Being in a long distance marriage at 14/15 is just way too over the top. Relax man.
dont worry about her believe me she wouldnt do anything to hurt u....the love in your relation ship goes both ways and u both wouldnt jepordize it .........dont worry
Advice on my relationship...?
I need some advice on abusive relationships. I feel pretty bad writing about this...I wish I could figure this out on my own but I'm really confused. See my boyfriend and I been going out for about a seven months, and I care for him so much. But he is so different now compared to how he used to be. He is so protective of me! He is really insecure and he thinks I'm going to leave him. If he sees that I am talking to other guys (even friends!) he questions me about it after, but lately he has been getting physical. Just about a week ago he dragged me out of the dining hall by the arm, and then he shouted about how I spent more time with other guys then with him. And only a few days ago he pinned me against the wall and wouldn't let me go when I asked, just because I hugged another guy. I confronted him and he just apologized endlessly. I know how this sounds, but he has been cheated on before and he was really hurt by it...I just don't know how to feel or what to do. I'm so confused!! Help?Advice on my relationship...?
Ashley,
It doesn't matter if his ex cheated. You're not his ex. Don't make excuses for his behavior. It is NEVER okay for him to put his hands on you or try to dominate you like that. He has severe emotional and control issues. He's insecure and needs help. I come from a home where my birth father beat my mother. She was just as confused until he almost killed her. I think that cleared it up for her in a hurry.
Please get away from this guy while you still have a chance. Don't let another day of your life waste away. You may think that you love this guy and want to help him, but he doesn't love you. His behavior is obsessive. Obsession isn't love. He may say it is.. but it's not.
Don't feel bad or guilty. Tell him you care and want him to get help. If he refuses, you can't sacrifice yourself for him. Walk away. If you stay, you will go through this repetitive cycle over and over until he takes it out on you for the last time. That last time could be the one you just told us about... or it could be at your funeral. Think about it.
God bless.Advice on my relationship...?
honey, just because he has been cheated on doesn't give him the right to go around taking it out on you... he probably got what he deserved!
you need to end this relationship ASAP.
i used to work at a shelter for abused women and trust me... it will only get worst!!!! he needs some serious help - help that you can not give him. and you need help yourself... you should NEVER allow another person to lay a hand on you... NEVER.
i don't know how old you are... but the sooner you can talk to your parents, a counselor or someone who specializes in domestic violence, the better.
you don't have to put up with it, and if you wait longer - it'll be harder for you to leave him.
people have the right to have friends, talk to whoever they want without feeling like you have to hide or feeling like you're doing something wrong.
call around to find some domestic violence hotlines in your area, they'll have some good resources for you.
If a man abuses you, he will never stop. If you decide to stay with him, just realize that it will only get worse and worse. He is probably very sincere when he says that he is sorry, but believe me when I tell you, he will be sorry each and every time that it happens. He really needs counseling to stop. He has to be willing to change. I personally have never seen a man stop being an abuser. I'm sure it can happen with a lot of work and dedication. I just have never seen it done. I know that you love him, but I really think that you should get out of this relationship because it will only get worse from here. Good luck!
Leave him. I don't care how much you care about him or how much he apologizes... THAT'S ABUSE! Do you want to be on the news one day? Are you asking to be a discussion on Nancy Grace? Woman found dead. Don't feel confused. Be smart and have some common sense. He doesn't love you. You're his crutch. He needs you for his own sanity but that's not beneficial to you! He is detrimental to you! He cannot help you in any way. He is not a good person to have in your life. Break up with him. Actually, I'd say report him to the police, have him get some mental help, and you contact an abuse crisis center for your safety. Don't be another statistic. Don't be another report on the news. Be safe.
ok listen to me carefully, you need NEED to break up with him. if you EVER get abused in a relationship you NEED to leave, YES i know you love him and that he says hes SORRY over and over AFTER abusing you, but the truth is, he cant control his actions,and i dont care if your boyfriend got abused when he was a child or got cheated on that gives him NOOO EXCUSE to lay a hand on you. and the fact that you are putting up with his abuse is wrong girl. i know its soo hard to break up cuz u love him and you know he can change, BUT HE WONT. hes gonna keep hurting you, keep being protective and jealous and eventually the abuse will get worse. my best friend was in one and she dated the guy for 2 YRS!!!! and finally got out, and she thought it was the best decision yet as hard as it was to leave him. HE DOESNT deserve you, and you dont deserve that abuse so leave.
Ashley,
It doesn't matter if his ex cheated. You're not his ex. Don't make excuses for his behavior. It is NEVER okay for him to put his hands on you or try to dominate you like that. He has severe emotional and control issues. He's insecure and needs help. I come from a home where my birth father beat my mother. She was just as confused until he almost killed her. I think that cleared it up for her in a hurry.
Please get away from this guy while you still have a chance. Don't let another day of your life waste away. You may think that you love this guy and want to help him, but he doesn't love you. His behavior is obsessive. Obsession isn't love. He may say it is.. but it's not.
Don't feel bad or guilty. Tell him you care and want him to get help. If he refuses, you can't sacrifice yourself for him. Walk away. If you stay, you will go through this repetitive cycle over and over until he takes it out on you for the last time. That last time could be the one you just told us about... or it could be at your funeral. Think about it.
God bless.Advice on my relationship...?
honey, just because he has been cheated on doesn't give him the right to go around taking it out on you... he probably got what he deserved!
you need to end this relationship ASAP.
i used to work at a shelter for abused women and trust me... it will only get worst!!!! he needs some serious help - help that you can not give him. and you need help yourself... you should NEVER allow another person to lay a hand on you... NEVER.
i don't know how old you are... but the sooner you can talk to your parents, a counselor or someone who specializes in domestic violence, the better.
you don't have to put up with it, and if you wait longer - it'll be harder for you to leave him.
people have the right to have friends, talk to whoever they want without feeling like you have to hide or feeling like you're doing something wrong.
call around to find some domestic violence hotlines in your area, they'll have some good resources for you.
If a man abuses you, he will never stop. If you decide to stay with him, just realize that it will only get worse and worse. He is probably very sincere when he says that he is sorry, but believe me when I tell you, he will be sorry each and every time that it happens. He really needs counseling to stop. He has to be willing to change. I personally have never seen a man stop being an abuser. I'm sure it can happen with a lot of work and dedication. I just have never seen it done. I know that you love him, but I really think that you should get out of this relationship because it will only get worse from here. Good luck!
Leave him. I don't care how much you care about him or how much he apologizes... THAT'S ABUSE! Do you want to be on the news one day? Are you asking to be a discussion on Nancy Grace? Woman found dead. Don't feel confused. Be smart and have some common sense. He doesn't love you. You're his crutch. He needs you for his own sanity but that's not beneficial to you! He is detrimental to you! He cannot help you in any way. He is not a good person to have in your life. Break up with him. Actually, I'd say report him to the police, have him get some mental help, and you contact an abuse crisis center for your safety. Don't be another statistic. Don't be another report on the news. Be safe.
ok listen to me carefully, you need NEED to break up with him. if you EVER get abused in a relationship you NEED to leave, YES i know you love him and that he says hes SORRY over and over AFTER abusing you, but the truth is, he cant control his actions,and i dont care if your boyfriend got abused when he was a child or got cheated on that gives him NOOO EXCUSE to lay a hand on you. and the fact that you are putting up with his abuse is wrong girl. i know its soo hard to break up cuz u love him and you know he can change, BUT HE WONT. hes gonna keep hurting you, keep being protective and jealous and eventually the abuse will get worse. my best friend was in one and she dated the guy for 2 YRS!!!! and finally got out, and she thought it was the best decision yet as hard as it was to leave him. HE DOESNT deserve you, and you dont deserve that abuse so leave.
Guys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
um well i think its hot when guys
*are funny
* sweet,nice
* smart but not a nerd
* sensitive
*sounds weird but... overprotective because i know they care about me not like you cant go anywhere without me. but like if i guys being mean to me he stands up for me and makes sure everyone is nice to me and he takes me everywhere and he kisses and holds me
* goes places with me. like if i want to go to the mall you can come with me and if i want to get my nails done , you come to compliment them
* doesnt whine. like if we are out and you say something like ugh .. this is boring this sucks bla bla bla. it is annoying
theses tips will help you in any relationshipGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
Hey! My name is Holly too and I feel we would be best friends if we knew eachother! :P And we are both CrAzY! Please e-mail me!!! i8chocolate3@yahoo.com. THANX! :DGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
yea right and soon as you get someone like that you will be bitching that he is too nice.what the hell is wrong with you women.
*are funny
* sweet,nice
* smart but not a nerd
* sensitive
*sounds weird but... overprotective because i know they care about me not like you cant go anywhere without me. but like if i guys being mean to me he stands up for me and makes sure everyone is nice to me and he takes me everywhere and he kisses and holds me
* goes places with me. like if i want to go to the mall you can come with me and if i want to get my nails done , you come to compliment them
* doesnt whine. like if we are out and you say something like ugh .. this is boring this sucks bla bla bla. it is annoying
theses tips will help you in any relationshipGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
Hey! My name is Holly too and I feel we would be best friends if we knew eachother! :P And we are both CrAzY! Please e-mail me!!! i8chocolate3@yahoo.com. THANX! :DGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
yea right and soon as you get someone like that you will be bitching that he is too nice.what the hell is wrong with you women.
Advice on gay relationship?
Were going on 3 years together, and having a big gay wedding in March. Its a big to-do since we live in a small town where everybody is in everbody elses business. The other day I was hanging out with my partners sister, I told her how we had went to the attorney, signed powers of attorneys, afadavids forthis and that, a will and put all or assets together in a Trust to secure and somewhat legalize our relationship before the bi wedding. She then tells me how the whole family is so happy he and I are together despite their religious views, and that he brothe (my fiance) is a completely different person with me, that he really loves me. I ask how he was so different? Her answer was that he was a ';big player'; and '; big cheater'; and never wanted to settle down. I asked why she felt that he was a big cheater? she then said ';well, its not that he had a big problem with it, but he dated losers, I woulda cheated on them too!'; The problem for me is that he was open and upfront about his past, that he was no angel. I did ask him though if hed cheated on his boyfriends, and since he had only been in 2 serious relationships, both lasting less than 2 years, he said, no he didnt cheat and that he believes in monogamy. Now Im hearing otherwise from his own sister! I asked him about this, he still says he wasnt a cheater, and isnt a cheater and that he is going to ask her why she said that. hes been totally honest about everything since weve been together, should this be a red flag?, even though our relationship is great, I dont like lies. Any advice here?Advice on gay relationship?
Maybe she is just wrong? Its good you asked him about it. Just because she thinks he cheated does not mean he did.Advice on gay relationship?
i would just believe him if he cheated why shouldn't he tell you
My advice: do what you can to get the story cleared up, but don't get cold feet. If he's been honest w/ you so far you have no reason to suspect that he'll be dishonest in the future. You are more armed than anyone else he's been in a relationship w/ and that means something. That he's willing to trust you w/ himself and his life. Very important for a life partner. So take a step back and realize that it may just be a difference in perception. See if you can get more facts after his discussion w/ his sister and prepare yourself to not let his past keep you from a bright future together. It seems to me you're already off to a great start. So warm those cold feet up against his hot bod, and you have my heartfelt congratulations and well wishes for a long and happy marriage to the man you love.
He might be ashamed of his cheating and may have stopped, the reason he didn't want u to kno was so u didn't think he was cheating on you, i wouldn't look too much into it if i were u, he has probably cganged 4 the better since meeting u. But never rule it out as a possibility, if he starts acting strange, confront him but i wouldn't be to worried though, if he is marrying u then he is serious about u and probably isn't cheating.
Maybe she is just wrong? Its good you asked him about it. Just because she thinks he cheated does not mean he did.Advice on gay relationship?
i would just believe him if he cheated why shouldn't he tell you
My advice: do what you can to get the story cleared up, but don't get cold feet. If he's been honest w/ you so far you have no reason to suspect that he'll be dishonest in the future. You are more armed than anyone else he's been in a relationship w/ and that means something. That he's willing to trust you w/ himself and his life. Very important for a life partner. So take a step back and realize that it may just be a difference in perception. See if you can get more facts after his discussion w/ his sister and prepare yourself to not let his past keep you from a bright future together. It seems to me you're already off to a great start. So warm those cold feet up against his hot bod, and you have my heartfelt congratulations and well wishes for a long and happy marriage to the man you love.
He might be ashamed of his cheating and may have stopped, the reason he didn't want u to kno was so u didn't think he was cheating on you, i wouldn't look too much into it if i were u, he has probably cganged 4 the better since meeting u. But never rule it out as a possibility, if he starts acting strange, confront him but i wouldn't be to worried though, if he is marrying u then he is serious about u and probably isn't cheating.
Advice on a relationship problem?
my g/f and i have not been on good terms latly at all. we have only been together about 2 months but before that we were together for nearly a year. we broke up for about 4 months and things were total hell between us. we hated eachother and nothing seemed to make it better until i got a new g/f and she ammediatly wanted me back. so we ended up back together but things are misserable. we both want this relationship to work out but i have no idea how to make things work. can anyone think of a way that could make things better? i dont know what to do i want to be able to talk to her today and make things better but she is so moody and that is one of our biggest problems. also she doesnt like that i smoke which brings problems. she thinks that sex just gives us so many problems and that if we do it less things will get better. i dont understand that at all and no matter what that doesnt change but if someone can agree with her and tell me how i can stop that. just any advice please.Advice on a relationship problem?
Would two be willing to consider couple's counselling. it sounds like you have a lot of stuff between you. Sometimes having a neutral third party can help you to put things into perspective.Advice on a relationship problem?
I have a feeling that she loves you, but doesn't want to be with you, but the thoughts of you with another woman makes her so scared the only way to keep it from happening is to be with you. It's not good to be in an unhealthy relationship.
I think she wishes you hadn't gotten back together but she daren't break up with you a second time.acne scars
Would two be willing to consider couple's counselling. it sounds like you have a lot of stuff between you. Sometimes having a neutral third party can help you to put things into perspective.Advice on a relationship problem?
I have a feeling that she loves you, but doesn't want to be with you, but the thoughts of you with another woman makes her so scared the only way to keep it from happening is to be with you. It's not good to be in an unhealthy relationship.
I think she wishes you hadn't gotten back together but she daren't break up with you a second time.
Advice for a relationship?
I am in my late 40s and my love interest is in his mid-50s. I have a colorful past of many men, and he has a color past and present of many women. I have been involved with 47 men, and his total of women is in the 9-hundreds. I can let go of his past if he can provide a clean bill of health, but he cannot let go of my past - as it is always the main topic of our conversation. I have admitted that I made mistakes ealier in my life, but he cannot let that go. I need advice on how to try to work through this problem because I do not want to lose him
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Long story short, my wife and I are currently separated. Have been for 7 months. See recently got out of a relationship where the guy she was dating all of a sudden went from making future plans to he couldnt be with her. Hasnt called or emailed her since. She was very lonely, and asked that I came down. After spending the weekend together, she openly told me, she wants to try to rekindle things with our marriage, but is unsure if she can fall back in love with me. Ive openly told her (even previous to her recent breakup) that, I want to do everything in my power, to make us work. I here because I dont want to miss a chance, the only one I may be given to restore our marriage. This weekend, she has had times where she gets down, she even told me she has urges to call him, email him, for some type of closure. She even talks about him, Me %26amp; Greg this, One time Greg did... she has pretty much stated she is now in love with him, no longer with me.
I love her, I want to be with her. Am I openly doors to get hurt?
Today, she even asked if I've ever contacted him? In all honesty I said no, why?
It crossed her mind, That I spoke to him, and thats why he left her abruptly.
I'm here to comfort her, but I also see more. I'm also afraid, after she is back to normal, that she wont be able to fall in love with me.
What if he comes back, and says he lied to protect her, and said he wanted to be with her?. Where will that leave me? Ive asked her, and she says she wouldnt go back.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
You sound like such a sweet and kind man. Why would you want to put yourself through this? I know you love her, but it sounds like she isn't returning those feelings toward you at all. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for what you are now, not what they want you to become. Good luck to youAdvice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Dude, wow. Soul search. I understand you want your marriage to work but she is saying she doesn't love you. Do you really want that? Are you going to be able to trust her? Will you continue to be her doormat? She knows she has you and has all of the power. She says whether you go or stay. If you are willing to put up with this, then go for it. Will you feel resentment if she is not what you want her to be? If not, there are others out there. Your in a bad place. If she loves this Greg why would she not go back, if he came back? You need to make a commitment to each other and both of you stick to it. It will be the only way it will work. Good luck.
Your wife is totally confused, that's what happens when you commit adultery, you don't know what's real, and what's not. What I think is terribly sad is that she had an affair to begin with. What's even worse is the way she takes your love for granted.. She is willing to come back to you only because she can't handle being alone. Her heart is with this other loser.
Do you care so little about yourself that you're okay to be with someone that's always thinking about another man? Do you think that if you make love to her she won't be wishing you were this other guy? Don't you deserve better than that? Don't you think you can do better than that?
Why don't you at least make her do something to earn a second chance?
If you don't then she will hang around only until she meets the next sucker.
She's a cheater, and you deserve so much better. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I don't even think she knows what love is, it's not hot sex..
See a counselor for you. Talk to the counselor about your desire to get back with a woman that even admits she is not in love with you.
I understand you love her and want to be with her but under these circumstances you would be totally disrespecting yourself and in denial about the reality of your situation.
If she is serious about trying to get back with you, then ask her to go to couples counselling with you and see if it helps..........if she doesn't want to then at least you know she has no intention of trying.
I love her, I want to be with her. Am I openly doors to get hurt?
Today, she even asked if I've ever contacted him? In all honesty I said no, why?
It crossed her mind, That I spoke to him, and thats why he left her abruptly.
I'm here to comfort her, but I also see more. I'm also afraid, after she is back to normal, that she wont be able to fall in love with me.
What if he comes back, and says he lied to protect her, and said he wanted to be with her?. Where will that leave me? Ive asked her, and she says she wouldnt go back.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
You sound like such a sweet and kind man. Why would you want to put yourself through this? I know you love her, but it sounds like she isn't returning those feelings toward you at all. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for what you are now, not what they want you to become. Good luck to youAdvice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Dude, wow. Soul search. I understand you want your marriage to work but she is saying she doesn't love you. Do you really want that? Are you going to be able to trust her? Will you continue to be her doormat? She knows she has you and has all of the power. She says whether you go or stay. If you are willing to put up with this, then go for it. Will you feel resentment if she is not what you want her to be? If not, there are others out there. Your in a bad place. If she loves this Greg why would she not go back, if he came back? You need to make a commitment to each other and both of you stick to it. It will be the only way it will work. Good luck.
Your wife is totally confused, that's what happens when you commit adultery, you don't know what's real, and what's not. What I think is terribly sad is that she had an affair to begin with. What's even worse is the way she takes your love for granted.. She is willing to come back to you only because she can't handle being alone. Her heart is with this other loser.
Do you care so little about yourself that you're okay to be with someone that's always thinking about another man? Do you think that if you make love to her she won't be wishing you were this other guy? Don't you deserve better than that? Don't you think you can do better than that?
Why don't you at least make her do something to earn a second chance?
If you don't then she will hang around only until she meets the next sucker.
She's a cheater, and you deserve so much better. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I don't even think she knows what love is, it's not hot sex..
See a counselor for you. Talk to the counselor about your desire to get back with a woman that even admits she is not in love with you.
I understand you love her and want to be with her but under these circumstances you would be totally disrespecting yourself and in denial about the reality of your situation.
If she is serious about trying to get back with you, then ask her to go to couples counselling with you and see if it helps..........if she doesn't want to then at least you know she has no intention of trying.
Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
I'm 16 years old and so is my new girlfriend. She's the first girlfriend I've ever had and she's my first everything (kiss and so-forth).
I have been at camp for a month and she is now gone also, I haven't seen her in almost two months and I have to wait another few weeks. After all of this time away from her I have become insane about her. The day I came back from camp was the day she left, so I only talked to her on the phone and was in contact for just a few hours.
I told her I was crazy about her and everything. I'm wild for her. The thing is that I don't want to become controlling over her and I don't ever want to make us be exclusive. On top of that I want to never feel the need that she is my only happiness.
I want to stay how I am now, very passionate for her, but never forget what really means the most to me.
Please give me any advice for this relationship.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day!Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
We all go through that during our teenage years. We mistake puppy love for the real deal. You are obviously still young and have a lot ahead of you. My number one advice for you would be to stay busy. Whether that is sports, student orgs or friendships, it does not really matter. Maintain your focus and stay level-headed. The last thing you want several years down the road is to regret your decisions.Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
it's too early to assess the relationship.you can mail, call and be in touch always. now, try to study her. and let her know you too well. by doing this fusion takes place and if serious relationship turns out to be fine.other wise just remain as friends. all the best for a true honest relationship.
remember - you're 16.
don't bring up the ';love'; thing unless you KNOW it's going to last for a really, really long time - it hurts so much more when love is brought up and then it ends.
you always think your first girlfriend/boyfriend is the best thing ever and you always get head over heels.
but, as for your question - try not to get jealous. i mean, a little jealousy never hurt anyone really, when it's small and it doesn't get in the way.
2nd. don't call too many times, but just enough to show her you care about her and want to know how she's doing
3rd. you don't always need to know what she's doing
4th. let her have some friends! don't be the only person that she hangs out with, and don't have her be the only person you hang out with.
5th. tell her how you feel, but not all the time - don't freak her out!
but, this is all based on most girls i know. it all depends on preference. you OBVIOUSLY know her more than i do.
i hope you guys last!
you're welcome, and i hope you're day is beautiful too!
I have been at camp for a month and she is now gone also, I haven't seen her in almost two months and I have to wait another few weeks. After all of this time away from her I have become insane about her. The day I came back from camp was the day she left, so I only talked to her on the phone and was in contact for just a few hours.
I told her I was crazy about her and everything. I'm wild for her. The thing is that I don't want to become controlling over her and I don't ever want to make us be exclusive. On top of that I want to never feel the need that she is my only happiness.
I want to stay how I am now, very passionate for her, but never forget what really means the most to me.
Please give me any advice for this relationship.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day!Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
We all go through that during our teenage years. We mistake puppy love for the real deal. You are obviously still young and have a lot ahead of you. My number one advice for you would be to stay busy. Whether that is sports, student orgs or friendships, it does not really matter. Maintain your focus and stay level-headed. The last thing you want several years down the road is to regret your decisions.Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
it's too early to assess the relationship.you can mail, call and be in touch always. now, try to study her. and let her know you too well. by doing this fusion takes place and if serious relationship turns out to be fine.other wise just remain as friends. all the best for a true honest relationship.
remember - you're 16.
don't bring up the ';love'; thing unless you KNOW it's going to last for a really, really long time - it hurts so much more when love is brought up and then it ends.
you always think your first girlfriend/boyfriend is the best thing ever and you always get head over heels.
but, as for your question - try not to get jealous. i mean, a little jealousy never hurt anyone really, when it's small and it doesn't get in the way.
2nd. don't call too many times, but just enough to show her you care about her and want to know how she's doing
3rd. you don't always need to know what she's doing
4th. let her have some friends! don't be the only person that she hangs out with, and don't have her be the only person you hang out with.
5th. tell her how you feel, but not all the time - don't freak her out!
but, this is all based on most girls i know. it all depends on preference. you OBVIOUSLY know her more than i do.
i hope you guys last!
you're welcome, and i hope you're day is beautiful too!
Advice on distant relationship please?
i grew up w/everyone around me in long distance..and i juz witnessed that long distance relationships never clicked...
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!
Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
i have been dating my boyfriend for four years, but within those four years we have broke up two times. the first time we broke up i was so heart broken and knew that this guy has been flirting with me and wouldnt leave me alone, he told me how i didnt deserve the bf i had because cheated on me. so after a month i started hanging out with him. alot. and i realized that i liked him alot, but i was still in love with my ex. the guy that i was seeing was fun and knew me so well, so fast. . . and just always gave me this amazing feeling. but all i knew was my ex, he was my first kiss, my only kiss, i lost my virginity to him. so when me and this guy kissed i was devastated. it hurt so bad that i could have such strong feelings for him. and same for me, he has never felt this way about any other girl all of his guy friends said so, he was head over heels it was so obvious. i just couldnt do it. so i called it off. and he was just not the same anymore. he would call me and tell me i didnt deserve my ex and he could treat me better. but me, being me, went back to my ex. but i still have very strong feelings towards him. so i stay away from him as much as possible. what is this whole situation? what advice do you have for me ? something.. i need answersAdvice on my relationship? what should i do?
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.
Guys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
um well i think its hot when guys
*are funny
* sweet,nice
* smart but not a nerd
* sensitive
*sounds weird but... overprotective because i know they care about me not like you cant go anywhere without me. but like if i guys being mean to me he stands up for me and makes sure everyone is nice to me and he takes me everywhere and he kisses and holds me
* goes places with me. like if i want to go to the mall you can come with me and if i want to get my nails done , you come to compliment them
* doesnt whine. like if we are out and you say something like ugh .. this is boring this sucks bla bla bla. it is annoying
theses tips will help you in any relationshipGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
Hey! My name is Holly too and I feel we would be best friends if we knew eachother! :P And we are both CrAzY! Please e-mail me!!! i8chocolate3@yahoo.com. THANX! :DGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
yea right and soon as you get someone like that you will be bitching that he is too nice.what the hell is wrong with you women.acne scars
*are funny
* sweet,nice
* smart but not a nerd
* sensitive
*sounds weird but... overprotective because i know they care about me not like you cant go anywhere without me. but like if i guys being mean to me he stands up for me and makes sure everyone is nice to me and he takes me everywhere and he kisses and holds me
* goes places with me. like if i want to go to the mall you can come with me and if i want to get my nails done , you come to compliment them
* doesnt whine. like if we are out and you say something like ugh .. this is boring this sucks bla bla bla. it is annoying
theses tips will help you in any relationshipGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
Hey! My name is Holly too and I feel we would be best friends if we knew eachother! :P And we are both CrAzY! Please e-mail me!!! i8chocolate3@yahoo.com. THANX! :DGuys. need advice on a relationship? i got perfect advice to win over ANY girl?
yea right and soon as you get someone like that you will be bitching that he is too nice.what the hell is wrong with you women.
Advice on gay relationship?
Were going on 3 years together, and having a big gay wedding in March. Its a big to-do since we live in a small town where everybody is in everbody elses business. The other day I was hanging out with my partners sister, I told her how we had went to the attorney, signed powers of attorneys, afadavids forthis and that, a will and put all or assets together in a Trust to secure and somewhat legalize our relationship before the bi wedding. She then tells me how the whole family is so happy he and I are together despite their religious views, and that he brothe (my fiance) is a completely different person with me, that he really loves me. I ask how he was so different? Her answer was that he was a ';big player'; and '; big cheater'; and never wanted to settle down. I asked why she felt that he was a big cheater? she then said ';well, its not that he had a big problem with it, but he dated losers, I woulda cheated on them too!'; The problem for me is that he was open and upfront about his past, that he was no angel. I did ask him though if hed cheated on his boyfriends, and since he had only been in 2 serious relationships, both lasting less than 2 years, he said, no he didnt cheat and that he believes in monogamy. Now Im hearing otherwise from his own sister! I asked him about this, he still says he wasnt a cheater, and isnt a cheater and that he is going to ask her why she said that. hes been totally honest about everything since weve been together, should this be a red flag?, even though our relationship is great, I dont like lies. Any advice here?Advice on gay relationship?
Maybe she is just wrong? Its good you asked him about it. Just because she thinks he cheated does not mean he did.Advice on gay relationship?
i would just believe him if he cheated why shouldn't he tell you
My advice: do what you can to get the story cleared up, but don't get cold feet. If he's been honest w/ you so far you have no reason to suspect that he'll be dishonest in the future. You are more armed than anyone else he's been in a relationship w/ and that means something. That he's willing to trust you w/ himself and his life. Very important for a life partner. So take a step back and realize that it may just be a difference in perception. See if you can get more facts after his discussion w/ his sister and prepare yourself to not let his past keep you from a bright future together. It seems to me you're already off to a great start. So warm those cold feet up against his hot bod, and you have my heartfelt congratulations and well wishes for a long and happy marriage to the man you love.
He might be ashamed of his cheating and may have stopped, the reason he didn't want u to kno was so u didn't think he was cheating on you, i wouldn't look too much into it if i were u, he has probably cganged 4 the better since meeting u. But never rule it out as a possibility, if he starts acting strange, confront him but i wouldn't be to worried though, if he is marrying u then he is serious about u and probably isn't cheating.
Maybe she is just wrong? Its good you asked him about it. Just because she thinks he cheated does not mean he did.Advice on gay relationship?
i would just believe him if he cheated why shouldn't he tell you
My advice: do what you can to get the story cleared up, but don't get cold feet. If he's been honest w/ you so far you have no reason to suspect that he'll be dishonest in the future. You are more armed than anyone else he's been in a relationship w/ and that means something. That he's willing to trust you w/ himself and his life. Very important for a life partner. So take a step back and realize that it may just be a difference in perception. See if you can get more facts after his discussion w/ his sister and prepare yourself to not let his past keep you from a bright future together. It seems to me you're already off to a great start. So warm those cold feet up against his hot bod, and you have my heartfelt congratulations and well wishes for a long and happy marriage to the man you love.
He might be ashamed of his cheating and may have stopped, the reason he didn't want u to kno was so u didn't think he was cheating on you, i wouldn't look too much into it if i were u, he has probably cganged 4 the better since meeting u. But never rule it out as a possibility, if he starts acting strange, confront him but i wouldn't be to worried though, if he is marrying u then he is serious about u and probably isn't cheating.
Advice on a relationship problem?
my g/f and i have not been on good terms latly at all. we have only been together about 2 months but before that we were together for nearly a year. we broke up for about 4 months and things were total hell between us. we hated eachother and nothing seemed to make it better until i got a new g/f and she ammediatly wanted me back. so we ended up back together but things are misserable. we both want this relationship to work out but i have no idea how to make things work. can anyone think of a way that could make things better? i dont know what to do i want to be able to talk to her today and make things better but she is so moody and that is one of our biggest problems. also she doesnt like that i smoke which brings problems. she thinks that sex just gives us so many problems and that if we do it less things will get better. i dont understand that at all and no matter what that doesnt change but if someone can agree with her and tell me how i can stop that. just any advice please.Advice on a relationship problem?
Would two be willing to consider couple's counselling. it sounds like you have a lot of stuff between you. Sometimes having a neutral third party can help you to put things into perspective.Advice on a relationship problem?
I have a feeling that she loves you, but doesn't want to be with you, but the thoughts of you with another woman makes her so scared the only way to keep it from happening is to be with you. It's not good to be in an unhealthy relationship.
I think she wishes you hadn't gotten back together but she daren't break up with you a second time.
Would two be willing to consider couple's counselling. it sounds like you have a lot of stuff between you. Sometimes having a neutral third party can help you to put things into perspective.Advice on a relationship problem?
I have a feeling that she loves you, but doesn't want to be with you, but the thoughts of you with another woman makes her so scared the only way to keep it from happening is to be with you. It's not good to be in an unhealthy relationship.
I think she wishes you hadn't gotten back together but she daren't break up with you a second time.
Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
i have been dating my boyfriend for four years, but within those four years we have broke up two times. the first time we broke up i was so heart broken and knew that this guy has been flirting with me and wouldnt leave me alone, he told me how i didnt deserve the bf i had because cheated on me. so after a month i started hanging out with him. alot. and i realized that i liked him alot, but i was still in love with my ex. the guy that i was seeing was fun and knew me so well, so fast. . . and just always gave me this amazing feeling. but all i knew was my ex, he was my first kiss, my only kiss, i lost my virginity to him. so when me and this guy kissed i was devastated. it hurt so bad that i could have such strong feelings for him. and same for me, he has never felt this way about any other girl all of his guy friends said so, he was head over heels it was so obvious. i just couldnt do it. so i called it off. and he was just not the same anymore. he would call me and tell me i didnt deserve my ex and he could treat me better. but me, being me, went back to my ex. but i still have very strong feelings towards him. so i stay away from him as much as possible. what is this whole situation? what advice do you have for me ? something.. i need answersAdvice on my relationship? what should i do?
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.
You shouldn't deny what you heart tells you. I know when you lose your virginity to one guy, and than your not with him it can tear you apart and make you feel bad about yourself. But just because your boyfriend (you've been with for 4 years) got there before this guy you really like doesn't mean he can't be with you now, that is if you want him to be. And besides that the guy you were with for four years cheated on you...you do deserve better than that. Ask yourself what this guy wants that really likes you...does he want something truly meningful? Only you know, but I would definetly say just because you lost your virginity to this guy you've been with for four years doesn't mean you have to spend iternity with him...it's a part of life we have to deal with, and you will be truly happen when you do what your heart tells you to do!
Hope that Helps You!!! ;)Advice on my relationship? what should i do?
apparently your ex and you were not meant to be together. i know how you feel though ive been through the same thing. it turned out better with the second person (4 years now). trust me ;)
There is nothing to cry on.
You gave him everything and he left you.
Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
I'm 16 years old and so is my new girlfriend. She's the first girlfriend I've ever had and she's my first everything (kiss and so-forth).
I have been at camp for a month and she is now gone also, I haven't seen her in almost two months and I have to wait another few weeks. After all of this time away from her I have become insane about her. The day I came back from camp was the day she left, so I only talked to her on the phone and was in contact for just a few hours.
I told her I was crazy about her and everything. I'm wild for her. The thing is that I don't want to become controlling over her and I don't ever want to make us be exclusive. On top of that I want to never feel the need that she is my only happiness.
I want to stay how I am now, very passionate for her, but never forget what really means the most to me.
Please give me any advice for this relationship.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day!Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
We all go through that during our teenage years. We mistake puppy love for the real deal. You are obviously still young and have a lot ahead of you. My number one advice for you would be to stay busy. Whether that is sports, student orgs or friendships, it does not really matter. Maintain your focus and stay level-headed. The last thing you want several years down the road is to regret your decisions.Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
it's too early to assess the relationship.you can mail, call and be in touch always. now, try to study her. and let her know you too well. by doing this fusion takes place and if serious relationship turns out to be fine.other wise just remain as friends. all the best for a true honest relationship.
remember - you're 16.
don't bring up the ';love'; thing unless you KNOW it's going to last for a really, really long time - it hurts so much more when love is brought up and then it ends.
you always think your first girlfriend/boyfriend is the best thing ever and you always get head over heels.
but, as for your question - try not to get jealous. i mean, a little jealousy never hurt anyone really, when it's small and it doesn't get in the way.
2nd. don't call too many times, but just enough to show her you care about her and want to know how she's doing
3rd. you don't always need to know what she's doing
4th. let her have some friends! don't be the only person that she hangs out with, and don't have her be the only person you hang out with.
5th. tell her how you feel, but not all the time - don't freak her out!
but, this is all based on most girls i know. it all depends on preference. you OBVIOUSLY know her more than i do.
i hope you guys last!
you're welcome, and i hope you're day is beautiful too!
I have been at camp for a month and she is now gone also, I haven't seen her in almost two months and I have to wait another few weeks. After all of this time away from her I have become insane about her. The day I came back from camp was the day she left, so I only talked to her on the phone and was in contact for just a few hours.
I told her I was crazy about her and everything. I'm wild for her. The thing is that I don't want to become controlling over her and I don't ever want to make us be exclusive. On top of that I want to never feel the need that she is my only happiness.
I want to stay how I am now, very passionate for her, but never forget what really means the most to me.
Please give me any advice for this relationship.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day!Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
We all go through that during our teenage years. We mistake puppy love for the real deal. You are obviously still young and have a lot ahead of you. My number one advice for you would be to stay busy. Whether that is sports, student orgs or friendships, it does not really matter. Maintain your focus and stay level-headed. The last thing you want several years down the road is to regret your decisions.Advice on new relationship - crazy about her but don't want to get stuck!?
it's too early to assess the relationship.you can mail, call and be in touch always. now, try to study her. and let her know you too well. by doing this fusion takes place and if serious relationship turns out to be fine.other wise just remain as friends. all the best for a true honest relationship.
remember - you're 16.
don't bring up the ';love'; thing unless you KNOW it's going to last for a really, really long time - it hurts so much more when love is brought up and then it ends.
you always think your first girlfriend/boyfriend is the best thing ever and you always get head over heels.
but, as for your question - try not to get jealous. i mean, a little jealousy never hurt anyone really, when it's small and it doesn't get in the way.
2nd. don't call too many times, but just enough to show her you care about her and want to know how she's doing
3rd. you don't always need to know what she's doing
4th. let her have some friends! don't be the only person that she hangs out with, and don't have her be the only person you hang out with.
5th. tell her how you feel, but not all the time - don't freak her out!
but, this is all based on most girls i know. it all depends on preference. you OBVIOUSLY know her more than i do.
i hope you guys last!
you're welcome, and i hope you're day is beautiful too!
Advice for a relationship?
I am in my late 40s and my love interest is in his mid-50s. I have a colorful past of many men, and he has a color past and present of many women. I have been involved with 47 men, and his total of women is in the 9-hundreds. I can let go of his past if he can provide a clean bill of health, but he cannot let go of my past - as it is always the main topic of our conversation. I have admitted that I made mistakes ealier in my life, but he cannot let that go. I need advice on how to try to work through this problem because I do not want to lose him
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Thanks.Advice for a relationship?
Give him a while. If he loves you too, he'll get over his insecurity. Wait it out, but if you get tired of waiting, you may want to consider a new ';love interest.';
Advice on distant relationship please?
i grew up w/everyone around me in long distance..and i juz witnessed that long distance relationships never clicked...
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!acne scars
i really love this guy and he kinda changed how i looked in my biggest fear%26gt;long distance relationship..
we're nearly a yr in this situatution and it's sometimes getting out of hand.. He's busy with his work, and Im starting to build a new life... and God bless the internet for the communication..but let's face it...actions speaks louder than words!im trying soooo hard to put everything in words..but sometimes,i just cant..i do love and trust him still,but there's just times that really gets into my nerves... sometimes it's just kinda boring...We're both loyal and everything..but time changes people..and i dont know if we'll gonna have a happy ending...it's just that my situation sucks..any advice how to put up flames in this kind of relationship?Advice on distant relationship please?
My opinion is not to give up on a long distance relationship. I am not giving you false hope. A lot of people say they are never going to work, but they ignored the fact that there are ones that actually worked. Ask yourself, why can't mine be those that actually work out?
I believe that as long as both of you love each other, it will work.
My advice is to fix a few days in a week, say: tues, thurs, sat and a fix time to log on to the internet, with programmes such as skype and see each other via webcam. Invest in a good webcam to see each other clearer. That would be the closest you 2 can get together.
Give surprises. You don't have to wait till special occasions to give presents. Send him a card any time, to tell him how much you appreciate him, miss him and love him. If time permits on both side, travel to see each other, or go on holidays in a different country just for a few days.
You can undertake drastic measures too if you are willing to find a job in his working country. But I know it requires tremendous sacrifice and courage. But in a way, you would know how much you love him if the opportunity comes for you to work there and if you wanna take the risk.
Write blogs. Share a blog and blog about your daily lives together with him. At least you know what each other is doing every day and how you 2 feel every day.
If you have friends on long distance relationship, seek advice from them too. Or consult those love guru books on maintaining a relationship.
But ultimately, if both of you love each other deep enough, love will prevail.
I wish you all the best.Advice on distant relationship please?
at the best of times love is a war,fighting and then waving white flags and nursing each others wounds.Feels good doesnt it though the hugs after a fight but is it worth the battle to get the reward.
when its long distance those hugs become less theyre just words on a screen or paper n you got it in a nutshell its actions not words that count,i recon the battle can't be won,reading a book or getting deeply into a movie will get you all that you get from long distance,short sweet bits of what should be a constant sorry.
physical contact is big part of relationship, eventually it will wear on you my advice is, to either move there or he moves back to you, unless that happens it will not work out.
maybe you should make a suprise visit. . .
Long distance doesn't work, so what you need to do, if you really really like that guy, is to make it short distance. As in, arrange for a get-together. I'd suggest neutral ground (e.g. city or country both of you haven't been to), and bring along a trusted friend.
Dont put your self thru a L-D relation **** its not going to work.
They NEVER DO!
i think u r young. i think he is young. ppl only get to be young once, ok twice, and thats when ur really old and its just a right. u said it ur self u r starting to build a new life. so did u need permission?? b friends for now, still do the intertnet thing. if it was ment to b then it will b. until then live life to the fullest....u only get one.........dont waste it!!!!
Advice on my relationship...?
Im 19 and dating a 28 year old. He is the sweetest, most perfect guy for me... EXCEPT- He works at a restaurant, plays halo almost everyday, and is a virgo. He's not necessarily lazy, but he is lazy with his dreams and goals. Ive tried talking to him about all of this but he seems to just say that he ';knows and wants to go back to school.';
I can totally see myself with him in 50 years but those few things are holding me back. I want a life for myself and I feel like he has to step up to the plate and be somebody with his life...
What should I do? Whats some advice on how to approach the situation. I really like him. thanks a bunch!Advice on my relationship...?
I'm used to giving long answers to questions, but my answer is pretty simple here.
Since you're only 19, give it a little time and see how things progress. If you find one day that you're 21 and that he's camping out for the next Halo instead of going to work, then you still have the whole prime of your youth to move on if you choose to. If one day you find that you're 21 and he's in school pursuing a career, then you've done yourself a great favor by staying with someone you clearly care so much about.
You should also ask him for defined goals. Where does he want to be in 20 years? What does he see himself doing? Of equal importance, try and gauge whether he feels the same way about you as you feel about him.
And just out of curiosity, challenge him to give up Halo for two or three weeks. See if he can commit to something that would improve his life.Advice on my relationship...?
your a girl he is 28 oh come on you can get good boy better than him
and did he ever told that he likes you and be sure that he is not married
Don't be late.Propose him immediately.Or you must be the loser.
hmm, he seems to be procrastinating
talk to him what's holding him back from going to school, what does he want to pursue....if he cannot give a decent answer to that,,,,,,then it seems that this guy isnt interested in improving his way of life
at 28, things should be going his way in terms of career, time is passing him by, and most of his age group are already making names for themselves in the companies they are in. he's gonna be left behind.
and you need to decide / determine if you wish to be with a guy like that in the next 50 years or so.....
I can totally see myself with him in 50 years but those few things are holding me back. I want a life for myself and I feel like he has to step up to the plate and be somebody with his life...
What should I do? Whats some advice on how to approach the situation. I really like him. thanks a bunch!Advice on my relationship...?
I'm used to giving long answers to questions, but my answer is pretty simple here.
Since you're only 19, give it a little time and see how things progress. If you find one day that you're 21 and that he's camping out for the next Halo instead of going to work, then you still have the whole prime of your youth to move on if you choose to. If one day you find that you're 21 and he's in school pursuing a career, then you've done yourself a great favor by staying with someone you clearly care so much about.
You should also ask him for defined goals. Where does he want to be in 20 years? What does he see himself doing? Of equal importance, try and gauge whether he feels the same way about you as you feel about him.
And just out of curiosity, challenge him to give up Halo for two or three weeks. See if he can commit to something that would improve his life.Advice on my relationship...?
your a girl he is 28 oh come on you can get good boy better than him
and did he ever told that he likes you and be sure that he is not married
Don't be late.Propose him immediately.Or you must be the loser.
hmm, he seems to be procrastinating
talk to him what's holding him back from going to school, what does he want to pursue....if he cannot give a decent answer to that,,,,,,then it seems that this guy isnt interested in improving his way of life
at 28, things should be going his way in terms of career, time is passing him by, and most of his age group are already making names for themselves in the companies they are in. he's gonna be left behind.
and you need to decide / determine if you wish to be with a guy like that in the next 50 years or so.....
Advice on my relationship?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years and we live together. We fight a lot at least once a week if not more. Last summer we had a lot of trouble and almost broke up but, we worked it out. Then in December i moved out because i was tired of everything. We still stayed together but that wasn't any easier, we still fought just as much if not worse because we werent living together. Then in May he kept asking me to come back and i really didn't want to.. i kind of liked to be on my own. But i came back.. A few weeks ago he hurt his back working and i out on disability.. and its been rough. I have picked up some over time at work to compensate for the money he is not bringing it and ive felt unappreciated and very unhappy. I feel like he is just not doing anything.even the things he can do.He also has me out and about going here and doing things right when i get home when i really just want to relax. It makes me feel like he doesn't care. So i told him i wanted to move out.. He took it very hard and since then he has been doing everything he can to make me happy..My b-day was on thursday and he went all out. But he had never done anything like that before so it was weird to me. When i told him i felt like he was just kissing up, he said that he realized that he had not been treating me the way he should have been..like he had a wake up call or something.. but i dont know if i can believe that he is really going to change. Should i give it another chance and believe the things he is doing? Or should i continue to get my own place and try to still be together without living together?
He has said this a few times before thats why i font know if i can believe him. Please help..
Advice on my relationship?
Well you said he's said that before, and he is not
willing to change.
Get your own space, and your own life.Advice on my relationship?
It must be hard living that way.Sometimes relationships have their ups and downs.If you love him,let him go.And if he keeps coming back to you and you see that he has changed alot for the things he does to you unfairly,then it's real love.Love him the way you do,look him in the eyes,and tell him how you feel...If he doesn't want to listen to you,tell him sorry but you want to find a better way for yourself.Life is wayyy too short to waste it on a person who doesn't let you live...Hope that helps.
Well I have been where you are. I can tell you this...give him time. I have been with my man for 9 years and honey the two of us have been through it and through it. And through it again. We have both done things that most people would be like ';Oh, man I can't believe you are staying together after that'; But you know what? We love each other and let me also tell you this,everyone in a relationship fights and argues. We get into alot. But we always make up.He's hurt and can't work, my man has been out of work too and I had to pick up the slack, and it's hard, but you have to understand, men are like little kids. They need to be taken care of just like kids do. I know sometimes you feel like ';Dang, can't you do anything for yourself?!';Just think avout it like this, what if it was you that was hurt? Wouldn't he take care of you like you are doing for him? I'm sure he would .Everybody likes their freedom, but if you are going to move out, there is no way the two of you can still be together after living together and then you move. It will never work. If you want to live on your own maybe it should be just that, on your own with no man. Sit down and really think ';do I really want to leave,do I not love him enough to stay?'; Whatever you tell yourself, I wish you good luck, but I say give it another try. If you really love him it will all work itself out. GOOD LUCK!
I do have to wonder how much of a role the disability is playing in your renewed urge to leave. I'm not denying that it's been rough on you, but he's the one who's injured: he may be depressed and not thinking all that clearly about what he can do as opposed to what he can't. If the problem persists, that's one thing, but I think you need to honestly ask yourself how much of your irritation with him at the moment is at what he could be doing in spite of the setback and how much is misdirected anger at the situation in general.
That said, I do think you probably should go through with your plans to move out, but emphasize to him that you don't want it to be the end of the relationship. You just need more space so you can think through things and feel less like his caretaker than his partner. Couples counseling might be a good idea, too; there are low-cost resources out there if you look for them. Good luck.
Get your own place, but be with him, and if it don't work out, you have your own place.
if he havent changed by now he wont
I think you should give him a chance maybe he did realize that he didn't appreciate you before and now you are showing him how much you really care about him because you are there when he is most needing you. Sometimes it takes awhile for someone to realize that and maybe this was his wake up call. Just be there for him and let him treat you nice don't be negative about it people do change, life is about risks. Good luck.
He has said this a few times before thats why i font know if i can believe him. Please help..
Advice on my relationship?
Well you said he's said that before, and he is not
willing to change.
Get your own space, and your own life.Advice on my relationship?
It must be hard living that way.Sometimes relationships have their ups and downs.If you love him,let him go.And if he keeps coming back to you and you see that he has changed alot for the things he does to you unfairly,then it's real love.Love him the way you do,look him in the eyes,and tell him how you feel...If he doesn't want to listen to you,tell him sorry but you want to find a better way for yourself.Life is wayyy too short to waste it on a person who doesn't let you live...Hope that helps.
Well I have been where you are. I can tell you this...give him time. I have been with my man for 9 years and honey the two of us have been through it and through it. And through it again. We have both done things that most people would be like ';Oh, man I can't believe you are staying together after that'; But you know what? We love each other and let me also tell you this,everyone in a relationship fights and argues. We get into alot. But we always make up.He's hurt and can't work, my man has been out of work too and I had to pick up the slack, and it's hard, but you have to understand, men are like little kids. They need to be taken care of just like kids do. I know sometimes you feel like ';Dang, can't you do anything for yourself?!';Just think avout it like this, what if it was you that was hurt? Wouldn't he take care of you like you are doing for him? I'm sure he would .Everybody likes their freedom, but if you are going to move out, there is no way the two of you can still be together after living together and then you move. It will never work. If you want to live on your own maybe it should be just that, on your own with no man. Sit down and really think ';do I really want to leave,do I not love him enough to stay?'; Whatever you tell yourself, I wish you good luck, but I say give it another try. If you really love him it will all work itself out. GOOD LUCK!
I do have to wonder how much of a role the disability is playing in your renewed urge to leave. I'm not denying that it's been rough on you, but he's the one who's injured: he may be depressed and not thinking all that clearly about what he can do as opposed to what he can't. If the problem persists, that's one thing, but I think you need to honestly ask yourself how much of your irritation with him at the moment is at what he could be doing in spite of the setback and how much is misdirected anger at the situation in general.
That said, I do think you probably should go through with your plans to move out, but emphasize to him that you don't want it to be the end of the relationship. You just need more space so you can think through things and feel less like his caretaker than his partner. Couples counseling might be a good idea, too; there are low-cost resources out there if you look for them. Good luck.
Get your own place, but be with him, and if it don't work out, you have your own place.
if he havent changed by now he wont
I think you should give him a chance maybe he did realize that he didn't appreciate you before and now you are showing him how much you really care about him because you are there when he is most needing you. Sometimes it takes awhile for someone to realize that and maybe this was his wake up call. Just be there for him and let him treat you nice don't be negative about it people do change, life is about risks. Good luck.
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