Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?

Long story short, my wife and I are currently separated. Have been for 7 months. See recently got out of a relationship where the guy she was dating all of a sudden went from making future plans to he couldnt be with her. Hasnt called or emailed her since. She was very lonely, and asked that I came down. After spending the weekend together, she openly told me, she wants to try to rekindle things with our marriage, but is unsure if she can fall back in love with me. Ive openly told her (even previous to her recent breakup) that, I want to do everything in my power, to make us work. I here because I dont want to miss a chance, the only one I may be given to restore our marriage. This weekend, she has had times where she gets down, she even told me she has urges to call him, email him, for some type of closure. She even talks about him, Me %26amp; Greg this, One time Greg did... she has pretty much stated she is now in love with him, no longer with me.





I love her, I want to be with her. Am I openly doors to get hurt?


Today, she even asked if I've ever contacted him? In all honesty I said no, why?


It crossed her mind, That I spoke to him, and thats why he left her abruptly.


I'm here to comfort her, but I also see more. I'm also afraid, after she is back to normal, that she wont be able to fall in love with me.





What if he comes back, and says he lied to protect her, and said he wanted to be with her?. Where will that leave me? Ive asked her, and she says she wouldnt go back.Advice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
You sound like such a sweet and kind man. Why would you want to put yourself through this? I know you love her, but it sounds like she isn't returning those feelings toward you at all. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for what you are now, not what they want you to become. Good luck to youAdvice Counseling Marriage Relationship Please :(?
Dude, wow. Soul search. I understand you want your marriage to work but she is saying she doesn't love you. Do you really want that? Are you going to be able to trust her? Will you continue to be her doormat? She knows she has you and has all of the power. She says whether you go or stay. If you are willing to put up with this, then go for it. Will you feel resentment if she is not what you want her to be? If not, there are others out there. Your in a bad place. If she loves this Greg why would she not go back, if he came back? You need to make a commitment to each other and both of you stick to it. It will be the only way it will work. Good luck.
Your wife is totally confused, that's what happens when you commit adultery, you don't know what's real, and what's not. What I think is terribly sad is that she had an affair to begin with. What's even worse is the way she takes your love for granted.. She is willing to come back to you only because she can't handle being alone. Her heart is with this other loser.





Do you care so little about yourself that you're okay to be with someone that's always thinking about another man? Do you think that if you make love to her she won't be wishing you were this other guy? Don't you deserve better than that? Don't you think you can do better than that?





Why don't you at least make her do something to earn a second chance?


If you don't then she will hang around only until she meets the next sucker.


She's a cheater, and you deserve so much better. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I don't even think she knows what love is, it's not hot sex..





See a counselor for you. Talk to the counselor about your desire to get back with a woman that even admits she is not in love with you.





I understand you love her and want to be with her but under these circumstances you would be totally disrespecting yourself and in denial about the reality of your situation.
If she is serious about trying to get back with you, then ask her to go to couples counselling with you and see if it helps..........if she doesn't want to then at least you know she has no intention of trying.