Advice/tips for relationship counseling?

I have been dating my boyfriend for four and a half years now. However, after moving in together over one year ago, I came to realize that there was a definite lack of balance in our household when it came to responsiblity. For example, I am working two jobs (1 full time, 1 part time), he is working 10 hours a week. We have barely been making ends meet and I think a lot of our bickering stems from financial woes. I am constantly concerned that our bills aren't going to get covered.





So...we had an explosive fight the other night over yet another money issue, and he ended up leaving for the night. When he came home, he suggested we go see a counselor together.





So, today is our first appointment. We have been to a couple's counselor before (when we FIRST moved in together) but then we felt better about our relationship and decided we were okay. But, now, with the recession and jobs being cut left and right (I've been threatened with a layoff three times now), the stress is even worse than before and we're forgetting everything we learned.





I am afraid that I am going to loseAdvice/tips for relationship counseling?
stay strong and get though this together. my husband and i went thru the same thing if ya'll break up over money remember money comes and goes but a great man doesnt come a dime a dozenAdvice/tips for relationship counseling?
Coucillors might mess it up more. Listen 2 him but dont imbibe his words. Reduce costs and try for personal talks with ur husband to improve matters.
Counseling is good for couples that can't talk issues out. Remember though what you want to both see is results. This takes patience, committment and desire on both ends. Working 10 hours is no escuse unless he is going to school full time to better himself during this down economy. Money issues will always be there even in good times and into old age until you die, unless you win the lottery. Even rich people stress about money as do us all so you are not alone. Sounds like depression might be involved here on one or both ends; I suggest you seek counseling for yourselves independently if that is the case. He needs to connect with you as a woman. Men have a harder time with this and with expressing emotions. I know from experience and still struggle with it with my wife. I have hear counseling can be harmful too with the wrong one so both go in with the understanding that it needs to work for you both, not just one. Expect to shop around for one that fits you both; i.e. when you bought your car, did you just buy the first one or compare??? Good luck!
You will be o.k. it is good that you both seek counsle when you need it or feel that it is needed just remember that it also costs money! try to buget and cut back even more then you already have. I was with a man for 10 years and thought if we needed counseling before marriage then we probably weren't going to make it, sure enough I caught him with my maid of honer... He probably isn't like thyat but if you two are having troubles now you will probably have them later the most important thing to remember is to communicate love unconditioanllly and just go witht he flow there will always be ups and downs and in life probably more downs then ups...
Everything you do at ';counseling'; you can do on your own without wasting all that money and time. It is called communicating.
sounds like you two are just looking for a referee which is what most couples are seeking in counceling.


counceling is not going to solve your problems....hard work and devotion will get it done though, and if he won't do that on his own, then who will? you need a self-starter girl..not some dude sitting at home playing video games.