Ok this is going to be long so bear with me. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me. He was just wonderful in every possible way. Let me start from the begining. Five years ago I stumbled accross his website before I knew him. We both liked the same singer. I sent him an email and said how I loved his site and within 20 minutes he got back to me. So I began posting on his board and I loved it. On Saturday nights we had chats but usually after everyone left we stayed and talked for awhile. He lives in California and I'm on the other side of the country. Anyway, fast forward a bit. My parents and I decided to go on vacation in California. Of course I asked him if he wanted to meet he said yes. My parents were with me. We had lunch and dinner and it was wonderful we both felt chemistry. So after we met we became closer. One day he emailed me and said he loved me. That made me so happy. I told him I loved him too. We were so happy. He wanted me to move out there to be with him and I wanted that too. He bought me a plane ticket. I was so excited, so one night I sat my parents down and told them they freaked out. They took me to court and pretty much became my conservator, meaning they had to make all my decisions for me. It was just very heart breaking. They wouldnot allow me to talk to him, I had to use a friends cell phone to talk to him. They even had spyware on my computer. Eventually I had it removed and told my parents we aren't talking anymore. We were so deeply in love. He treated me like a queen. Once he visited me for a few days while my parents were gone and it was amazing. Here's the problem at times I te nd to have a controlling side at times which always pushed him away. Last Wednesday he broke up with me because he couldn't take it. I've learned the hard way never to do that to anyone again. He is still my friend but I feel like he still loves me. My picture is still by his bed, myspace says I'm the love of his life. I've begged for him to take me back but he won't. My question is do you think he still loves me? How can I have him back? Thanks!Advice on a relationship?
Begging and promises don't count for much if the issue is control. They are just additional means of control. If you really love him, tell him that you understand his feelings about you being controlling. Tell him to take his time and think about what he wants to do and that you will let him go and wait for him to decide what he wants without you bothering him. Let him work through it and decide for himself. Sometimes the only way you can keep someone is by being willing to let them go.Advice on a relationship?
i think you really need to talk to him.
i no how u feel but if u already tried den y try again move on u cood eep tryin but u mite get hurt even worse
You're not telling why he broke up with you, but apparently it is because of something you did repeatedly. Apparently he's had enough of you and though he might still love he, he can't deal with you and whatever it was that you made him go through, so I doubt if he'll want you back.
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