Ladies, I need some advice on my relationship please. Will give best answer nod?

Ok, I'm on a ';break'; from my girlfriend of 5 years, Her idea. Said she needed some ';me'; time to ';hang out with the girls';. I have let her have her space, and only called her 1 time in the last month, regarding our cell phone bill (we are both on the same plan, have been for 3 years now), and just let her call me. Since we've been on ';break'; she calls me about 2 times a week. Now, our relationship had gotten a little monotonous over the last year granted, but she's finishing school and I'm working full time. I just want to know, how much time should I give her? I asked her the last time we talked to have a talk, and she said that was ok. I told her to let me know when would be good for her. She called me the next day, and told me that she didn't think that she'd be able to make it this weekend, and never gave me a day. Do I ask her again or just wait for her to tell me? Also I've been toying with the idea of sending flowers to her work, to let her know that I still love her.Ladies, I need some advice on my relationship please. Will give best answer nod?
I don't know about the whole ';break'; thing. I think if you need a break from eachother, that's kind of a sign that the relationship wasn't all you thought it was. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I recently went through a divorce from a man I was married to for 5 years and it takes alot of strength and time to move on, but in the end you'll see it's worth it. If you do think there's something left of the relationship and you feel that she might feel the same, give it a try. It doesn't hurt to send her some flowers to show you still care. Maybe it will rekindle whatever was lost. I don't know if I would send them to her work, but maybe to her house...that would be a little more personal. A card would be really nice too. It always feels good to read how much we're appreciated and loved. I really hope things work out for you cause you seem like a man that really cares. Best wishes!Ladies, I need some advice on my relationship please. Will give best answer nod?
In a philosophical sense ask yourself ';What do I think I should do';.


Read your question again and look at it from another perspective... Who is looking for the space is the most interesting part of this question.
I think that she should respect you enough to give you some sort of an answer. If you feel in your heart that you love her than the waiting is up to you. But if you really feel like you could do better than maybe you should still date a little to check to see if your feelings are truly there for her or not. She could be doing the same and not telling you. I think that if she doesn't give you something to go on soon than move on. Life is too short and you only live once. shouldn't be left hanging like that.
probably she got bored and let her have the space she needs , don't call her and let her call you and feel the need to call you..if you will call her probably she will feel that she doesn't have enough space, anyway my advice is to go on with life while she is having this break...you never know if she will get back to you or not...she's probably trying to make up her mind right now.


good luck!
Me time is OK, sounds like she needs to get her feelings in check with the relationship, nothing wrong with that. I hope you have been doing the same. The phone calls are a good thing, how ever do you get the feeling when your talking to her that she has the same mutual feelings as you do or do get the feeling she's just calling to keep you hanging on? Don't call her, the flowers sounds like a good idea except on the card remind her of how much ';me time'; shes had and you two need to get together and figure out if there is a relationship to be had. Sign it ';talk or no talk';? call me, and then your name.


Maybe this will wake her up a little bit to the fact that your not going to hang on for ever. It isn't fair to you. If she doesn't call or if she just keeps putting you off, that's a good indication that you need to move on with out her. Cancel your name off the cell phone contract, even if you have to pay a fee it will prevent arguments down the line. Good Luck I hope you get the results you want.
Deffinitly go with the flowers cause thats really sweet. And enclose a note that says you still love her. But I would just give her some space and time and one day reletively soon just arrange with her to sit down and talk about things and make sure nothings bothering her. This space thing is natural, but if it's been 5 years it should all work out or maybe there's even the slightest chance you need to move on, but dont jump to that!
I would call her again about making time to talk. I would NOT send flowers until she talks with you.Then you can send them as a nice gesture.


You dont say how old you both are,but if you have been together for 5 yrs and it started young,you may want to move on.If its real love,you will find your way back.
Ok, I'm not going to tell you what to do but I will give you an example: I've been married for 38 years. I have never felt the need to take time off from being with my husband. Sure, things aren't always all fun and flowers but getting thru the rough times makes the marriage even stronger. Every afternoon when he comes home from work I meet him at the door with makeup on, my hair done a smile and a kiss. We sit together and discuss the day. I make a nice dinner and we sit together and enjoy it. We spend the evening together or with family and friends. Sometimes he goes to football or basketball games with the guys. Sometimes I go to classes or shopping with my friends. We have a full life together and at the end of the day we always kiss each other goodnight. Tired of my husband? Never!


Now, make your decision and I wish you well.
hmm shes sending mixed signals but to be honest i think its probably over.. it sounds like shes still very attached to you and doesnt want to hurt you. the fact that she keeps calling you suggests shes scared to be without you but if she cancelled a date for no apparant reason and you're still not back together sounds like she doesnt actually want to be with you. you should try talking to her about it again and if you dont get answers i think you should forget it.. maybe she wants you to keep liking her and being there for her cos shes to be alone after so many yrs..
i'm betting 2 things....





#1 she's cheating on u





#2 she's 2 stressed and doesn't want 2 explode @ u





flowers is a wonderful idea! try 2 find a good date 4 u 2 2 catch up on each other....good luck!
Wow, down boy...Haha..your getting played
Oh boy, hard one. She calls you twice a week but when it comes down to talking about how much more time she needs, she gives you the run around. I'd try the flowers as a last try, asking her to let you know when to talk. Her response depends on the answer, if she sets a time, good, if she gives you the run around, it's time to find a lucky lady to replace her.
the flowers are good,just to keep her reminded of your love for her.if you have never had trust issues with her then give her the time she needs.i personally couldnt wait to long.get your self out with your friends and enjoy your time too.just sitting around can drive you nuts.
she done with you but she is trying to be nice about it. don't send flowers cause she doesn't want that. move on. find the right person for you. its not her. you deserve better. just tell her this ''break'' is not working and you need someone who is there. hope i helped
Give her some space right now, dont send the flowers just yet.Wait a bit longer.I went through a break as well and when we were he called me everyday and came over to my house like four times a week.All I needed was space and he didnt give me any.We did get back together but we ended a few months ago.You and your girlfriend have been together a long time.Thing is I dont know her side of the story.Just give it time.I think maybe in time shell realize that she misses you and want to get back.Well thats all I can say and hopefully it helps.If it doesnt then Im sorry but I tried
breaks can be good or bad depending on the situation. I would send her the flowers so she knows you are and I would wait about another week then ask her again if you can talk and if she blows it off again then wait for her to come to you
Flowers are good, I am not so sure she knows what she wants at the moment, so the flowers may help persuade her


best of luck


nky
apparently you are older. i think she may be in love with you still but her eyes may have wondered else where. YES i think it's over. but send the flowers and have that talk seems to me she's trying , ';the let you out approach.';may be your recovery the will be shorter. let her go.
I think the flowers would be fine, not too over the top. just ';thinking of you';. generally speaking, ';breaks'; don't bode well for the relationship though. they indicate that one or both are undecided.





best of luck to you, will pray for you.
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My Dear it sounds if perhaps she may be seeing someone else. I think you give it 3 months and then you move on. I hope you defined what was ok to do during a break. Don't send flowers let her call you and then move on. It sounds like you two got together when you were both pretty young and maybe you each need to sow your oats and have some fun without a significant other. If it's meant to be it'll work out.
Honestly I think ';breaks'; are a bunch of BS. Move on, she aparently just wants to keep you around as a backup plan, but wants to be able to sample with other guys.
This is a lot easier said than done but I think you should probably consider that your girlfriend is losing interest in this so called relationship. It sounds like she's not that in to you anymore and she is enjoying her freedom. I don't know how old you are but if you two have been together for five years and you are both adults than you should be pass the taking a break stage. She should know exactly where she stands commitment wise with you. I feel she knows she wants out but at the same time she is not being forthcoming about it. I don't feel she is trying to get one over on you I think she no longer wants to do this but at the same time she still cares for you so she doesn't want to hurt you. For some reason people seem to think dragging out the inevitable is less painful than to just be forth coming and honest. She owes you the truth even if it is painful. She is moving on with her life which is why she couldn't make time for you and her to talk. She needs to know that if she cares for you the best thing she could do is be honest so you can deal and move on with your life as well.
I hate to be a negative nelly, but if your girl isn't giving you the time of day when you say you want to talk, it doesn't look like your relationship will have a positive outcome. Let me try to explain, being ';on a break'; is like going to a car dealership, to check out all the other cars. If you test drive a few cars, and they break down on you, you always have your old clunker at home. Don't be the old clunker. There is no such thing as a ';safe'; break. You're either together, or you're not. More than a week to clear her head, and you're just being strung along so that she can come running back if she doesn't like her newfound ';freedom.'; Flowers, while nice to get, are not a good idea. They make you look desperate and clingy in this type of situation. Stay strong, and tell her plainly, ';I need to talk about our relationship, and where we are headed';. If she still shrugs it off, Say goodbye and go hang out with the guys. If it's meant to be, it will be. Good luck!
I would say let her go, if someone needs a break it means they are testing other waters unless something tramatic happened in her life, still if she can not turn to the man she loves who???


Sometimes letting go on the mans part will make the woman know that you are not playing that game.


Hope this helps.
dude ask her to marry you
I wouldn't give her too much time. I would just outright say that you have given her space and she needs to make up her mind by next week. Forget the flowers. If you send them to her, she'll know she has you whipped and that she can just run around and do whatever without even considering you. If I were you, I would start going out with friends. Maybe she'll realize what she's lost, but maybe not. I would just let her go.