If you want to continue in this relationship:
Don't just take his word for it that he will earn back your trust. Talk is cheap. Tell him what he can do that will make you trust him. For someone who had cheated twice, tell him that you will need to check his texts and emails if necessary, or hang out more together. (These are what I would request, but you have your own)
If you do not want to continue in this relationship anymore:
Be courageous. Tell him no matter how hard you've tried, you can't trust him anymore. Move out. You either hurt him now, or he will hurt you in future. You are in a relationship, not a marriage. Walk out while you still can and you should not feel guilty for breaking his heart because he broke yours many times and a strong relationship is not founded on guilt.
You had been very giving and thoughtful, in many cases, you thought of him before yourself. But just this once, be selfish. It is your future, your life, your choice.Stuck in a relationship rut...need opinions/advice?
Yes. Ask yourself this ';do I want to be a doormat for the rest of my life and have him continue using and manipulating me?'; If you said ';no'; then move out. The pain hurts so let yourself feel it but I promise you that it heals and you will be happy that you were strong enough to go through it. He will be fine. He says things because he knows that you are going to cave to him. Get MAD, honey!! It's ok. Stop being a friggin doormat and be a survivor! I can sit her and type til I'm blue in the face but you have to WANT to do this. If you won't heed anyone's advice on here then don't ask for it. You can do this... now believe in yourself and maybe start believing you deserve better than him and can do better. Because honey... you can.
If he has cheated on you twice and you get a letter like that it's probably true. Even though he is your first love you shouldn't be with someone who has done that to you. Cheating on someone once is already to much, but a 2nd time? What the hell where you thinking? I'm sorry but I just don't get it. I really think you should not be with someone like that. Just my opinion. And you shouldn't matter if you break his heart. You should think about yourself so you can be happy.
I admit to having cheated before and once I did it I thought it was the worst thing ever. I always said I wouldn't cheat but when I did, it sucked so incredibly much that I would never EVER do it again. You don't realize what it's like until you finally do it. Once, I can possibly understand, but if it happens a second time, than his heart is not in the right place. Therefore he sees options with other women as possibilities. I'm sorry and I hope you can figure it out.
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