Relationship experts, we need you advice?

My friend wants me to ask you guys this question, thanks:





I have been dating a guy very casually for about a month and a half. I say very casually because we only see each other once a week or less. We have different work schedules and both have stressful lives. I have two kids and work 40 hours a week. He is working 70+ hours, 6 days a week. He is looking for a job where we could have more quality time together. We have agreed to take things slowly (i.e. no sex). We think about each other all day. We both have confessed how much we love each other. I had no idea that a love like this could exist.





I would love to talk to him everyday, just to see how his day went, but I don't want to nag him. We haven't talked in four days, as he told me that he would call me. He has mild depression and is shy, he also gets embarrassed easily.





How can we keep our relationship going? I don't want to smother him. I think that he is “the one”.Relationship experts, we need you advice?
email? is that an option sinc eyou are both working so much - it's subtle and discreet and easier than talking casue you don't have to respond immediately.Relationship experts, we need you advice?
Hello Bell, you say that you have been seeing this person for only 11/2 months. Which only means about 6 times. I believe that this is much much too soon to want to make a commitment. You do both have many working hours and you have children also. Taking things slowly is so smart. See how the job that he is looking for so that you can have more quality time together goes. You are correct, don't nag him.





It is certainly too soon to know if it is love or not as you don't really know each other. In my opinion, I would relax stay busy and see what happens. You are infatuated and maybe lonely for companionship. Be aware of this so that you won't get hurt.
I think that your relationship is going pretty well, im not an expert but i think maybe itll work out for you two, love like that is incredible, one day i hope to find the one just for me, like you did.


maybe you could, go out with him some time to keep it fresh,


when he has time off,or you could make him lunch or a special dinner, it sounds nice : )
If he's looking for a job that would enable him to spend more quality time with you then I'd say stop worrying about possibly nagging him and call him. Stop waiting for him to call you. Call him and see how his day was. I'd call at least once a day or if you're affraid of nagging him every other day. Good luck
you can always plan a day together when your both off from your work schedule.plan in advance so you have a better chance at getting off at the same date and time. spend the day at the beach,picnic,swimming,etc. how you can communicate more?send him an e-mail and ask how his day is going,send him a text me sage to his cell phone and ask him whats he doing tonight or how is his working going. call him at home every once in a while ans ask hows work,life,etc. but don't do this every day or else he might think your smothering him. do it every other day,etc. talk to him and the two if you can plan e-mail dates,calls,etc.
Your 1st sentence just about answers your question. THE KEY WORD CASUALLY. Love can not grow that fast, with the situation you describe. As for his not calling when he said he would, seems a lack of respect for you, how do you make the assumption he is thinking of you everyday when he has not even called? Seems to me with 2 children you dont need a 3rd. As for the mild depression sounds more like he wants complete attention, not depressed, pouting.! You do not need this relationship, all shows in your own letter.Also seems he is in control since you have to worry about making a simple call to say hello,give all this alot of thought. Not such a pretty picture is it?
Love can be blind? You haven'nt heard from him in 4 days! If i thought of someone everyday i'd be calling and would love to here


from her. Sorry to say,but something isn't right.


Good luck.
He is wise to be looking for work that demands less of his time. This is good no matter what you do with the relationship. In any relationship you need to find the right balance of contact. Perhaps you should discuss this with him. Ask him if it is OK, and appropriate to call him once a day...or 3-4 times a week at the office. If not, ask him to call you on his breaks. If he can't make time for this perhaps he isn't yet ready for the love of his life.





I appreciate your gentle spirit!