Ruining The Relationship? i need your advice guys?

Me %26amp; my boyfriend have been together for 6 months, although we didnt class ourselves as in a realationship for a couple of months





we are both Leo's, both had the sam sort of childhood, both bullied at school, %26amp; both had previous bad relationships, that made us change who we are.





Things are/ were perfect, he always wants me out with him, we love the same sort of stuff, so much in common, you would think we were the same person.





of course we have sex, always protected ( he was checked before we got into the relationship), but one night we didnt use protection %26amp; he got syptoms, i did a chylmydia test %26amp; found i had it %26amp; it 100% came from me as he was tested...%26amp; i am a very careful girl, i will swear that i have not had unprotected sex, so i dont know how i got it...but we got tested %26amp; treated





we had sex %26amp; the condom split %26amp; i had to take the morning after pill, i did another test at the same time %26amp; it has come back positive!!!!!!! :(





he is getting like really upset, %26amp; treating me like i've cheated %26amp; stuff, but i have not, i love him %26amp; he says he trusts me, which is good.





but i just dont know what to do, because this chylmydia thing keeps making ups bring up little things that niggle us, %26amp; magnifying them, which constantly upsets each other,i dont know what to do, i just want him happy %26amp; us normal








...any ideas guys????????????????????????


xxxRuining The Relationship? i need your advice guys?
I hate you tell you this...but you are wrong, he doesn't trust you. IF he did, he wouldn't be getting upset and treating you like you cheated. I'm really sure who is passing the chlamydia from themselves to the other person, but obviously safe sex by the both of you is not be practiced like you stated.





I understand the condom broke. But if you were treated, then it's either one of these 3 scenarios:





1. You weren't completely treated before you had sex with him again....therefore you still had chlamydia that is why the test came back positive yet again. But again, due to unprotected sex in the first place and one of you having sex outside your relationship. That or having it from a previous relationship.





2. He gave it to you, which means he is messing around. (or from a previous relationship he was in and was not treated)





3. You are the one having unprotected sex with someone you are cheating on him with. (or you got infected during a previous relationship and was not treated)





It really doesn't matter which case it is...obviously something needs to change. From a woman's standpoint, having an STD can do major harm to your body and possibly leave you infertile. I'm not sure if you want to have children in the future, but don't take any chances that you will regret later on. If you are the cause of the chlamydia, confess and take responsibility for your actions. Get treated, find out what the problem is, and fix it. If he is the cause, then you need to move on.Ruining The Relationship? i need your advice guys?
I know you wanted advice from guys, but I just wanted to throw this out there...Have you ever thought about the fact that he could have given YOU chlamydia?
It all comes down to Trust, and it builds over time!
you need to be honest with your self %26amp;him
be very honest with him and yourself. if you have cheated, don't hide it. if you've had unprotected sex, don't hide it. go to a doctor or a clinic and see if they can test your urine. thats the only real way to see if you're pregnant. sometimes the store test may not be right. if he is willing to stand by you with this, give it a chance. if he starts to do things like beat you or cheat on you, revaluate the relationship. God wants our relationships to be ';without conditions';. if must love you on the condition that you have to be perfect and never make mistakes, you must leave. if he can try to work it out and you love eachother, then, stay and talk to him HONESTLY. don't hide anything, or else he will think everything in the future is a lie. it will not be easy. my boyfriend cheated on me, but we've been together for 2 years now. so, it all depends on the effort.
I don't mean to add problems, but this test that your boyfriend had only proves that he was clear at the time that he took it.


I'm not pointing fingers, but do you know for a fact that he wasn't with someone else at some point AFTER the test? I won't claim to be an expert, but if you've not had unprotected sex other than the time that you've mentioned, then perhaps you need to look elsewhere for your answers - hence my point above.





As for your test coming back positive again, refer to your doctor. Perhaps you weren't completely clear of it after your first course of medication.





I hope you manage to work it through.
you have both had relationships before right and he only had one test and then waited 3 months before having sex with you right ,but he was supposed to go back for another std check to make sure and wait another 3 months for those results and you should have done the same if you had been sexual before condoms or not as some people are nasty and put holes in condoms that is why it is best to be safe and carry your own. i hope this has helped . no one is to blame you both had sex it happened deal with it and get over it heaps of people gt it and never say anything as they do not care about others,google it on the inet and see how people get it and get rid of it. and stop arguing as it happened and that is that no one can change it so suck it up and deal with it. take care
if it aint you....and you dont know where you got it...then how about it is him...! did you ever think of that posibility?





For one...even if he was tested before you (and they all say that), did you personally see his results.





for 2, clymydia (or however you spell it) doesnt show up so easily in men as it does in women. meaning that he could have very well had it, been tested, and it didnt test positive....so just because he got ';tested'; and it was negative does not mean he didnt have it. (if you dont believe me look it up.)





for 3...if a woman has clymydia she knows it. There is always a foul odor and discharge which is a dead give away. Anytime your va jay jay is foul then there is a problem. So if you werent having that problem before the condom broke then you didnt have the infection...





you need to be for sure about your partner and dont second guess yourself. If you know you didnt cheat then dont eliminate THE OTHER POSSIBLITY just because you love this guy. If you know you are not the one whose cheating, but clymydia keeps coming into play, then you need to think about that one a little harder.





Keep using protection, because something here is definitely fishy...
wow um im kinda confused so sorry if i screw up here but from what i understand your not pregnant, you did(?) have chlamydia but not any more and his test said he didnt have it which means you obviously got it from somewhere?


funny this should happen coz i just got clamydia a week and a half ago and its very rare for a guy to have any symptoms of it the only way i knew was because the chick told me. its actually the most common std like 20% of anyone that has been involved in any type of sexual activity has it!





there is a chance that you got it from someone else prior to your current bf it cant be passed through hand to hand contact and stuff like that but if it does get into an open wound its very easy to pass on and the symptoms may have been delayed for you or him.





My main advice in solving the ';ruining the relationship'; part is that you both just take the antibiotic and get it over with and try to understand who got it and where it came from and move on as best you can and try not to let it happen again, perhaps buy stronger condoms just because there is different thickness condoms like ultra thin they are not necessarily stronger or weaker so just experiment and find out what works for you.





I hope this has helped in some way if not im 17 and its not my fault :P but anyway good luck.


zac