Advice on my relationship...?

I need some advice on abusive relationships. I feel pretty bad writing about this...I wish I could figure this out on my own but I'm really confused. See my boyfriend and I been going out for about a seven months, and I care for him so much. But he is so different now compared to how he used to be. He is so protective of me! He is really insecure and he thinks I'm going to leave him. If he sees that I am talking to other guys (even friends!) he questions me about it after, but lately he has been getting physical. Just about a week ago he dragged me out of the dining hall by the arm, and then he shouted about how I spent more time with other guys then with him. And only a few days ago he pinned me against the wall and wouldn't let me go when I asked, just because I hugged another guy. I confronted him and he just apologized endlessly. I know how this sounds, but he has been cheated on before and he was really hurt by it...I just don't know how to feel or what to do. I'm so confused!! Help?Advice on my relationship...?
Ashley,





It doesn't matter if his ex cheated. You're not his ex. Don't make excuses for his behavior. It is NEVER okay for him to put his hands on you or try to dominate you like that. He has severe emotional and control issues. He's insecure and needs help. I come from a home where my birth father beat my mother. She was just as confused until he almost killed her. I think that cleared it up for her in a hurry.





Please get away from this guy while you still have a chance. Don't let another day of your life waste away. You may think that you love this guy and want to help him, but he doesn't love you. His behavior is obsessive. Obsession isn't love. He may say it is.. but it's not.





Don't feel bad or guilty. Tell him you care and want him to get help. If he refuses, you can't sacrifice yourself for him. Walk away. If you stay, you will go through this repetitive cycle over and over until he takes it out on you for the last time. That last time could be the one you just told us about... or it could be at your funeral. Think about it.





God bless.Advice on my relationship...?
honey, just because he has been cheated on doesn't give him the right to go around taking it out on you... he probably got what he deserved!


you need to end this relationship ASAP.


i used to work at a shelter for abused women and trust me... it will only get worst!!!! he needs some serious help - help that you can not give him. and you need help yourself... you should NEVER allow another person to lay a hand on you... NEVER.


i don't know how old you are... but the sooner you can talk to your parents, a counselor or someone who specializes in domestic violence, the better.


you don't have to put up with it, and if you wait longer - it'll be harder for you to leave him.


people have the right to have friends, talk to whoever they want without feeling like you have to hide or feeling like you're doing something wrong.


call around to find some domestic violence hotlines in your area, they'll have some good resources for you.
If a man abuses you, he will never stop. If you decide to stay with him, just realize that it will only get worse and worse. He is probably very sincere when he says that he is sorry, but believe me when I tell you, he will be sorry each and every time that it happens. He really needs counseling to stop. He has to be willing to change. I personally have never seen a man stop being an abuser. I'm sure it can happen with a lot of work and dedication. I just have never seen it done. I know that you love him, but I really think that you should get out of this relationship because it will only get worse from here. Good luck!
Leave him. I don't care how much you care about him or how much he apologizes... THAT'S ABUSE! Do you want to be on the news one day? Are you asking to be a discussion on Nancy Grace? Woman found dead. Don't feel confused. Be smart and have some common sense. He doesn't love you. You're his crutch. He needs you for his own sanity but that's not beneficial to you! He is detrimental to you! He cannot help you in any way. He is not a good person to have in your life. Break up with him. Actually, I'd say report him to the police, have him get some mental help, and you contact an abuse crisis center for your safety. Don't be another statistic. Don't be another report on the news. Be safe.
ok listen to me carefully, you need NEED to break up with him. if you EVER get abused in a relationship you NEED to leave, YES i know you love him and that he says hes SORRY over and over AFTER abusing you, but the truth is, he cant control his actions,and i dont care if your boyfriend got abused when he was a child or got cheated on that gives him NOOO EXCUSE to lay a hand on you. and the fact that you are putting up with his abuse is wrong girl. i know its soo hard to break up cuz u love him and you know he can change, BUT HE WONT. hes gonna keep hurting you, keep being protective and jealous and eventually the abuse will get worse. my best friend was in one and she dated the guy for 2 YRS!!!! and finally got out, and she thought it was the best decision yet as hard as it was to leave him. HE DOESNT deserve you, and you dont deserve that abuse so leave.