My bestfriend and I have been in a troubled reltionship for about six months now. We were an item for a year or so...things didnt not work out and we became best friends. Unfortunately, it seems to be a one way street for me. It seems like I cannot express myself when I tell him something bothers me about him bc he soon gets fired up and dumps me. He tells me he will leave me alone and stop being my bestfriend. It seems like i cannot speak and things will be okay. If I do speak up then everything is cool. He has being doing to me for a while. Finally I just had enough. We work together, and I get naseus everytime I seem him. I am so angry and sad. I feel used and stabbed. He approached me today as if nothing happen..he asked how i was doing and that if i nedeed something come to him... Should this relationship be gone for good or should i attempt to try to talk to him about it?I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
It definitely needs to be gone for good. He is not a good friend. Sure he does some friendly things and acts in some friendly ways, but a true friend is much more than that - and much more consistently. You can continue to be kind, but you need to avoid pretending that he is anything more than a sometimes-friendly-acquittance.
Don't get trapped into continually trying to build a relationship with someone like this. There are lots of people out there who will be true best friends.I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Your relationship isn't healthy. That's for sure. It sounds like you two never completely moved on from the dating relationship. You're still arguing like a couple would.
Sounds like there is still uncomfortable, displaced tension from the couple relationship you once had.
If you can't take a temporary break from him until things resolve on their own ask yourself why.
Was it REALLY emotionally over for you after the break up?
Doesn't sound like it.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
I met this girl a few weeks ago who honestly makes me feel different than other other girl I've ever been with. I thought it was going to be a quick hook/up, but we ended up not h/u because as I found out later, she's the type of girl that only h/u with guys if it's ';special';. We ended up, in the last couple of weeks talking on the phone endlessly and it honestly felt and looked like we were together. My best friend had even asked me if we were going out and I know from her friends that she ';liked me alot';. However, last week, she tells me that she's sorry if I thought she was leading me on and that she wants to give it another shot with her ex boyfriend of a few years. I made it as if I was okay with it and she dosn't want anything to change even though I think that's impossible. As of now, she still talks to me frequently, but not on the phone.
Do I talk to her friends? Do I straight up tell her how I felt/feel before it's too late? What do I do? I normally don't get attached. HelpI need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
yes talk to her... you may miss out on the love of your life! tell her that you understand that she might want to give it a go with the ex but you want to give it a go too... and theres a reason hes the ex. she may not realize that you had that kinda feeling for her. and YES talk to the friends... make it known all the way around that you care about her. GOOD LUCK
Do I talk to her friends? Do I straight up tell her how I felt/feel before it's too late? What do I do? I normally don't get attached. HelpI need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
yes talk to her... you may miss out on the love of your life! tell her that you understand that she might want to give it a go with the ex but you want to give it a go too... and theres a reason hes the ex. she may not realize that you had that kinda feeling for her. and YES talk to the friends... make it known all the way around that you care about her. GOOD LUCK
Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
My story is very simple, I met a girl online, and after we knew we are some what same in nature and likes, we fell in love, I mean I expressed my feelings and she said she feels the same, we were doin gr8, altho we only saw each other only in pictures but no one of us ever mistrusted, we talked on phone and so, one day i received a mail that her over protective dad found out about us, and she was blocked to communicate wid me, her cell was not her's anymore, it was switch off, I was depressed but at the evening someone added me to chat wid, she dinn say her name and location, she said she found my ID on yahoo answers, she said she hates her life, her dad and all tht sad things, then she asked about me, I told her everything, nd told her tht I love tht gal nd wont move on ever, I was feelin guilty, and I was suicidal, then somehow my love managed to chat wid me at the same evening, then she said she wont leave me ever, and all tht romantic crap, now we were more close to each other, but after a month she said she is goin out for a tour, nd she will mail me, but she dinn do it, after a month when i tried to call her she blocked my number, she mailed me tht she doesnt want me in her life, I was shocked and tried every medium to contact her, but then i received a mail which was like it came from her dad telling tht i ruined her life nd if i try to contact me one more time he is gonna kill her, I thought she was blocked from the outside world completely, but she daily accessed her ID, then i came up wid a conclusion tht she was only an internet fraud, I was angry, I sent disgusting mails to her, nd i feel guilty for tht, 3 months passed, I was still dreamin about her, was out of confidence, feelin unwanted, then I thought i should talk to old frnds, then I added that gal who used to hate her life, nd one day she accessed her ID, we chatted, nd she sent me a mail, this time she told me she is from Europe, but when I extracted her IP from the mail it wasnt Europe, but the city where my love resides, I sent her a mail tht I know its her nd asked her to stop playing, she sent me mail tht she wants to talk to me if I allow her, I was dieing for this moment, I wanted an explanation but she denied to give any, she says she loved me, but now she doesn't care about me, she only wants me as a frnd, she havent yet deleted my pics, but she doesnt know y, nd she is not even sorry for wat she did to me, all she does is shows her anger when i ask her about wat happened, she is angry bcoz i sent disgusting mails to her, now I donno wat she thinks about me, nd wat is she upto, she even offered to help me in my projects, she is not saying anything else, nd I am still in love wid her, nd now even in much worse condition, now i feel so insignificant and unlucky, so unwanted, I wanna know why she came back nd still making decisions about me on her own, whenever i ask her she only says its non of my business, y she left me, ';its none of my business';, Guys please tell me wat is happening wid me, I cant bear all this, she is still my dream gal, but she is hurting me every second, what is she upto, please advice me, nd tell me what should I do? Please help me ppl!!Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
I think she is just trying to protect her or you from her dad she might be saying those things to protect you and really does like you or she really does just wants to be friends. just be her friend first and see if you can get what happened out of her just don't try to be pushy.
ps can you answer my question?
There could be alot of reasons for her odd behavior.You hav'nt met her in person so you really dnt know who your dealing with.It might be a fake picture and the person is way underage and got scared things were moving too fast or maybe she has a boyfriend and just likes to play games with people.whatever her reason is it sounds like you could do alot better.I know its hard to move on from someone you are so crazy in love with-I been there-it might hurt so bad that you think you can't live without that person but you have to realize its the only way for you to be truly happy.Would you be happy if you hooked up with this girl and had to deal with that kind of drama in your life everyday?I don't think so.You need someone who will return your love and make you feel good about who you are.You sound like u have alot to offer,my advice is to get out and have some fun,do what u like to do and you will meet a girl with your interest.Forget about cyber-*****, on line relationships very rarely work because there are so many liars in the world.Good luck and stay strong.
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
I think she is just trying to protect her or you from her dad she might be saying those things to protect you and really does like you or she really does just wants to be friends. just be her friend first and see if you can get what happened out of her just don't try to be pushy.
ps can you answer my question?
There could be alot of reasons for her odd behavior.You hav'nt met her in person so you really dnt know who your dealing with.It might be a fake picture and the person is way underage and got scared things were moving too fast or maybe she has a boyfriend and just likes to play games with people.whatever her reason is it sounds like you could do alot better.I know its hard to move on from someone you are so crazy in love with-I been there-it might hurt so bad that you think you can't live without that person but you have to realize its the only way for you to be truly happy.Would you be happy if you hooked up with this girl and had to deal with that kind of drama in your life everyday?I don't think so.You need someone who will return your love and make you feel good about who you are.You sound like u have alot to offer,my advice is to get out and have some fun,do what u like to do and you will meet a girl with your interest.Forget about cyber-*****, on line relationships very rarely work because there are so many liars in the world.Good luck and stay strong.
What is/was your excuse for not ending your abusive relationship? I need some advice...?
I see all these questions about why people DO end abusive relationships, but never any about why people don't. I think I am in an abusive relationship... not physical, but emotional. There have just been things about me that I can't control that I was guilt tripped into changing. Ladies, if you were ever in my spot you know what I am going through. It is something that you can't explain in words... and he has done soooo many things for me, but the whole things is that I am beginning to think it was never for me. Because he has said stuff like, ';You would never be going to school if it wasn't for me';, or ';You know I'm the best you can do';, in a joking manor, but it makes you wonder, ';Why would you even say that, even if you are joking';. I have been with him for 5 years, and I was ALWAYS a clown! Now, it seems like I don't even know how to laugh at a joke. I am just worried that because he had helped me so much, and my world revolves around him, what will I do without him. It is a sickening feeling. I have 2 small cats that he will not keep if I leave, my family lives 10 hours away, my mom is allergic to my animals, and the list goes on and on... and at the end of the day I feel sort of trapped... like there is nothing I can do and that makes me hate this relationship even more... So please, I am asking this question to see if I am not crazy, because I am starting to feel like I am losing myself, and like it is my fault and I know that any human being is capable of making their own choices, making THEIR own word choice come out of their mouth, so why am I making excuses to myself? HELP!!!!What is/was your excuse for not ending your abusive relationship? I need some advice...?
Honey, I do know how you feel... and Idk why I cant leave either. I'm afraid that he is the best I can do and that I should just stick around. my bf says that stuff that yours said ALL THE TIME... We've been together 3 years. Doesn't it amaze you how fully confident you were before all the years you've spent morphing to someone's expectations? I walk around on eggshells all the time around my bf. Some other examples include him having a sh*tty attitude for no reason, which makes me get defensive and then I'm told, ';its YOUR fault that this happened, look what YOU DID to cause this, I never did anything.'; Then he'll laugh when I start to cry and tell me that I'm crazy, psycho, get off my f***in *** you b*tch.
Your last sentence says it all for me... I wish I could make my own choice without freaking out over my bf because you and I both know that there is something wrong with this situation.. They could up and leave us at anytime they wanted, but we stick around like scared puppy dogs. I have broken up with my bf once before after he cheated on me.... then he started stalking me at work and I had to move away. I was so lonely I ended up dumping my new bf to get back with him. I was so close and right now I can not even imagine having that much courage. You %26amp; I have a long way to go but you made the right step by not denying it in your head anymore!!!
Honey, I do know how you feel... and Idk why I cant leave either. I'm afraid that he is the best I can do and that I should just stick around. my bf says that stuff that yours said ALL THE TIME... We've been together 3 years. Doesn't it amaze you how fully confident you were before all the years you've spent morphing to someone's expectations? I walk around on eggshells all the time around my bf. Some other examples include him having a sh*tty attitude for no reason, which makes me get defensive and then I'm told, ';its YOUR fault that this happened, look what YOU DID to cause this, I never did anything.'; Then he'll laugh when I start to cry and tell me that I'm crazy, psycho, get off my f***in *** you b*tch.
Your last sentence says it all for me... I wish I could make my own choice without freaking out over my bf because you and I both know that there is something wrong with this situation.. They could up and leave us at anytime they wanted, but we stick around like scared puppy dogs. I have broken up with my bf once before after he cheated on me.... then he started stalking me at work and I had to move away. I was so lonely I ended up dumping my new bf to get back with him. I was so close and right now I can not even imagine having that much courage. You %26amp; I have a long way to go but you made the right step by not denying it in your head anymore!!!
Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
if a girl and a guy are dating, is it possible that the guy can b in love with her jus after 2 mths 2getha, and she cheated on him,and he still loves her,she jus has 2 earn his trust back, but the love that he has 4 her, is still there, is that normalRelationship and cheating? need some advice?
It is possible, each case is different, as is each person.Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
its never normal to cheat on someone. but if he wants to make it ago. leave them alone, its their choice. if he can give her another chance to be with him. then good luck to them.
It is possible, each case is different, as is each person.Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
its never normal to cheat on someone. but if he wants to make it ago. leave them alone, its their choice. if he can give her another chance to be with him. then good luck to them.
Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
coz i want to be a good husband someday!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
long list my friend:
support her
love her, her friends and family
care for her
be patient
surprise her ! (always use that factor)
know what she really wants
be spontaneous
be attentive to details and to what she says
be GENEROUS (emotions or money)
take her to places she likes
give her your 100% attention and im sure she will give the same back if you are meant for each other
good luck!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
main factor you can show her is your
love, understanding, trust, patience, and love
Say you love them everyday, alway respect her wishes, and be frieds with her freinds.
that what helped me
Good luckrefill
long list my friend:
support her
love her, her friends and family
care for her
be patient
surprise her ! (always use that factor)
know what she really wants
be spontaneous
be attentive to details and to what she says
be GENEROUS (emotions or money)
take her to places she likes
give her your 100% attention and im sure she will give the same back if you are meant for each other
good luck!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
main factor you can show her is your
love, understanding, trust, patience, and love
Say you love them everyday, alway respect her wishes, and be frieds with her freinds.
that what helped me
Good luck
SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
ok i really need some advice on what to do with my relationship:
im 17, my bf is 19. He's in college but he commutes so its not long distance. I'm a senior in high school. we鈥檝e been together for about a year and 2 months. This September everything started to go so wrong. All of a sudden he stopped texting me as much. He didnt want to be with me me as much and things like that. Now its gotten even worse. He barely texts me at all. he says he's busying do school stuff or this and that. He tells ME im being a jerk to him all the time and when i ask for examples he wont give me any. He is constantly picking fights over the stupidest things-for example, today i didnt text him back for 6 minutes and he got mad and didnt text me for 3 hours, and when i asked why he was ignoring me he said he was just responding as fast as i was. He refuses to talk to me about things, he says i ';put words in his mouth';, when sometimes, yea i have to, because he just wont respond to anything.
when we're actually together things are usually better and hes nicer. Its like the ';virtual'; him thats really nasty to me. The thing is a few months ago i was kinda out of control with my emotions, being nasty to him a lot for no reason, picking fights, and just being miserable in general. i just let myself kinda fall into a hole and took it out on him. and he took it for a while but then started to get annoyed like any person would and called me out on it. and ive been trying so hard to be better for him.
but when i do try and stuff he refuses to notice. but he notices the SECOND i do something so small wrong and starts a huge fight about it. it's like his opinion of me is so low that it will never change. and no matter what i do he'll still be so bitter towards me.
when he tells me how horrible i am i ask why he doesnt just break up with me but he says that he expects me being such a jerk to him will ';pass'; and i really dont know what to think about that. Because these days HES the one whos being a total jerk to ME. and at least i admitted it when i was doing it to him, but he just refuses to believe the things he's doing to me.
i cry every single day. sometimes its when i come home from school because he's been ignoring me. sometimes it's when he drops me off after we hang out because SUPRISE, he picked a really stupid fight. im always crying about it. and i just want a second chance to make things good again and he says hes willing to give it to me but his actions dont reflect that.
i really love him and we were planning on going to the same college and being together but i have to apply soon and if hes just going to let this horrible relationship drag on i feel im going to have to break it off because i dont want to see him around ';our'; college which i dont really care if i go to or not, if we're broken up. it would be torture. but i want the second chance...i want things to be good and i want to be happy, but with him. We're really so good for each other and i want it to work.
i just dont know if like hes too far gone. i think he resents so much more then he realizes. he is so bitter about the way i treated him but now he's taking it to an extreme level and hurting me so much. he keeps kicking me back down when im trying to climb back up to where our relationship was.
i also have had some paranoia that hes cheating on me or something but i would NEVER have predicted that. hes always ignoring my texts and saying hes doing school work or hes tired but when i see him he tells me like about the school work or this and that and i believe him. idk if he's making up really good stories or telling the truth. im leaning more towards he's not cheating on me, but a part of me still feels it's possible. he doesnt have any real girl friends but he told me about a few girls that were friendly towards him at school so idk.
so the main thing is that i cant go on feeling like this. i constantly feel like im going to throw up when hes mad at me or ignoring me. i lay at home in bed crying for hours on the week ends and sometimes after school. when im with him im happy as long as he doesnt pick a stupid fight. and when things are good its usually because were just ignoring our issues because he wont talk to me and i want some peace time so i let it go for a bit but its just like a time bomb and then we have a fight. i know it's my own fault that its gotten this bad for treating him teh way i did a few months ago. I just want to make things right but i cant do it if he wont let me and ive really been showing him in trying but he really doesnt care or notice. he always says he doesnt hate me when i accuse him of it in fights, but also says that he feels like i hate him and when i ask for examples, again, hes just like idk so I just dont know what to think or do about it, oh and he says that i have such a low opinion of him that he feels like it will never change no matter what either, which is exactly what i told hSOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
okay, i just read that whole thing and tried to put myself in that same situation..
first of all, dont listen to the dumbass answers you got about him cheating on you. i doubt they even read the whole thing or understand the situation. looks like they just felt like answering a question to give themselves more points or something retarted like that. they dont know.
okay. in my opinion, it sounds like hes kind of a stubborn person.. i prolly would have done the same thing to you if you were a ***** to me. idk what you did to him, but im guessing it wasnt very good by the way it sounds. but i do think hes being a little to extreme about the whole thing. way to extreme actually.
they could be right, maybe he does want to end it...but i really dont think thats it. i think that if he really did want to end it, he would find other things that he thought was wrong with you and bring them up so he would have other excuses or something lame like that. but overall i really dont think breaking up with you is exactly on the top of his list.
you have been in a relationship with him for a while also. and like one of the people said, guys get like that sometimes in relationships. giving him a little space (again i said little) at a time works really well, because if you just let it realx and dont worry about it and just ditch on hanging out with him once or twice, then most likely the next time you see him he will be more anxious to see you.
also, yes you prolly should refrain from texting him as much and calling and ect. yes, it will probably will tick him off a little bit, but remember a relationship isnt supposed to be as sad as yours is right now, so if you do stop texting him and he flips a tit at you and asks you why or accuses you of it, then just simply say, ';because i dont like the way your treating me'; and if he says well you did it to me then say something like '; i did. i never said i didnt. but you have been doing this to me for a long *** time now and im sick of being treated like ****.'; and if he says well then fine or brings up breaking up, im sorry i know its hard but just agree with him and say you need to take a break or break up with him. because honestly, if hes really treating you like that and he keeps on doing it and you just keep on taking it like you are, your going to be completley miserable for god knows how long.
theres alot of things that could be wrong... so im not exactly sure what to tell you, i just have a ton of expierence with guys and how they act because im surrounded by them daily and i talk to them about this kind of stuff.
and for the confronting him about cheating thing..
if you do ask him, make sure it DOSENT SOUND LIKE YOUR ACCUSING HIM! guys absolutley hate it when girls accuse them of that. just hint it to him simply. dont act like your mad and dont be crying when you do it. just make it like its somewhat casual conversation. something just simple. or you could just flat out say, '; im not accusing you of anything when i ask you this, im just a little worried and concerned, but have you been involved in a way that would be considered cheating with another woman?'; that could be a way to put it. idk i dont know the guy. it depends on what hes like..
and remember, you deserve to be happy :) any decisions you make, make sure that there smart on your behalf, because who really wants a relationship based on something like that?SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
1. If you can't handle the relationship, you are too immature.
2. He's probably cheating on you.
3. Leave the poor guy alone!
girl can't u SEE hes CHEATING ON U!!!!!! thats Y his acting like a jerk and fights for everylittle thing
:/
after youve been together for so long it kinda gets like that.
my bestfriend is in 10th and her boyfriend is in 11th and theyve been going out for a year and a half. they fight all the time but they still love eahcother. they think that they might just go on a brake for a while which is what i would suggest to you.
go on a brake don't see each other for a while, but don't see other people either. talk to him about it if he doesn't agree then just leave him. it seems like hes making you feel like crap. and you dont deserve this.
i think that he might b cheating on you.
surprise him at the college that he works at.
talk to one of his friends.
idk im sorry this sounds horrible :(
It sounds like he wants you to break up with him
sooner or later the guilt's gonna drive him mad and he'll really tell you whats up.
either that or confront him.
Say
I'm soo sick of what's going on. If you're cheating on me just tell. Because I'm starting to figure out that somethings not right.'
is this seriously the guy that im going out with?
besides even if your not religious god 'll b there when ur broken hearted :)
OH MY GOD! i'm like going through the same thing!
well what i'm doing is, i'm just going to relax.
i'm not going to text or call or IM him as much as i normally do, just to get his attention.
from now on if he wants to talk to me HE can call me and IM me and call me! and that's how i know he truly loves me, and things will get better.
i think its just that im not giving him enough space, sometimes i think guys just want to be left alone for a while, and they're not trying to hurt their girlfriend.
they just want to relax for awhile, and we keep bugging them which causes them to get all pissy. :]
hope i helped!
hang in there!
Wow, thats a long question %26gt;_%26gt;
he's cheating on you. :]
he is in college now. things are happening around him and he wants to be apart of it. he might possibly be interested in another. you better be careful, and possibly confront him about that.
He is not being fair to you. i think he wants to end it but instead of having the guts to do it he is being mean so that you will end it and then he will not be to blame. I would walk away and try to be happy alone. If he wants you he will come back but maybe by then you will have moved on to someone who makes you smile everyday like you deserve.
im 17, my bf is 19. He's in college but he commutes so its not long distance. I'm a senior in high school. we鈥檝e been together for about a year and 2 months. This September everything started to go so wrong. All of a sudden he stopped texting me as much. He didnt want to be with me me as much and things like that. Now its gotten even worse. He barely texts me at all. he says he's busying do school stuff or this and that. He tells ME im being a jerk to him all the time and when i ask for examples he wont give me any. He is constantly picking fights over the stupidest things-for example, today i didnt text him back for 6 minutes and he got mad and didnt text me for 3 hours, and when i asked why he was ignoring me he said he was just responding as fast as i was. He refuses to talk to me about things, he says i ';put words in his mouth';, when sometimes, yea i have to, because he just wont respond to anything.
when we're actually together things are usually better and hes nicer. Its like the ';virtual'; him thats really nasty to me. The thing is a few months ago i was kinda out of control with my emotions, being nasty to him a lot for no reason, picking fights, and just being miserable in general. i just let myself kinda fall into a hole and took it out on him. and he took it for a while but then started to get annoyed like any person would and called me out on it. and ive been trying so hard to be better for him.
but when i do try and stuff he refuses to notice. but he notices the SECOND i do something so small wrong and starts a huge fight about it. it's like his opinion of me is so low that it will never change. and no matter what i do he'll still be so bitter towards me.
when he tells me how horrible i am i ask why he doesnt just break up with me but he says that he expects me being such a jerk to him will ';pass'; and i really dont know what to think about that. Because these days HES the one whos being a total jerk to ME. and at least i admitted it when i was doing it to him, but he just refuses to believe the things he's doing to me.
i cry every single day. sometimes its when i come home from school because he's been ignoring me. sometimes it's when he drops me off after we hang out because SUPRISE, he picked a really stupid fight. im always crying about it. and i just want a second chance to make things good again and he says hes willing to give it to me but his actions dont reflect that.
i really love him and we were planning on going to the same college and being together but i have to apply soon and if hes just going to let this horrible relationship drag on i feel im going to have to break it off because i dont want to see him around ';our'; college which i dont really care if i go to or not, if we're broken up. it would be torture. but i want the second chance...i want things to be good and i want to be happy, but with him. We're really so good for each other and i want it to work.
i just dont know if like hes too far gone. i think he resents so much more then he realizes. he is so bitter about the way i treated him but now he's taking it to an extreme level and hurting me so much. he keeps kicking me back down when im trying to climb back up to where our relationship was.
i also have had some paranoia that hes cheating on me or something but i would NEVER have predicted that. hes always ignoring my texts and saying hes doing school work or hes tired but when i see him he tells me like about the school work or this and that and i believe him. idk if he's making up really good stories or telling the truth. im leaning more towards he's not cheating on me, but a part of me still feels it's possible. he doesnt have any real girl friends but he told me about a few girls that were friendly towards him at school so idk.
so the main thing is that i cant go on feeling like this. i constantly feel like im going to throw up when hes mad at me or ignoring me. i lay at home in bed crying for hours on the week ends and sometimes after school. when im with him im happy as long as he doesnt pick a stupid fight. and when things are good its usually because were just ignoring our issues because he wont talk to me and i want some peace time so i let it go for a bit but its just like a time bomb and then we have a fight. i know it's my own fault that its gotten this bad for treating him teh way i did a few months ago. I just want to make things right but i cant do it if he wont let me and ive really been showing him in trying but he really doesnt care or notice. he always says he doesnt hate me when i accuse him of it in fights, but also says that he feels like i hate him and when i ask for examples, again, hes just like idk so I just dont know what to think or do about it, oh and he says that i have such a low opinion of him that he feels like it will never change no matter what either, which is exactly what i told hSOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
okay, i just read that whole thing and tried to put myself in that same situation..
first of all, dont listen to the dumbass answers you got about him cheating on you. i doubt they even read the whole thing or understand the situation. looks like they just felt like answering a question to give themselves more points or something retarted like that. they dont know.
okay. in my opinion, it sounds like hes kind of a stubborn person.. i prolly would have done the same thing to you if you were a ***** to me. idk what you did to him, but im guessing it wasnt very good by the way it sounds. but i do think hes being a little to extreme about the whole thing. way to extreme actually.
they could be right, maybe he does want to end it...but i really dont think thats it. i think that if he really did want to end it, he would find other things that he thought was wrong with you and bring them up so he would have other excuses or something lame like that. but overall i really dont think breaking up with you is exactly on the top of his list.
you have been in a relationship with him for a while also. and like one of the people said, guys get like that sometimes in relationships. giving him a little space (again i said little) at a time works really well, because if you just let it realx and dont worry about it and just ditch on hanging out with him once or twice, then most likely the next time you see him he will be more anxious to see you.
also, yes you prolly should refrain from texting him as much and calling and ect. yes, it will probably will tick him off a little bit, but remember a relationship isnt supposed to be as sad as yours is right now, so if you do stop texting him and he flips a tit at you and asks you why or accuses you of it, then just simply say, ';because i dont like the way your treating me'; and if he says well you did it to me then say something like '; i did. i never said i didnt. but you have been doing this to me for a long *** time now and im sick of being treated like ****.'; and if he says well then fine or brings up breaking up, im sorry i know its hard but just agree with him and say you need to take a break or break up with him. because honestly, if hes really treating you like that and he keeps on doing it and you just keep on taking it like you are, your going to be completley miserable for god knows how long.
theres alot of things that could be wrong... so im not exactly sure what to tell you, i just have a ton of expierence with guys and how they act because im surrounded by them daily and i talk to them about this kind of stuff.
and for the confronting him about cheating thing..
if you do ask him, make sure it DOSENT SOUND LIKE YOUR ACCUSING HIM! guys absolutley hate it when girls accuse them of that. just hint it to him simply. dont act like your mad and dont be crying when you do it. just make it like its somewhat casual conversation. something just simple. or you could just flat out say, '; im not accusing you of anything when i ask you this, im just a little worried and concerned, but have you been involved in a way that would be considered cheating with another woman?'; that could be a way to put it. idk i dont know the guy. it depends on what hes like..
and remember, you deserve to be happy :) any decisions you make, make sure that there smart on your behalf, because who really wants a relationship based on something like that?SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
1. If you can't handle the relationship, you are too immature.
2. He's probably cheating on you.
3. Leave the poor guy alone!
girl can't u SEE hes CHEATING ON U!!!!!! thats Y his acting like a jerk and fights for everylittle thing
:/
after youve been together for so long it kinda gets like that.
my bestfriend is in 10th and her boyfriend is in 11th and theyve been going out for a year and a half. they fight all the time but they still love eahcother. they think that they might just go on a brake for a while which is what i would suggest to you.
go on a brake don't see each other for a while, but don't see other people either. talk to him about it if he doesn't agree then just leave him. it seems like hes making you feel like crap. and you dont deserve this.
i think that he might b cheating on you.
surprise him at the college that he works at.
talk to one of his friends.
idk im sorry this sounds horrible :(
It sounds like he wants you to break up with him
sooner or later the guilt's gonna drive him mad and he'll really tell you whats up.
either that or confront him.
Say
I'm soo sick of what's going on. If you're cheating on me just tell. Because I'm starting to figure out that somethings not right.'
is this seriously the guy that im going out with?
besides even if your not religious god 'll b there when ur broken hearted :)
OH MY GOD! i'm like going through the same thing!
well what i'm doing is, i'm just going to relax.
i'm not going to text or call or IM him as much as i normally do, just to get his attention.
from now on if he wants to talk to me HE can call me and IM me and call me! and that's how i know he truly loves me, and things will get better.
i think its just that im not giving him enough space, sometimes i think guys just want to be left alone for a while, and they're not trying to hurt their girlfriend.
they just want to relax for awhile, and we keep bugging them which causes them to get all pissy. :]
hope i helped!
hang in there!
Wow, thats a long question %26gt;_%26gt;
he's cheating on you. :]
he is in college now. things are happening around him and he wants to be apart of it. he might possibly be interested in another. you better be careful, and possibly confront him about that.
He is not being fair to you. i think he wants to end it but instead of having the guts to do it he is being mean so that you will end it and then he will not be to blame. I would walk away and try to be happy alone. If he wants you he will come back but maybe by then you will have moved on to someone who makes you smile everyday like you deserve.
Help me please get this girl out of this relationship.... What is ur advice to do?
ok heres the deal i have known this girl about 2 weeks and we have texted daily and now have started goin to lunch...dinner...etc.. untill tonight... i picked her up.. we went to eat.. then she got this phone call and she started freaking out...She stated that her ex who they have been on/off again was sitting waiting at her door and wasnt going home untill she got home. I then out of respect for her asked her what would you like to do, i offered you dont have to go home, or i will walk u inside... she replied '; drop me off at the gate, i dont want you in this drama.'; So i did, and then on my way home she calls me to come back, and he wants to see me... ( im not a small dude)... so i complied.. and next thing i know he meets me at my car and is all like.. i control this girl, u dont take her out. blah blah blah... so before anything went down she asked me to leave (yet again out of respect for her i did) and she starts apologizing. So I ask you guys/girls what am i suppose to do.. I like her.. what can i say... what do i do? Help PLSHelp me please get this girl out of this relationship.... What is ur advice to do?
Nothing......he's not your problem.
If she's interested in dating you, date her.
You have no relationship with him, and should not involve yourself in any way.
It's up to her how she wants to handle him, and if she wants to continue dating you or not. Tell her you're interested in getting to know her better, but only if she's single, and you will have nothing to do with him again, because he isn't your problem.
If another date gets ';interrupted'; by him or his behavior, she needs to know that his needs and desires are not more important than you spending time with her.
If he's camped out on her doorstep, she can dial 911........the cops will take care of it for her.
LuckHelp me please get this girl out of this relationship.... What is ur advice to do?
there's nothing u should do except talking to her abt why she did that . ask her that she want to keep the relationship with u or not ?. its better to leave her if she keep on acting like this . if she disrespect u then she's not the girl for u .
***** SLAP HIM! Out of respect for yourself man! NO BODY is going to tell me who to date, tell her to stay out of it and whoop that ***!
Tell her that. Tell her that you like her and you're willing to stand up to her ex. That would probably show her that you're in it for the long haul. Or ask her what she wants, but just let her know that you're there for her. Kind of a weird situation if you ask me, you're right. But she can make her own decisions, not her ex. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. And if she's trying to keep you out of her drama, asking you to come back, and apologizing left and right, then I would say she's worth sticking with too.
Nothing......he's not your problem.
If she's interested in dating you, date her.
You have no relationship with him, and should not involve yourself in any way.
It's up to her how she wants to handle him, and if she wants to continue dating you or not. Tell her you're interested in getting to know her better, but only if she's single, and you will have nothing to do with him again, because he isn't your problem.
If another date gets ';interrupted'; by him or his behavior, she needs to know that his needs and desires are not more important than you spending time with her.
If he's camped out on her doorstep, she can dial 911........the cops will take care of it for her.
LuckHelp me please get this girl out of this relationship.... What is ur advice to do?
there's nothing u should do except talking to her abt why she did that . ask her that she want to keep the relationship with u or not ?. its better to leave her if she keep on acting like this . if she disrespect u then she's not the girl for u .
***** SLAP HIM! Out of respect for yourself man! NO BODY is going to tell me who to date, tell her to stay out of it and whoop that ***!
Tell her that. Tell her that you like her and you're willing to stand up to her ex. That would probably show her that you're in it for the long haul. Or ask her what she wants, but just let her know that you're there for her. Kind of a weird situation if you ask me, you're right. But she can make her own decisions, not her ex. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. And if she's trying to keep you out of her drama, asking you to come back, and apologizing left and right, then I would say she's worth sticking with too.
I can't find a job and it is very stressful and my relationship is suffering because of it. Need advice?
I need help in knowing what to do about the stress I've been under. My fiance' and I are having issues because of it and we aren't getting along at all.I can't find a job and it is very stressful and my relationship is suffering because of it. Need advice?
You have to do what's right for you and your family. If the job is streesing you out and it's affecting your relationship, then change it. Get a new job. I know that it's hard out here, but as long as you both have each other, then everything else will fall in place. Good luck on you guys relationship.
You have to do what's right for you and your family. If the job is streesing you out and it's affecting your relationship, then change it. Get a new job. I know that it's hard out here, but as long as you both have each other, then everything else will fall in place. Good luck on you guys relationship.
I need advice to make my relationship meaningful agaiN!!!!!!?
Me n my boyfriend are pretty serious, but lately...we dont seem to have the same connection that we did when we first met...i feel like we're not growing in our relationship but drifting apart, how do i handle this situation..? we dont get to talk that much nemore but when we do, we dont have meaning full conversations, I dont wna break up with him, i like him too much to do tht...i've talked to him about it too but tht didnt do much good, please HELP!I need advice to make my relationship meaningful agaiN!!!!!!?
You need to get that fire back that you had. I you can tell that he's not going to help you like anything new with that (haha) You might start by find something you both know something about to do and then you will have something to talk about. Or you could make a day of fun for you and man. Like go to some in door muzium or go and look at cars. You have to be able talk and spend time with each other or you won't make it. And if the bed room is in bad to will go to that stuff store and get new thing to try One thing about men is they get bord and if they get that way you're in turbble. Just try new thing and spend time doing thing he like to .I need advice to make my relationship meaningful agaiN!!!!!!?
LET IT GO
take a break, and if you start dating other people and find what you're missing, then tell him that it's better that way
If you need advice to make it meaningful, then it didn't mean anything in the first place. Are you bored with the sex or something? Why don't you bring one of your girlfriends in on it then? I dunno. I can't really tell you much, not knowing you or him or anything like that.
If your between 16-18 I have a feeling I know whats going on. If you have any syblings you'll know what I'm talking about-- with a brother/sister relationship you become so comfortable that you may fight with them a lot or you just don't feel close to them even though you love them-- with a bf/gf it could mean that the two of you have been going out for so long-got so comfortable w/ one another- that your actually drifting apart!
The true test: maybe its time to see/meet new people and if you find yourself thinking about no one else but the orginal guy..then you guys were closer than you thought.
Hope This Helped-
Eric
wow you sound like my relationship!!! well here is a couple of tips when u talk to him make it meaningful....you need to put effort...or try to talk about things he likes and get him talking or joke around...or talkto him about him being like that and make sure he feels the same
You need to get that fire back that you had. I you can tell that he's not going to help you like anything new with that (haha) You might start by find something you both know something about to do and then you will have something to talk about. Or you could make a day of fun for you and man. Like go to some in door muzium or go and look at cars. You have to be able talk and spend time with each other or you won't make it. And if the bed room is in bad to will go to that stuff store and get new thing to try One thing about men is they get bord and if they get that way you're in turbble. Just try new thing and spend time doing thing he like to .I need advice to make my relationship meaningful agaiN!!!!!!?
LET IT GO
take a break, and if you start dating other people and find what you're missing, then tell him that it's better that way
If you need advice to make it meaningful, then it didn't mean anything in the first place. Are you bored with the sex or something? Why don't you bring one of your girlfriends in on it then? I dunno. I can't really tell you much, not knowing you or him or anything like that.
If your between 16-18 I have a feeling I know whats going on. If you have any syblings you'll know what I'm talking about-- with a brother/sister relationship you become so comfortable that you may fight with them a lot or you just don't feel close to them even though you love them-- with a bf/gf it could mean that the two of you have been going out for so long-got so comfortable w/ one another- that your actually drifting apart!
The true test: maybe its time to see/meet new people and if you find yourself thinking about no one else but the orginal guy..then you guys were closer than you thought.
Hope This Helped-
Eric
wow you sound like my relationship!!! well here is a couple of tips when u talk to him make it meaningful....you need to put effort...or try to talk about things he likes and get him talking or joke around...or talkto him about him being like that and make sure he feels the same
Can I handle being in a relationship? Please give me advice?
Every time I have a relationship it always goes the same way. I start off so loving and dedicated to the the relationship. Then, after a few months I start to get a little moody...this gets increasingly worse with time til I just want a lot of space( no i love yous, limited kissing, basically I'm just a b*tch). Last time this happened i had been with my BF for 5 mo's and i just couldn't take the way i felt anymore so i broke up with him. After 2 or 3 weeks we got back together and now have been happy for 6 mo's but now im going crazy again. Am i destine to be alone?Can I handle being in a relationship? Please give me advice?
Well....Maybe ur just nt cut out for long term relationships. Maybe u shouldn't be in a relationship at all at this point in time. Maybe u should just b by yourself because it seems maybe u nt mature Enough to handle it and it doesn't seem fair to ur partners if a of a sudden u start buggin out when y'all are together for a while, not only because its selfish but because people start developing deep feelings after a while n u start letting them go. that can hurt a lot of men. Just be by yourself...until u figure out wat ur issues are.Can I handle being in a relationship? Please give me advice?
This has happened to me before. It just means that the person is not right for you and your getting board. Just make sure to break with the person before you hurt them. Try dating more rather than rushing into a relationship. This way you can work on finding a guys you want to be with.
this happens a lot to people. all you can do, is to keep working on ur realtionship. relationships take time. They dont just happen over night.
just relax, take it easy, get to know the guy, and be yourself.... not saying be an annoying b**, just hav some fun...
better take control of ur emotions dont let them take control of u..
for how, use yahoo answers.
No. But maybe in this point in your life you are not ready for a full blown relationship. Maybe you like your space and you are focusing on other goals.
No you're just not happy with him. Let him go. You will find someone eventually. I went through the same thing.
no tell him u have mood swings and if he leaves just let him try to find the guy that likes you for who you are
No, but try to control yourself!
yupp
i don't think that a person is destine to be alone or anything but some do chose to be alone. i think that first one has to be comfortable with being alone before they can feel confortable with someone else. you might find sad to never have anyone to share the big and the small momntes with.
the main issue is to find someone that also enjoys sharing but enjoys being alone or solitary. taking those times to reflect inward rather than outward. both have vaule.
most i know that are at easy in their own skin, find it easier to be with others.
perhaps choosing more wisely in who you decide to share and be with is the key.
Well....Maybe ur just nt cut out for long term relationships. Maybe u shouldn't be in a relationship at all at this point in time. Maybe u should just b by yourself because it seems maybe u nt mature Enough to handle it and it doesn't seem fair to ur partners if a of a sudden u start buggin out when y'all are together for a while, not only because its selfish but because people start developing deep feelings after a while n u start letting them go. that can hurt a lot of men. Just be by yourself...until u figure out wat ur issues are.Can I handle being in a relationship? Please give me advice?
This has happened to me before. It just means that the person is not right for you and your getting board. Just make sure to break with the person before you hurt them. Try dating more rather than rushing into a relationship. This way you can work on finding a guys you want to be with.
this happens a lot to people. all you can do, is to keep working on ur realtionship. relationships take time. They dont just happen over night.
just relax, take it easy, get to know the guy, and be yourself.... not saying be an annoying b**, just hav some fun...
better take control of ur emotions dont let them take control of u..
for how, use yahoo answers.
No. But maybe in this point in your life you are not ready for a full blown relationship. Maybe you like your space and you are focusing on other goals.
No you're just not happy with him. Let him go. You will find someone eventually. I went through the same thing.
no tell him u have mood swings and if he leaves just let him try to find the guy that likes you for who you are
No, but try to control yourself!
yupp
i don't think that a person is destine to be alone or anything but some do chose to be alone. i think that first one has to be comfortable with being alone before they can feel confortable with someone else. you might find sad to never have anyone to share the big and the small momntes with.
the main issue is to find someone that also enjoys sharing but enjoys being alone or solitary. taking those times to reflect inward rather than outward. both have vaule.
most i know that are at easy in their own skin, find it easier to be with others.
perhaps choosing more wisely in who you decide to share and be with is the key.
Relationship Issues, well sort of. Advice needed.?
I met a girl online whilst splitting up with my ex, problem was I never mentioned my ex to the new girl. We got on really well and decided to meet up so I told her the story when we met. We had a good time and kept in touch over the net and now all of a sudden she seems more distant she wants to meet again but doesn't know when. There are issues apparently we need to sort out but she won't tell me what they are. What should I do about this? should I make a go of it or is it more hassle than it's worth?Relationship Issues, well sort of. Advice needed.?
Make a go of it but just give her the time and space that she needs, if its meant to be she'll come round and then you two can make a proper go of things, and if your ex is completely out the picture, that shouldnt matter now.Relationship Issues, well sort of. Advice needed.?
Firstly, are you two even in a relationship?
Secondly the answer is simple when coming to the question of whether you should make a go of it or not...how much do you like her and want her?
Your answer will tell you all...
try and make a go of it, she might be afraid of her feelings towards you and not sure what to do so is backing a way for a while...she mmight also be waiting for it to be finial and hopes she isn't a rebound person.
dont rush things to much..just give her time and see how things work outrefill
Make a go of it but just give her the time and space that she needs, if its meant to be she'll come round and then you two can make a proper go of things, and if your ex is completely out the picture, that shouldnt matter now.Relationship Issues, well sort of. Advice needed.?
Firstly, are you two even in a relationship?
Secondly the answer is simple when coming to the question of whether you should make a go of it or not...how much do you like her and want her?
Your answer will tell you all...
try and make a go of it, she might be afraid of her feelings towards you and not sure what to do so is backing a way for a while...she mmight also be waiting for it to be finial and hopes she isn't a rebound person.
dont rush things to much..just give her time and see how things work out
Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i broke up wit my bf the other nit as the relationship wasn't goin anywhere %26amp; we were arguin mor n mor. i thought he was my soulm8 but i fell outta love wit him. how do i move on, knowin ive broken his heart? plus, is it possible 4 us 2 go on jus bein friends?Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
hello DD, so i am proud of u, u did the nxt step, breaking the relationship i am not saying i am happy about it, but i think it is for both of ur sake and to know ur differences, which u know it is not going anywhere? my question is did u end up in a nice way? even though u r the one who broke the relationship, u shuldn't feel bad on his account. He needs to see the clear picture for himself, what is going on in ur relationship, not just being there for each other, argue then make up, does not make the relationship work. both of u need to be mature being involve, commitment is a big words to understand, how commited are u? u probably are? but how about him? it takes 2 to tango and if u don't have that strong partner the dance wouldn't be look so graceful and wonderful as it should be. you cannot tell that a person with, will be ur soulmate, the feeling that u had at first would probably love at first sight, that only works in the first sight, if u know what i mean, the more u spend time together the more u get to know each other, and u think he is the one, now u finally find out that u had differences. Yes! it is possible for both of u to be friends again, just for now give each other some space, stop hovering on him don't call him, e-mail, or even tex him, u need to learn how to let go! letting go is not an easy task but if u focus u will be alright and u will find it in ur heart that this is the first chapter in ur life and it has to end for now. divert ur attention into something make ur mind occupied. Do somthing that u enjoy, if u enjoy working out, then go for it, read, or just be with the people u enjoy the most except him i mean, have fun. Let go! that all there is to it...i hope i can help. and u will be fine...just be positve, here is my final thought for u, that had been share with me too, now i am sharing it with u....'; Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what u could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as u can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high spirit to be cumbered with old nonsense';... Good luck....and take care..Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i hope you're proud of yourself.....ther's no way you can go on just being friends....god women are all the same
You should not be friends with him right away. It is not healthy. You just have to give it time to get over him and maybe after that you can consider being friends. Give it time. Time heals everything.
friends will depend on how you both feel,if it wasn't a mutual break-up he may be resentful.leave it for a while to calm down and don't rush into another relationship.don't let some other poor bloke be the rebound but enjoy your new found freedom,if it was meant to be maybe you will meet again in the future
You need time and space, when the dust settles you may well be freinds, but not straight away, it will be harder for him if you are a friend while he is still getting over you.. And vice versa. Time will heal this..
you cant be friends right away you need space to become yourself first learn how to make yourself happy then you can make others happy appreciate who you are let time heal then maybe you can be friends when you both can get rid of your attachments to each other then true friendship can blossom when you both want the other to be truly happy and whats best for each other it just takes time
hello DD, so i am proud of u, u did the nxt step, breaking the relationship i am not saying i am happy about it, but i think it is for both of ur sake and to know ur differences, which u know it is not going anywhere? my question is did u end up in a nice way? even though u r the one who broke the relationship, u shuldn't feel bad on his account. He needs to see the clear picture for himself, what is going on in ur relationship, not just being there for each other, argue then make up, does not make the relationship work. both of u need to be mature being involve, commitment is a big words to understand, how commited are u? u probably are? but how about him? it takes 2 to tango and if u don't have that strong partner the dance wouldn't be look so graceful and wonderful as it should be. you cannot tell that a person with, will be ur soulmate, the feeling that u had at first would probably love at first sight, that only works in the first sight, if u know what i mean, the more u spend time together the more u get to know each other, and u think he is the one, now u finally find out that u had differences. Yes! it is possible for both of u to be friends again, just for now give each other some space, stop hovering on him don't call him, e-mail, or even tex him, u need to learn how to let go! letting go is not an easy task but if u focus u will be alright and u will find it in ur heart that this is the first chapter in ur life and it has to end for now. divert ur attention into something make ur mind occupied. Do somthing that u enjoy, if u enjoy working out, then go for it, read, or just be with the people u enjoy the most except him i mean, have fun. Let go! that all there is to it...i hope i can help. and u will be fine...just be positve, here is my final thought for u, that had been share with me too, now i am sharing it with u....'; Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what u could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as u can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high spirit to be cumbered with old nonsense';... Good luck....and take care..Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i hope you're proud of yourself.....ther's no way you can go on just being friends....god women are all the same
You should not be friends with him right away. It is not healthy. You just have to give it time to get over him and maybe after that you can consider being friends. Give it time. Time heals everything.
friends will depend on how you both feel,if it wasn't a mutual break-up he may be resentful.leave it for a while to calm down and don't rush into another relationship.don't let some other poor bloke be the rebound but enjoy your new found freedom,if it was meant to be maybe you will meet again in the future
You need time and space, when the dust settles you may well be freinds, but not straight away, it will be harder for him if you are a friend while he is still getting over you.. And vice versa. Time will heal this..
you cant be friends right away you need space to become yourself first learn how to make yourself happy then you can make others happy appreciate who you are let time heal then maybe you can be friends when you both can get rid of your attachments to each other then true friendship can blossom when you both want the other to be truly happy and whats best for each other it just takes time
Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
16 year old daughter moved out 4 months ago with her boyfriend. My husband and I were very upset. We did everything to get her to come home even got the police involved. She just didn't want to live by the few rules we had for her. I, since then, have come to accept it (sorta) for the sake of my daughters and I relationship. I just feel by sitting back and dwelling on it will do no good. It may just push her farther away. My husband on the other hand is cival to her but not her boyfriend. He is not ready to welcome him back into our home. He is still very upset with him for taking our daughter away. I feel by him being this way he is pushing her farther away. Is he just being a Dad? By the way he and our daughter have never had a close relationship. I need some advise. This is really bothering me. Especially with Christmas coming.Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
Your 16 yr old minor child moved out and even the police would not bring her back to you? How old is the boyfriend? Rules or not she is a minor child and she has to reside where you chose until she is of legal age. Your daughters boyfriend didnt make her leave she chose to leave and your husband needs to realize that if he can not then your daughter needs to understand that her boyfriend is not welcomed in your home those are your only choices.Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
IMO you should align with your husband....you are one flesh and hubby makes the final decision. Traditionally a father's time comes when he gives his blessing at the wedding via escorting his daughter to her future husband hand in hand. If she is only 16 he still has some time left to model to her by spending time with her. Ya never know. He's not pushing your daughter is pushing both your buttons and pulling away too soon....she's confused and rebellious.
If she doesn't want to follow rules that's too bad it's your home not her's and everybody elses don't worry about what you look like or take advice from wishy washy people...there is no option on the laws of your home and her following them is her decision that hopefully won't end up to be her consequences in the future. You are right Christmas is coming and you will not have this going on in your home so ';let's make it the best Christmas celebration we have ever had as a family';.
Dealing with newborn issues ....oh, those sleepless nights over such ez issues - shame on us for complaining.
You are doing the right thing by welcoming her back - the more you tell her what not to do the more she will do that exact thing. How old is the boyfriend? Your husband is a jerk - sounds like he wants to control her - can't live her life for her. Granted, no one wants their 16 year old to move out but at that age they can be really stubborn. Keep her as close as you can and be there for her when she needs you
daddy's little girl is not supposed to behave that way. In his eyes his princess has turned into a whore, if she had moved out with some college friends it would be more acceptable than she moving in with a guy. Daddy hates to think of that guy banging his daughter and he hates to think of his little girl doing nasty things with that guy.
In daddy's eye's she is ruined and she disgusts him.
1-- the boyfriend didnt take her...it was her choice
2-It's very hard to turn a back on someone you've raised
3-Go with the flow, eventually she might see the light and come home....
4-I've had the same experience and I sympathize totally with you...time will tell.....hang in there.......
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Legally you can make her stay until she's 18.
Why didn't the Police help you?
Fathers and daughters even though not close are father and child, she is16 and still his little girl who was snatched away by a pervert and how old is her b/f anyway?, he may one day forgive him but not in the near future.
Your 16 yr old minor child moved out and even the police would not bring her back to you? How old is the boyfriend? Rules or not she is a minor child and she has to reside where you chose until she is of legal age. Your daughters boyfriend didnt make her leave she chose to leave and your husband needs to realize that if he can not then your daughter needs to understand that her boyfriend is not welcomed in your home those are your only choices.Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
IMO you should align with your husband....you are one flesh and hubby makes the final decision. Traditionally a father's time comes when he gives his blessing at the wedding via escorting his daughter to her future husband hand in hand. If she is only 16 he still has some time left to model to her by spending time with her. Ya never know. He's not pushing your daughter is pushing both your buttons and pulling away too soon....she's confused and rebellious.
If she doesn't want to follow rules that's too bad it's your home not her's and everybody elses don't worry about what you look like or take advice from wishy washy people...there is no option on the laws of your home and her following them is her decision that hopefully won't end up to be her consequences in the future. You are right Christmas is coming and you will not have this going on in your home so ';let's make it the best Christmas celebration we have ever had as a family';.
Dealing with newborn issues ....oh, those sleepless nights over such ez issues - shame on us for complaining.
You are doing the right thing by welcoming her back - the more you tell her what not to do the more she will do that exact thing. How old is the boyfriend? Your husband is a jerk - sounds like he wants to control her - can't live her life for her. Granted, no one wants their 16 year old to move out but at that age they can be really stubborn. Keep her as close as you can and be there for her when she needs you
daddy's little girl is not supposed to behave that way. In his eyes his princess has turned into a whore, if she had moved out with some college friends it would be more acceptable than she moving in with a guy. Daddy hates to think of that guy banging his daughter and he hates to think of his little girl doing nasty things with that guy.
In daddy's eye's she is ruined and she disgusts him.
1-- the boyfriend didnt take her...it was her choice
2-It's very hard to turn a back on someone you've raised
3-Go with the flow, eventually she might see the light and come home....
4-I've had the same experience and I sympathize totally with you...time will tell.....hang in there.......
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Legally you can make her stay until she's 18.
Why didn't the Police help you?
Fathers and daughters even though not close are father and child, she is16 and still his little girl who was snatched away by a pervert and how old is her b/f anyway?, he may one day forgive him but not in the near future.
Does anyone have advice for a person considering a relationship with someone with Herpes HSV I II?
I am having a difficult time getting comfortable with the fact that my girlfriend has HSV I and II(and I do not). I am afraid, knowing that if I choose to stay in this relationship, I will eventually end up getting it as well...and there is no way to know how my body will react to the virus'. Right now I am viewing the virus as a magnifying glass that makes small concerns seem like larger ones, because it is a huge commitment just to try to see if the relationship will be successful. The relationship would already have more than normal amounts of stressors because of geographical issues(I'd have to move a long distance to be with her) and other reasons. We have been doing the long-distance dating which is great, but distance makes the heart grow fonder as well. I feel like a very bad person for having these feelings, but I'm trying to get a grasp on things, so please help if you have any insights.Does anyone have advice for a person considering a relationship with someone with Herpes HSV I II?
I would say go for it. Herpes is only contagious when the blisters open/burst. I went out with a girl with genital gerpes for quite a while %26amp; didn't contract it. It's important that she's honest with you, because she will know about it before you do. In the chance of you getting infected, the severity will vary from person to person - some rarely get flare-ups, others get it from the slightest trigger (climate change, stress, etc), however, your own rreaction isn't really something you want to find out, so as soon as she shows the 1st symptoms, abstain until it's fully cleared up.Does anyone have advice for a person considering a relationship with someone with Herpes HSV I II?
This is a good opportunity to go slow. Get to know each other before jumping in the sack together. Use protection if you do decide to get in the sack and check for visible signs of the virus. It is possible for her to spread the virus to you without having symptoms through asymptomatic shedding.
Learn as much about the virus as you can. Its probable that you have been exposed to it at some point if you have had more than four partners.
I would say go for it. Herpes is only contagious when the blisters open/burst. I went out with a girl with genital gerpes for quite a while %26amp; didn't contract it. It's important that she's honest with you, because she will know about it before you do. In the chance of you getting infected, the severity will vary from person to person - some rarely get flare-ups, others get it from the slightest trigger (climate change, stress, etc), however, your own rreaction isn't really something you want to find out, so as soon as she shows the 1st symptoms, abstain until it's fully cleared up.Does anyone have advice for a person considering a relationship with someone with Herpes HSV I II?
This is a good opportunity to go slow. Get to know each other before jumping in the sack together. Use protection if you do decide to get in the sack and check for visible signs of the virus. It is possible for her to spread the virus to you without having symptoms through asymptomatic shedding.
Learn as much about the virus as you can. Its probable that you have been exposed to it at some point if you have had more than four partners.
Advice for high school aged relationships?
I've only had one boyfriend in the past, and plan on being single for a while. But I am curious--what experiences or advice do you have concerning a high school age relationship?Advice for high school aged relationships?
From my experience, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something if your unsure. Easier said than done, but high school passes and your left with your memories of that time. The less you have to regret then the better it will be remembered.
Don't move to fast, and don't disregard someone whose company you enjoy because of social hierarchies. Some of the greatest people are not conventionally ';cool';. I blew off an amazing guy in high school because he wasn't who my friends thought I should be dating and I regret hurting such a sweet, smart guy.Advice for high school aged relationships?
Don't let the relationship get too serious too fast. There are a lot of guys who lure girls in just to have sex with them. I'm pretty sure you already know what those consequences can be. You could get pregnant, an STD, your heart broken, etc. If you want to date, it should be just for fun now. If the relationship becomes sexual, use protection EVERY TIME. Don't get stuck on one particular guy. Chances are, the relationship won't last as long as you think it will. Hope this helps
sex is a big one, if u do get in a relationship, be prepared if the guy asks u and answer him if ur ready or not, but unfortunately, most high school relationships don't last long..
Well sex would be a big issue depending on the guy and being rushed into something your not ready for but just remember that the choice is yours and you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
From my experience, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something if your unsure. Easier said than done, but high school passes and your left with your memories of that time. The less you have to regret then the better it will be remembered.
Don't move to fast, and don't disregard someone whose company you enjoy because of social hierarchies. Some of the greatest people are not conventionally ';cool';. I blew off an amazing guy in high school because he wasn't who my friends thought I should be dating and I regret hurting such a sweet, smart guy.Advice for high school aged relationships?
Don't let the relationship get too serious too fast. There are a lot of guys who lure girls in just to have sex with them. I'm pretty sure you already know what those consequences can be. You could get pregnant, an STD, your heart broken, etc. If you want to date, it should be just for fun now. If the relationship becomes sexual, use protection EVERY TIME. Don't get stuck on one particular guy. Chances are, the relationship won't last as long as you think it will. Hope this helps
sex is a big one, if u do get in a relationship, be prepared if the guy asks u and answer him if ur ready or not, but unfortunately, most high school relationships don't last long..
Well sex would be a big issue depending on the guy and being rushed into something your not ready for but just remember that the choice is yours and you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
Please help me save my relationship... i need real advice...?
okay so my guy and i have been together for six months now... i really love him more than any words can explain but i made a really bad mistake. i cheated on my boyfriend with a female about a week ago and i told him about it on saturday... most people wonder why i told him but i feel that a relationship should be total honesty and no secrets. that was something that i knew would kind of change things but had to be told. i regret it so much now and its really hurting the both of us. i can honestly say i don't want to be with anyone else.he broke up with me at first by simply saying it was over. ofcourse the conversation lasted out more than just those few words but ';its over'; pretty much sums it up. at first he couldn look me in my eyes and tell me it was over but by the fourth time he was able to look me dead in my eye kinda like he convinced his self. we've been talking and now the break up is now considered as just taking a break. a few have said oh it'll last for a week or two and you guys will be back together, he's just hurt right now! all of the people who know him keep tellin me oh he's just mad and wants to make you hurt too but he's gonna get over it.what can i make of this situation? do you think my relationship can be revived after this? he's already hanging out with his boys to go chill with freaks but i honestly think its him trying to get me back and piss me off... can anyone give me some serious advice rather than just jumping to the conclusion of i should just let it go? thank you!Please help me save my relationship... i need real advice...?
alright heres the deal. cheating is not to be taken lightly. he is obviously offended, and distrustful of you right now, i hope you know and understand that. the good thing is that you told him, because you are right honesty is the key EVERY TIME. as much as it hurts, you should get it off your chest sooner then later (no need having a big elephant in the room every day).
as far as your relationship goes, let it play out for a little bit. if he doesn't call you, don't call him! guys need time to process this stuff out. me and my bf are big on cheating (meaning we both hate it cuz we know the pain it causes) and it has been made perfectly clear between us that if one of us cheats, its over. but that is just my belief system.
listen to what your heart says, and do what you think its right. if he cares for you, he'll forgive you. but it will take time. im telling you. the same thing happened with my boy of 2 yrs, and he cheated on me after a year and a half together. i found out after that and it was like a light went off in my head that said :get rid of him: because all the love and respect was gone...but...don't be too worried. if you let smth go, and it comes back...ur meant to be. but if it doesn't then maybe its for the best.
good luck hunny!
btw, did he know you were bi?Please help me save my relationship... i need real advice...?
Maybe he is grossed out by the idea of you cheating on him with another girl. Maybe he has higher morals than that, and doesn't agree with that kind of stuff. I think maybe... you dissappointed him more than hurt him. You don't have to let it go, but consider he has moved on.
Spend some type of romantic night with him, make love. Tell him he's the only one you care about, and nothing can get in the way of that. not even the same gender. if you stroke his ego, he'll feel good. he seems like an aries or a cancer lol.
Tell him he's the luckiest guy in the world, to have a bi-curious girlfriend. Threesome, baby!!!
Anyway, re: your question. Relax, give it a few days, and go talk to him. He'll come around.
If u care as much as u sound, it would have been wise to consider the fling before it happened. but not crying over spilled milk. U have nothing to do but wait for him to decide. Watch ur behavior, cause he sure will be.
Cheating on someone is a very costly mistake because you betray someone's trust even if you are honest with them about it. You can ask for forgiveness and a second chance but if he says no then I would back off.
well, on the positive side at least you told him. %26amp; I think your relationship with this guy can be revived but you have to show him ur willing to be commited in a relationship ONLY with him.
good luck :]
I think he should stay away from you because you do not deserve to be in a relationship anymore.
invite him to a threesome. that should make everything better.
It may work out but I have my doubts. Every time he looks at you for now on, I believe, he would be remained that you cheated on him with someone else.
nm
I don't think it's fair to your boyfriend for you to try to get back together with him. It's more likely you'll cheat again if you've done it before and you don't want to do that to him again. If you got involved with someone else-this girl- then it must mean something about your relationship. Why were you fooling around with someone else, and of the opposite sex? These are questions you need to answer before trying to fix a broken relationship because there might be underlying issues that need to be dealt with.
Well, you certainly made a mistake, but we are all human. He may be questioning whether you love him or not and trying to put it all into perspective. I think he is gone, I really do. Take the time you need to clear YOUR head, journal your experience about the situation, not the details of it but the feelings and general stuff, try to find themes in which got you off track. Share those with him and keep the communication lines open. Communication is half of the battle but the road back to trust is earned over time and sometimes cant fully be regained. I hope you the best,
Good Luck,
Your Assistant
I have been in this situation before actually. My ex-girlfriend did things with some girl at her old job. The girl had made it clear that she liked my gf, and one night she was out with her work friends and my gf got drunk and did stuff with that girl. She told me about a month later and at first i was really hurt i forgave her right on the spot but i was pissed on the inside. No mind you we had been together for 2 yrs. I was really angry with her for just not having control over herself. she kept tellin me it meant nothing but ';i told her think how you would feel if i just made out with some other guy?'; It just really hurt but also makes you mad because i felt like ';she was mine and she only gave herself to me but then this nobody girl got to have some of her wtf?'; So he's most likely trying to deal with it. I forgave her on the spot because i loved her and saw how much she hated herself for it. But my trust level was damaged. it didn't kill our relationship. We broke up later, but it had nothing to do with this event. I would say you might be able to save it, but i was only able to forgive her because of a previous 2 yrs of relationship. 6 months? if that had happened at 6 months i would have left her. I would suggest just to tell him your intentions/wishes (you want this to work) If he wants to he will respond in kind there or sometime soon. If he doesn't i would let him go. This kind of situation really can shake the foundations of a relationship. I'm not saying he doesn't love you but he might not be able to move beyond it just because of the time. 6 months really isn't that long. It just when you are really really getting comfortable with a person. But if your really sorry for this i wish you the best of luck.
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buy him over with chocolates and old love movies~
write him or sing him a song!
such as;;
you make me happy whether you know it or not
we should be happy that's what i said from the start
i am so happy knowing you are the one
that i want for the rest of my days
for the rest of my days
your all of my days
your lookin so cool your lookin so fly
i cant deny that when im staring
you down right dead in the eye
i wanna try to be the person you want
the person you need
its hard to conceive
that somebody like you could be with
someone like me
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
uhh ooo ooo
your lookin so fresh
its catching my eye
why oh why did i not see this before
the girl i adore was right in front of me
and now ill take a step back and look in your eye
and ask why it took so long to see
were meant to be
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
on the good, the bad, the ugly
the smiles ,the laughs, the funny,
or all the things we put each other through
its for you for you for youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
you make me happy whether you know it or not
we should be happy thats what i said from the start
i am so happy knowing you are the one
that i want for the rest of my days
for the rest of my days
your all of my days
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
I know you want to know ahead of time what will happen here, but you won't know how this will pan out till it actually pans out.
I think you did the right thing by telling him. It would have caused you a lot of guilt and been hard to keep secret. Can you imagine trying to keep something like that from him for 20, 30, 50 years?
So you definitely did the right thing there, but unfortunately now you're suffering the consequences.
Really all you can do is wait to see what he decides in the end.
I'm more worried about how you're really feeling inside. I know you started by saying you love this man more than words can tell, but something wasn't right or you would have stayed faithful to him. Something caused you to make that mistake, and maybe you need to get in touch with your own feelings more because the cause hasn't gone away and may come back to haunt you again and again.
It's really not up to you at this point. Definately let him know how you feel, so he knows where you stand. That may help his decision. But first off, YOU cheated on HIM. So ultimately, it's his decision whether he wants to get back with you or not. If he says it's over for good, and you make sure he doesn't want you back, then let him go. But until then, keep fighting for him as much as you can, because if he sees how much you want him, that might influence his decision as well.
First off he has a right to try to get back at you, not only did you cheat on him, you took away some of his manhood by doing it with a girl! Second of all 6 months is not long enough to want to go to any risk to keep a relationship. Maybe you should try one with a girl, not being an *** in anyway. Try to move on, im sure you can find someone else that you will love Just as much,
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alright heres the deal. cheating is not to be taken lightly. he is obviously offended, and distrustful of you right now, i hope you know and understand that. the good thing is that you told him, because you are right honesty is the key EVERY TIME. as much as it hurts, you should get it off your chest sooner then later (no need having a big elephant in the room every day).
as far as your relationship goes, let it play out for a little bit. if he doesn't call you, don't call him! guys need time to process this stuff out. me and my bf are big on cheating (meaning we both hate it cuz we know the pain it causes) and it has been made perfectly clear between us that if one of us cheats, its over. but that is just my belief system.
listen to what your heart says, and do what you think its right. if he cares for you, he'll forgive you. but it will take time. im telling you. the same thing happened with my boy of 2 yrs, and he cheated on me after a year and a half together. i found out after that and it was like a light went off in my head that said :get rid of him: because all the love and respect was gone...but...don't be too worried. if you let smth go, and it comes back...ur meant to be. but if it doesn't then maybe its for the best.
good luck hunny!
btw, did he know you were bi?Please help me save my relationship... i need real advice...?
Maybe he is grossed out by the idea of you cheating on him with another girl. Maybe he has higher morals than that, and doesn't agree with that kind of stuff. I think maybe... you dissappointed him more than hurt him. You don't have to let it go, but consider he has moved on.
Spend some type of romantic night with him, make love. Tell him he's the only one you care about, and nothing can get in the way of that. not even the same gender. if you stroke his ego, he'll feel good. he seems like an aries or a cancer lol.
Tell him he's the luckiest guy in the world, to have a bi-curious girlfriend. Threesome, baby!!!
Anyway, re: your question. Relax, give it a few days, and go talk to him. He'll come around.
If u care as much as u sound, it would have been wise to consider the fling before it happened. but not crying over spilled milk. U have nothing to do but wait for him to decide. Watch ur behavior, cause he sure will be.
Cheating on someone is a very costly mistake because you betray someone's trust even if you are honest with them about it. You can ask for forgiveness and a second chance but if he says no then I would back off.
well, on the positive side at least you told him. %26amp; I think your relationship with this guy can be revived but you have to show him ur willing to be commited in a relationship ONLY with him.
good luck :]
I think he should stay away from you because you do not deserve to be in a relationship anymore.
invite him to a threesome. that should make everything better.
It may work out but I have my doubts. Every time he looks at you for now on, I believe, he would be remained that you cheated on him with someone else.
nm
I don't think it's fair to your boyfriend for you to try to get back together with him. It's more likely you'll cheat again if you've done it before and you don't want to do that to him again. If you got involved with someone else-this girl- then it must mean something about your relationship. Why were you fooling around with someone else, and of the opposite sex? These are questions you need to answer before trying to fix a broken relationship because there might be underlying issues that need to be dealt with.
Well, you certainly made a mistake, but we are all human. He may be questioning whether you love him or not and trying to put it all into perspective. I think he is gone, I really do. Take the time you need to clear YOUR head, journal your experience about the situation, not the details of it but the feelings and general stuff, try to find themes in which got you off track. Share those with him and keep the communication lines open. Communication is half of the battle but the road back to trust is earned over time and sometimes cant fully be regained. I hope you the best,
Good Luck,
Your Assistant
I have been in this situation before actually. My ex-girlfriend did things with some girl at her old job. The girl had made it clear that she liked my gf, and one night she was out with her work friends and my gf got drunk and did stuff with that girl. She told me about a month later and at first i was really hurt i forgave her right on the spot but i was pissed on the inside. No mind you we had been together for 2 yrs. I was really angry with her for just not having control over herself. she kept tellin me it meant nothing but ';i told her think how you would feel if i just made out with some other guy?'; It just really hurt but also makes you mad because i felt like ';she was mine and she only gave herself to me but then this nobody girl got to have some of her wtf?'; So he's most likely trying to deal with it. I forgave her on the spot because i loved her and saw how much she hated herself for it. But my trust level was damaged. it didn't kill our relationship. We broke up later, but it had nothing to do with this event. I would say you might be able to save it, but i was only able to forgive her because of a previous 2 yrs of relationship. 6 months? if that had happened at 6 months i would have left her. I would suggest just to tell him your intentions/wishes (you want this to work) If he wants to he will respond in kind there or sometime soon. If he doesn't i would let him go. This kind of situation really can shake the foundations of a relationship. I'm not saying he doesn't love you but he might not be able to move beyond it just because of the time. 6 months really isn't that long. It just when you are really really getting comfortable with a person. But if your really sorry for this i wish you the best of luck.
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buy him over with chocolates and old love movies~
write him or sing him a song!
such as;;
you make me happy whether you know it or not
we should be happy that's what i said from the start
i am so happy knowing you are the one
that i want for the rest of my days
for the rest of my days
your all of my days
your lookin so cool your lookin so fly
i cant deny that when im staring
you down right dead in the eye
i wanna try to be the person you want
the person you need
its hard to conceive
that somebody like you could be with
someone like me
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
uhh ooo ooo
your lookin so fresh
its catching my eye
why oh why did i not see this before
the girl i adore was right in front of me
and now ill take a step back and look in your eye
and ask why it took so long to see
were meant to be
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
on the good, the bad, the ugly
the smiles ,the laughs, the funny,
or all the things we put each other through
its for you for you for youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
you make me happy whether you know it or not
we should be happy thats what i said from the start
i am so happy knowing you are the one
that i want for the rest of my days
for the rest of my days
your all of my days
im happy knowing that you are mine
the grass is greener on the other si-ide
the more i think the more i wish
that we could lay here for hours and justa reminisce
I know you want to know ahead of time what will happen here, but you won't know how this will pan out till it actually pans out.
I think you did the right thing by telling him. It would have caused you a lot of guilt and been hard to keep secret. Can you imagine trying to keep something like that from him for 20, 30, 50 years?
So you definitely did the right thing there, but unfortunately now you're suffering the consequences.
Really all you can do is wait to see what he decides in the end.
I'm more worried about how you're really feeling inside. I know you started by saying you love this man more than words can tell, but something wasn't right or you would have stayed faithful to him. Something caused you to make that mistake, and maybe you need to get in touch with your own feelings more because the cause hasn't gone away and may come back to haunt you again and again.
It's really not up to you at this point. Definately let him know how you feel, so he knows where you stand. That may help his decision. But first off, YOU cheated on HIM. So ultimately, it's his decision whether he wants to get back with you or not. If he says it's over for good, and you make sure he doesn't want you back, then let him go. But until then, keep fighting for him as much as you can, because if he sees how much you want him, that might influence his decision as well.
First off he has a right to try to get back at you, not only did you cheat on him, you took away some of his manhood by doing it with a girl! Second of all 6 months is not long enough to want to go to any risk to keep a relationship. Maybe you should try one with a girl, not being an *** in anyway. Try to move on, im sure you can find someone else that you will love Just as much,
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Monday, November 21, 2011
My best friend ruined our relationship I need some advice?
I am 46 and my friend is to, we have been friends for 4 yrs. my last b-day me and my husband went out for a couple of drinks then my so called best friend came...so she called other friends to come down when my other friends came in I said thank u for coming for a drink for my birthday, they did not know it was my birthday I was so embarrassed and my best friend said to me see what I threw together in five minutes. OH WAS I STEAMING she gave me a gift bag which was re gifted, a bag of potpourri I was embarrassed for her. I was so mad I could not even look at her the rest of the time, I stayed away all winter and for the sake of my husband because he is friends with all there husbands and guys do not get mad like we do...I went to hang out they all got closer and pushed me aside one friends daughter got married this august and she did not even give me an invite out our whole crowd of friends. I pissed about that to. now I am done with them forever because I knew she talked about me. But I feel bad for my husband I told him if he wanted to see them go ahead but I will stay home and he said I do not want to leave you home. So he does not see them either I really feel bad for him. Now they all go out and do not invite me anywhere......She controls everything I never disliked anybody like this before. She and her husband were the first people they met when they moved into the neighborhood now she took all my friends into her control now none of them talk to me. Please I need some advice. Now this year was my birthday again she and a couple of other friends got together and gave me bath and body works that they bought for them selves when they had a big sale and when they all went shopping together.......of course leaving me out again. I really need some advice.My best friend ruined our relationship I need some advice?
forget her.My best friend ruined our relationship I need some advice?
Ok, well firstly, this unlucky for you, but this situation has happened to me also, so i can relate :). You must approach her, alone, as hard as this might be for you. Confront her in a the friendly manner you were so used to, and see hwo she replies first. If she replies again friendly, take it form there it's easy :), if not, which happened to my friend, jut them over the head with a plank of wood and make them be your friend while shouting ';SUCK ME TO THE SIX MOONS OF NEPTUNE *****!!! AHHHHHHH';
. This worked for me when me and my 85 year old friend fell out last year, now we're planning to be buried together.
Yours Sincerly
Andrew Kennedy
Honey, you are 46, not 14. I know, no matter the age, losing a friend sucks. It hurts. But seriously, just let it go. So what if she talked about you? She isn't a good friend! Find other friends, ones that will be good to you. You deserve to be treated better than this, and you know it.
Don't stress too much about the situation.
Best of luck!refill
forget her.My best friend ruined our relationship I need some advice?
Ok, well firstly, this unlucky for you, but this situation has happened to me also, so i can relate :). You must approach her, alone, as hard as this might be for you. Confront her in a the friendly manner you were so used to, and see hwo she replies first. If she replies again friendly, take it form there it's easy :), if not, which happened to my friend, jut them over the head with a plank of wood and make them be your friend while shouting ';SUCK ME TO THE SIX MOONS OF NEPTUNE *****!!! AHHHHHHH';
. This worked for me when me and my 85 year old friend fell out last year, now we're planning to be buried together.
Yours Sincerly
Andrew Kennedy
Honey, you are 46, not 14. I know, no matter the age, losing a friend sucks. It hurts. But seriously, just let it go. So what if she talked about you? She isn't a good friend! Find other friends, ones that will be good to you. You deserve to be treated better than this, and you know it.
Don't stress too much about the situation.
Best of luck!
I'm in a new relationship and I need advice?
This isn't so much a question but curiously asking what I should be doing. You see, he and I both believe that sex for the first time, for a new couple should be special... so I'm a little worried about the whole sex thing, when it happens. I think he's hinting towards wanting to do it the night of year 12 graduation. I like him a lot, but the graduation isn't that long away and so I'm incredibly nervous. I have no idea how to go about doing it... My past relationships where I've had sex have been really.. I dunno.. just fast and meaningless. As though the sex was just for sex, rather than an input to the relationship.
SO, getting to the point, what am I supposed to do? Has anyone got any tips? What should I do? Positions, maybe? Err, I'm nervous...I'm in a new relationship and I need advice?
Well, first off, I would celebrate the year 12 graduation as a single event. Save the sex for it's very own special occasion so one event doesn't over shadow the other. Then, when you both feel you are really ready, just follow your heart. In the meantime, you might want to read some books about it. Try this article for the top ten books - http://hubpages.com/hub/Top-Ten-Sex-Manu鈥?/a>I'm in a new relationship and I need advice?
Don't do it unless you deeply feel it's time, and that you want to share that with him. I see no sign that you will value this, and be glad for it in the future. Do NOT pretend!
Well, if you're nervous, wait until you arent. Try not to plan it, just let it happen. the more you plan it, the more pressure is put on it.
make sure to have the first sex when neither of you have had sex for a while, it'll be more worth it, and neither of you will notice the other's faults.
and as for first time positions, try to do half and half, with him on top, and you on top. no need to start with anything insane.
afterall, i'm sure you want to make him curious about what else you can do in the bedroom.
well i don't know where you're from, but for me, graduation's in may. only do it if you feel comfortable enough with him, and if you don't, just tell him. if he's thoughtful enough to wait for graduation, he should be able to wait a little longer.
You shouldn't be nervous. If your nervous, your not ready.
It will happen when it happens. And when/if it does happen, let him take the lead.
You shouldn't 'arrange' the night its going to happen because that will just pressure on the both of you, your better off just seeing how things go.
But please, if your not ready and dont feel 100% about it, then dont do it.
My advise to you, is just enjoy it when you can, if you do hav sex with him, make sure u use protection ;)
if you are that nervous then you should him that you are not ready. i think he would understand.
look when you guys start its gonna be like walking you forget what your doing a concentrate on what going on - i hope you get it
Looks like he is more nervous than you.
SO, getting to the point, what am I supposed to do? Has anyone got any tips? What should I do? Positions, maybe? Err, I'm nervous...I'm in a new relationship and I need advice?
Well, first off, I would celebrate the year 12 graduation as a single event. Save the sex for it's very own special occasion so one event doesn't over shadow the other. Then, when you both feel you are really ready, just follow your heart. In the meantime, you might want to read some books about it. Try this article for the top ten books - http://hubpages.com/hub/Top-Ten-Sex-Manu鈥?/a>I'm in a new relationship and I need advice?
Don't do it unless you deeply feel it's time, and that you want to share that with him. I see no sign that you will value this, and be glad for it in the future. Do NOT pretend!
Well, if you're nervous, wait until you arent. Try not to plan it, just let it happen. the more you plan it, the more pressure is put on it.
make sure to have the first sex when neither of you have had sex for a while, it'll be more worth it, and neither of you will notice the other's faults.
and as for first time positions, try to do half and half, with him on top, and you on top. no need to start with anything insane.
afterall, i'm sure you want to make him curious about what else you can do in the bedroom.
well i don't know where you're from, but for me, graduation's in may. only do it if you feel comfortable enough with him, and if you don't, just tell him. if he's thoughtful enough to wait for graduation, he should be able to wait a little longer.
You shouldn't be nervous. If your nervous, your not ready.
It will happen when it happens. And when/if it does happen, let him take the lead.
You shouldn't 'arrange' the night its going to happen because that will just pressure on the both of you, your better off just seeing how things go.
But please, if your not ready and dont feel 100% about it, then dont do it.
My advise to you, is just enjoy it when you can, if you do hav sex with him, make sure u use protection ;)
if you are that nervous then you should him that you are not ready. i think he would understand.
look when you guys start its gonna be like walking you forget what your doing a concentrate on what going on - i hope you get it
Looks like he is more nervous than you.
Need advice with my relationship [Guy]?
I'll make this short. I'm 23. I've only been with two women, because I've been in two very long relationships, never been single really. I'm with my current girlfriend and we are really great, but it seems like we're disconnecting, though we're both really busy with school and work..but we really are perfect together.
I just really miss having butterflies when I'm around someone. I wish I could have had more experience with women before I met her, so maybe I would know how great she really is, if that makes sense? I don't want this to sound like I want to be with other girls...kinda...but I don't know! I would really marry her, but it would maybe feel like I missed out on breakups, drama [which we don't have], giddiness, down the line.. like I never experience that when I was young. I really am a great guy [not to sound like a tool] and I would NEVER cheat, but the thought of even mentioning a potential break would tear her apart, and seeing that would break me apart..
If anyone has anything to say, advice or sarcastic comments, shoot.Need advice with my relationship [Guy]?
You know what, based on your statement, you are a confuse man. There are a lot of two conflicting situations that you want or you don't want to happen. Like missing out the drama of break ups but don't wanna break her heart, KINDA don't want to be with other women but would want to marry her. It's not I am judging you about how you handle your relationship, please don't get me wrong. But come on now, if you're sure about your feelings with this woman then none of these will ever cross your mind. Try to stop and think what is it that you want not just for now but for life. And if you think you still want to try other dishes on the menu, then try it it. But I am telling you, you are not missing out on anything if you found the one. For me, I would rather have the guy tell me a hurtful truth rather than being with him but is off wondering what might have been out there.Need advice with my relationship [Guy]?
Don't. It will only cause you heartache. The drama is terrible. Be glad you found her and don't EVER take it for granted. You don't need to be with other girls who would only hurt you and never love you the way your current girlfriend does. You would regret it very dearly. Don't leave her for the drama everyone wants to watch but no one wants to live.
It's way better that you haven't been in a bunch of mini relationships that didn't last. You don't always have to have butterflies in your stomach to love someone. The butterflies in your stomach is more of an infatuation then love. You haven't missed out by not having a bunch of horrible breakups, drama and giddiness-those things are so not worth it. Those end up with hurt feelings, broken friendships and tears-so what have you missed?
As for the disconnecting, maybe make an extra effort to shoot off an e-mail telling her a joke, calling her to tell her you miss her and when you find time to get together-spend it with a small group or just the two of you so you can reconnect and make up for lost time.
All i could say bro is '; You never know what you have till is gone'; So think about it. I once read an article that when men are atracted to other women they find fault on there relationships...so think about it...ok! Good Luck
I just really miss having butterflies when I'm around someone. I wish I could have had more experience with women before I met her, so maybe I would know how great she really is, if that makes sense? I don't want this to sound like I want to be with other girls...kinda...but I don't know! I would really marry her, but it would maybe feel like I missed out on breakups, drama [which we don't have], giddiness, down the line.. like I never experience that when I was young. I really am a great guy [not to sound like a tool] and I would NEVER cheat, but the thought of even mentioning a potential break would tear her apart, and seeing that would break me apart..
If anyone has anything to say, advice or sarcastic comments, shoot.Need advice with my relationship [Guy]?
You know what, based on your statement, you are a confuse man. There are a lot of two conflicting situations that you want or you don't want to happen. Like missing out the drama of break ups but don't wanna break her heart, KINDA don't want to be with other women but would want to marry her. It's not I am judging you about how you handle your relationship, please don't get me wrong. But come on now, if you're sure about your feelings with this woman then none of these will ever cross your mind. Try to stop and think what is it that you want not just for now but for life. And if you think you still want to try other dishes on the menu, then try it it. But I am telling you, you are not missing out on anything if you found the one. For me, I would rather have the guy tell me a hurtful truth rather than being with him but is off wondering what might have been out there.Need advice with my relationship [Guy]?
Don't. It will only cause you heartache. The drama is terrible. Be glad you found her and don't EVER take it for granted. You don't need to be with other girls who would only hurt you and never love you the way your current girlfriend does. You would regret it very dearly. Don't leave her for the drama everyone wants to watch but no one wants to live.
It's way better that you haven't been in a bunch of mini relationships that didn't last. You don't always have to have butterflies in your stomach to love someone. The butterflies in your stomach is more of an infatuation then love. You haven't missed out by not having a bunch of horrible breakups, drama and giddiness-those things are so not worth it. Those end up with hurt feelings, broken friendships and tears-so what have you missed?
As for the disconnecting, maybe make an extra effort to shoot off an e-mail telling her a joke, calling her to tell her you miss her and when you find time to get together-spend it with a small group or just the two of you so you can reconnect and make up for lost time.
All i could say bro is '; You never know what you have till is gone'; So think about it. I once read an article that when men are atracted to other women they find fault on there relationships...so think about it...ok! Good Luck
Need Advice for new relationship. =)?
I fell in love with this girl in school. So i send her a message last night and chat with her. We only chatted for 4-5 messages and for the last message i sent, she didnt reply me. I wonder should i try to message her again? Shes really a nice girl, and i really hope i can be with her. Whats your advice good people? +)Need Advice for new relationship. =)?
she probably stepped away from the computer/was tired?
just wait until you see her again, be casual ok ? i know it's hard.
if you come on TOO STRONG - you will freak her out.Need Advice for new relationship. =)?
you gotta mouth use it tex man
by message, you mean chat, right? maybe her internet or her computer got problem. Next time you see her greet her and ask her if she got your last message then you will get the answer to your question.
Then you ask her phone number so next time you got DC while chatting, you can just call her to ask what happened.
yup. patience is a virtue bro.
just be patient dont give in too fast take your time, most important be yourself.... ask her out on a date like to the movies or to dinner and if you see a connection then go for it otherwise just see her as a friend.
Tip: girls like it when a person makes them laugh....
She probably fell asleep? Doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Probably tired since she was running through your mind all day =)
well, either her computer malfunctioned, or she's not into you. Don't be too pushy, but do attempt to talk to her again and see what happens. If she doesn't respond, take that as your hint.
Approaching her and talking to her face 2 face might help. Why don't u ask her out for a movie just the 2 of u and talk 2 her. Chatting via messages is good but u can't gurantee what she said cauz it wasn't from the horse's mouth. Just be brave enough to tell her how u feel to her face.
she probably stepped away from the computer/was tired?
just wait until you see her again, be casual ok ? i know it's hard.
if you come on TOO STRONG - you will freak her out.Need Advice for new relationship. =)?
you gotta mouth use it tex man
by message, you mean chat, right? maybe her internet or her computer got problem. Next time you see her greet her and ask her if she got your last message then you will get the answer to your question.
Then you ask her phone number so next time you got DC while chatting, you can just call her to ask what happened.
yup. patience is a virtue bro.
just be patient dont give in too fast take your time, most important be yourself.... ask her out on a date like to the movies or to dinner and if you see a connection then go for it otherwise just see her as a friend.
Tip: girls like it when a person makes them laugh....
She probably fell asleep? Doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Probably tired since she was running through your mind all day =)
well, either her computer malfunctioned, or she's not into you. Don't be too pushy, but do attempt to talk to her again and see what happens. If she doesn't respond, take that as your hint.
Approaching her and talking to her face 2 face might help. Why don't u ask her out for a movie just the 2 of u and talk 2 her. Chatting via messages is good but u can't gurantee what she said cauz it wasn't from the horse's mouth. Just be brave enough to tell her how u feel to her face.
Need Advice on a relationship with an Older Woman?
Sorry in advance for the long question. Hi, I'm in desperate need of some advice. I am a 26 year old man who has been dating a 36 year old woman for about 5 months.I am very concerned about the age difference and what that will mean for us down the road. Just last week we broke up and it has been killing me. I really like this girl and I want to be with her, but the age thing is just a 24/7 nagging issue in the back of my mind. We split up because she is wanting to be in a relationship with someone that will in a few years materialize into a family and having kids. I am terrified of this. I want a family and kids, but i'm 26 and thinking about that happening in the next couple of years scares the hell out of me. On the other hand, I really do not want to lose her, she is wonderful in every way, and though we are 10 years apart we are on most of the same playing fields, intellectually, physically, professionally, etc. I have been in only 3 relationships that have lasted more than a few months, and have dated many girls, and this is the first one that has ever meant something to me, the short of it is, I have fallen for her and I have been down and out since we split up. I need some objective advice. Do I try to get her back or do I just move on and accept that our age difference is just to much to overcome. Thanks in advance for the advice.Need Advice on a relationship with an Older Woman?
Go get that cougar.
Go get that cougar.
Relationship problem? i need advice..!?
ok ive been to my boyfriends house a couple times and i think this weekened he wants to come to mine..
but hes all rich and has a big house and im average and a not so big house.. what should i do? idk if i want him to come ove but i dont want to go to their house every weekend he will think its weird..
pleaase helpRelationship problem? i need advice..!?
If he really likes you, and isn't a shallow prick, he will enjoy going over your house. Think of it as a test of his characterRelationship problem? i need advice..!?
always be proud of yourself and material things!
but hes all rich and has a big house and im average and a not so big house.. what should i do? idk if i want him to come ove but i dont want to go to their house every weekend he will think its weird..
pleaase helpRelationship problem? i need advice..!?
If he really likes you, and isn't a shallow prick, he will enjoy going over your house. Think of it as a test of his characterRelationship problem? i need advice..!?
always be proud of yourself and material things!
NEED ADVICE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP !?
I MET A GIRL AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS AND IT HAS BEEN AN UP AND DOWN RELATIONSHIP.
I TELL HER I LOVE HER AND SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE IS IN MY LIFE TO HELP ME.
I HAVE VERBALLY ABUSED HER IN THE PAST AND HAVE NOT FOR A YEAR NOW, BUT SHE WON'T LET THE PAST BE THE PAST WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP AND SHE TELLS PEOPLE HOW BAD I AM AS A PERSON AND NEVER SAYS GOOD THINGS ABOUT ME AND TELLS PEOPLE HOW BAD I AM AT MAKING LOVE TO HER AND I HAVE NOT HAD A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP DUE TO THAT ABOUT 4 MONTHS NOW AND SHE SLEEPS IN THE KITCHEN AND I SLEEP IN THE LIVING ROOM ( HER CHOICE )
DUE TO HER HAVING OUR BEDROOM AS A CAT ROOM.
I GET FOODSTAMPS AND ALL I SAID TO HER WAS, IS THAT MY NEIGHBOR IS HELPING US BUDGET OUR FOOD STAMPS FOR THE MONTH DUE TO ME NOT KNOWING HOW TO SHOP.
SHE GOT MAD AND SAID EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK TO ME AND THAT I DON'T TRUST HER TO TEACH ME AND THAT'S NOT IT AT ALL.
SHE SAYS ALL WE ARE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP IS IN HER EYES ROOMMATES ONLY AND NOTHING ELSE AND I DON'T SEE IT THAT WAY.
WHY DOES SHE ACT LIKE THIS AND NO MATTER WHO SHE MEETS, SHE SAYS SHE DOESN'T LIKE THEM DUE TO THIER BI-POLA MOMENTS OR PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF HER AND FEELS LIKE PEOPLE ARE TALKING BAD ABOUT HER AND IF THAT DOES HAPPEN I DO DEFEND HER AND I DO LOVE HER VERY MUCH.
THEY SAY LOVE COMES FROM THE HEART, NOT BECAUSE SOMEONE IS FORCED TO LOVE THEM AND MY LOVE FOR HER IS DEEPER THEN ANYONE THINKS. WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS ?
I NEED A TRUE ANSWER, PLEASE. NEED ADVICE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP !?
ok just let her go if she is telling people about how bad you are in bad and as a person, if you verbally abused her in the past but look at what she is doing to u now just leave or ask her to go sorry to say but that is where you guys a heading anyway NEED ADVICE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP !?
sounds like she's putting you down way too much, and as for sleeping in different rooms, wake up... get rid of her, she's bringing you down as well, you may love her but she doesnt love you, your life will be better without her believe me,
i feel really sorry for you, but i have to say this, you two need to break up. She is not going to love you the way you want.
She feels she is superior to you in most aspects of your lives, especially in the money area. Since you have trouble managing money she thinks you are inferior. I'm feel really bad for you. She has already said you are room mates, there is nothing there. Is the place yours? Maybe you can get a new room mate who will respect you and get rid of her. If the place is not your can you return home and live there for a bit and get your self in order? If you cant move home is there any where else you can go, which is away form her?
I really hope things work out but i dont think they will as long as she is in your life.
Hang in there mate. There are always people you can talk to about this, like you neighbour who is already helping you. It'll be ok
refill
I TELL HER I LOVE HER AND SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE IS IN MY LIFE TO HELP ME.
I HAVE VERBALLY ABUSED HER IN THE PAST AND HAVE NOT FOR A YEAR NOW, BUT SHE WON'T LET THE PAST BE THE PAST WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP AND SHE TELLS PEOPLE HOW BAD I AM AS A PERSON AND NEVER SAYS GOOD THINGS ABOUT ME AND TELLS PEOPLE HOW BAD I AM AT MAKING LOVE TO HER AND I HAVE NOT HAD A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP DUE TO THAT ABOUT 4 MONTHS NOW AND SHE SLEEPS IN THE KITCHEN AND I SLEEP IN THE LIVING ROOM ( HER CHOICE )
DUE TO HER HAVING OUR BEDROOM AS A CAT ROOM.
I GET FOODSTAMPS AND ALL I SAID TO HER WAS, IS THAT MY NEIGHBOR IS HELPING US BUDGET OUR FOOD STAMPS FOR THE MONTH DUE TO ME NOT KNOWING HOW TO SHOP.
SHE GOT MAD AND SAID EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK TO ME AND THAT I DON'T TRUST HER TO TEACH ME AND THAT'S NOT IT AT ALL.
SHE SAYS ALL WE ARE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP IS IN HER EYES ROOMMATES ONLY AND NOTHING ELSE AND I DON'T SEE IT THAT WAY.
WHY DOES SHE ACT LIKE THIS AND NO MATTER WHO SHE MEETS, SHE SAYS SHE DOESN'T LIKE THEM DUE TO THIER BI-POLA MOMENTS OR PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF HER AND FEELS LIKE PEOPLE ARE TALKING BAD ABOUT HER AND IF THAT DOES HAPPEN I DO DEFEND HER AND I DO LOVE HER VERY MUCH.
THEY SAY LOVE COMES FROM THE HEART, NOT BECAUSE SOMEONE IS FORCED TO LOVE THEM AND MY LOVE FOR HER IS DEEPER THEN ANYONE THINKS. WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS ?
I NEED A TRUE ANSWER, PLEASE. NEED ADVICE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP !?
ok just let her go if she is telling people about how bad you are in bad and as a person, if you verbally abused her in the past but look at what she is doing to u now just leave or ask her to go sorry to say but that is where you guys a heading anyway NEED ADVICE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP !?
sounds like she's putting you down way too much, and as for sleeping in different rooms, wake up... get rid of her, she's bringing you down as well, you may love her but she doesnt love you, your life will be better without her believe me,
i feel really sorry for you, but i have to say this, you two need to break up. She is not going to love you the way you want.
She feels she is superior to you in most aspects of your lives, especially in the money area. Since you have trouble managing money she thinks you are inferior. I'm feel really bad for you. She has already said you are room mates, there is nothing there. Is the place yours? Maybe you can get a new room mate who will respect you and get rid of her. If the place is not your can you return home and live there for a bit and get your self in order? If you cant move home is there any where else you can go, which is away form her?
I really hope things work out but i dont think they will as long as she is in your life.
Hang in there mate. There are always people you can talk to about this, like you neighbour who is already helping you. It'll be ok
Need Advice On potential relationship.?
Well i me this guy named J 3 months ago and he says things like damn your so sexy, just little things like that to make me smile and even if we don't talk for one day he tells me he misses me he is such a sweet guy and i really like him...but thats besides the point. The point is that i really like him and I'm afraid if i sleep with him he might not want to talk anymore or some bullshit like that...i want to do it to him but i'm torn between doing it to him and not doing it to him to keep him around.
need so advice on what to do... should i sleep with him and see what happens or just not do anything and possibly lose him for good?Need Advice On potential relationship.?
You should do whatever you're comfortable doing. There's not really a way to predict whether or not he'll leave--you'll have to judge that from the way he treats you. If he is all hands, even subtly, then I wouldn't suggest you sleep with him. If he really cares about YOU, your thoughts, opinions, well-being, the whole package, then you do what you think is right.Need Advice On potential relationship.?
i think you should see if hes using you first this happens to mee also, i would hang outt and if he trys anytihng on you the first date he is obv using you. but like if you hang out a couple of timess and know hes not usign you than go for it :)
talk to him and see how he feels
Hang out with him one on one first, just go see a movie together or go out to dinner and get to see what his intensions are. If he puts any pressure on you to have sex within the first few times that you guys hang out then I wouldnt do it, because that means that he's only in it for one thing.
However if he likes spending time with getting to know you, without wanting you to take your clothes off then I would think that hes worth your time.
How old are you? Don鈥檛 just give away yourself like that. Which do you prefer to give away yourself and gain him, or to gain yourself and lose him? If he really love鈥檚 you he will wait until marriage
How old are you?!
Don't sleep with him! Try FLIRTING and maybe start going out first!
Don't just dive right and and jump into bed! That will ruin you!
need so advice on what to do... should i sleep with him and see what happens or just not do anything and possibly lose him for good?Need Advice On potential relationship.?
You should do whatever you're comfortable doing. There's not really a way to predict whether or not he'll leave--you'll have to judge that from the way he treats you. If he is all hands, even subtly, then I wouldn't suggest you sleep with him. If he really cares about YOU, your thoughts, opinions, well-being, the whole package, then you do what you think is right.Need Advice On potential relationship.?
i think you should see if hes using you first this happens to mee also, i would hang outt and if he trys anytihng on you the first date he is obv using you. but like if you hang out a couple of timess and know hes not usign you than go for it :)
talk to him and see how he feels
Hang out with him one on one first, just go see a movie together or go out to dinner and get to see what his intensions are. If he puts any pressure on you to have sex within the first few times that you guys hang out then I wouldnt do it, because that means that he's only in it for one thing.
However if he likes spending time with getting to know you, without wanting you to take your clothes off then I would think that hes worth your time.
How old are you? Don鈥檛 just give away yourself like that. Which do you prefer to give away yourself and gain him, or to gain yourself and lose him? If he really love鈥檚 you he will wait until marriage
How old are you?!
Don't sleep with him! Try FLIRTING and maybe start going out first!
Don't just dive right and and jump into bed! That will ruin you!
Any advice for my relationship?
I am in a long distance relationship. We've been together for 6 months, but we've known each other for 3 yrs. He's 21 and I'm 19 so it's a really serious relationship. This is the hardest relationship i've ever been in because this is the first time i am in a long distance relationship. When I do get to see him, I never know when I'll see him again, because he's always having problems with money. And it's always longer before I see him again. He's the best thing that ever happened to me, but I don't know how much longer I could put up with this. All we do is talk on the phone and web cam but it's not the same as being right there with him. We fight all the time because of the distance. But when we're right in front of each other, we can't keep our hands off one another. I feel like the longer he waits to see me, the harder our relationship gets, which isn't good. Does anybody have any good, serious advice? Because I don't know what to do anymore.Any advice for my relationship?
Well. all I can tell you is it's probably going to get harder before it gets better , I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman
for about 5 months online. And it's already has gotten serious !!!
But I haven't gone to see her yet because I have to save alot more money up
To arrange full flight and all accomidations for my trip to the UK.
All I can tell you ? hey, at least you have been with each other a
few times in the past. I haven't. and it's very hard 2 take !!!! But
I also know that it's just a matter of time %26amp; money to get there to see
Her !!!! So don't give up !!! unless things are so bad that it's not
Worth it anymore. The key is DON'T EVER GIVE UP !!!! because
Life is to short not top be happy and content ok. good luck, and
And may God Bless you both for all the love %26amp; happiness in the world !!!! an answer friend that cares,Any advice for my relationship?
maybe instead of asking him to come to you, you could try and go to him? You might also be tight on money, and if you're 19 you're most likely in college so then moving isn't necessarily an option. Then again, it's summer! go stay with him for all of it if you can!
A strong relationship will survive being separated by distance like this.
But what I really want to know is... why the distance? what is stopping you from being closer?
Also, do you trust him? If you don't, why don't you?
Sounds like your relationship is growing old . Have a long talk with someone you trust , a friend , family member , etc . Then as nice as you can , break it off .
have him move with you if he loves you and care about you he will
Dump him and find some guy a little closer to home.
If he is not willing to have a relationship wit you then break it off bc believe me there is prob. lots of guys wanting to meet you!
move in with him or over their if you can't pray they don't work out like that so well
Why is it staying long distance? Can't one of you move to be closer?
i agree long distance relationships are hard...you should probably call it off...
good luck though
this happened to me when i was in 6th grade my bf went to a diffrent school so we never saw eachother and we dated for 2 years untill we just thought it was too hard and broke up but if he ever went to my school or i went to his that we might get back together which is something you should do too brake up untill you guys can live in the same city together bc if its long distance thats the hardest their is so say i just cant do it anymore and brake up with him or at least untill u guys can live int he same city and dont worry about it their will be other guys out their for you and good luck! i hope this helped you
I'm not much older than you (23), but 19 is a bit young to be that serious. Point aside, if you want to make it work, you have to find a way to get along far away. I've done long distance myself, and the easiest thing was not leaving without knowing sometime we would see each other again. Sometimes this was 3, 4, or 6 months down the road, but having a time (especially over a long weekend/holiday/important date to you guys) helped. Also, snail mail love letters/care packages. Sometimes just getting a card saying ';I'm thinking about you'; would brighten a day. Also, find something to plan together. I planned a trip to South America, and it worked beautifully because we always had something positive to talk about. Doesn't matter if you actually do it, but it gives you something to talk about besides your day (which got REAL old after a while). Hope that helps, good luck.
Well. all I can tell you is it's probably going to get harder before it gets better , I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman
for about 5 months online. And it's already has gotten serious !!!
But I haven't gone to see her yet because I have to save alot more money up
To arrange full flight and all accomidations for my trip to the UK.
All I can tell you ? hey, at least you have been with each other a
few times in the past. I haven't. and it's very hard 2 take !!!! But
I also know that it's just a matter of time %26amp; money to get there to see
Her !!!! So don't give up !!! unless things are so bad that it's not
Worth it anymore. The key is DON'T EVER GIVE UP !!!! because
Life is to short not top be happy and content ok. good luck, and
And may God Bless you both for all the love %26amp; happiness in the world !!!! an answer friend that cares,Any advice for my relationship?
maybe instead of asking him to come to you, you could try and go to him? You might also be tight on money, and if you're 19 you're most likely in college so then moving isn't necessarily an option. Then again, it's summer! go stay with him for all of it if you can!
A strong relationship will survive being separated by distance like this.
But what I really want to know is... why the distance? what is stopping you from being closer?
Also, do you trust him? If you don't, why don't you?
Sounds like your relationship is growing old . Have a long talk with someone you trust , a friend , family member , etc . Then as nice as you can , break it off .
have him move with you if he loves you and care about you he will
Dump him and find some guy a little closer to home.
If he is not willing to have a relationship wit you then break it off bc believe me there is prob. lots of guys wanting to meet you!
move in with him or over their if you can't pray they don't work out like that so well
Why is it staying long distance? Can't one of you move to be closer?
i agree long distance relationships are hard...you should probably call it off...
good luck though
this happened to me when i was in 6th grade my bf went to a diffrent school so we never saw eachother and we dated for 2 years untill we just thought it was too hard and broke up but if he ever went to my school or i went to his that we might get back together which is something you should do too brake up untill you guys can live in the same city together bc if its long distance thats the hardest their is so say i just cant do it anymore and brake up with him or at least untill u guys can live int he same city and dont worry about it their will be other guys out their for you and good luck! i hope this helped you
I'm not much older than you (23), but 19 is a bit young to be that serious. Point aside, if you want to make it work, you have to find a way to get along far away. I've done long distance myself, and the easiest thing was not leaving without knowing sometime we would see each other again. Sometimes this was 3, 4, or 6 months down the road, but having a time (especially over a long weekend/holiday/important date to you guys) helped. Also, snail mail love letters/care packages. Sometimes just getting a card saying ';I'm thinking about you'; would brighten a day. Also, find something to plan together. I planned a trip to South America, and it worked beautifully because we always had something positive to talk about. Doesn't matter if you actually do it, but it gives you something to talk about besides your day (which got REAL old after a while). Hope that helps, good luck.
Serious Advice Only for Relationship?
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. Three days ago, we had an argument and now he is talking to me very rude and disrespectful. I tried talking to him about it last night and he just shut me off and told me he is going to sleep and that we will talk tommorrow. Also he has been cutting off our conversation like we could be talking and say he will call me back cause his mom or cousin is calling him. Also I usually call him to tell him I finish work and I'm heading home but when I call him, he doesn't pick up the phone and the next day he would say that he was sleeping. I wanna work it out, but what can I do for him to stop being like that to meSerious Advice Only for Relationship?
I wouldn't chase him anymore with phone calls. It is not worth it! Give him some slack and see if he comes around and if not throw him back. If he wants to be left alone then leave him plenty of space. You are better off. Women don't need to chase their men and seem as though we can't live without them because WE CAN!Serious Advice Only for Relationship?
Demand respect. Plain and simple.
If he loves and cares about you - he will listen to what you have to say. You need to ask him to sit down and please listen to what you have to say. Don't be rude and point out his faults because that will push him away.
If you come across like you want to talk things over to better the relationship and to understand his point of view...you will get farther then if you attack him.
If all else fails...cry...my boyfriend can't stand me crying. He listens and fixes whatever he has too!!! But that's the last step haha!!
Good luck!!
Lets face it. Boys are babies with huge egos. Just remember the famous words from ';My Big fat Greek Wedding'; The mans the head of the home but your the neck and u can turn him whichever way u like. Depending on ur age and relationship; Show up in his doorway wearing a easy slip off dress or bath robe with sexy langere and when he opens the door slip it off. He won't be able to resist! Trust me and he'll b so surprised he'll forget how angry he is.
Hate to say it hun and really not to be mean, but it sounds like maybe he is talking to someone else.
you know, reposting the same question really won't get you better answers
i think you're having a case of being 2 clingy
slap him a couple of times and tell him wats wrong.then work it out:)
I wouldn't chase him anymore with phone calls. It is not worth it! Give him some slack and see if he comes around and if not throw him back. If he wants to be left alone then leave him plenty of space. You are better off. Women don't need to chase their men and seem as though we can't live without them because WE CAN!Serious Advice Only for Relationship?
Demand respect. Plain and simple.
If he loves and cares about you - he will listen to what you have to say. You need to ask him to sit down and please listen to what you have to say. Don't be rude and point out his faults because that will push him away.
If you come across like you want to talk things over to better the relationship and to understand his point of view...you will get farther then if you attack him.
If all else fails...cry...my boyfriend can't stand me crying. He listens and fixes whatever he has too!!! But that's the last step haha!!
Good luck!!
Lets face it. Boys are babies with huge egos. Just remember the famous words from ';My Big fat Greek Wedding'; The mans the head of the home but your the neck and u can turn him whichever way u like. Depending on ur age and relationship; Show up in his doorway wearing a easy slip off dress or bath robe with sexy langere and when he opens the door slip it off. He won't be able to resist! Trust me and he'll b so surprised he'll forget how angry he is.
Hate to say it hun and really not to be mean, but it sounds like maybe he is talking to someone else.
you know, reposting the same question really won't get you better answers
i think you're having a case of being 2 clingy
slap him a couple of times and tell him wats wrong.then work it out:)
Please advice regarding a relationship?
Me %26amp; my girl friend are in true love and I'm a graduate student(26 years) and I will need more two years to finish my PhD. My girlfriend is currently in India and I'm in U.S but my parents are against me when I told them that I'm interested in marrying my girlfriend, they are telling me that my graduate education will be effected if I marry. Actually I'm not in hurry to marry but the father of my girl friend has one more daughter and want to get my girl friend married soon.
I'm currently 26 years should I go against my parents and choose to marry my girl friend? will my career be effected if I marry when I'm a graduate student ? or should I miss my true love for the parents? please advice mePlease advice regarding a relationship?
If you truly love her you should marry her. Finding a girl you love and returns the love is something special that shouldnt be affected by the other people. It should not affect your career. My girlfriend understands when I have to do work for graduate school and when I see her it makes it that much more special because I do not get to see her that oftenPlease advice regarding a relationship?
My parents seem to reason just like yours. You are 26 that means your a grown man make up your own mind. Being married will affect a lot of things in your life. It will make going to school more difficult there is no question. All this boils down to is how bad you want it. how bad do you want your career/education and how bad do you want to be married to the love of your life. You need to make the call just know that it's not always going to be easy. Best of luck
Marry her.
I'm currently 26 years should I go against my parents and choose to marry my girl friend? will my career be effected if I marry when I'm a graduate student ? or should I miss my true love for the parents? please advice mePlease advice regarding a relationship?
If you truly love her you should marry her. Finding a girl you love and returns the love is something special that shouldnt be affected by the other people. It should not affect your career. My girlfriend understands when I have to do work for graduate school and when I see her it makes it that much more special because I do not get to see her that oftenPlease advice regarding a relationship?
My parents seem to reason just like yours. You are 26 that means your a grown man make up your own mind. Being married will affect a lot of things in your life. It will make going to school more difficult there is no question. All this boils down to is how bad you want it. how bad do you want your career/education and how bad do you want to be married to the love of your life. You need to make the call just know that it's not always going to be easy. Best of luck
Marry her.
Need advice on my relationship? Would love guys' opinion too?
So I've been with this guy for almost three years now. Our first six months was complete bliss. Then after that, everything just went downhill from there. He hurt me emotionally with his actions, and as did I. But we have tried to work things out and go pass those problems. I've moved on from the past, and stopped dwelling on the past. But he can't seem to get over it, and still dwells on the past. He even goes as far as say hurtful things to me and blames me for all his downfalls. I really don't know what to do anymore. I've tried so hard to make him happy and all he does is say hurtful things to me. What should I do? Everyone I know has told me to just end the relationship. But I just feel this attachment that I can't seem to get over. Someone please help!!Need advice on my relationship? Would love guys' opinion too?
i know that letting go is the hardest thing, but if he is causing you stress, and blaming you for the downfalls in his life, is that really worth it? to be told that you are the reason he is failing? that sounds terrible, no one should have to deal with that, it's not your fault, the past is the past, maybe you should make him part of that... i know that it's been a long time since you've been with him, and you try to pick out the good, but playing the blame game is VERY childish, and ridiculous... i don't think anyone should have to put up with being verbally abused, practically, talk to him about it, and if he doesn't clean up his act and stop hurting you, i'd say you could do much better.Need advice on my relationship? Would love guys' opinion too?
your relationship seems to be at a crossroads. your attachment that you feel is basically something you feel that you want to hold onto, but its not really there. you need space to reevaluate your life and your relationship. people often are fearful of change but often don't realize its necessary for growth.
I agree you should end it. Only six months of bliss out of three years??? Think about it. It is not worth the salvage. To be honest, you should have ended it long ago. Looks like he will always blame you... he'll never take responsibility for his own problems. It's a no-win situation for you.
Anyway, move on. Don't waste any more time with this guy. Find someone else that is not such a jerk.
I am no expert but I really think that you are at a key position in your relationship now. You have a positive outlook and you are willing to salvage you investment in your relationship with this guy. I personally think that you need to be bold and honest with him. What I mean by that is the next time he lays blame on you or says his pitfall was due to you; just tell him that he hasn't exactly made your life the easiest, tell him how much you care for him and tell him that things like (what he is blaming you for) could probably be avoided in the future if you both make a better effort to communicate with each other. Tell him that you sometimes feel closed off from him and don't always feel open to share things with him like whats on your mind and even your feelings. Basically he needs to hear from you that you care about the both of you and that you want things to change. He may seem stand-off ish at first but he will soon realize that someone that is this dedicated to him could definitely not be the root of his problems. You may have to empathize with him that his day to day life is rough but make sure you followup with things that you do on a daily basis that are challenging for you. This is just one way that you can remind him that you are a couple and that includes sharing... love, responsibility, burdens, bad thoughts, good thoughts everyday life. Chances are you do feel closed off from him at times and if you want an open relationship with him that involves being honest with each other. If he's a semi decent guy he'll come around but just stay the course an keep voicing your mind and feelings even if you dont think that it will impact the current conversation because guys take time to process things .
i know that letting go is the hardest thing, but if he is causing you stress, and blaming you for the downfalls in his life, is that really worth it? to be told that you are the reason he is failing? that sounds terrible, no one should have to deal with that, it's not your fault, the past is the past, maybe you should make him part of that... i know that it's been a long time since you've been with him, and you try to pick out the good, but playing the blame game is VERY childish, and ridiculous... i don't think anyone should have to put up with being verbally abused, practically, talk to him about it, and if he doesn't clean up his act and stop hurting you, i'd say you could do much better.Need advice on my relationship? Would love guys' opinion too?
your relationship seems to be at a crossroads. your attachment that you feel is basically something you feel that you want to hold onto, but its not really there. you need space to reevaluate your life and your relationship. people often are fearful of change but often don't realize its necessary for growth.
I agree you should end it. Only six months of bliss out of three years??? Think about it. It is not worth the salvage. To be honest, you should have ended it long ago. Looks like he will always blame you... he'll never take responsibility for his own problems. It's a no-win situation for you.
Anyway, move on. Don't waste any more time with this guy. Find someone else that is not such a jerk.
I am no expert but I really think that you are at a key position in your relationship now. You have a positive outlook and you are willing to salvage you investment in your relationship with this guy. I personally think that you need to be bold and honest with him. What I mean by that is the next time he lays blame on you or says his pitfall was due to you; just tell him that he hasn't exactly made your life the easiest, tell him how much you care for him and tell him that things like (what he is blaming you for) could probably be avoided in the future if you both make a better effort to communicate with each other. Tell him that you sometimes feel closed off from him and don't always feel open to share things with him like whats on your mind and even your feelings. Basically he needs to hear from you that you care about the both of you and that you want things to change. He may seem stand-off ish at first but he will soon realize that someone that is this dedicated to him could definitely not be the root of his problems. You may have to empathize with him that his day to day life is rough but make sure you followup with things that you do on a daily basis that are challenging for you. This is just one way that you can remind him that you are a couple and that includes sharing... love, responsibility, burdens, bad thoughts, good thoughts everyday life. Chances are you do feel closed off from him at times and if you want an open relationship with him that involves being honest with each other. If he's a semi decent guy he'll come around but just stay the course an keep voicing your mind and feelings even if you dont think that it will impact the current conversation because guys take time to process things .
I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
My bestfriend and I have been in a troubled reltionship for about six months now. We were an item for a year or so...things didnt not work out and we became best friends. Unfortunately, it seems to be a one way street for me. It seems like I cannot express myself when I tell him something bothers me about him bc he soon gets fired up and dumps me. He tells me he will leave me alone and stop being my bestfriend. It seems like i cannot speak and things will be okay. If I do speak up then everything is cool. He has being doing to me for a while. Finally I just had enough. We work together, and I get naseus everytime I seem him. I am so angry and sad. I feel used and stabbed. He approached me today as if nothing happen..he asked how i was doing and that if i nedeed something come to him... Should this relationship be gone for good or should i attempt to try to talk to him about it?I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
the relationship is dead he no longer really caresI need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Personally, a ';best friend'; doesn't act like this. You may have rocky times but they are always followed up by better times.
For the sake of your sanity, I wouldn't continue to call him a best friend. I would keep him at arms length and see where things play out. Good luck.
it seems like y'all confused, my advice is to try to talk to him about it first and if that don't work out, don't even be friends with him anymore. cuz, if u don't, u will always get hurt and always be sad. so i think u should let him go
Sounds like you should just end it. He will probably continue to send you mixed signals because he probably doesn't feel comfortable with the relationship. It is hard to stay friends with someone that you dated, because the lines between friendship and relationship are so close that it is hard not to cross them.
I am sorry about your situation, but I believe that youshould cut all ties with this guy. It is not healthy for you and it will only continue to go in this direction. I know how you feel, so I speak from experience. Get your confidence back, end the relationship and the friendship and move on to someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. good luck-hug-
You have to get over your pain of the loss of this relationship. Think of him as your enemy BUT keep him closer as the old saying goes. Be strong and ALSO act as if nothing ever happened. After-all, you do have to work with him. Make this a lesson to find your soul-mates away from work from now on.
if he isnt going to let you express the way you feel then its only going to get worse just leave him adn try not to look back find someone whos gonna let you have a opinion
Let him go. If he is acting like a baby then he was never a ';true'; friend to you. I would cut my losses and move on. Sounds like he is a egotistical jerk who wants to control you and that is never a good thing no matter how you look at it.
its good that your relationship is cut. this was a one way traffic. for love even in friendship, care and share is essential. its not possession as you feel. he has not understood you, so can,t care for your mind and you can't share with his. don't feel that you have lost something which you possessed, but as this was troublesome, thank god that you got rid him by his efoerts, otherewise you could have never understood the feelingsrefill
the relationship is dead he no longer really caresI need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Personally, a ';best friend'; doesn't act like this. You may have rocky times but they are always followed up by better times.
For the sake of your sanity, I wouldn't continue to call him a best friend. I would keep him at arms length and see where things play out. Good luck.
it seems like y'all confused, my advice is to try to talk to him about it first and if that don't work out, don't even be friends with him anymore. cuz, if u don't, u will always get hurt and always be sad. so i think u should let him go
Sounds like you should just end it. He will probably continue to send you mixed signals because he probably doesn't feel comfortable with the relationship. It is hard to stay friends with someone that you dated, because the lines between friendship and relationship are so close that it is hard not to cross them.
I am sorry about your situation, but I believe that youshould cut all ties with this guy. It is not healthy for you and it will only continue to go in this direction. I know how you feel, so I speak from experience. Get your confidence back, end the relationship and the friendship and move on to someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. good luck-hug-
You have to get over your pain of the loss of this relationship. Think of him as your enemy BUT keep him closer as the old saying goes. Be strong and ALSO act as if nothing ever happened. After-all, you do have to work with him. Make this a lesson to find your soul-mates away from work from now on.
if he isnt going to let you express the way you feel then its only going to get worse just leave him adn try not to look back find someone whos gonna let you have a opinion
Let him go. If he is acting like a baby then he was never a ';true'; friend to you. I would cut my losses and move on. Sounds like he is a egotistical jerk who wants to control you and that is never a good thing no matter how you look at it.
its good that your relationship is cut. this was a one way traffic. for love even in friendship, care and share is essential. its not possession as you feel. he has not understood you, so can,t care for your mind and you can't share with his. don't feel that you have lost something which you possessed, but as this was troublesome, thank god that you got rid him by his efoerts, otherewise you could have never understood the feelings
I really want to boost a friendship up to a relationship, anyone got any advice?
I've had a crush on a guy for ages now, we've been good friends since birth as our parents are best friends (which would make it awkward, but i don't think this would be a problem)
But as we've been friends for so long and nothing more, i can't really think of a way to drop into a conversation, or like a sign that i like him more than a friend, or that we could be something more.
So, i guess what im asking is,
if your a kind, mature, fun guy, could you give me any tips or lines that you might pick up on that wouldn't make me look like a complete twat?, or what conversations/looks to completely avoid?
help would be appreciated : D
Thank you ^^I really want to boost a friendship up to a relationship, anyone got any advice?
im a girl but i understand ur problem
be lik ';i neva realy askd u this but do u hav a gf and im not offering myself (smile shyly or wateva)'; get ur answer and go from dere if he say no ask how *** and go from dere
But as we've been friends for so long and nothing more, i can't really think of a way to drop into a conversation, or like a sign that i like him more than a friend, or that we could be something more.
So, i guess what im asking is,
if your a kind, mature, fun guy, could you give me any tips or lines that you might pick up on that wouldn't make me look like a complete twat?, or what conversations/looks to completely avoid?
help would be appreciated : D
Thank you ^^I really want to boost a friendship up to a relationship, anyone got any advice?
im a girl but i understand ur problem
be lik ';i neva realy askd u this but do u hav a gf and im not offering myself (smile shyly or wateva)'; get ur answer and go from dere if he say no ask how *** and go from dere
I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
My bestfriend and I have been in a troubled reltionship for about six months now. We were an item for a year or so...things didnt not work out and we became best friends. Unfortunately, it seems to be a one way street for me. It seems like I cannot express myself when I tell him something bothers me about him bc he soon gets fired up and dumps me. He tells me he will leave me alone and stop being my bestfriend. It seems like i cannot speak and things will be okay. If I do speak up then everything is cool. He has being doing to me for a while. Finally I just had enough. We work together, and I get naseus everytime I seem him. I am so angry and sad. I feel used and stabbed. He approached me today as if nothing happen..he asked how i was doing and that if i nedeed something come to him... Should this relationship be gone for good or should i attempt to try to talk to him about it?I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
It definitely needs to be gone for good. He is not a good friend. Sure he does some friendly things and acts in some friendly ways, but a true friend is much more than that - and much more consistently. You can continue to be kind, but you need to avoid pretending that he is anything more than a sometimes-friendly-acquittance.
Don't get trapped into continually trying to build a relationship with someone like this. There are lots of people out there who will be true best friends.I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Your relationship isn't healthy. That's for sure. It sounds like you two never completely moved on from the dating relationship. You're still arguing like a couple would.
Sounds like there is still uncomfortable, displaced tension from the couple relationship you once had.
If you can't take a temporary break from him until things resolve on their own ask yourself why.
Was it REALLY emotionally over for you after the break up?
Doesn't sound like it.
It definitely needs to be gone for good. He is not a good friend. Sure he does some friendly things and acts in some friendly ways, but a true friend is much more than that - and much more consistently. You can continue to be kind, but you need to avoid pretending that he is anything more than a sometimes-friendly-acquittance.
Don't get trapped into continually trying to build a relationship with someone like this. There are lots of people out there who will be true best friends.I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Your relationship isn't healthy. That's for sure. It sounds like you two never completely moved on from the dating relationship. You're still arguing like a couple would.
Sounds like there is still uncomfortable, displaced tension from the couple relationship you once had.
If you can't take a temporary break from him until things resolve on their own ask yourself why.
Was it REALLY emotionally over for you after the break up?
Doesn't sound like it.
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