Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?

16 year old daughter moved out 4 months ago with her boyfriend. My husband and I were very upset. We did everything to get her to come home even got the police involved. She just didn't want to live by the few rules we had for her. I, since then, have come to accept it (sorta) for the sake of my daughters and I relationship. I just feel by sitting back and dwelling on it will do no good. It may just push her farther away. My husband on the other hand is cival to her but not her boyfriend. He is not ready to welcome him back into our home. He is still very upset with him for taking our daughter away. I feel by him being this way he is pushing her farther away. Is he just being a Dad? By the way he and our daughter have never had a close relationship. I need some advise. This is really bothering me. Especially with Christmas coming.Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
Your 16 yr old minor child moved out and even the police would not bring her back to you? How old is the boyfriend? Rules or not she is a minor child and she has to reside where you chose until she is of legal age. Your daughters boyfriend didnt make her leave she chose to leave and your husband needs to realize that if he can not then your daughter needs to understand that her boyfriend is not welcomed in your home those are your only choices.Need advice on Daughters and Husbands relationship?
IMO you should align with your husband....you are one flesh and hubby makes the final decision. Traditionally a father's time comes when he gives his blessing at the wedding via escorting his daughter to her future husband hand in hand. If she is only 16 he still has some time left to model to her by spending time with her. Ya never know. He's not pushing your daughter is pushing both your buttons and pulling away too soon....she's confused and rebellious.





If she doesn't want to follow rules that's too bad it's your home not her's and everybody elses don't worry about what you look like or take advice from wishy washy people...there is no option on the laws of your home and her following them is her decision that hopefully won't end up to be her consequences in the future. You are right Christmas is coming and you will not have this going on in your home so ';let's make it the best Christmas celebration we have ever had as a family';.





Dealing with newborn issues ....oh, those sleepless nights over such ez issues - shame on us for complaining.
You are doing the right thing by welcoming her back - the more you tell her what not to do the more she will do that exact thing. How old is the boyfriend? Your husband is a jerk - sounds like he wants to control her - can't live her life for her. Granted, no one wants their 16 year old to move out but at that age they can be really stubborn. Keep her as close as you can and be there for her when she needs you
daddy's little girl is not supposed to behave that way. In his eyes his princess has turned into a whore, if she had moved out with some college friends it would be more acceptable than she moving in with a guy. Daddy hates to think of that guy banging his daughter and he hates to think of his little girl doing nasty things with that guy.





In daddy's eye's she is ruined and she disgusts him.
1-- the boyfriend didnt take her...it was her choice


2-It's very hard to turn a back on someone you've raised


3-Go with the flow, eventually she might see the light and come home....


4-I've had the same experience and I sympathize totally with you...time will tell.....hang in there.......





shazbotbaru has left the theater.......................
Legally you can make her stay until she's 18.


Why didn't the Police help you?
Fathers and daughters even though not close are father and child, she is16 and still his little girl who was snatched away by a pervert and how old is her b/f anyway?, he may one day forgive him but not in the near future.