16 pregnant..need advice on my relationship..no judgement?

So Im pregnant by my ex boyfriend. Who at the time when I got pregnant was just a friend. But me and him have dated in the past. But anyways..I really do love him. Always have, And my feelings are even more now that I am having his child. I really want me and him to be a ';family'; for our baby. But he isnt on the same page as me. He doesnt want to date me, but yet he goes off and dates other random girls. And he knows how I feel about him. So its like Im not good enough to date for some reason but he can still come and have sex with me. He makes no sense to me. I know that he is still young and dumb and wants to go off and do his thing. But seriously now isnt the time..Its time to grow up and figure what you want. It just really upsets me and stresses me out to see things this way..


I keep telling myself maybe things will change in time. But who knows..I just dont want to be played for a fool.


My head says forget him but my heart says stay..


What do you all think?16 pregnant..need advice on my relationship..no judgement?
I don't think you should stress yourself out over HIM. I think you need to focus on you and your baby. You both are still young and asking him to be a boyfriend/husband right now is a little much, even though he can still be a father, asking for the bigger commitment is a lot to ask of someone so young. You should go with your head and not with your heart because right now it is being set up to be continously broken by this guy. This guy just sounds like you were a convienient person to have sex with him and not a really serious relationship and that is why he is acting the way he is. Anyway, I think you should focus on the baby and be healthy. Then from there after the baby is born seek child support. He helped make the baby he can help take care of him/her.16 pregnant..need advice on my relationship..no judgement?
come on girl he is a player and it is written all over his face. Cant you see that you are just his puppet to him. LIke you said, it is time to grow up. Mistakes happen and as long as you are willing to stick to ur responsibility for the rest of your time, then you will be okay. YOu dont need him, i know plenty of friends who make it on their own. Sure it will be tough to be a single mother, but u will just be hurting yourself and your baby if you keep begging this guy or have feelings for him. DOnt do it please im begging you. Be strong for your baby's sake...
First of all...it is your choice to sleep with him when he comes over. He's using you for sex...he wants his cake and eat it too. But there is no way he's old enough to figure out what he wants yet. He doesn't have the same responsiblity you have, so he'll do whatever he wants. Even if he did think he knows what he wants, it will change. As you get older and more mature, your ideals and priorities change.





I was 22 when I got pregnant the first time, and I know I'm not the same person today that I was back then. Try to make him play an active role in his child's life, but as far as a relationship with him...just let him go. And stop sleeping with him!
Hon, don't stay. You need to listen to your head %26amp; forget him. He isn't ready to grow up. No judgement on you getting pregnant at 16, everyone makes mistakes, just don't make another by waiting for him to 'see the light'.
well for 1, safe sex, all the time. i feel bad. he should stay with u when u need him, esp now, to me not worth it, honestly, im sure otha guys want u, and hes messing around with other girls, i think u should 4get bout him, i know how hard thatll me, but he apperently doesnt feel the same way. And maybe adoption..??? cuz it will remind u of a dumb mistake, but a good turn out, and find som1 who really cares and wants to be by ur side.
I agree with Princess.
I think you should definately let him know it's his kid if he doesn't know. He should be a part of the baby's life, but if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, there's nothing you can do about it. If he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life, then he is an @ss and needs to take responsibility. He helped make the baby, so it's not all on you! I hope I helped!
Forget him
Oh boy does all that sound familiar !!?? You will get over him if he will stay away..Don't let him use you for sex..You are not a human mattress..Stand up to him and tell him to get lost..Keep your mind busy and time will help you get over him..Good luck with your pregnancy..One day a nice and loving man will make you and your baby happy and help you to have a family..
put it up for adoption...
You said thsi:





';I really want me and him to be a ';family'; for our baby. But he isnt on the same page as me. He doesnt want to date me, but yet he goes off and dates other random girls. ';





Please listen to your head, not your heart. If he doesn't settle down, he won't be there for your child. Please consider adoption. It's best for your child and it's best for you!
well i was your age once and pregnet and had at age 17 a beautiful baby girl yes you will have the love yet for the babys father cause you are going to have his baby but with experience the age for boys are not as mature as a girl is he will always be the father but right now he dont see and once the baby is born he might come around but dont get hopes up on that right now u need to be concerned about u and the baby i now have 2 girls and when i was dating i told that person my kids are 1st and i have a package u no that later if u do move on or not there will be someone to love u and except the both of u i am not with neither of my girls fathers but im now in my late 20's married to a wonderful husband who took me and my children my ist child still sees her father but we make agreements for her not us and my 2nd child my husband adopted her cause her father gave up rights wasnt ready to be a father well i hope this helped a bit i shared with u if like can reach me good luck
how many months pregnant are you? it could just be this magical thing called hormones. every pregnant girl gets them in overdrive
Hey, it's not my fault the condom broke!
I think you need to forget about him and worry about the baby. 1 how are you going to raise this baby you need to finish school are you are going to struggle the rest of your life and you wont be able to buy nice things for your baby you should think about giving the baby up for you and the baby so you can have a better life im 27 and if your ex is anything like i used to be he wont be ready to slow down for along time and many more partners who will bring nasty diseases back to you. you have a lot of life left ot live a baby take all that away and i think he is just using you for sexgo out and get someone better and just take it slow goodluck and dont keep your baby just to get him back it wont work dont use your baby
By law, that guy has to become a father. If not tell your parents and they will call the cops to press charges against him. He can then become a father or go to jail. Sorry but he screwed his life and has to pay the price.
your baby is the most important thing. he needs a father and you have to confront your ex and demand that he takes care of his child. if your ex cant handle it try doing it yourself with the help of your family and friends. its going to be very hard.
I'm so sorry but he doesn't love you... please consider adoption.
I know you love him, but if hes dating other girls and your preganant, forget him dont try anythign else with him except for helping you pay for child support or somthing. Plus it will be a good wake up call for him few years down the road and realizes how stupid and immature of him to leave his child and the girl that loves him! Good luck with your pregnancy and ur life!
I hate saying this, but you need to think about you and your baby more than you need to think about him.





DON'T sleep with him anymore. You don't want to catch something that he might give you if he's sleeping around with other girls. Sit him down and say, ';You're either with me or you're not -- if you want to sleep with me, you get the whole package deal. If you want to sleep with other girls, goodbye';.





It's hard, I know, but you have to think about you and your baby. My sister almost got married to a guy like that after they got pregnant. It was a lot of hurt and a lot of hearbreak and a lot of worry that she just didn't need. And now, she's married to someone else whose everything she and her kids need.





Listen to your head. Your heart will heal in time.
Life can be difficult at times. After becoming a young mother myself, I had to come to the realization that the main priority is going to be your child. Perhaps the father of your child we be able to mature and realize he has a responsibility to this new life and be more responsible. Although you have strong feelings for this guy, you need to decide if you wish to continue to give this guy sexual satisfaction even when he is not willing to give you what you want, a committed relationship. Just remember that one thing is for certain, you are having a baby and you need to do what you feel is best for you, so you can care for yourself and your baby. I wish you the best of luck.