It is great being with her but recently about a few months ago my GF started to act very differently towards me, like talking to me on the phone without any zest, being late for dates (almost 15mins to 1 hour!) and just simply worrying about non-sensicle things that gives a negative effect to the relationship (and end up arguing most of the time). Things hasn't been smooth since the start of this month and one perfect example was the celebration of our 1st aniversary. It was pretty much screwed up badly because of these reasons:
1. She was late (again) for 30 minutes.
2. She was very self-centered for the whole day (making comments to herself and not sharing opinions and basically keeping comments to herself)
3. When i realised and got pissed off at it, she starts to act like her normal self again (bubbly, and happy instead of the';new'; dull self)
4.When confronted of the problem the cause was a simply ridiculous reason that had nothing to do about our relationship (thus screwing our relationship again)
5. Despite exercising immense patience and just trying to keep the day happy, she continued to be selfish and this happened:
After resolving the issue (No.4) , she mentioned that she wanted to go dinner and then while in the midst of asking her where to go eat, she stormed off angrily and in the end we ended up eating in an unglamarous place (which i had plans to take her out to a ritzy restuarant of her choice) and fighting. In the end i lost my temper and just told her that she obviously do not realise how lucky and she was and not being appreciative of what i do despite ';tolerating'; her.
Its been a week now and I have not called/SMSed her since the incident, and yes im still pretty pissed at the incident as I had done so much for her (everything in the name of love that you can imagine) that no one else can compare and yet she gave me a crappy attitude.
I do not plan on calling her this time, Ive given in one too many times already.I plan not to contact her until she apologises to me personally. Hopefully shes aware of the problem but i also dont plan on leaving her unless there is no other way.
I would really appreciate your comments on this and any suggestion on what to do next (breakup can be factored but not focused) to make her realise and learn about it. The same type of thing had happened to my brother's ex-GF before and now shes regretting it, i dont want her to make the same mistake as her.
Thanks alot for taking the timeI would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
I don't know what to say really,I mean people change in relationships you are both together along time and relationships do have there ups and downs and maybe this is the worst case for yous yet but nothing to serious being late all the time now that would really get to me and on your anniversary that's just not on she should apologize for that but there is no point in not talking to her its a waste of time and life you both need to sit and talk about whats going on if she has a bad attitude then something is up and you need to find out as soon as possible.I would really appreciate some great advice for my relationship please!?
Strange......Sound's to me like she might be seeing someone.Not something serious but why would she suddenly act this way.If she was the one acting selfish and unappreciated of what you planned and done for her then i say don't call.Sometime's we do give in to easily and people take that as well i can treat him/her how ever i want because here she/he is still.I am guilty of that my bf would be a jerk and would argue for no reason and there i would be calling and looking for him for what? he didn't change.Then she will come to her senses and say i am going to lose him.I know you might care for her but sometime's we do need space-if she really does care she will contact you and apologize if not like you say your a good man you will surely find someone who will appreciate you.Be smart about it and think thing's through.Good Luck Man :)
i think maybe your gf is bored or thinks that you are no longer ';interesting'; as you were when she liked you, if thats the case then i guess you shud try to spark things up by doing stuff you guys havent done before which might appeal to her or the other scenario cud be that she doesnt like you anymore and is too scared to break up with you so in that case you shud be open with her and tell her how you have felt in the past month about her behaviour and tell her that if shedoesnt like you anymore, then its fine n blah blah, n the other reason cud be that shes stressed about something and shes not sharing it with you, so ask her whats wrong and try to find out the reason for her stressful behaviour
hope this helps lol :)
Dude. You've got to man up. You're being a wuss. Women do not like wusses. They want someone that is a challenge. I read things like ';restaurant of HER choice'; which is definitely a wuss giveaway. She wants a man that makes decisions and has control and self confidence. You can give her options sometimes but YOU ultimately make the decisions. Don't EVER say you've been together any number of years and any number of days. Just say years...that's enough. And never tell a girl that she's ';lucky to be with you';. That's not even funny as a joke. That just shows weakness and desperation.
Also, she's bored with you. Did you notice how she got excited when you got pissed off? She wants a reaction from you (even if it's negative). Don't be so predictable. Make her come after you. She doesn't want what she can obtain so easily. One more thing, be 10 or 15 minutes late and don't be so uptight!
Either forget about her and she'll come running back or better yet she'll stay away. Take a risk with no regrets.
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