Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?

Greetings to all!





Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than 10 years now and we're not yet married, he's older than me about 4 years and we are living together now for almost half a year with some friends... However lately i have noticed that our relationship is getting worst. I mean we always fight even for simply things, he wanted to get married and have a child but im not yet ready i still want to spend my time as single carrier woman but I don't want to loose him. And he really badly wants a family. I'm afraid i might loose him.





What should I do? Pls. help....Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
Dear friend;


What is happening in your relationship is what usually happens with couples who choose to live together. The respect that should prevail in a relationship begins to diminish.





There is no committment, only an arrangement. If you are not ready for marinage and want to keep this man, then, I suggest that you move out into a place of your own.Need advice with my relationship... Kindly help...?
He wants to get married and ur not ready. I'ma put it like this, it's a sin to shack! If u not ready for the commitment, let the man go. But u also have to think about the fact that u hav a child with him. I don't know what to tell u!
If your boyfriend truely loved and respected you he would respect your decision to not want to have a child and start a family. You are the one who has to go through 9 months of childbirth, not him. You may love him, but it seems as though you feel like you are being pushed to move quicker than you are comfortable with. Your instincts will always guide you in the right direction. If you gut tells you ';No';, then listen.





Good Luck :)
If he loves you he will respect your waiting time. I mean, if its YOU that he wants to start a family with, he will wait, but if he leaves you for another woman, you know he never really cared about YOU and is looking out for his best interest to start a family with anyone, rather than start a family with YOU.
if you are not ready to commit then don't committ explain to him about your feelings tell him you are happy right now and you don't want to have a child or be married.... but if you live with him then it is as though you are already married to him
My guess is that you're abstaining until marriage (good for you!). Try to be more patient with him.
You should dump him and move on. You don't really love him, your'e just used to him. You don't want to marry him or have his children. If you don't want him after 10 whole years, you're never going to want him! Stop being selfish and wasting his time. You can find some else.