I need advice with my relationship?!?

I've been with this boy for 8 months %26amp; we are very much in love. We lost our virginity to eachother, are always there for eachother (i try to be) and we care for eachother very much.





Lately, we've been getting into fights almost everyday. They are very silly fights, but regardless, they take a very large toll on our relationship. Also, the only time we ever seem to fight is when we are NOT together. When we ARE together, things are perfect. We try to see eachother at least two-three times per week, and I am transferring to his school next year.





Back in September, he proposed to me. I was shocked, amazed, and fell completely in love with him. This relationship can be really perfect most of the time.





But..things we used to do, we never do anymore. Just small things, though. Going for walks down to the farms, silly myspace comments, and stuff like that. I seriously love him so much.





How can I save this relationship??





peace%26amp;love


stella starlight*I need advice with my relationship?!?
only thing to say is if it is meant to be it is meant to be let the horizon and the stars guide your life love will prevail peace and harmony always....I need advice with my relationship?!?
It doesn't sound like it needs to b saved, in every relationship your will have ups an downs but i'm sure u know that, but u must know that he is a man an doubts do cross our mind from time to time u must jus show he that u ain't going nowhere that your there now an always will b.
Of course you can save your relationship. The two of you have to be willing to work on it.








You already realize that your fights are petty. So when you see one firing up, extinguish it automatically. It's a good thing to argue and disagree. It means both people's brains are working. But arguements should be saved for important things that effect the relationship.





Also you're fighting because you're apart. Separation can cause a lot a resentment. You have to keep in mind you're a team.





The two of you have control over the relationship more than you think. You both have to be willing to work at it. And if you're old enough to be thinking about marriage. You should think about pre-marriage counseling. It could save you a lot of trouble down the road.
OMG ! i lost mine to the first love too! lol i have been with the same guy for couple of years since i was 14. lol good for you... and the fights..ah... forget em, me and my bf fight everyday almost over stupid stuff..... i know exactly how you feel about the past. this is how it is. you wish you could go back and experience the things u had then and u just wish he would be more like that again. the things is... you two are building the relationship trust me! iv been wit hthe same guy for 2.5 years! things u used to do in the past are not gone because more fun things are still to come i promise u that.... I WISH u the best of luck! PS. you two will forget about the fight and be done with em soon enough... over the phone and together
try to get him to go for a walk with you
all couples fight, it's how they work it out that makes them stay together, if you love him some much, find a way that you guys can communicate so fights arent so bad
i think 8 monthes is very little time 2know each other but not to reach each other,,so i think u reached each other .. to live is 2fight %26amp;live in peace start wz fight then overcome this problems.. ,,, my lastword 2u is b his friend %26amp;u'll b his love 4ever,,
Talk to him more often in the phone,or visit him more than just 3times a week!Buy him sweet stuff girls do you know what I mean=]
All i have to say is don't give up just do your part and everything will fall in place. But don't make him do things he doesn't want to do. continuing showing the love you guys have been sharing. Love takes patient, caring, courage, and also listen to his part of the story. And just be their for him. Keep reminding him you love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him as your husband.


love francess
Well go back to being how you were when you first met him. Send him some sweet e-mails, call him whenever you have a chance and let him know that eventhough you guys have your disagreements, you still really care for him. Let him know that he is a big part of your life!
you've probably just gotten out of the honeymoon stage. which happens. Maybe you can try to suggest doing those little things u use to do.


me and my bf are doing long-d and the same thing happens. We get into silly little arguments every day over nothing. I believe its just cuz we miss each other alot. you just gotta hang in there. And you got to learn to be more carefree. Not careless, but just...dont be so uptight about things. and if u have problems or issues, discuss them over with eachother.


talking things out and letting eachother know how you feel can seriously make a huge difference.
Have you asked this ';boy'; if he still wants to be with you? He may be causing little fights constantly to scare you off. I did that a few times when I was younger because I was too chicken hurt my girlfriend(s) feelings. If you just ask, maybe he will be honest.





If he blows off the question, consider it over. Guys always go on the offensive if they feel they are being attacked. He will try to shift the blame on to you, and then use you asking as an excuse to do it.





If he denies sweetly and asks why you feel that way, you will be fine.
List what you fight about and why you fight when you're apart. Just getting them out in the open will help. Ask him to do the small things you used to do. Or come up with new things.
Only you can truly judge whether or not this relationship is working for you. However, eight months does not seem long enough to make a long-time commitment such as marriage. I think it would be a silly mistake to commit to something like that so soon. You sound very young as well.





Just because you lost your virginity to this guy does not mean that you should be together forever, or that you will always be happy. If you're honestly unhappy with him, I think that you should talk to him about it. If it continues to make you feel upset or unhappy, end the relationship.





Personally, I think talking through it will help strongly.





XOXO,


Laurie
Talk to him! If you really do love him, then be honest and open with your thoughts and feelings. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing as you are, but he isn't sure what to do. Take the initiative and explain it all to him. This will show him how much you care and that things need to change.


Good luck!





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I would just try to talk to him about. Obviously you trust him and love him, thats apparent. I know you can make it work, if your truly in love with him. Ask him whats on his mind, maybe something is going on with him that he's not comfortable sharing, it could be a number of things. Just ask him what the deal is. Try to sound calm, cool and collected, and don't accuse or jumpt to any conclusions. Speak like adults, and I'm sure he'll be more comfortable opening up. you love him, so talk to him. Good luck!
ya u do
how old are you? boys get freaked out by being together too much. remember why you like each other and be individuals. trust me, things will be better if you have your own identity's. give each other space! if it is meant to be it will be. good luck!
compromise and don't expect perfection. Also, give attention to what he values. If he gets irritated when you talk to some guy (lets say BOB) ... then stay away from BOB or kiss your boyfriend in front of BOB.





Also, what you like (your values) is important too. When you compromise ... it might be necessary for you and him to come to an agreement. For example, you do something he likes and in return ... he goes for a walk with you down to the farm more often. You get the jist. It does not need to be this literal.





I feel you might be the best type of girl (a girly-girl). If thats the case (I could be wrong), learn about his favorite team, his favorite sport. Show him there is more about you then he thinks.
just overlook
well what you should do is when you fight tell him what is wrong or ask him what is wrong things will be better that way and you should also tell him you love him when you fight it may sound silly but it will work