Wednesday, August 18, 2010

I need advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?

I need some friendly advice because I鈥檓 new to dating. I鈥檓 a gay virgin male in his early 20's and I鈥檓 talking to a guy online in his early 30's long distance who seems like my opposite in every aspect of our lives. He seems like the man of my dreams but then I think about reality and where I鈥檓 at now in life. I am a broken person inside and out. I come from a rough background but he鈥檚 willing to take me as I am and assist me. This man seems greater than who I am, he does things that I鈥檝e always wanted to do like travel but I have an anxiety issues. If I end up with him things for me could either be really good or end up being really bad. I think more about the bad because it would take me away from family and I鈥檓 not sure if I can really trust or depend on him to not take advantage of my weaknesses. He鈥檚 extremely attractive too, the model type. He has given me some great advice but I feel totally unprepared to be in a relationship with him. I had turned him down but then I came backI need advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
I think you should date other guys for a while without jumping into anything serious with the long distance guy. You clearly do not sound like you are ready for him. Try not to make yourself stressed out about this situation. You are young. Have fun! Life is short. There is no need to jump into anything serious with this guy right now. He's not the only fish in the sea. Maybe the two of you could just be friends for now. Have you even met him in person? Are you sure he is who he says he is? Not all people represent themselves honestly online. I think it's important for you to stay close to your family as it sounds like you love them very much.I need advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
Meet in a public place, talk, go to a movie, and come back home. Don't rush anything, just get to know each other first. You never know what this guy does, if he seems too good to be true then he probably is. He could just be out for sex and may use the Internet for it. Lots of guys, especially gay guys do that. I've seen some good documentaries on it. Be careful and use protection because you don't know what these people have.
Take it slow and find out who he really is, a lot of times people pretend to be someone else when they meet you on line, just be safe!
Dont rush into anything with someone that you met on the net. All you know about him is what he has told you. When you meet people in person you learn a lot about them from their reactions to things said and done. You can learn a lot from someones body language. You dont know anything about this man except what he has told you and how do you know that all or even any of it is true. He could live in a trailer park with his elderly mother for all you really know.

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