I need your advice on my relationship!?

We met online when we were almost 16 and starterd dating then and still are now (we are 20) so it has been 4 years. I moved away from my family and friends to be with him. I have been living with him for almost 2 1/2 years. Here is the problem...we have been out to a movie and a restraunt ONCE alone as a couple the whole time we have been dating. He plays games online way to much. 7 days a week for about 5 hours a day sometimes more. When I try to talk to him when I get upset he finds a way for everything to be my fault. I have low self esteem already and this is really starting to make me feel like I am just a lousy person and I have been trying to hide that it bugs me now but I am crying inside. My family and his family are pressuring us into getting married (we cant we dpnt have the money right now) and I just go along with it pretending everything is ok. I think I am attached mayb but then again I can't see myself without him and him with other girls. I don't know what to do:(I need your advice on my relationship!?
Game addiction hits men and women.. Men usually get addicted to 1st person shooter or RP games... women to ***** sites like Pogo where they can play and meet new peeps...





Just have to tell him it is TOO damned much and he needs to live in the real world with you more often. Compromise to a max of 4 days a week and you would also appreciate an extra day here and there... If he gets mad at a simple request like that, then it should open your eyes that he just doesn't care that much.I need your advice on my relationship!?
He doesn't sound like the type of guy you should worry about losing. He puts you down because he knows he can. It's his sick way of controlling you.





Dudette, he isn't into you. If I were you, I would go to plan B. He obviously doesn't care about how you feel, why would you even put up with this? Be confident and if you need to chat I'm on AIM ilv1208 I'm sorry I just don't like seeing girls go through this.
You have such a full life ahead of you. Do yourself a huge favor and let him go. Move back home and be surrounded by your friends and family, they'll provide all the support you need while you're in the process of ending this chapter with him. You said you have low self-esteem, and I bet that he knows it too. That's why he can care less how he treats you, because he thinks you're not going to go anywhere. Even you admit that guys hit on you all the time, why don't you give 1 of those guys a chance? Of course it's hard to picture him with another girl...but isn't harder knowing you're not truely happy?
try to make him choose what he really wants if he wants to be with you and sees his future with you or if you are just another habit aND I THINK ITS THE LATTER YOU HAVE TO SNAP OUT OF IT
maybe your guy is still too immature to be so addict to computer games... and is not serious with your relationship... i believe you can live life without it, you just dont want to... i suggest you too find your life also outside of him, your whole life is already revolving around him, try... try to fix your life.. finish school, and build yourslef a career... dont get married yet... you are not yet ready, neither he is... you would likely just be addition to the rising rate of divorce. wait for like 5 more years... you are still young, there is still a beautiful future for you, maybe he wont even be in the picture.
sweetheart, you cant lie to yourself, so take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself if this guy is good for you? will you be happy with this lifestyle in 10 years time? this feeling of low self esteem, is this how you want to feel forever? what about future kids? will he be a good dad and more important will you be a good mum when you feeling worthless all the time? GOD forbid you having a little girl, WHAT EXAMPLE WILL YOU BE SETTING FOR HER?


Answer these questions and then make up your mind. you young with your whole future ahead of you. and why would you mind seeing another girl watch him play up to 5 hrs a day online? you so much more worthy than that......


You dont have money to get married, its more expensive to get a divorce.
Talk to your Man and tell him he needs to decide what is more important to him , you or the games . Talk to your family and his family about his obsession . A relationship takes two people working toward the same goal and it sounds like you are trying to do this by yourself . Maybe you should spend sometime away from him , go stay with family for a week or two and see how you both feel about the separation.





If he loves you then he will put the games down and try to make this relationship work . If he chooses the games over you then do not stay with him . Obviously he is not mature enough for a relationship with a real person . Do not pretend everything is OK because it is not and you do not need to keep on with someone who does not care enough for you to put the games down and live life . Life is too short to waste like that .
FIRST OF ALL SWEETIE, IF YOUR SELF ESTEEM IS LOW YOU NEED TO BE BY YOURSELF ANYWAY. YOU HAVE TO WORK ON SELF BEFORE YOU CAN GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE. BECAUSE WHATEVER THEY TELL YOU, YOU WILL BELIEVE. ONCE YOU BUILD YOURSELF ESTEEM YOU LOOK BACK ON THIS SITUATION AND ANSWER YOUR OWN QUESTION.
You might want to go seek couples counsleling, which I'm sure he'll decline. If so, then feel free to take the harder road (right now) and leave. After a while at least you could be happy with someone else. Clearly he isn't treating you right, so... don't get married... and leave him if he can't treat you better.
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Cheer up, Its not a big problem..speak to your guy and tell him frankly how you feel and believe if he does care about you he will deinitely open up and care for you.... and on the marraige part speak to both your parents and tell them you need more time to settle financially... and if he dosent change even after a frank talk then time to move on...





Cheers
well you can ask yourself the origin of your meeting ';online'; and thats why he was able to meet you because thats all he does...lucky for him the internet now provides dating services or else he'd still be sitting there minus you with his game in hand. You need to get back out there and find somebody who wont be a big dud. youre still very young so it wont be hard for you to find someone else...oh and him with other girls unless they're interacting with him through a web cam i dont think you have to worry about him being better off.
Get a life beside him. He has so many red flags that you should be running in the opposite direction in warp speed. I know you will not take this advice, but that is what is know as learning the hard way. Getting married will only make things worse because things only get worse in these type of situations. Go to college. Your would be surprised at how many guys are waiting to meet you. and they have a head start on the loser that you are with.
you're really unhappy and staying in this relationship is only making it worse for you! your family is pressuring you because they dont know whats going on. if you stay then your self esteem is just going to go down lower and lower.





a partner is suppose to add to your life NOT take away from it.





he's a child and you need a man. you think youre attatched? after 4 years the only reason you have for not leaving is that you think your attached and you can't picture him with another girl!? look at him there is no girl that would be lucky to have that! youre in the relationship for the wrong reasons leave him and work on your self esteem single.
Move out. Get urself together, You met him onlin, that should tell you something. If this man wants u and needs u and loves u (and if not he shouldn't be wit u) then he will change his ways and be ut knight in shining armour. And if u don't do that, u love ur situation!!!
tell him your problem and tell him that he needs to spend more time with you