Can anyone offer advice on my relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over four months. We have loads in common, including a short temper. Because of past sexual abuse I have extreme trust issues. Sometimes when I'm with him, girls flirt with him [right in front of me!] He ignores them but of course I have to wonder, what would encourage those girls to do that? Is this a normal reaction or is the abuse speaking? And when I bring it up, because of our tempers, we end up yelling our heads off. He says I always accuse him, and treat him like crap when we argue. But every time it gets too intense, he tries to leave me or puts the blame on me. I know I always communicate with him calmly [after some anger] and try to work through it. What I need from Yahoo! is, please tell me, how can I fix this for good?Can anyone offer advice on my relationship?
There is no way of getting away with talking to him about this. If you still want this relationship to survive - you have to find a way to talk it out with him calmly. Find a time where you're both calm and talk about your problems, and agree with eachother that your voices will not become violent. That's pretty much the only thing to do, or you can just break up with him if it's getting to this point. Good luck!Can anyone offer advice on my relationship?
well when i was in 8th grade i had been sexually abused by my first love, so i know exacley what you are going through. its hard to start to get back to your regular self when you have been through so much pain. and i understand the trust issues also its really hard because you feel like if you let your gaurd down it can happen to you again and thats why u put up such a thick wall(exspecially twards men). from the way it sounds the abuse isent the only thing talking here. As a girl we are always gunna have that feeling of .. what a ***** why would she do that in front of me/ and it happens to everyone in alot of relationships its normal. now one thing i have found is that everytime you get upset he tries to blame you or leave you. which looks like he has problems with the fact that it could be his fault to. if he seems to sick very issue on you then you shouldnt have to just shut your mouth and take it. if he really loved you like u say he does he would understand. dont get me wrong u could have somthing really great but here is an idea both of u make a list of your problems and dislikes in your relationship... AND TALK IT OUT just sit him down and say .. babe lets just talk about this. and if he doesnt want to thats when u have to ask yourself.. is he really right for me if he dosent care about this? because a guy who cant understand and talk about work out problems is going to end up alone. hope i could help, hang in there girl !


meghan~~