I need guy's advice about my relationship!?

okay, so me and my ex of 8 months (only broke up 5 days ago) had been fighting and not getting along for about 2 months but it was up and down. Deep down we still really cared for one another and still said i love u and everything.





So, before we broke up he had been making excuses to not hang out for a whole week! I was getting so frustrated and basically told him that i still wanted to be with him but i wanted him to be nicer and more affectionate like he used to be! I said i didnt want to be dating the guy he was being towards me.





So he suggested that i come up and talk that friday after not seeing me for that whole week and i said ok sounds great. He then cancels on me and says he is too ';busy'; that night to have our talk!





I got so mad and broke up with him. He said ';no baby u are being irrational right now, we can talk another time.'; He told me to come up on sunday once we all calmed down. He then canceled AGAIN!!





I was livid and honestly thought that something was going on behind my back for sure. So we never talked face to face but we had a long phone convo and he assures me there is no one else but he says he still loves me very much but with the fighting it was distracting him from getting a job and focusing on school which I believe him, it could get distracting. But he has a very flirty past, and something just seems fishy here.





My questions are, with the way he has been canceling on me, and saying he is too ';busy'; yet plays video games all day and hasn't even started the semester yet do u think something else is going on? Like another girl? Or trying to meet other girls? I need it from a veryyyy honest guy's point of view because i just need to get into a guys mind!





also another question is, i want him back someday and they say to completely not contact him in any way and usually in 4-9 weeks they will start getting curious again. However, he called me today after not talking to him for 3 days. Should i continue to ignore or answer?!





PLease honest guys and be very honest im a big girl it won't kill me!I need guy's advice about my relationship!?
i believe him that he still loves and cares for you, and the way that he has been blowing you off would definitely make you assume, but at the same time he could just be lazy, or not willing to put fourth more effort to make the relationship work. but at the same time...IIIII think that almost any guy would need to settle things before something ended up happening, either making up or breaking, and the fact that he has no interest in really doing do means he is trying to hide something, maybe not what you think, but something that would hurt you just as bad. and if you really want him back maybe what you need it real time apart. make him realize what he had had and what he has lost. my girlfriend of 3 years and i broke for about for like 5 months because of constant bickering and bitching about stupid stuff. we talked at the beginning of the break up, but it was nasty. fighting, cussing, all that. then we didnt talk at all for almost 3 months. weve been back together for nearly 4 months now. started to get a little rocky, like with bickering and complaining, but now it is just as amazing, if not better literally hen when we first started dating.





as for the guy...ask him. you know when hes lying. hes up to something, just maybe not exactly what your thinking. good luck sweetie!!!I need guy's advice about my relationship!?
This guy is too irresponsible to be in any relationship.








Miss Fierce?


I'm going to rescind my answer if this post turns into men-bashing. I won't tolerate it.
go with your gut instinct if YOU think that he might be cheating then he very well could be.Why else would he be ignoring you, Have you done anything different? Has your behavor towards him changed? I still say go with your gut feelings ,Most of the time they are correct
are you serious??





the attention span on guys reading a novel like this is pretty slim


you'll be lucky to find one who will take the time to read all of it





otherwise most guys who end up answering read the first sentences of each paragraph
hey I can sorta relate to your problem. Me and my ex broke up after 8 months but that was because she cheated on me 3 times and called me names and ****. But anyways We really did love eachother, and after we ended it i still said i did but was sick of her ****. and she said that she didnt love me anymore and even tried to move on.


After about a month o 2 went by she really did realize how wonderfully i had treated her and how bad she ****** up. She came back to me begging and begging. And believe me at this point i was def. wanting to take her back. But for my own good decided to move on. Till this day she still trys to get me back.





So what u need to do is stand up for urself and let him know that u r not gonna take any of his ****. And stick to the break up. Then after about a month i garentee that youll have scared him into thinking the relationship is over and he will come crying back to u a totally changed man.Just like my ex still does with me.





My mom always told my sis that the more u play hard to get the more they want u. And omg it is sooooooo true.





Do what u like. But from experience if you were a good girlfriend to him he will change.





';Just do what is best for you. In the long run it pays off';