In love with a guy but my dad disapproves and ended the relationship...desperately need advice!?

My father thinks i'm too young and having a relationship out of marriage is wrong. So he tried to end it by approaching the guy. However we love each still of course and talk and meet at times in secret. Though to see him means I have to sneak out and the opportunity to do so is rare. I'm crazy in love with him and cant ever get him out of my mind, seeing him less worsens this and i cant concentrate on work or anything.Im really falling behind. Any advice please!In love with a guy but my dad disapproves and ended the relationship...desperately need advice!?
You are not in love, you are in lust. You are selfish. You only care about getting what you want. If you loved the guy, you would follow your dad's rules because you wouldn't want him to get into trouble. Same goes for lover boy.In love with a guy but my dad disapproves and ended the relationship...desperately need advice!?
listen to dad
i hear you, i deal with the same thing.


my dad strongly dislikes this guy i am seeing. my bf comes off like an asshole/ player but he really isnt. he loves me to death and is faithful. i wish my dad could see him the way that i do but he wont even give the poor dude a chance!


my dad told me that if i didnt stop seeing him he would take away my car, he would no longer give me any money. i continued to see him anyway cause i knew if we were careful we wouldnt be found out but sure enough one night he caught me and i couldnt have my car for weeks. we have been keeping this a secret for over two years now, and my boyfriend is starting to talk marriage. i finally have convinced my dad that i am no longer with him, but my relationship with my father has suffered so much- we have trust issues and i hate lying to him but since he is ruining my life, i rarely ever tell him who i am going out with and where we are going.


i really want to marry this guy, but how will i ever tell my father?


ugh, i have to stop talking about it cause it makes me upset, cause i already know the answer is ill eventually have to break it off or i will lose my dad forever =(





after experiencing it for myself, i would say end it as soon as possible cause if you stay together and later stop seeing each other it will being even harder on the both of you. good luck, i wish you the best.
Someone telling you not to do something often makes it more exciting...you know you shouldn't be doing it, but somehow it doesn't matter.





I was really lucky, my parents are of the theory that, if they tell me not to do something, i'll probably go ahead and do it anyway, so i should make my own mistakes. But they're still there for me if i need them. Your dad probably just is unwilling to let you grow up because he still sees you as his little girl. Have you tried having a serious talk with him about your new responsibilities as a young adult? (I guess you are a young adult?)





When push comes to shove, it's your life, you choose what's right and what's wrong by *your* morals and beliefs, no one else's, and if seeing this lad makes you happy and you believe it's right, then that's what you should do. But I reckon you should talk to your dad about how smothered you feel, and how you need to make your own mistakes. You never know, he could understand and you might reach a compromise. Especially if it's affecting your work.





Good luck :)
Try speaking to your mum, mums usually know whats best for you and always have your best interests at heart. Find out what your mum thinks about this guy. See if your mum can talk your dad around. Basically all dad's feel threatened when their young daughters start to find boyfriends, its normal.





My father was a complete pain in the backside for a long time, he came round eventually when my mother managed to convince him that the boyfriend was ok.





Goodluck
To be completely honest, I'm eighteen years old and I'm just now figuring out that my own father was right about a lot of things as I was growing up. I often find myself quoting things he taught me.





I don't know how old you are but I'm assuming you're not under the age of seventeen. I've never had my father try to end one of my relationships but i tend to pick the long distance ones as well.





So my advice to you is that if you truthfully love this boy. Talk to your father. Tell him you love him and have no end to the amount of respect you feel towards him but that you love this boy and you feel that you are old enough to make your own decisions on who you do or don't want to date.





As long as your boyfriend isn't over the age of nineteen and you're not under the age of seventeen there shouldn't be an issue.





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I had a dad like this, nobody was good enough for me and you know what in the end he was right, I made some really bad mistakes in my life and it was all my fault.


Your parents are there to guide you and whether you like to hear it or not they do know best.


If you are having a sexual relationship of course your dad is going to be concerned and you sneaking off and still doing it just shows your immaturity at not being able to see whats right and wrong.


It feels right to you and it also feels exciting now since your dad has made it terribly romantic to go against the adults and still do what you want.


If your boyfriend was any kind of ';man'; he would not allow you to sneak around behind your dads back, that shows disrespect for him and disrespect for you knowing that you will get into trouble if you get caught, he is a kid and an immature one at that.


A real man who loved you sincerely would be able to front up to your dad and tell him how much he loved you and that he would prove to him how worthy he is of your love and that he will stand by what your dad says until he can understand how much you want to be together, he cant do this can he ? no all he can do is encourage you to be deceitful and let you risk being caught.


You are playing a dangerous game and your so called boyfriend is encouraging this, he cares little really about you or he would not let this happen.