My bestfriend and I have been in a troubled reltionship for about six months now. We were an item for a year or so...things didnt not work out and we became best friends. Unfortunately, it seems to be a one way street for me. It seems like I cannot express myself when I tell him something bothers me about him bc he soon gets fired up and dumps me. He tells me he will leave me alone and stop being my bestfriend. It seems like i cannot speak and things will be okay. If I do speak up then everything is cool. He has being doing to me for a while. Finally I just had enough. We work together, and I get naseus everytime I seem him. I am so angry and sad. I feel used and stabbed. He approached me today as if nothing happen..he asked how i was doing and that if i nedeed something come to him... Should this relationship be gone for good or should i attempt to try to talk to him about it?I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
It definitely needs to be gone for good. He is not a good friend. Sure he does some friendly things and acts in some friendly ways, but a true friend is much more than that - and much more consistently. You can continue to be kind, but you need to avoid pretending that he is anything more than a sometimes-friendly-acquittance.
Don't get trapped into continually trying to build a relationship with someone like this. There are lots of people out there who will be true best friends.I need advice on my current relationship with my bestfriend, Please!!!?
Your relationship isn't healthy. That's for sure. It sounds like you two never completely moved on from the dating relationship. You're still arguing like a couple would.
Sounds like there is still uncomfortable, displaced tension from the couple relationship you once had.
If you can't take a temporary break from him until things resolve on their own ask yourself why.
Was it REALLY emotionally over for you after the break up?
Doesn't sound like it.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
I met this girl a few weeks ago who honestly makes me feel different than other other girl I've ever been with. I thought it was going to be a quick hook/up, but we ended up not h/u because as I found out later, she's the type of girl that only h/u with guys if it's ';special';. We ended up, in the last couple of weeks talking on the phone endlessly and it honestly felt and looked like we were together. My best friend had even asked me if we were going out and I know from her friends that she ';liked me alot';. However, last week, she tells me that she's sorry if I thought she was leading me on and that she wants to give it another shot with her ex boyfriend of a few years. I made it as if I was okay with it and she dosn't want anything to change even though I think that's impossible. As of now, she still talks to me frequently, but not on the phone.
Do I talk to her friends? Do I straight up tell her how I felt/feel before it's too late? What do I do? I normally don't get attached. HelpI need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
yes talk to her... you may miss out on the love of your life! tell her that you understand that she might want to give it a go with the ex but you want to give it a go too... and theres a reason hes the ex. she may not realize that you had that kinda feeling for her. and YES talk to the friends... make it known all the way around that you care about her. GOOD LUCK
Do I talk to her friends? Do I straight up tell her how I felt/feel before it's too late? What do I do? I normally don't get attached. HelpI need advice on a ';budding relationship';.?
yes talk to her... you may miss out on the love of your life! tell her that you understand that she might want to give it a go with the ex but you want to give it a go too... and theres a reason hes the ex. she may not realize that you had that kinda feeling for her. and YES talk to the friends... make it known all the way around that you care about her. GOOD LUCK
Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
My story is very simple, I met a girl online, and after we knew we are some what same in nature and likes, we fell in love, I mean I expressed my feelings and she said she feels the same, we were doin gr8, altho we only saw each other only in pictures but no one of us ever mistrusted, we talked on phone and so, one day i received a mail that her over protective dad found out about us, and she was blocked to communicate wid me, her cell was not her's anymore, it was switch off, I was depressed but at the evening someone added me to chat wid, she dinn say her name and location, she said she found my ID on yahoo answers, she said she hates her life, her dad and all tht sad things, then she asked about me, I told her everything, nd told her tht I love tht gal nd wont move on ever, I was feelin guilty, and I was suicidal, then somehow my love managed to chat wid me at the same evening, then she said she wont leave me ever, and all tht romantic crap, now we were more close to each other, but after a month she said she is goin out for a tour, nd she will mail me, but she dinn do it, after a month when i tried to call her she blocked my number, she mailed me tht she doesnt want me in her life, I was shocked and tried every medium to contact her, but then i received a mail which was like it came from her dad telling tht i ruined her life nd if i try to contact me one more time he is gonna kill her, I thought she was blocked from the outside world completely, but she daily accessed her ID, then i came up wid a conclusion tht she was only an internet fraud, I was angry, I sent disgusting mails to her, nd i feel guilty for tht, 3 months passed, I was still dreamin about her, was out of confidence, feelin unwanted, then I thought i should talk to old frnds, then I added that gal who used to hate her life, nd one day she accessed her ID, we chatted, nd she sent me a mail, this time she told me she is from Europe, but when I extracted her IP from the mail it wasnt Europe, but the city where my love resides, I sent her a mail tht I know its her nd asked her to stop playing, she sent me mail tht she wants to talk to me if I allow her, I was dieing for this moment, I wanted an explanation but she denied to give any, she says she loved me, but now she doesn't care about me, she only wants me as a frnd, she havent yet deleted my pics, but she doesnt know y, nd she is not even sorry for wat she did to me, all she does is shows her anger when i ask her about wat happened, she is angry bcoz i sent disgusting mails to her, now I donno wat she thinks about me, nd wat is she upto, she even offered to help me in my projects, she is not saying anything else, nd I am still in love wid her, nd now even in much worse condition, now i feel so insignificant and unlucky, so unwanted, I wanna know why she came back nd still making decisions about me on her own, whenever i ask her she only says its non of my business, y she left me, ';its none of my business';, Guys please tell me wat is happening wid me, I cant bear all this, she is still my dream gal, but she is hurting me every second, what is she upto, please advice me, nd tell me what should I do? Please help me ppl!!Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
I think she is just trying to protect her or you from her dad she might be saying those things to protect you and really does like you or she really does just wants to be friends. just be her friend first and see if you can get what happened out of her just don't try to be pushy.
ps can you answer my question?
There could be alot of reasons for her odd behavior.You hav'nt met her in person so you really dnt know who your dealing with.It might be a fake picture and the person is way underage and got scared things were moving too fast or maybe she has a boyfriend and just likes to play games with people.whatever her reason is it sounds like you could do alot better.I know its hard to move on from someone you are so crazy in love with-I been there-it might hurt so bad that you think you can't live without that person but you have to realize its the only way for you to be truly happy.Would you be happy if you hooked up with this girl and had to deal with that kind of drama in your life everyday?I don't think so.You need someone who will return your love and make you feel good about who you are.You sound like u have alot to offer,my advice is to get out and have some fun,do what u like to do and you will meet a girl with your interest.Forget about cyber-*****, on line relationships very rarely work because there are so many liars in the world.Good luck and stay strong.
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.Please gals and guys, who have been dumped in a relationship, I need an advice, I am in a very odd situation.?
I think she is just trying to protect her or you from her dad she might be saying those things to protect you and really does like you or she really does just wants to be friends. just be her friend first and see if you can get what happened out of her just don't try to be pushy.
ps can you answer my question?
There could be alot of reasons for her odd behavior.You hav'nt met her in person so you really dnt know who your dealing with.It might be a fake picture and the person is way underage and got scared things were moving too fast or maybe she has a boyfriend and just likes to play games with people.whatever her reason is it sounds like you could do alot better.I know its hard to move on from someone you are so crazy in love with-I been there-it might hurt so bad that you think you can't live without that person but you have to realize its the only way for you to be truly happy.Would you be happy if you hooked up with this girl and had to deal with that kind of drama in your life everyday?I don't think so.You need someone who will return your love and make you feel good about who you are.You sound like u have alot to offer,my advice is to get out and have some fun,do what u like to do and you will meet a girl with your interest.Forget about cyber-*****, on line relationships very rarely work because there are so many liars in the world.Good luck and stay strong.
What is/was your excuse for not ending your abusive relationship? I need some advice...?
I see all these questions about why people DO end abusive relationships, but never any about why people don't. I think I am in an abusive relationship... not physical, but emotional. There have just been things about me that I can't control that I was guilt tripped into changing. Ladies, if you were ever in my spot you know what I am going through. It is something that you can't explain in words... and he has done soooo many things for me, but the whole things is that I am beginning to think it was never for me. Because he has said stuff like, ';You would never be going to school if it wasn't for me';, or ';You know I'm the best you can do';, in a joking manor, but it makes you wonder, ';Why would you even say that, even if you are joking';. I have been with him for 5 years, and I was ALWAYS a clown! Now, it seems like I don't even know how to laugh at a joke. I am just worried that because he had helped me so much, and my world revolves around him, what will I do without him. It is a sickening feeling. I have 2 small cats that he will not keep if I leave, my family lives 10 hours away, my mom is allergic to my animals, and the list goes on and on... and at the end of the day I feel sort of trapped... like there is nothing I can do and that makes me hate this relationship even more... So please, I am asking this question to see if I am not crazy, because I am starting to feel like I am losing myself, and like it is my fault and I know that any human being is capable of making their own choices, making THEIR own word choice come out of their mouth, so why am I making excuses to myself? HELP!!!!What is/was your excuse for not ending your abusive relationship? I need some advice...?
Honey, I do know how you feel... and Idk why I cant leave either. I'm afraid that he is the best I can do and that I should just stick around. my bf says that stuff that yours said ALL THE TIME... We've been together 3 years. Doesn't it amaze you how fully confident you were before all the years you've spent morphing to someone's expectations? I walk around on eggshells all the time around my bf. Some other examples include him having a sh*tty attitude for no reason, which makes me get defensive and then I'm told, ';its YOUR fault that this happened, look what YOU DID to cause this, I never did anything.'; Then he'll laugh when I start to cry and tell me that I'm crazy, psycho, get off my f***in *** you b*tch.
Your last sentence says it all for me... I wish I could make my own choice without freaking out over my bf because you and I both know that there is something wrong with this situation.. They could up and leave us at anytime they wanted, but we stick around like scared puppy dogs. I have broken up with my bf once before after he cheated on me.... then he started stalking me at work and I had to move away. I was so lonely I ended up dumping my new bf to get back with him. I was so close and right now I can not even imagine having that much courage. You %26amp; I have a long way to go but you made the right step by not denying it in your head anymore!!!
Honey, I do know how you feel... and Idk why I cant leave either. I'm afraid that he is the best I can do and that I should just stick around. my bf says that stuff that yours said ALL THE TIME... We've been together 3 years. Doesn't it amaze you how fully confident you were before all the years you've spent morphing to someone's expectations? I walk around on eggshells all the time around my bf. Some other examples include him having a sh*tty attitude for no reason, which makes me get defensive and then I'm told, ';its YOUR fault that this happened, look what YOU DID to cause this, I never did anything.'; Then he'll laugh when I start to cry and tell me that I'm crazy, psycho, get off my f***in *** you b*tch.
Your last sentence says it all for me... I wish I could make my own choice without freaking out over my bf because you and I both know that there is something wrong with this situation.. They could up and leave us at anytime they wanted, but we stick around like scared puppy dogs. I have broken up with my bf once before after he cheated on me.... then he started stalking me at work and I had to move away. I was so lonely I ended up dumping my new bf to get back with him. I was so close and right now I can not even imagine having that much courage. You %26amp; I have a long way to go but you made the right step by not denying it in your head anymore!!!
Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
if a girl and a guy are dating, is it possible that the guy can b in love with her jus after 2 mths 2getha, and she cheated on him,and he still loves her,she jus has 2 earn his trust back, but the love that he has 4 her, is still there, is that normalRelationship and cheating? need some advice?
It is possible, each case is different, as is each person.Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
its never normal to cheat on someone. but if he wants to make it ago. leave them alone, its their choice. if he can give her another chance to be with him. then good luck to them.
It is possible, each case is different, as is each person.Relationship and cheating? need some advice?
its never normal to cheat on someone. but if he wants to make it ago. leave them alone, its their choice. if he can give her another chance to be with him. then good luck to them.
Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
coz i want to be a good husband someday!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
long list my friend:
support her
love her, her friends and family
care for her
be patient
surprise her ! (always use that factor)
know what she really wants
be spontaneous
be attentive to details and to what she says
be GENEROUS (emotions or money)
take her to places she likes
give her your 100% attention and im sure she will give the same back if you are meant for each other
good luck!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
main factor you can show her is your
love, understanding, trust, patience, and love
Say you love them everyday, alway respect her wishes, and be frieds with her freinds.
that what helped me
Good luckrefill
long list my friend:
support her
love her, her friends and family
care for her
be patient
surprise her ! (always use that factor)
know what she really wants
be spontaneous
be attentive to details and to what she says
be GENEROUS (emotions or money)
take her to places she likes
give her your 100% attention and im sure she will give the same back if you are meant for each other
good luck!Can some one give me a advice on how to make a good relationship wuth my girlfren?to be a good fiance?
main factor you can show her is your
love, understanding, trust, patience, and love
Say you love them everyday, alway respect her wishes, and be frieds with her freinds.
that what helped me
Good luck
SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
ok i really need some advice on what to do with my relationship:
im 17, my bf is 19. He's in college but he commutes so its not long distance. I'm a senior in high school. we鈥檝e been together for about a year and 2 months. This September everything started to go so wrong. All of a sudden he stopped texting me as much. He didnt want to be with me me as much and things like that. Now its gotten even worse. He barely texts me at all. he says he's busying do school stuff or this and that. He tells ME im being a jerk to him all the time and when i ask for examples he wont give me any. He is constantly picking fights over the stupidest things-for example, today i didnt text him back for 6 minutes and he got mad and didnt text me for 3 hours, and when i asked why he was ignoring me he said he was just responding as fast as i was. He refuses to talk to me about things, he says i ';put words in his mouth';, when sometimes, yea i have to, because he just wont respond to anything.
when we're actually together things are usually better and hes nicer. Its like the ';virtual'; him thats really nasty to me. The thing is a few months ago i was kinda out of control with my emotions, being nasty to him a lot for no reason, picking fights, and just being miserable in general. i just let myself kinda fall into a hole and took it out on him. and he took it for a while but then started to get annoyed like any person would and called me out on it. and ive been trying so hard to be better for him.
but when i do try and stuff he refuses to notice. but he notices the SECOND i do something so small wrong and starts a huge fight about it. it's like his opinion of me is so low that it will never change. and no matter what i do he'll still be so bitter towards me.
when he tells me how horrible i am i ask why he doesnt just break up with me but he says that he expects me being such a jerk to him will ';pass'; and i really dont know what to think about that. Because these days HES the one whos being a total jerk to ME. and at least i admitted it when i was doing it to him, but he just refuses to believe the things he's doing to me.
i cry every single day. sometimes its when i come home from school because he's been ignoring me. sometimes it's when he drops me off after we hang out because SUPRISE, he picked a really stupid fight. im always crying about it. and i just want a second chance to make things good again and he says hes willing to give it to me but his actions dont reflect that.
i really love him and we were planning on going to the same college and being together but i have to apply soon and if hes just going to let this horrible relationship drag on i feel im going to have to break it off because i dont want to see him around ';our'; college which i dont really care if i go to or not, if we're broken up. it would be torture. but i want the second chance...i want things to be good and i want to be happy, but with him. We're really so good for each other and i want it to work.
i just dont know if like hes too far gone. i think he resents so much more then he realizes. he is so bitter about the way i treated him but now he's taking it to an extreme level and hurting me so much. he keeps kicking me back down when im trying to climb back up to where our relationship was.
i also have had some paranoia that hes cheating on me or something but i would NEVER have predicted that. hes always ignoring my texts and saying hes doing school work or hes tired but when i see him he tells me like about the school work or this and that and i believe him. idk if he's making up really good stories or telling the truth. im leaning more towards he's not cheating on me, but a part of me still feels it's possible. he doesnt have any real girl friends but he told me about a few girls that were friendly towards him at school so idk.
so the main thing is that i cant go on feeling like this. i constantly feel like im going to throw up when hes mad at me or ignoring me. i lay at home in bed crying for hours on the week ends and sometimes after school. when im with him im happy as long as he doesnt pick a stupid fight. and when things are good its usually because were just ignoring our issues because he wont talk to me and i want some peace time so i let it go for a bit but its just like a time bomb and then we have a fight. i know it's my own fault that its gotten this bad for treating him teh way i did a few months ago. I just want to make things right but i cant do it if he wont let me and ive really been showing him in trying but he really doesnt care or notice. he always says he doesnt hate me when i accuse him of it in fights, but also says that he feels like i hate him and when i ask for examples, again, hes just like idk so I just dont know what to think or do about it, oh and he says that i have such a low opinion of him that he feels like it will never change no matter what either, which is exactly what i told hSOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
okay, i just read that whole thing and tried to put myself in that same situation..
first of all, dont listen to the dumbass answers you got about him cheating on you. i doubt they even read the whole thing or understand the situation. looks like they just felt like answering a question to give themselves more points or something retarted like that. they dont know.
okay. in my opinion, it sounds like hes kind of a stubborn person.. i prolly would have done the same thing to you if you were a ***** to me. idk what you did to him, but im guessing it wasnt very good by the way it sounds. but i do think hes being a little to extreme about the whole thing. way to extreme actually.
they could be right, maybe he does want to end it...but i really dont think thats it. i think that if he really did want to end it, he would find other things that he thought was wrong with you and bring them up so he would have other excuses or something lame like that. but overall i really dont think breaking up with you is exactly on the top of his list.
you have been in a relationship with him for a while also. and like one of the people said, guys get like that sometimes in relationships. giving him a little space (again i said little) at a time works really well, because if you just let it realx and dont worry about it and just ditch on hanging out with him once or twice, then most likely the next time you see him he will be more anxious to see you.
also, yes you prolly should refrain from texting him as much and calling and ect. yes, it will probably will tick him off a little bit, but remember a relationship isnt supposed to be as sad as yours is right now, so if you do stop texting him and he flips a tit at you and asks you why or accuses you of it, then just simply say, ';because i dont like the way your treating me'; and if he says well you did it to me then say something like '; i did. i never said i didnt. but you have been doing this to me for a long *** time now and im sick of being treated like ****.'; and if he says well then fine or brings up breaking up, im sorry i know its hard but just agree with him and say you need to take a break or break up with him. because honestly, if hes really treating you like that and he keeps on doing it and you just keep on taking it like you are, your going to be completley miserable for god knows how long.
theres alot of things that could be wrong... so im not exactly sure what to tell you, i just have a ton of expierence with guys and how they act because im surrounded by them daily and i talk to them about this kind of stuff.
and for the confronting him about cheating thing..
if you do ask him, make sure it DOSENT SOUND LIKE YOUR ACCUSING HIM! guys absolutley hate it when girls accuse them of that. just hint it to him simply. dont act like your mad and dont be crying when you do it. just make it like its somewhat casual conversation. something just simple. or you could just flat out say, '; im not accusing you of anything when i ask you this, im just a little worried and concerned, but have you been involved in a way that would be considered cheating with another woman?'; that could be a way to put it. idk i dont know the guy. it depends on what hes like..
and remember, you deserve to be happy :) any decisions you make, make sure that there smart on your behalf, because who really wants a relationship based on something like that?SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
1. If you can't handle the relationship, you are too immature.
2. He's probably cheating on you.
3. Leave the poor guy alone!
girl can't u SEE hes CHEATING ON U!!!!!! thats Y his acting like a jerk and fights for everylittle thing
:/
after youve been together for so long it kinda gets like that.
my bestfriend is in 10th and her boyfriend is in 11th and theyve been going out for a year and a half. they fight all the time but they still love eahcother. they think that they might just go on a brake for a while which is what i would suggest to you.
go on a brake don't see each other for a while, but don't see other people either. talk to him about it if he doesn't agree then just leave him. it seems like hes making you feel like crap. and you dont deserve this.
i think that he might b cheating on you.
surprise him at the college that he works at.
talk to one of his friends.
idk im sorry this sounds horrible :(
It sounds like he wants you to break up with him
sooner or later the guilt's gonna drive him mad and he'll really tell you whats up.
either that or confront him.
Say
I'm soo sick of what's going on. If you're cheating on me just tell. Because I'm starting to figure out that somethings not right.'
is this seriously the guy that im going out with?
besides even if your not religious god 'll b there when ur broken hearted :)
OH MY GOD! i'm like going through the same thing!
well what i'm doing is, i'm just going to relax.
i'm not going to text or call or IM him as much as i normally do, just to get his attention.
from now on if he wants to talk to me HE can call me and IM me and call me! and that's how i know he truly loves me, and things will get better.
i think its just that im not giving him enough space, sometimes i think guys just want to be left alone for a while, and they're not trying to hurt their girlfriend.
they just want to relax for awhile, and we keep bugging them which causes them to get all pissy. :]
hope i helped!
hang in there!
Wow, thats a long question %26gt;_%26gt;
he's cheating on you. :]
he is in college now. things are happening around him and he wants to be apart of it. he might possibly be interested in another. you better be careful, and possibly confront him about that.
He is not being fair to you. i think he wants to end it but instead of having the guts to do it he is being mean so that you will end it and then he will not be to blame. I would walk away and try to be happy alone. If he wants you he will come back but maybe by then you will have moved on to someone who makes you smile everyday like you deserve.
im 17, my bf is 19. He's in college but he commutes so its not long distance. I'm a senior in high school. we鈥檝e been together for about a year and 2 months. This September everything started to go so wrong. All of a sudden he stopped texting me as much. He didnt want to be with me me as much and things like that. Now its gotten even worse. He barely texts me at all. he says he's busying do school stuff or this and that. He tells ME im being a jerk to him all the time and when i ask for examples he wont give me any. He is constantly picking fights over the stupidest things-for example, today i didnt text him back for 6 minutes and he got mad and didnt text me for 3 hours, and when i asked why he was ignoring me he said he was just responding as fast as i was. He refuses to talk to me about things, he says i ';put words in his mouth';, when sometimes, yea i have to, because he just wont respond to anything.
when we're actually together things are usually better and hes nicer. Its like the ';virtual'; him thats really nasty to me. The thing is a few months ago i was kinda out of control with my emotions, being nasty to him a lot for no reason, picking fights, and just being miserable in general. i just let myself kinda fall into a hole and took it out on him. and he took it for a while but then started to get annoyed like any person would and called me out on it. and ive been trying so hard to be better for him.
but when i do try and stuff he refuses to notice. but he notices the SECOND i do something so small wrong and starts a huge fight about it. it's like his opinion of me is so low that it will never change. and no matter what i do he'll still be so bitter towards me.
when he tells me how horrible i am i ask why he doesnt just break up with me but he says that he expects me being such a jerk to him will ';pass'; and i really dont know what to think about that. Because these days HES the one whos being a total jerk to ME. and at least i admitted it when i was doing it to him, but he just refuses to believe the things he's doing to me.
i cry every single day. sometimes its when i come home from school because he's been ignoring me. sometimes it's when he drops me off after we hang out because SUPRISE, he picked a really stupid fight. im always crying about it. and i just want a second chance to make things good again and he says hes willing to give it to me but his actions dont reflect that.
i really love him and we were planning on going to the same college and being together but i have to apply soon and if hes just going to let this horrible relationship drag on i feel im going to have to break it off because i dont want to see him around ';our'; college which i dont really care if i go to or not, if we're broken up. it would be torture. but i want the second chance...i want things to be good and i want to be happy, but with him. We're really so good for each other and i want it to work.
i just dont know if like hes too far gone. i think he resents so much more then he realizes. he is so bitter about the way i treated him but now he's taking it to an extreme level and hurting me so much. he keeps kicking me back down when im trying to climb back up to where our relationship was.
i also have had some paranoia that hes cheating on me or something but i would NEVER have predicted that. hes always ignoring my texts and saying hes doing school work or hes tired but when i see him he tells me like about the school work or this and that and i believe him. idk if he's making up really good stories or telling the truth. im leaning more towards he's not cheating on me, but a part of me still feels it's possible. he doesnt have any real girl friends but he told me about a few girls that were friendly towards him at school so idk.
so the main thing is that i cant go on feeling like this. i constantly feel like im going to throw up when hes mad at me or ignoring me. i lay at home in bed crying for hours on the week ends and sometimes after school. when im with him im happy as long as he doesnt pick a stupid fight. and when things are good its usually because were just ignoring our issues because he wont talk to me and i want some peace time so i let it go for a bit but its just like a time bomb and then we have a fight. i know it's my own fault that its gotten this bad for treating him teh way i did a few months ago. I just want to make things right but i cant do it if he wont let me and ive really been showing him in trying but he really doesnt care or notice. he always says he doesnt hate me when i accuse him of it in fights, but also says that he feels like i hate him and when i ask for examples, again, hes just like idk so I just dont know what to think or do about it, oh and he says that i have such a low opinion of him that he feels like it will never change no matter what either, which is exactly what i told hSOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
okay, i just read that whole thing and tried to put myself in that same situation..
first of all, dont listen to the dumbass answers you got about him cheating on you. i doubt they even read the whole thing or understand the situation. looks like they just felt like answering a question to give themselves more points or something retarted like that. they dont know.
okay. in my opinion, it sounds like hes kind of a stubborn person.. i prolly would have done the same thing to you if you were a ***** to me. idk what you did to him, but im guessing it wasnt very good by the way it sounds. but i do think hes being a little to extreme about the whole thing. way to extreme actually.
they could be right, maybe he does want to end it...but i really dont think thats it. i think that if he really did want to end it, he would find other things that he thought was wrong with you and bring them up so he would have other excuses or something lame like that. but overall i really dont think breaking up with you is exactly on the top of his list.
you have been in a relationship with him for a while also. and like one of the people said, guys get like that sometimes in relationships. giving him a little space (again i said little) at a time works really well, because if you just let it realx and dont worry about it and just ditch on hanging out with him once or twice, then most likely the next time you see him he will be more anxious to see you.
also, yes you prolly should refrain from texting him as much and calling and ect. yes, it will probably will tick him off a little bit, but remember a relationship isnt supposed to be as sad as yours is right now, so if you do stop texting him and he flips a tit at you and asks you why or accuses you of it, then just simply say, ';because i dont like the way your treating me'; and if he says well you did it to me then say something like '; i did. i never said i didnt. but you have been doing this to me for a long *** time now and im sick of being treated like ****.'; and if he says well then fine or brings up breaking up, im sorry i know its hard but just agree with him and say you need to take a break or break up with him. because honestly, if hes really treating you like that and he keeps on doing it and you just keep on taking it like you are, your going to be completley miserable for god knows how long.
theres alot of things that could be wrong... so im not exactly sure what to tell you, i just have a ton of expierence with guys and how they act because im surrounded by them daily and i talk to them about this kind of stuff.
and for the confronting him about cheating thing..
if you do ask him, make sure it DOSENT SOUND LIKE YOUR ACCUSING HIM! guys absolutley hate it when girls accuse them of that. just hint it to him simply. dont act like your mad and dont be crying when you do it. just make it like its somewhat casual conversation. something just simple. or you could just flat out say, '; im not accusing you of anything when i ask you this, im just a little worried and concerned, but have you been involved in a way that would be considered cheating with another woman?'; that could be a way to put it. idk i dont know the guy. it depends on what hes like..
and remember, you deserve to be happy :) any decisions you make, make sure that there smart on your behalf, because who really wants a relationship based on something like that?SOS! Things are getting out of control with my relationship-i really need advice-please help!?
1. If you can't handle the relationship, you are too immature.
2. He's probably cheating on you.
3. Leave the poor guy alone!
girl can't u SEE hes CHEATING ON U!!!!!! thats Y his acting like a jerk and fights for everylittle thing
:/
after youve been together for so long it kinda gets like that.
my bestfriend is in 10th and her boyfriend is in 11th and theyve been going out for a year and a half. they fight all the time but they still love eahcother. they think that they might just go on a brake for a while which is what i would suggest to you.
go on a brake don't see each other for a while, but don't see other people either. talk to him about it if he doesn't agree then just leave him. it seems like hes making you feel like crap. and you dont deserve this.
i think that he might b cheating on you.
surprise him at the college that he works at.
talk to one of his friends.
idk im sorry this sounds horrible :(
It sounds like he wants you to break up with him
sooner or later the guilt's gonna drive him mad and he'll really tell you whats up.
either that or confront him.
Say
I'm soo sick of what's going on. If you're cheating on me just tell. Because I'm starting to figure out that somethings not right.'
is this seriously the guy that im going out with?
besides even if your not religious god 'll b there when ur broken hearted :)
OH MY GOD! i'm like going through the same thing!
well what i'm doing is, i'm just going to relax.
i'm not going to text or call or IM him as much as i normally do, just to get his attention.
from now on if he wants to talk to me HE can call me and IM me and call me! and that's how i know he truly loves me, and things will get better.
i think its just that im not giving him enough space, sometimes i think guys just want to be left alone for a while, and they're not trying to hurt their girlfriend.
they just want to relax for awhile, and we keep bugging them which causes them to get all pissy. :]
hope i helped!
hang in there!
Wow, thats a long question %26gt;_%26gt;
he's cheating on you. :]
he is in college now. things are happening around him and he wants to be apart of it. he might possibly be interested in another. you better be careful, and possibly confront him about that.
He is not being fair to you. i think he wants to end it but instead of having the guts to do it he is being mean so that you will end it and then he will not be to blame. I would walk away and try to be happy alone. If he wants you he will come back but maybe by then you will have moved on to someone who makes you smile everyday like you deserve.
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